55 and up dating advice !

The things people do not understand about dating, over 55 and up. First off it is important to remember your not young anymore, so, things go slower for you in all areas, including the dating world. Your older, more responsible, smarter and experienced. What ever you do, do not, push or press too hard and don’t act desperate, women and men, know desperation up front they read it well and avoid it.

Is there a large difference between men and women and what they want in a partner ? Well, in fact there isn’t too much difference really, of course there are the requirements for any relationship. 1) Open communication, do not be afraid to speak of any subject. I am not saying go off the rails on a subject, control it yes, but respond properly to it. It’s nice to have passion about a subject, but read the room sort of, if she is losing interest stop. It’s pretty obvious then she is not in to it like you are. 2) Honesty goes a long way, but don’t get brutally honest. When I say this I mean, you can tell the truth but do so in a polite way, if you disagree be real. Not mean. 3) Eye contact should not be done until you, actually talk directly to someone. If you stare from across the room, it will backfire on you. Don’t rush them, or press them, . 4) Physical signs will come up if they are interested in you. It can be a smile, it can be someone moving closer to you or laughing with you, not at you. It can be a subtle look, or touch, beware, but, anything physical will only happen if you both want it. Sex is nice and for most a need, but, don’t search just for it, it becomes obvious when you do and scares people. It should not be the primary thing you seek. 5) You want to meet someone and your lonely, don’t be writting or speaking like your desperate in anyway, do what you like, what you love, be interactive, if you are having fun, laughing and doing what you love, you will be noticed. 6) Do not be dependent on someone else, don’t be a burden or impose on anyone, be self-sufficient in all you do. Don’t expect someone else to hand you everything you want, it won’t happen, and if it does, they will hold it over you later. People have prior experiences with others prior to you, we tend to look back and compare, to avoid problems. You don’t know what she or he has been through before. We all look for signs of trouble, and sometimes it blows up. 7) Let me introduce a word few want to hear or understand here, Compromise ! Learn to compromise folks, I don’t care if your a female or male, if you can’t do compromise, no relationship will work for you with anyone. In every relationship,that works there is always one or both persons who compromise in someway. If you are not will to compromise, you are not ready for a relationship. 8) Be aware humans get jealous, they have anxieties and they get triggered in many ways. The Green eyed monster does come out, and it ruins any good relationship. 9) Trust, if you can not trust someone, don’t get in a relationship with them. Trust is vital, for you can’t be there 24/7 in anyone’s life, they work, they play, they talk to others. But, if they come home and stay, it is easier to trust them. Men flirt, but so do women, it is a two way game, but, if they come home to you everytime, your fine. Avoid the Freinds with benefits thing, because that’s just a player wanting sex for free. 10) Lastly, let me say this, you can try dating apps, you can try bars, you can go to libraries and Senior Centers and more. But, any attempt to rush into a relationship is a bed idea. Slow and steady wins the race. 11) Clean, neat appearance, hair cuts, shaves, showers, and decent clothes help. Be you yes, but don’t get outrageous. Attractive is nice and will help you. 12) Final advice for all over 55 looking to date, don’t start comparing who your with or wanting to date with an ex or a husband or wife you lost or divorced. No one can live up to the one you lost if you are widowed, a widower or divorced. Accept people as they are and you may find someone, believe me.