Online dating sites, really do not work, no matter what they base their matches on ! I have looked at many of them since I became a widower and even before. Let me say this, it matters not, for each one is set up to make money for it’s maker/ creator of course, and in the end, they exist because people, fail to communicate person toperson in today’s world.
I looked at Zoosk, Match, Our Time, for some, then I also looked at Adult Sites, figuring that may be easier, for you are dealing with people with like minded ideas. Yet, I find that is not the case either, then some one said try people your own age, and still theose sites fail also. The real question is why right, does anyone know why these dating sites charge so much, but do so little in reality?
In the end, I even looked at The Friend Finder Sites, including Adultfriendfiner. It is suppode to be for adult meetings, swingers, and sexual in nature. It advertises, itself as a way to find a partner ina Friendswith benefits situation or as a swinging situation, and it handles all sexual preferences of course, but the people who join it, end up posting nude pictures and basically texting, messaging, or chatting with one another, by way of chat rooms, or emails. The odds of meeting someone through it is slim, relaly, for, in America or across the world, peopleare scarred, hesitatant, they have anxieties, and fears and they hide behind things and avoid actually meeting anyone. You can meet someone yes, chat online, but people are critical of what you say or tell them, and they basically do not believe you are who you say you are. Why because it isa pretend world they are living in, so, the photos, and profiles are not real for about 50 percent that are in there. It’s a sad world to see actually, although some of the chatters do make friends in there, and chat on a daily basis. While the premise is good, it’s actual implimentation and how it is done is wrong and can be dangerous in today’s society. America and the world has too many predators, creeps and criminals out there, who come into these chats and dating sites, and wait to pounce or attack, those who are there. So, as the world is currently set up, dating whether on datings sites, adult or otherwise is dangerous. Today’s society, as awhole does not trust as much as they used to, and in the end dating is harder and more difficult then it has ever been in prior generations.
Some are now moving on from these dating sites to, things like Meet-Up, and events like Speed Dating and such. I have not ventured there personally, and I have not seen any data on how they work, or if they really do. I do think it is better to meet face to face in person, than it is to try to meet someone online. As children and teens we tend to meet others in public places, by playing with them in real life and that works. Yet we all fall into patterns and groups in someway do we not? We are divided by race, color, religion, sexual preferences, and so much more, education levels are included. Sadly, we also divide by age, and so much more. I don’t like your poluitics, I don’t like your skin color, etc. Personally, I hate no one, but, I have a belief, you don’t force what you prefer on me and vice versa, and we do just fine folks. When one forces others to be like them,or touch others without permission it’s wrong, and I hate anyone who touches a child in anyway, it’s just wrong morally, ethically and damaging to the child and society on a whole. They need to be jailed and punished if they do so, period.
So, let me say this, Online Dating whether Adult or not, does not work !. Today’s society, is fearful of it, it is also, being as careful as it can of course. Women fear taking chances, but so do men in their own way too. While women fear being taken advantage sexually, molested or stalked, men do too, but their worries come down to financial and more too. It is a two way street out there folks, so when we try to date because we are single, or widowed or divorced, we know we are taking a chance. That chance is in letting someone into your life and fearing they may not leave if it doesn’t work out, or menatl or even physical abuse can happen, or they want money. It’s a sad statement on society these days, the problems, complications and more, seem to multiply over time these days. So in the end what way do you go, if your single, on your own and wnat a partneror companion in the world? I wish I had the answer for all of us, but I don’t. As to social media, it broadcast much for sure, but it doesn’t bring people together and there is much bad advice in it. So, you learn to take social media with a eye on what it is saying and whethei rt fits you or those around you in anyway. Because even if Social Media is made on the purpose of good intentions, it can turn bad in many ways, privacy matters, sexual matters, political matters and attacks happen due to it. While I believe in the constitution and the first admendment in America, there are times when it protects the wrong ones, who cause more than is needed. So, the world is at a critical point as far as society should be concerned. We fear interacting with one another, because we can not judge the reaction of the other, always in the right way, the unexpected happens, anger, jealousy, attacks and self defenses that go too far. It is a part of humanity, and ho we use self-control comes into play.
My belief is dating sites can be more dangerous than helpful, unecessarily expensive also. Too many posers, fakes, liars and players and in the end predators are taking advantage of these sites. Should they exist, maybe, but, unless one extrememly careful, you can be taken, used or abused by those on them. Beware is all I can say folks.
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