Morning all, it is Monday June 16th, 2025. My area is gray and foggy today so far, weather wise. As I age there are some lessons, I have learned in life, I can honestly say, are decent ones.
First is lying is not good for anyone or anything. You lie you get caught, it hurts whoever you lied to and yourself, don’t do it folks. It carries on for a long time, and ruins you.
Second thing I learned and maybe the most important, don’t be fake, or play act, or not be you. People will see through it all no matter how or why you do it.
Third, don’t allow someone else to change you. You can adapt to fit in if you wish, but giving someone control over how you act or do things is just wrong.
Fourth, decision making must be your own, in all you do in your life. You don’t need to explain to anyone why you do what you do. You do need to look back over past experiences you lived through, and look at what others did yes. In the end though it is up to you what decision you make, always make the best one for yourself first, and those you love most.
Fifth, what many do not realize as we age, we look back a lot more, at what we have lived through, to make daily decisions for our lives in the present. The best way to do so, is in a wide picture so to say. When you can see and understand why you are who you are, and what you have done so far, it makes the present better for you in all ways.For you avoid the pitfalls of the past, for yourself and those around you.
Sixth, relationships, between the sexes and the peer pressures of those around you. Do not let anyone tell you who to get involved with in a relationship. Do not feel pressured to be in a relationship with anyone, if it happens fine, but it must happen because you both want it, not just one. We all look for someone for companionship, love, lust and more, make sure you know which you seek another person for. Also make sure they are fine with being that person for you, if not, it will not work folks.
Seventh, for myself, I will not chase anyone, follow anyone, or be with anyone who lives in my own complex. Some will, some won’t, my belief in the complex I live in is people talk. Chatter does matter folks, and if you date someone in the complex, if something goes wrong it spreads like wild fire. People love gossip and chatter and thats just a fact.
Finally let me close with this, I am now 69 years old, I have lived in my mind a decent life and have had relationships that last a long time. I have had marriages, that totaled 40 years of my life. I have learned if you want a relationship with the opposite sex to work, you need to use certain abilities given you by the good lord at birth. A) Listening, don’t listen to hear what you want to hear, listen to hear what the other person is saying clearly. B) Compromise is vital in any ongoing relationship. Meet in the middle folks and make it work. Any other way and it blows up in your face. C) Honesty is vital D) Emotions- will happen folks, don’t hide your feelings from the one your in a relationship with. Accept the fact they have emotions and feelings too. In the end Ladies and Gentlemen, life is complicated yes, but we survive it and carryon, because we know it must be done.
Remember, time is limited that we are on this earth, so use each moment or minute, or hour or day, in the best way you know how. Make each, worth living and as pleasant for yourself and those you love the most.
As time goes on and I age, I still have friends from my High School days. That was a good 50 years ago folks. I had two marriages like i said, the first went 12 years the second 28 for me. I must of done something right, is all I can say. I know when my second wife passed, the last words we spoke to one another were I Love You as she was passing. So, I know, I was loved, and cared for and she knew she was too. Never, ever forget to tell your partner, lover and friend you care.
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