Lets discuss something different today. After many years, I returned to Second Life, the Online Virtual World, for fun and Adventure as a Disabled Veteran. My Wife passed in August of 2021, and I figured I needed a place to hang out and not get in trouble in Real Life, because I am not an Extrovert, I am an Introvert and usually quiet and shy. It’s easier to chat with others in such an enviroment and get along, usually.
I found it fun, interesting with all of it’s different builds by the people who populate it all. What I did not realize is how some are desperate and lost in it, and just roaming, or trying to control everyone and everything they can in it.
Look I love the sims of all kinds in Second Life for they are all parts of people’s imagination, and something to look at. Most people who build and start these Sims do so to entertain themselves at first, then they try to open them up to others and invite people in by, adding music and clubs and dancing. While this works for some so called clubs, and some have been in Second Life for decades now, others are started by disinfrancised or angry people who are mad at other clubs or people they have cyber-dated, that didn’t work out, So tensions arise and people move on. I understand all of that, of course and do not care if it happens to me. What I do care about is liars and the problems that some of these members cause and cry about continually.
You want to build a sim, be friendly, invite people treat them with respect and kindness. Listen to the people who visit your sim. If they don’t like your kind of music, change it some, if they don’t like certain people don’t force them to. If they give you help and advice, and they stop for a real life reason of any kind, listen to them. And whatever you do, don’t be a narrisistic person and think your always right and everyone else is wrong. Don’t kick people from your sims, unless you have a good reason folks, others notice this and you will lose in the end. If someone helped you out, and became a staff member on your sim, and suddenly has real life issues, and tells you to remove them from your staff list do so without predijuce or discrimination. Listen to them. Also, don’t because they did so, think and follow them all over Second Life, wondeirng why they are else-where and not in your sim. Look, I know some are trying to build their population for their sims in Second Life, if someone is ill, or has an injury of some sort and says, I can’t do this anymore there is a reason, and no sim owner, Manager or otherwise, has a right to follow your Avatar all over Second Life and question you about where you go in Second life, what you do in Second Life, or why your not at their sim. They can take away staff tags if you have them for their sim, all they want, but to question where you go, how long you are online in Second Life and ask you why your not on their sim is wrong.
I tried very hard to give help to someone building a sim. But when my Back Injuries came up and I stopped Djing, I was questioned left and right as to why. When I explained why it was not good enough it seems. So I told the sim owner to remove me from the active DJ list, because i was in pain from my back. Instead of doing that, I was placed on a different place in the staff list and held over. Then, the co-owner of the sim, decided I was to have my staff tags removed, Why, because he found me on SL roaming around, not DJing mind you, just in SL dancing and hanging out. He assumed I was, lying to him about my condition, told me he had back issues too, and that I lied to him, because i was signed into Second life. Let me say this to all, there are many disabled people in Second life who can not sit on their computers 24/7 while logged in, we get up, we move around to loosen our backs, to heat them on heating pads, to take meds, or we walk away from our keyboards and are not actaully there. You assume, things, I remind you, you make an ass out of you and me, and you don’t hurt me by removing the Staff Tags, you hurt your own club/sim and yourself in the end.
I started on Second Life Decades agao when my wife was alive. At first it was to chat, meet people and get away from real life. Yes, an escapism device or internet place. Then, I did some building and learning. Then, I did some Motorcycle Clubs and track riding. I also built a Casino for that Motorcycle Club. Then when the Sim owner passed away the CLub broke up and my wife became very ill and passed also. So I left Second Life and took care of real life problems and issues for years. I have seen, all kinds of Sims in Second Life, Sexual, non-sexual, BDSM, D/s and more. While they are all fun and playfull, I remind all, they are not reality. Also, I warn many I see, you have no idea who is behind an Avatar in Second Life and what they are really like. You don’t know if they are married, or single, you don’t know, how educated they may be, or how perverse they may be or how deadly they may be also. Second Life has no ability as an online Virtual World to filter out these individuals, so don’t take chances, don’t hook up with someone in Second Life and try to take it real life, without investigating. Don’t fall into someone’s web, just because they say they are Dominant, or Submissive, or have lots of money to blow on Lindens to let you build your own sim or world. Ultimately, these people who do this, abuse people, they use people and in the end they dump them like trash because they are upset with them. or they lie to them from the begining and you find out and wham it blows up. Second Life is a game folks, it’s for fun, adventure, building, music and chat. It is not real life and until you realize it, you end up running from sim to sim getting hurt or upset or mad. No reason for it. Just be you, have fun, but remember, it’s a damn virtual world, don’t get emotionally attached and wrecked in it. all you have to do is hit the X and close the program and come back later it will be there. There is always more fish in the ocean, always more people in Second lIfe, although it is slowly, losing it’s following due to just the things I am mentioning here. I like Second life, but it is not the Virtual World of it, that is the problem, like in Real Life it is the people in it, who think they know it all, that can ruin it for you. If that happens walk away is all, and let them be.
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