Being new to Massachuetts and the Worcester County area, I continue to explore the area. I moved here after my wife passed and arrived in Westborough, in March of 2022. As a widower, I basically keep to myself, and have not dated anyone in my age range or otherwise, since.
So yesterday was a Saturday and I decided in the end to explore The Neighborhood Tavern in Northbough, Mass, on RT 20. It is a clean place, with a nice atmosphere and the staff is friendly there. I took a chair at the bar and ending up ordering a Rubin Sandwhich and a Red Ale Beer. My thought was I am alone and hungry and didn’t care about where I sat.
My intention was to just enjoy myself and talk to whoever I could, to make friends I had hoped. While the atmosphere was nice and the bar is very neat and clean, and the food is good, the service took a few minutes to catch up to me, because there were busy.
Once my sandwhich and beer arrived I tried watching some sports on the tv’s there and golf was on. Now I am not a big golf fan and I do not play it, but, I wondered out loud what Tiger Woods was doing and how. Well turns out he was 8 over, I was told and not in good shape at all physically, seems, he hurt himself I was told lifting weights. I talked tpoa couple next to me and tried to make jokes and laugh some with them. I learned not to talk to complete strangers, due to the guy I sat next to, he was very tense it seemed to me, and not a happy person. His girlfriend it turned out wasa nice person and a teacher, and had a nice smile. We talked of where I was from, I came up from Connecticut when my wife passed and it turns out she was from Connecticut also. We made small talk and I mentioned I served 16 years in the military, in three different branches. Well, in the end, I shouldn’t have said anything. The guy wanted to know where I served, I mentioned Grenada, and went off, saying that wasn’t a war zone. Well, doesn’t matter, I tried to tell him, one mission is not a 16 year career in the military, but, he was all out sort, so much, his girlfriend had to tell him to stop and calm down. I am like 15 years older than either of them, and smart enough to know when to shut up and leave it be. The guy apologized for getting angry and went quiet and so did I and his female friend. I finished my sandwhich and beer and paid and left. I learned a lesson, I thought I was being nice by joking and talking about my military life and my wife’s passing, and I ended up, with a angry person next to me. I won’t make the same mistake twice, I will keep to myself. Sadly, when I left I waved goodbye to the young lady and the guy did wave bye quickly.
The experience has been strange here in Massachuestts for me, each bar/ tavern I have gone to is different in nature and the types of people in them. I may have wandered into The Neighborhood Tavern just to check it out, and found people who seemed angry at the world for one reason or another. I just hope, the guy is ok, for his girlfriend did try to calm him down and make him stop when he went off on me. There are many reasons people go off on others like that, and I know asa senior citizen and ex-military man, about most of them. Sadly, it seems, Massachuetts, has many angry folks in it, who thjink they know everything in the world and will disagree with what ever you did or say. I didn’t find this in other bar’s or taverns in Westborough where I live though. It just seems, to have been in this one Tavern. I don’t hold it against anyone of course, I understand it for I have seen angry people before, and at my age, I forgive and forget, the moment I leave.
I have met some people since I moved here in 2022 to Westborough. Some in my community of 55 plus, are great and kind. I have only met a few women in my area through dating apps online. The first I met was a nice lady, but, for me, there was no chemistry with her. The second I met, I had lunch with and she was a nurse, and again, we had no attraction, or anything in common. The third one, was very good looking redhead I met and I thought was nice enough, but, I found out she has a alcohol problem. So that wasn’t for me either.
So, after being here for over two years, alone and on my own, I gave up online dating sites, because, they cost too much and do not produce matches as far as I can see. So, I decided to try the taverns and bars, but the ones I see, and have been in are not for my age group it seems. Maybe I am too old or just not, right for this area I do not know yet. I keep looking for a place to meet others my own age range, who I can get along with.
As to The Neighborhood Tavern on RTE 20 in Northborough, Mass. it is a nice place, clean, neat, not overly expensive really in today’s day and age. As to it’s food, and service, I would rate that a B+ only due to it being busy at the time, The staff is helpful and friendly and the atmosphere is bright and clean. Overall, I would rate the tavern in the A- range. I will keep searching and hoping, to find a place for my age range, where senior citizens have a chance to meet other their age range. And yes I have tried the libraries, and the Senior Center in town. Always gonna keep trying and hoping is all. Age will always be a factor for sure, but as an elderly person, who is a widower I keep trying.
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