So to the women of America, near and far ….

Ok, it is time in my world,my life and my mind to stop, think and wonder aloud as well as direct the questions that have arisen, to the only people who can actually answer them, women.

I know it sounds crazy, out of sorts, silly, and at times even sad, but lets face some facts, please. America’s society seems built wrong in many ways. we all want or need men to be the bread winner in the family, the strong one in the family, the one that stands up and leads, right. If that is the way it should be or is supposed to be, then why is that failing so bad in America?

Now, here is where we need answwrs from women, concerning America, relationships and what should be.

Why is it all women expect the men to make the first move or the first appraoch, in any male/ female relationship? Are women that tame, or are they, that submissive they can’t speak up? Or is the American Society built that way, are they all taught that way, by their parents.

I ask these questions, because I am 67 years old, a white male and a widower. When you spend 3 decades, with the same partner, girlfriend, boyfriend, what do you do when you are suddenly left alone in life? Do women expect men, to always make the first move, to always make the first approach, or do any of them have the guts to stand up and admit they like what they see, and do an approach themselves ?

The other problem I am running into at 67 years old is simple, each generation is different in how the dating rituals or scene happens or works. It changes over time and from generation to generation, do women understand that, or not? I am beggining to think they don’t, get it. I get why am I not dating someone, my wife passed over two years ago. Let me say this to those who ask such a question, even a widower, feels lost trying to start over at my age. We hesitate, we get scared, we get bervous and we know and do not want to feel rejection. Women have it easier actually then men at any age you look at it, why because they are always wanted, by men. So they have wider choices. Men don’t, know, it becomes a question of ok, I see someone I like, I see someone I am attracted to, but is she taken, is she shut down or what? We can’t touch, we can’t pressure, we can’t force nor can we as men persue women. If we do, we get told we are perverts, sick, dangerous, or a woman will look at a man and go what is wrong with you to us !

So I have learned at 67, and after two wives, two children, two dogs and two of everything else in life, that the best process and position for me, is to stay alone, walk alone, and mind my own. Why some ask me, simple, America and it’s societial rules, has made it that way for single males or all colors, period.

I have been told to try Meet-Up, Online dating apps, my response is simple been there folks, they don’t work and they eat your money. What happens on these sites is what happens in real life situations, people get scared, people don’t show up, they are scared of being taken for money, for opening themselves up, to being used, abuse dor attacked. So, I thought and said ok, public places for meetings might work. Still people are scared and bring friends, I don’t do bars, because i do not drink, I don’t do clubs like dancing clubs, music clubs and such either why same reason. America has a definite problem that is causing what is now being called a loniliness syndrome many now write about and preach. It does exist, it is real, and it is only going to get worse for many of both sexes. Period.

So to the women of America, near and far, wide also, tell me what should a single widower who is 67 do ? Is there any good answers ladies? If so Please provide them for us men to see. Thank You.