I was asked how I ended up here at Dell Webb Chauncy Lake Condos in Westborough, Mass. I thought about it, and still to this day, I come up with an answer, few would understand or like.
I go back in time to when my deceased wife passed in August of 2021. I asked my sister to come help me, because it was emotionally rough and I did not think I could handle it fully by myself. Now, My sister did come to help me and she stayed until the end and we buried my wife. Then, I was told by my best friend, my sister and her boyfriend, to come to Massachuetts to live, because I would be near my sister. So, my sister and her boyfriend took me into their home, while we cleared my home out of everything and got it put up for sale. Which I believe to be very nice of both of them to do at the time.
I stayed with them for six months as my house was on the market and finally sold and looked for a place to settle here in Massachuetts. My sisters now ex-boyfriend found this 55plus condo community online and I came with my sister to see it, it was new. I thought it over for a while, and then, when things started to blow up between my sister and her ex and her ex and I, I decided to take this condo I am in. It was more of a forced decision, then a real decision on my own, I feltI had to get out of their home. All of a sudden, my sister’s ex wouldn’t talk to me, the tension in the air in the house you could cut with a knife. So, I took this condo and left as fast as I could. Less than two weeks later, my sister broke up with him and sold the house out from under him.
Anyway, I was talking to someone and they said oh, if you don’t like it here, you should sell and get out. My answer is simple I have too much invested in the condo and would never get back what I spent for it, the economy and market is why.
So I live in my 956 square foot condo, alone, walk a lot, read a lot, build puzzles, watch a lot of movies and tv and participate in a few activities here. I play billards one night a week and Mexican Train Dominos twice a week when available of course. But, in the end it is a lonely, isolated life really. So, I go day by day and hang on, once ein a while I go for a ride, or to a doctor or dentist if needed. I shop only when needed for personal items, cleaning items and of course food.
I thought of selling and getting out, but, where would I go, no idea. Plus under the current market, people have tried to resell their condos losing upwards of 60 grand in the deal. I refuse to do that, as I said too much invested to take that kind of loss and I am not young anymore, at 68.
So, I shall try and stay and make the best of it, that I can. Now, that should explain the predicament I find myself in. Yes, there is a senior Center in Town and a Library, and yes, I have been there. The day and age we live in today, has changed many things in the world. COVID, makes people cautious, age is a factor of course, and the dating world is no where near what I knew before I met my deceased wife 33 years ago. The bars and tavern are geared to the 20,30 and 40 year olds. There is no Single Events for Seniors to meet others, and some say well date the single where you live, nope. Wrong answer, you date your neighbors and you will get screwed in a bad way when things go wrong. In almost all cases when couples break up, the man gets blamed and then ostrich sized by all in the community and forced to sell and move. Bad move lol !
So, it is a catch 22 situation for me and I have to live it out, in the best way I know how, is all. The options and choices are very few, so, I make ethe best of it.
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