The dating situation for seniors is not great !

Well, lets have a little discussion on seniors, and dating and dating sites. First things first, I am not talking adult dating sites for sex alone, friends with benefits or along those lines. There are many of those, which soak up the money of seniors, and give back nothing, not even meetings for coffee. They are sites that include x-rated photos of individuals showing off their private parts, and using those sites to tease others and make money. What I find funny about these adult sites, is simple they all want money, and give very little in return. You may as well go find a prostitute if your a man in need, or if you are a woman hire a giggalo.

Now other dating sites I have reviewed and tried include, Zoosk, Plenty of Fish, Match, and OK Cupid. Zoosk is a very popular site that allows you to post face pics and a profile as does all the rest. You can message and chat with others on Zoosk and if you do it right, you may even meet someone in person. The problem for me with Zoosk is price and how many profiles one must go through to actually meet anyone. And when even you meet, many do not have up to date pics, or information on their profiles. Zoosk, can work, but you have to except, people will lie about their ages, or post old pics.

What I have found about the rest of these dating sites is basically the same as Zoosk. They all cost approximately the same price on average, they all allow the same chats and messages for a price. Most are geared for certain ages of course, and in todays America, the people using them have problems too. I am among them in one way only, I look but I do not contact anyone, anymore, on them. I did it, three times, and found reasons not to do it again, each time. The first was a woman, I chatted up, met when I moved closer to her, and we walked twice, Wlaing and talking was very nice with her and I found her to be friendly and ok, FInally we went to eat at a Chineese Buffet and she ate four plates to my one and I was surprised and thought she was desperate. The second woman I met, was a few years older than me, a pretty woman and a a redhead. We had coffee and chatted and then went out for a meal and then, to a bar she liked. Now, in my opinion ya go to a bar you do drink something, and chat, and then dance if you know how, I am not a big dancer, a drink and chat would’ve been fun, but, she doesn’t drink, due to alcohol problems. So, that ended that one. The third was a woman, how I chatted a few times with and met for lunch. We chatted and honestly he rpic looked better than she did, and there was no attraction for me. I don’t think there was on her part either. The difficulty with online dating sites is simple, you must be prepared for many misses before you find anyone at all.

Now being 68 myself, married twice, divorced once and widowed once, I wonder why I would even venture out to find anyone. Look my first marriaged went 12 years ended in divorce and I have two daughters and had two of everything during it. Yet it ended in divorce through no fault of mine and based on lies. So, I took a few years to myself tried some dating, and just hung around. Then I decided ok, I am done being alone let me go find someone to date and have fun with.

Off to some Single’s Dances I began to go, in a search of someone I could be with, have fun, be comparable with and hopefully more. I found her in a singles dance, we danced all night long and I gave her my phone number and left it up to her. She called me, and that began a 28 year relationship for us both. 7 years together as a couple, and then 21 years married, fora long relationship of 28 years as I said, finally ending in her passing, from cancer in 2021. Cancer isa killer and I hate it, it has taken my parents, my step-father and now my second wife. I even suffered it and survived it in 2013, I was lucky, my wife was not. Now I fing myself a 68 year old widower, living in Westborough, Mass for two years this month, and basically dating no one and scarred to even ask or try to. I think, the first fear I have is the age factor, not many women do not want men my age. They want young, virle men. Second fear is being taken by women for money, or used by them to pay their bills. I know women have many of the same fears as us, men, Then we all have to deal with the ones just looking for sex ! As I man, I don’t want to be used for just sex anymore than a woman does, so if I think of finding a woman, I look for a companion and a relationship. Anything less is silly, and to look for sex alone is stupid, I am 68, so, as I told one guy who said, well you won’t find a hottie in that bar you go to, I laugh, what the hell would a 68 year old man what with a hottie, lol. So, as I see todays society, these dating sites, are impersonal, money draining and foolish actually. Do they ever work for anyone, maybe, so far for me they don’t.

So as a widower, experience and single, in Westborough, Mass. I know the odds of my ever finding a new woman to share life with is slim to none. I am not uneducated, stupid or foolish to change who I am to try to attract someone either. I am set in my ways, a homebody type, yes I can slow dance, yes I can cook, yes I clean my own home, and try to stay busy the best I can. Yet I also know that to meet someone you have to get out, and go to places and have fun. I hesitate to be honest, due to the fact, I live in an area I have no idea about. And I hate going out as a single man at my age, everyone is younger lol. I think single women are the same and always team up with female friends to do so, men don’t really have that advantage that, they do. The dating situation for seniors is not great !