Time as we all know, marches on no matter what we do, as we also know we can not affect Mother Nature either. We can only affect the things near to us and that we have the ability to reach, either in nature or in humananity. The truth is mankind is actually limited in many ways, like mental abilities and physical abilities folks. We can only run so fast, we can only calculate so fast, and we can not change nature or time, but we also understand we are limited in our time on this planet. Where we come from, how we act, all depends on those who raise us and then, they depart from the earth. We learn through watching, attempting, and being. We do not have osmosis, or strange new abilities that others don’t, for if you did, you would be cast out of human societies, because people would fear you.
As we grow up in the world some of us like being alone and only enter society as needed. Otherwise we only do so, because we have no choice. We learn in schools of others from kindergarten to college levels, some of us get degrees and use them and some get them and fail to use them for any purpose. Some are labors, some are educators, some politicians, scientists. computer nerds, programmers and more. Others go into medicine, whether nursing or as doctors. There is a vast range of employments, arts, music come into play also.
A few, become special due to high intellect, or physical abilities and they are lucky, for they out show the rest of us who are ordinary in most ways. Very few, remember all that happens in their lives or all they have met or done. Why, because humanity does not like the painful, depressing or injury periods of our lives when they happen, or we have to deal with loses we have experienced in our lives, like when parents die, spouses, die or siblings. These become major changes in how we feel, act and react to others around us and any situation we may find ourselves in. We adapt to it slowly and it takes time to do so, there are many stages when one is recovering from loses, and we all know them I believe, denial, then acceptance, then,depression, then a slow recovery where we realize we can’t change what has happened or bring that loved one back, but we are still here and must carry on. Some when they lose someone special in their lives find a way to just move forward and never look back, but, in my experience and from what I have seen, if someone does not grieve long enough and get through it, they never are the same, nor do they recover, well enough to get involved in others lives, or have anyone in their own.
How we recover and carry on and why is the question here isn’t it? We all need some companionship or friendships in our lives, few are true loners. The Loners as I call them, love to hide from public events, they avoid large crowds, they have lower opinions of themselves, low esteem, and shy from people. Loners like myself, may attend an event, a social function now and then, just to be seen, or to feel like we belong, but then, we know we don’t really, do we? We make weak attempts to fit in, and get along with all around us, because we know we have to to survive. We all have our own personality faults, we all have our own emotional difficulties and we all have feelings we hide, from others. Some of us do so greater than others, and know better then to reveal the truth, of ourselves.
I know, many who are extroverts, who get along with all and will say or do anything I fit in. I also know introverts, they shy from all, but, still when approached, get along with most. So what’s the real difference here, an extrovert has lil fear, can talk to anyone and control their emotions and what they say or do, all the time, except when excited beyond control. A introvert, will not act out, has some difficulty with fitting in, feels awkward and out of place, and unwanted. Introverts have low esteem, and feel themselves below others in many ways. While a extrovert has great pride and burst forth because of their high esteem, an introvert is the complete opposite and hides. Otherwise both have different ways of handling societial norms on a daily basis, so to say. At 68, years old I have witnessed much of what I am speaking, I have lived it and experienced it, and acknowledged it, and accepted it. And if you as an individual stop and examine yourself you will find, you are either one or the other yourself.
What causes us to be either depends on how we were raised, by whom we were raised, what, they have taught us, how they have treated us as we grow up. The importance of parents in this world is vital, for anyone and everyone. Yet, there must be a balance in how we raise our children. We can’t give them everything they want, that’s just spoiling them, we can’t deny all they want either. We can’t not discipline our children and teach them right from wrong, for without discipline we have chaos, and our children end up in prisons as adults. There is a delicate balance to raising a child, that one must keep a close eye on at all times. It’s the job of a parent to make sure their child is safe, cared for and taught correctly, which means you need to teach them manners, respect, how to be honest and caring. Other wise they shall be cast out of society or end up on the lowest tier of said society as we know it. Do, all of us get this delicate balance from our parents as we grow up, no, if we did society would be a perfect thing and it is not. Human Kind is not perfect, society is not perfect nothing is, is it? So, as we raise our children in the world today, we must not only teach them well, discipline them well, and educate them well, we must also make sure we teach them how to care for themselves and the ones they love also. Yes, it’s a complicated scheme to do, and no it is not easy, yet, it can be done.
Stop putting your children down, stopped hitting them or screaming at them. For it is the abuse you put up on them, that makes them not fit in. They rebel, they fight back, they strike out at humanity, if you raise them wrong, for they lack the attention they need growing up, from their parents. If given that attention when they need it, they can overcome anything, positive reinforcement works, teaching works, emotional support works, being there watching them, guiding them, works folks. And let me say this to all, it matters not what color your skin, what background you come from, what nationality, we all want the same things in life, to be loved, to be respected to be heard, and to live in peace, among humanity. So, do yourself a favor, I don’t care what your color, race, or nationality may be, what country you live in, remember, your children are the future for mankind on this planet we call earth, take the time to raise them right, take the time to listen to them, communicate with them, help them emotionally and physically if needed. For you are making mankind better if you do !
You may not agree with all I have said here, but, my opinion is just that my opinion. And in the world today, and especially here in America, we all still have a right to our opinions and to voice them as necessary, as long as we do not harm anyone else. So, this is my opinion and thought for today, made into a blog post !. I hope you enjoy it and understand it !