There must be a way out of the loneliness syndrome, right?

A little something that has gotten to me in someways and has me wondering in others. Tell me something please, is it not true, We are born into a family unit, we get raised in one too. Then when we reach a certain age or point in life, we seperate and stumble through finding our ownself. Then we start building a family unit of our own kind, in the best way we have learned how, and we work at trying to make it all work, for our good an dthe good of our spouses and children. It doesn’t always work so we end up with divorces or seperations, or we lose the one we love to disease or accident or illness beyond our control. When these happen, we end up alone and have to find a way to start over on our own, in our own way.

We hesistate, we stumble, we hide and we try to ease back out there into a dating scene. Only to find it has changed, it doesn’t work the way it did in the 70’s, 80’s or 90’s. Time has brought change, now a days. In the 2020’s, it is now 2023, it is all online dating sites, people are more cautious, and scared, so, it is harder to meet anyone. On top of it, there are more divorcess. and widows and widowers than ever before in America. More of us end up single due to accidents, diseases, and illnesses like covid and cancer. Sadly, it is happening to many of us. Then because of the way we lost the spouse , wife or lover we had, we get reluctant to start over or get involved with someone else due to guilt, remorse, grief, or fear.

Then we are now faced with the woke movement, and we don’t understand it. I have no understanding of the woke movement, nor do I get dating sites either. I am now 67 years old, I lost a wife I wa swith for 28 years, now two years ago. I have tried dating sites, such as Zoosk, OurTime and Match. Problem is I don’t know what to say for a profile, how to answer the crazy questions. I did it once and ended up in a few situations, I didn’t understand or what to say or do.

So I gave up on dating sites and thought well, maybe it will happen oraganically, just by me meeting someone one day doing what I must. No luck really for me, so I said ok what do I do now. I gave up for a while and stay alone now, and think to myself it would be nice to have a companion to spend time with, but I also know it is not easy to do at my age and in the town os Wetboro, Mass where I live now.

I live in a community of 55 plus people, in condos. I will not date someone here in the condos, because of a simple fact, people talk, it’s dangerous to do. You go out with someone here and it doesn’t work, then people talk and you end up an outcast because of it all. No fun there folks.

So, as a 67 year old man, living in Westboro, Mass. here, I end up walking alot, alone and living alone period. I am not a bar fly of any kind, I don’t really drink. Westboro is a town made up of banks and churches, stores and bars, for entertainment there isn’t much. Being 67 causes a problem also, because, of ageism period. Nothing is geared here for people 55 up really. So I walk, walk malls, walk around the lake, there isn’t really much more is there?

I bowled for a while, and I play billards here in the clubhouse of my condo community. BUt boredom will get me I know that much, building puzzles, watching tv, and reading books is all I have left. I do write blogs now and then like this one, or on politics. I just have to admit, there is not much for me anymore. I don’t have a wife to talk to, to communicate with, or to have asa companion and I miss it all. I know, not how long I can go on alone this way, but time shall tell. Loneliness is actually, a syndrome in America and especially here in Mass, many suffer from it, I am told. Sadly, I just never knew when I moved here it would be affecting me, but it is. I live with it daily. I shy from big parties or events, I can’t handle big groups anymore. I like people but, I get overloaded if too many so I do not attend crowded events.

So, I ask now, is there a way out of the vicious cycle of loneliness I feel I am in? And if there is where is it, how do I find it and where do I look? Is there an answer to it for me and others like me, who are widows, or widowers, or divorcees, 55 and up, in Westboro, Mass?

I welcome all answers or suggestions, for I know I am not alone really, for I see myself, but I also see others, in the same predicament, so there must be a way out of the loneliness syndrome, right?