December 5th, 2023 hs begun for me, it started at 5 am, when I awoke. I have lived now in Westborough, Massachuetts since March of 2022, and find the town a decent place tolive, yet, at 67 years old myself, and being a widower, I do not see any place to meet, any single or widowed women to date or enjoy their company with.
I have looked at bars/ taverns in the area, Red Heat Tavern, JP’s, Central House and even have gone around the corner to the Neighborhood Tavern in Northboro, next door. It seems to me, there is a lack of places for seniors, tpo find or make friends of the opposite sex, just to enjoy their company and no I am not looking for the right now thing. I mean just making friends and getting to know someone, yet, Massachuetts I believe suffers from the nationwide loneliness syndrome that is at large.
I am a widower, and I fear a few things that many men, willnot admit to. 1) is Rejection if I approach a woman, 2) I have anxieties and fears, of course because Iw as married for 28 years and have no idea how to even approacha woman in this day and age. 3) I am not confident, nor do I have a highopinion of my own looks. So, you add it all together and it is rough, living in Westborough, Massachuetts, asa widower and single man, who wants a companion and partrner.
I have a thing on drinking and bars as it is anyway, I grew up not liking it, because I saw too much violence from it. I will drink socially, but, never get drunk I control myself. One drink will last me, a long time. While bars are a place many go to try to find someone, and I understand it, I have never been overly comfortable in them. I am not saying they are horrible,or wrong to exist, just, that, there is always an age factor in them. It’s hard to find one that caters to the elderly crowd that are 60 and up.
Otherwise, Westborough has numerous things the town I grewupin Connecticut had. Numerous bars/ taverns, banks and of course churches. It has many resturants also and people love to eat for sure. It is built around Route 9 here in Massachuetts, and has access to highways all around. BUt, if your new to the area like i am, you know not where to go or what to do here. Aimlessly, searching anddriving around really doesn’t help either in my opinion, becuase if like me your newto the area, you have no idea where anything is happening.
I walk alot outside as I can weather permitting of course, I go to Salomon Pond Mall to walk also when cold. Shopping is plentyful of course here, but, expensive in thelong run, if your on a budget. I went bowling some and we had a group for that but it broke up. Playing billards once a week is fine, and fun. I had hoped to find a female companion here, but so far no luck. It seems, peoplehere stay to their own cliques and keep others out as much as they can. I get the feeling they want nothing to do with anyone new, and they seem to me,be either snobby, or not welcoming of newcommers. Why I do not know, is it me, or is it the area?
Searching for answers to these questions in this area where I live, Westborough, I find no answers. Asking for advice on where to go to meet people, I get answers, like bars/ taverns, breakfast diners, or the all time favorite answer here, The Senior Center. I have gone to the Senior Center twice and not one or nothing is there. So, I find myself flaying about, bored and lonely, which is the opposite of what I expected to be at this point and moving here.
What to do next or how to, I have no real idea now. I wish I had the answers and a way to move forward or meet someone. 1)The problem with being a senior, at 67, and a widower is, we get set in our ways with the partner we had, who passed away. 2) We are no longer as physically able or want to be, we retired. 3) We are not as pretty or handsome as we once were. 4) The dating scene in America is no longer the same as it was in my era, it is now all online, dating sites it seems. 5) I don’t see dances for singles or elders or any type of gathering being held, for my age. 6) In my case I never did learn how to flirt, I was always just me, take me o rleave me, and happy. So, the bottom line comes to this, what doesa senior 67 year old,widower do to find a partner, companion, or female friend and have fun once more in life? Especially here in Westborough, Massachuetts? Anyone have any answers? Let me know, hereon this blog or e-mail me if you wish, wmccurrach20@gmail.com, I would appreciate advice and ideas !.
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