Hello Valentines Day, I wish all who have someone to share it with a great Valentines Day and evening. May you enjoy the relationship you are in and find a greater connection to the person you are with.
That said and done, I wonder why the dating scene in America and specifically Massachuetts is in the shape it is in. I know many won’t even date, at this time and most of it is a matter of trust, being taken for money, or attitudes that come from anger against the opposite gender these days. I find a lot of anger in the people of Massachuetts, and many fears among them also. They are angry over being taken for money, or because they were cheated on, and that leads to trust issues as I see it. I have also run into people who are naricists here. Why, there are so many of them I still have no idea. Yet there they are, using others for their money, or using someone as a Trophy man or woman on their arm. Average looks get you overlooked also it seems, people want prince charming or a princess look. Sadly, folks the majority of people who are single are so, for many reasons. maybe the biggest reason is trust issues in many areas as I see it. Some believe they will get cheated on, some believe they will get taken for money, some are scared of trying anymore over both of those issues. I think if you believe your going to find perfection in someone you date, you will fail,, each and every single person has some faults for sure. Some are Divorcees, some widowers, widows, some have never been married and call themselves solos.
I have run into all the above, in Westborough here, and Massachuetts in general and I believe it is the same in all states in the country and areas too. Why is the question is it not? I mean why is it so bad a dating scene these days in America? I don’t have all the answers thats for sure, but I also have found it is in all age groups. From young adults at 21 to old people in their 70’s who are single, it seems, they are staying single and alone for all of the above reasons i mentioned. I gather that, most people understand in today’s America, the problems and they have no idea how to overcome it at all.
I believe that since Americans and the people in Massachuetts are so scared, it will not change anytime soon. You can’t change it, unless you allow yourself to takea chance out there. Men have stopped asking women out these days. The Men tend to avoid asking or approaching women, in today’s America, especially here in Massachuetts it seems. again it is a matter of fear of being taken for money or belongings, being used to make another jealous or because we can’t trust the women we meet. Approaching a woman in my area where I live is scarey to me. I have seen many nice looking women, yet I do not go, want to date or go out to them, Men also have fears of rejection, just like women do too. I think many women don’t realize that at all. I have experienced things like staring, in both directions, and no one moves. I have also even had discussions or chatted to women while shopping in malls or grocery stores. But, I do not cross the line to ask them out or even if they are single or not. In today’s America it is dangerous to do so, for you know not how they may react. I know it sounds weird to many, but the facts are the facts today. This is why men don’t approach women and women do not normally approach men, either. They shy away from doing so, just as badly as us men do. The real question is how does one overcome and approach anyone anymore? Maybe it’s me, but, I see this happening daily and I find it amusing and in the end sad.
Dating sites don’t really work either for everyone out there. Why, because both sexes like to use false pictures or photos, or make profiles that are fake also. Many do it, and is it an insecurity or a fear in all, or a way to try to overcome some fears. I don’t know i just find it amazing and crazy. Years ago, a friend of mine was desperate to get a girlfriend. I walked into his home back then, to find him writing numerous letters to numerous women out of magazines and ads he had gathered. I stared in amazement at what he was doing and of course asked him why. I told him to stop it, he was wasting money, in stamps, letters, envelopes and more. None of those women would answer him I told him.
So he asked me what he should do. I told him I think the best advice I could give him at the time. Stop writing letters, and start being you. I told him to go to work as normal. and to do what he liked to do and just be himself. Stop trying to force anything, it would never happen if he continued that way.
In the end, what happend is he listened to me. He went to work, talked to everyone he could, was himself each day and did what he liked best. One day he went to work and he had a job to do for a woman. as he did the job, the woman watched him and started talking to him as he completed the job. By the end of the job, she asked him out. Well, that led to his now being married for over 30 years, to that same woman. It worked back then, but today, it may not work. People today have too many problems, some have mental problems, some emotional problems some have fears of many things and trust issues. It is not the same world anymore. I met my wife I had for 28 years at a Singles Dance, all I did was ask her to dance with me. That led to 28 years of marriage, and happiness for us both. So, we don’t have single’s dances anymore, we don’t have roller skating rinks anymore either. So what is available to meet people you might to want to date. Some do bars/ Taverns and Clubs, thats ok if your a drinker and have the money, yet there is no guarantee is there? I am older myself, I don’t drink and think it is a way to waste money in today’s world. and the way the economy is going these days, it is foolish to waste money as we all know.
Well as you can see, what I am talking about here, is the Dating Scene in this day and age. Now you may think, I am just complaining and moaning and groaning and I am wrong. let me point out to you, I am not alone in these opinions or thoughts. It has even been put out and talked about on national tv and news stations and channels and programs. It is called the Loneliness Syndrome in America and it is real folks. The only question that remains is how do Americans overcome it, and can it be overcome?
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