I have come to accept life as it is these days for me. I live alone and venture out only for specific reasons so to say. I walk if I can and when the weather permits and I am capable, I play billards once a week for fun and now play Mexican Train Dominos once a week also. I am not a social butterfly so to say, and I do not hang out at the pool here where I live. I read, I write some, I basically stay alone.
I can not complain really, for I had it all twice over in my life, two marriages, two wives, two children, two lives. I honestly know, we all start alone, and we strive to belong in society and fit in, to be social and to make friends. Been told many times, I am too loyal and yes I still have some friends out there, from my days as a teen. I don’t see them anymore, because I live too far away from them, and I can’t and won’t drive long distances at 68 years old.
Life is about choices, it’s also about voices folks. We listen to voices everyday of people where we live, people we get involved with, people in the news and events that happen. It is called life an dthen attempt to fit in is all. If someone tells me, I disturbed their space or event, or group, I walk away and do not get involved anymore. I am never out to disturb, or destroy anything happening or anyone. Like many others I like to talk, I like to laugh and I like to belong when I can. But, you will never find me insulting,intentionally harming or hurting a woman or a man. I have a full belief in each person being unigue in their own way and having their own opinions.
So, if you say to me, you disturb my concentration, I won;t be there anymore, you say to me I am too loud or boisterous, I won’t be there anymore, you tell me, I mistreated someone and they are upset because I shortened their name, I won’t be there anymore. If I am playing a game with you and you tell me, I am not playing by the rules and dpeople are complaining, I won’t play anymore. I avoid conflicts,I avoid arguments, and I avoid disturbing anyone in anyway I can. I would rather stay alone and be fine, then hurt, disturb or conflict with anyone.
As we age, we all get as humans, set in our ways, some of us can be mean. angry, aggressive, or passive. Some of us, can be overly vocal, and say things we should not say. Some of us will bend over backwards to fit in and destroy ourselves trying to do so. In my case I only bend so far, and only try to fit in, if it doesn’t work I will walk away and let it be.
I learned many moons ago, confrontations, fights, physical or verbal, are not worth the effort. You can’t change a persons mind, heart or attitude, it doesn’t happen. They must change that part of themselves, if they wish to fit in. Each relationship I have been in, I have always been the one to compromise, give in to make it work. And for me compromise is a process of give and take as it should be for all, yet many don’t get that. The other thing I have learned over time now and almost 7 decades is, we all get set in our ways, and don’t wish to compromise. Life goes on whether we compromise or not, that we all know for sure. It’s a matter of, do you wish to fit in, do you care, to fit in. or don’t you? Some have opted to fit in and change to do so, others will never do so. Some are happy, some are sad, some are indifferent and some are mad. As humans, we are a complicated mess as a species, we have different attitudes and emotions, and feelings, each of us. Mankind, asa whole is a mixed ball of wax so to say, when youdon’t match or fit that ball of wax, you are either expelled from it, or you walk away from it. That is life is it not?
We accumulate things as we age also. But, material things can always be replaced, what can’t be replaced is the person we are. I don’t care if you are liberal or conservative, I don’t care if you are rich or poor, I care if you decent, caring, and kind. I care if you treat others with respect. I care if your honest, and loyal.
Don’t come to me and say one thing to my face, and another behind my back. Do me a favor if you don’t like what I say, just say so. It’s better to be upfront, then trying to hide something. At least if it is known, one can walk away, if it is not known, it can fester and grow worse. So do yourself and I a favor, you don’t like me, just say so, and I will walk away period. Don’t play coy, don’t lie, don’t be angry and mad, just remember, we may agree to disagree, and walk away if need be. I hope that makes sense to everyone.
As 2024 moves along, American life is changing, it’sa process we all live with and know well. My only hope is that America will stay a Republic and a democracy, for all time. I fear we may be like many societies and dynasties before us and crumble, like The Mayans, the Aztecs, and the Romans. Each had their own time period at the top of the heap so to say, and each fell and have had to rebuild or disappeared. I hope and pray each day, that America as a society will continue on and get better, but never fall, to Communist, or Authorian ways. Choice is a big part of America, Freedom of speech is a big part of America, religious freedom is too. Other countries watch us, they imitate us, they forge their societies to try to match us, the reason is simple, no other nation, is like America in all ways. If we lose what makes us special, we shall fall. America is still and I hope will always be, the beacon on the hill so to say. And I agree completely with Ben Franklin, who said ” We shall have a republic only as long as we protect and defend it.”
I love history, especially American HIstory and always have. I will say this, the Founding Fathers of America, laid the foundation for all a America is today. All of them, believed in America, it’s people and it’s ways and all of them wanted each of us to have a voice in what we are and can become. I pray daily, America will stay the course, will adjust only as needed, our freedoms do not disappear, and we as a nation and guiding light for others, can survive and keep the promise of it all alive, forever more. these are some thoughts I have had, here in 2024, like I said above, I am now 68 years old. I was born in the 1950’s, grew up in the 1960’s and 1970’s. In my book, we were and still are the greatest generation to hit the country. We had the best of everything, the best food, the best cars and trucks and the best music ever. I said this once in a tavern, and got told I was wrong, I don’t believe that one. What most of America is missing these days is not jobs, it’s not money, it’s not material things, all of those can be replaced over time, what are we missing, well, empathy, caring, listening, the patient parts of life, are disappearing. I just hope and pray, America will be here, for forever more.
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