The people of Massachuetts and the area I live in, are both rough to get to know. While the Town of Westborough, Ma. is a nice place to live, the people are not as friendly as one would think. Westborough has much in it for sure and the neighboring towns surrounding it, provide some things to do, the age gap for us seniors, is hard to overcome.
The young are kind to seniors over 55 and and of course there are plenty of bars/ taverns and such in town. The Town also has many banks, and stores in it too, it is loaded with car dealers up and down Route 9 here too. There is a lack of a movie house here, and it seems, you have to go to Shrewsbury, or Marlboro to bowl or find games or things to do. Fishing you can do anywhere, anytime in town between the resevoir and Lakes and even some rivers, I am told. It’s a quaint little town with plenty of churches if you are religious in anyway.
It has built and allowed to be built Condos for the 55 plus community in more than one place in town. But what Westborough, has not done is figured out, how to handle or entertain the 55 plus community to make us, more welcome, here. It lacks things for seniors to do together and ways to meet others in our own age range, with the exception of the Senior Center in town, which runs a tight steady schedule, but, is not a place that gets very busy, or full at all. I think many Seniors avoid the Senior Center, if they are fit enough, because they don’t enjoy being pointed at as being that senior.
A place for Seniors to dance together, listen to music and socially interact would be great, in Westborough, yet it is not here. A roller Skate Rink, Movies, and other ideas I am sure can be thought up. A place to meet the opposite sex in the same age range would be cool too. Yet, it hasn’t been found by me so far in my two plus years here in Westborough. I did a tour or try at some of the taverns/ bars in town, from Central House, to JP’s to Red Tavern to even the Neighborhood Tavern on RTE 20, hoping to meet some my age, but most are 30’s to 45 or younger. It makes it rough for older people when they are forced into places with people too much younger, the comfort level is less. Plus as being a senior myself, I have to curb what one can talk about. Started a conversation in a tavern about the differences in generations and the person was fine with it, until they suddenly got angry. Anger in the people of the town and area of this part of Massachuetts seems to be a problem area, I have noticed. Plus, the people here tend not to be open to meeting new people who move here from out of town or states, so to say. They are guarded in many ways, and they never seem to be relaxed, here in Massachuetts that I can find. Why, I do not know, it just seems so to me.
The longer I am in Massachuetts and this area, the stranger somethings seem to be to me. People will gather at an event or bar or restaurant but, they only interact with the people they are with and not, outsiders. I find them guarded, I find them at times angry, and I find many to be unfriendly. Why, I have no idea. So, I tend to stay home or walk a lot, of go fishing, of just do some events in the Condo Association I live in. Even then I find some who are in the 55 plus age range who live here, strange also, for they can get short, rude and even insulting to others and not realize what they are doing. I tend to let things go, and roll off my back or chest so to say, because if you don’t here in Westborough, it could be trouble, and I do not wish any. I have run into some who are narsicist, some who are rude, some who are outright angry without reason, it seems. Narcissistic personalities it seems, are in town for some reason, and I have dealt with a few before, they are not fun people, nor are they friendly, except to others of the same ilk, so to say.
Yes, I tried walking, the library, outside events, bowling, pickle ball at one time even. I play billards where I live and small games like Mexican Train Dominos just for fun. We have a swimming pool here where I live, but, I do not use it, never have and probally never will, I burn in the sun, like a red rooster. And the whiteness of my legs would blind people lol.
So, the real question I keep asking myself is, was iy worth it to buy a condo here in Westbourgh, Mass. or not? While it is nice to have a condo, and a place of one’s own, it is not great for a person of 55 plus, who is alone or single or divorced or widowed. A person of either sex who is alone, should have someone to share life with and you can not find that here, due to the Peyton Place atmosphere of said condos, and what can happen if you were to try to date anyone in it. As to the town, like I said it is not geared to the 55 plus, nor does it have any real places to meet people in our age range. So, if you like isolation, or loneliness, then ok, if not, I would not recommend the Condo plan, or Westborough at this time. The seniors here are actually overlooked a lot. Sadly, you don’t realize how alone you really are until you actually live here. It looks friendly, clean, neat, but, doesn’t mean you will have any chance of living a decent life, unless you can expand who you know. When your 55 plus you are indeed set in your ways, so it makes it hard. Just my opinion folks, I am not saying Westborough, is a bad town, or Massachuetts is a bad state, they are very guarded here , and not geared for the 55 plus crowd.
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