I do my blogs when the mood hits me to write and if I think I have something that is worth the effort to say. Now not everyone will agree with all I say, my opinions and thoughts and ideas are my own of course, and we can all agree to disagree if you don’t like them. I was raised in Connecticut, and there I learned many lessons in life, I wouldn’t have otherwise. I learned that respect is given to those who give it to others, manners you are taught as a child apply still once you are an adult. relationships are not just based on meeting someone, it is how the meetings go, how you see eye to eye with someone else and how you interact with people in general. I say this because, many think, when they meet someone at first that first impressions are everything. In fact the truth is, sometimes a first impression can be misleading and you may misjudge someone and find out later, they didn’t do a damn thing wrong to you or anyone else. Impressions are first looks at humans you don’t know, normally from a distance away, and the longer you know someone, the sooner you get over the first impression and find, they are nothing like what you thought they were. In life, people, of both genders, hide emotions, they hide thoughts, ideas and reactions, why, because they feel you have no reason to know how they feel. It’s private to them, and they keep it bottled up inside. The reasoning is simple, to protect themselves and those they love. We all do it, it’s a fact of human nature is it not? I think it is.
I was talking to someone, I really didn’t think I liked one day, and found out, first they weren’t as bad as I thought they were, secondly, their sense of humor was different than I have known, and thirdly, once they were relaxed, I perceived them differently and in a different light. No it doesn’t happen with everyone you meet, but, each person is an individual with reasons of their own for how they react to others and situations, they encounter. And learning that, either at a young age for most of us and for a few others later in age stages, maybe the bets thing for all of us. The human body hides pain well, and we as humans, do not always want to let others know we are hurting in any way. we hide mental anguish, mental illness, physical illnesses and injuries too. Why, because one we consider it all personal of course. It’s just the way we do things, we do not want to impose or burden or bother anyone with our problems or conditions. Why would we, unless they are family or friends you have known for many years of your life. We reach for help when we need it of course and some of us, are alone in life, we have lost a mate, a husband or wife, or a mother or father or sibling, and we hide the pain from others. It is part of our nature as individuals in how we do so, and we do so to protect ourselves or those we love dearly.
Years ago, in my younger days, I would defend and protect many in different ways. Friends or those I considered friends, family members as needed. When I grew up, I joined the Military and when I did, I realized I did it for a few reasons. The first was to grow up and mature myself, the second was to Represent and defend my country, and the third was to protect and defend my family and friends I loved deeply. I didn’t want anyone, hurting those I cared for. Now, it worked for me, because it taught me that being selfish or foolish was not the way to go in life and that the world is bigger, than just the space around me.
I have seen adults who think that attacking other sis a way to go, or making fun of others is the thing to do. I have run into bullies and seen introverts and extroverts also. I have sat with, stood with and seen comics, and singers, songwriters and poets, I have fought side by side with all colors, race as and nationalities also. when one does you learn, that 1) All of us no matter what color, nationality, race, or creed, are the same. 2) We all laugh, we all cry, we all hope and we all sigh. 3) We have things in common that define us as human beings. 4) Never forget when we lose someone we loved or cared for, we all grieve the same. Some may be more intense in the amount or way of grieving, but, we all go through it folks. We handled it differently based on who we are as individuals, what we were taught and the emotions we let flow. Some of us let it out, some of us hold it in, but in the end we all deal with it, in our own way. And that in and of itself, should point out to all, we are not so different from one another, are we?
No man or woman is perfect, no child does something without being taught how to first. as we grow and age we learn by doing and by the guidance of the adults in our lives. If you are not taught right from wrong, you have no moral compass then, If you are selfish all the time, then you lack the abilities needed to get by in life. If no one teaches you morals and ethics or manners, than you will fail in society in general. Some need to learn to say Please, Thank You, I’m sorry, Forgive me, and express emotions better. But, you can’t force anyone, so you learn to live with what they do, and accept it as it is. We are not all at the same level, emotionally, mentally or even physically, but we do strive to fit into the society in which we live. That is how life works for most and we accept and carry on.
In the end let me say this, so all can understand it clearly. I may not always agree with you or you with me. I may have a different vision, in my mind , than you. I may have been taught differently, or learned some things the hard way. But, we all live, we all cry, we laugh, and we all die. The real question is not how, but why? And always remember, when you pass from this plane, onto the next, you will be remembered for how you interacted with those around you. Were you helpful, were you kind, were you pleasant most of the time? The legacy you leave behind if not materials, it’s spirit, it’s emotional, it’s interactions, that’s what people get remembered for. So, I always have said, God put mankind on this earth for a reason. we are each of us here on a separate mission we must complete, before we depart. We know not what that mission is, or when we actually accomplish it, but, when we do we depart. We return to from whence we came, for we have completed helping who we were supposed to. That is what life is about folks, believe it or not. If you don’t believe me, that’s fine, but, the proof is when you are standing next to a grave marker, a casket, an urn, and you listen to the words of those remembering those who have departed. For they always talk of the good deeds not the bad, don’t they, those are what we get remembered for.
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