Whats the deal folks here, in Massachuetts, Westboro, Worcester County,and area?

When I moved to Mass, from Connecticut after my wife passed, I thought it would be easy to meet others, talk to people and find a relationship, even at my age. I am 67, but not dead and I thought well, shouldn’t be too hard, to find a partner or companion here in Mass. I thought by moving here to Westboro, and a 55 plus community it would be fun and simple and there would be plenty to do.

Turns out it isn’t! Mass and Westboro and even this 55 plus community I live in, is filled with cliques and is boring. Now do not misinderstand me folks. The Condos I live in have a lifestyle Director, and events they plan monthly, including clubs for things to do. While playing billards is fun, as was being a part ofa bowling leagur/group, the rest seems to meto be built around cards, dominos and machong and things like that. Fun for many I am sure as is the Bingo once a month many attend, but, those are not for me and seem boring as hell.

So, I try to look for things to do outside of the condos I live in, around Westboro, but the town is not geared for those of us over 55. It reminds of a town I grew up in Connecticut here, it has banks, bars and churches, lol. Banks are good to have and i am not knocking them, churches are not my thing, I am not a religious man, and the bars/ taverns are not geared to the 55 plus crowd for sure all are young in the good ones. In many ways, I thought it would easy to find things to do, but, that is not the case.

It is a very clique area, and it is like being in high school once again. In many ways you need to fight to become a part of any group around here, or they ignore you. I know it sounds crazy, but it is true and i am not alone in thinking that. Others think that who live here too.

Now, let me clarrify something before people start saying it’s my own fault, it isn’t. Condo life is not geared to what many think it is before they move in here. There are all the stories of condo relationships happening and people jumping from one to another and having fun, not true. Here is something to consider for all who live in 55 plus condos like i do. 1) The ratio of women to men is approxiamately 65 percent to 35 percent. Now while that is nice to know it does not help the situation for me. Of the 35 percent of men who live here, most are married and in relationships already. That leaves few like myself who are single as men, due to divorce or being a widower. Second problem is that if you date one woman in such a situation, as this, and it does not work out, the man always gets blamed and it spreads like wildfire among the residents and women. If that happens then, you might as well sell the condo you bought here and find a new location to live, you will be cast out and ignored by all. I know it sound pessimistic and sad and negative, but you can’t argue with the truth of it.

Then, you find yourself in what I call a catch 22 situation here. For you, can’t cross the above mentioned line, so you turn to online dating sites. First they cost, second it’s hard to get someone through typing online. Most are reluctant, or fearful of meeting in person. If you do meet, the odds of finding a match you want to see again or get into a relationship is slim to none.

At 67 not many want to go sit in a pub, tavern or bar, to try to meet someone in my age range. Most in the pubs/bars. taverns are of the younger age ranges and ageism comes into effect, all the time. So, you do what I do, you mind your own, walk alot, read, watch tv and build puzzles and try to find hobbies to do. Lets face the facts, I know i do, the older you get the less people want you around,so you come to realize, there is no way to overcome it all. The real question becomes what to do, at times I walk the grounds and then the malls. I have driven around the area and, when you know nothing much you, find not much either. Basically, you end up, surrendering and just not trying anymore because you are lost and alone and feel stuck in that status and can’t get out of it.

So, I ask, all, is Msssachuetts a state filled with cligues, is it a state that is built just for the younger generations, and am I right and others who say it is boring here in Westboro and around here? Is Massachuetts a state that ageism is a factor in, where people are ignored and cast aside as they age? Whats the deal folks here, in Massachuetts, Westboro, Worcester County,and area?

I also wish to mention there is a loneliness syndrome happening in the State of Massachuetts, and it gets worse as you get closer to Boston. How do you break through all of the above?