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Navigating Second Life: A Guide for Disabled Veterans


Lets discuss something different today. After many years, I returned to Second Life, the Online Virtual World, for fun and Adventure as a Disabled Veteran. My Wife passed in August of 2021, and I figured I needed a place to hang out and not get in trouble in Real Life, because I am not an Extrovert, I am an Introvert and usually quiet and shy. It’s easier to chat with others in such an enviroment and get along, usually.

I found it fun, interesting with all of it’s different builds by the people who populate it all. What I did not realize is how some are desperate and lost in it, and just roaming, or trying to control everyone and everything they can in it.

Look I love the sims of all kinds in Second Life for they are all parts of people’s imagination, and something to look at. Most people who build and start these Sims do so to entertain themselves at first, then they try to open them up to others and invite people in by, adding music and clubs and dancing. While this works for some so called clubs, and some have been in Second Life for decades now, others are started by disinfrancised or angry people who are mad at other clubs or people they have cyber-dated, that didn’t work out, So tensions arise and people move on. I understand all of that, of course and do not care if it happens to me. What I do care about is liars and the problems that some of these members cause and cry about continually.

You want to build a sim, be friendly, invite people treat them with respect and kindness. Listen to the people who visit your sim. If they don’t like your kind of music, change it some, if they don’t like certain people don’t force them to. If they give you help and advice, and they stop for a real life reason of any kind, listen to them. And whatever you do, don’t be a narrisistic person and think your always right and everyone else is wrong. Don’t kick people from your sims, unless you have a good reason folks, others notice this and you will lose in the end. If someone helped you out, and became a staff member on your sim, and suddenly has real life issues, and tells you to remove them from your staff list do so without predijuce or discrimination. Listen to them. Also, don’t because they did so, think and follow them all over Second Life, wondeirng why they are else-where and not in your sim. Look, I know some are trying to build their population for their sims in Second Life, if someone is ill, or has an injury of some sort and says, I can’t do this anymore there is a reason, and no sim owner, Manager or otherwise, has a right to follow your Avatar all over Second Life and question you about where you go in Second life, what you do in Second Life, or why your not at their sim. They can take away staff tags if you have them for their sim, all they want, but to question where you go, how long you are online in Second Life and ask you why your not on their sim is wrong.

I tried very hard to give help to someone building a sim. But when my Back Injuries came up and I stopped Djing, I was questioned left and right as to why. When I explained why it was not good enough it seems. So I told the sim owner to remove me from the active DJ list, because i was in pain from my back. Instead of doing that, I was placed on a different place in the staff list and held over. Then, the co-owner of the sim, decided I was to have my staff tags removed, Why, because he found me on SL roaming around, not DJing mind you, just in SL dancing and hanging out. He assumed I was, lying to him about my condition, told me he had back issues too, and that I lied to him, because i was signed into Second life. Let me say this to all, there are many disabled people in Second life who can not sit on their computers 24/7 while logged in, we get up, we move around to loosen our backs, to heat them on heating pads, to take meds, or we walk away from our keyboards and are not actaully there. You assume, things, I remind you, you make an ass out of you and me, and you don’t hurt me by removing the Staff Tags, you hurt your own club/sim and yourself in the end.

I started on Second Life Decades agao when my wife was alive. At first it was to chat, meet people and get away from real life. Yes, an escapism device or internet place. Then, I did some building and learning. Then, I did some Motorcycle Clubs and track riding. I also built a Casino for that Motorcycle Club. Then when the Sim owner passed away the CLub broke up and my wife became very ill and passed also. So I left Second Life and took care of real life problems and issues for years. I have seen, all kinds of Sims in Second Life, Sexual, non-sexual, BDSM, D/s and more. While they are all fun and playfull, I remind all, they are not reality. Also, I warn many I see, you have no idea who is behind an Avatar in Second Life and what they are really like. You don’t know if they are married, or single, you don’t know, how educated they may be, or how perverse they may be or how deadly they may be also. Second Life has no ability as an online Virtual World to filter out these individuals, so don’t take chances, don’t hook up with someone in Second Life and try to take it real life, without investigating. Don’t fall into someone’s web, just because they say they are Dominant, or Submissive, or have lots of money to blow on Lindens to let you build your own sim or world. Ultimately, these people who do this, abuse people, they use people and in the end they dump them like trash because they are upset with them. or they lie to them from the begining and you find out and wham it blows up. Second Life is a game folks, it’s for fun, adventure, building, music and chat. It is not real life and until you realize it, you end up running from sim to sim getting hurt or upset or mad. No reason for it. Just be you, have fun, but remember, it’s a damn virtual world, don’t get emotionally attached and wrecked in it. all you have to do is hit the X and close the program and come back later it will be there. There is always more fish in the ocean, always more people in Second lIfe, although it is slowly, losing it’s following due to just the things I am mentioning here. I like Second life, but it is not the Virtual World of it, that is the problem, like in Real Life it is the people in it, who think they know it all, that can ruin it for you. If that happens walk away is all, and let them be.

Constructive Criticism of UMASS Memorial Hospital’s Emergency Services


Recently, I have been going through some medical stuff. One is my back, whichI know full well, is associated to my bad herniated discs in my lower spine. The Second is a bout with controlling, my sugar levels from type 2 Diabeties and my Blood Pressure also. I depend normally, on The Veterans Clinic in Worcester, Mass. Which has done a terrific job of taking care of my medical needs.

The second I usually Depend on is Convienent MD, around the corner from me when things are not going right and they normally help me fine and things straighten out. I like it, and would use it more.

Finally, lets discuss, UMASS Memorial Hospital and their Emergency Room, Trauma Center. I went in on the basis of two things, because The Veteran’s Adminstraion told me to go there, for highh BLood Pressure and high sugar readings yesterday. I arrived early at 9 am there and complaine do my BP and Sugars being high and having pressure in my chest. They signed me in and then directed me to a EKG in the back, and took one then places me in a wheelchair outside the EKG area and left me there for hours, taking blood twice. Then they told me to go out to the waiting room, which I did. The Emergency Room Waiting area was full of people, sitting around in numerous conditions waiting to see Doctors.

People had been there ob=ver 30 hourts and counting waiting. Now, I uderstand it is a Trauma Center/ Emergency and they area busy place. Yet, the longest wait times ever exist here to see a real Doctor to even explain your test results. Sadly, people sit there, wanting to know the results of their testa nd if they are ok enough to go home, No one explains that the EKG is normal when it is or the blood tests are normal to you, they just make you wait to see a Doctor period. After numerous hour from 9 am to 12 pm, I sat waiting for the results and to see if i wa sok or not. I never did recieve the official results of see a actual Doctor. When you ask when you can see a Doctor or how soon or your numbe rin line, they look at you and tell you, We area Trauma center here and we have no place tp put people or rooms. We can’t tell you how soon you will be seen. Then, one of the nurses says to me, Sir if you don’t like our hospital you can go to another ypu don’t have to stay here. Thats just set me off honestly I had invested over 7 hours trying to get my test results and see an actual Doctor.

I stayed hoping even then just tpo see a Doctor an dmake sur emy EKG and Blood work was normal, so I was sure i was fine. By, Midnight, I had , had enough and basiclaly went up and had a nurse cut the wrist bands off an dtold her i was going home, I was done waiting. she was kind enough to cut my bands off, and tell me that if my EKG had sj=hown anything they would have whisked me in the back for immediate care. Then, before she would lalow me to leave, she took a peek at my blood test results. She said, and I quote, Sir I would never bother a Doctor with these results. That told me my blood work was fine. If i had been told that earlier i would have gone home, instead of waiting all that time. Their processes are screwed up in this Emergency Room due to the fact they are also a Trauma Center. The two in one combo does not work properly folks. And this is not the first time i have been through this experience with this Hospital’s Emergency Room. I know, if i have an Emergancy again, I shall not use them, it was a rude experience and uncomfortable and crazy to be there all that time an dnever see a Doctor. Others had been sittiing there over 30 hours waiting I found and one young lady had hurt her back at a gym she and told them she couldn’t sit yet they put her in the waiting room, in a hard wheelchair and she was crying on and off from pain. They ignored her repeatedly and just let her cry. I tried tpo help the ypoung woman, by getting them to provide her a pillow to sit on and they got one finally. But her pain persisted of course. I finallt told the young woman, you want them to help you have have two choices, one stand up and fall down on the floor and scream in pain and they will pick you up, they wil have no choice. Or make enough noice, crying till they come get you. It worked, they finally paid her attion and took her in. Sadly, that is what she had to do to get seen faster. This Hospital, is one messed up, mismanaged operation in my view.

If you are going to run a Trauma Center and Emergency Room you need to make changes to survive. 1) seperate the Trauma Center from the Emergency Room. 2) Hire more Doctors to man each,a nd more Nurses. 3) Be more picky on what Nurses and doctors you hire. The bedside manner of some of them is just crazy and ridiculous. 4) Expand the rooms you have in the Hospital for Admitting and for the care of patients. 5) You can not keep telling patients we have no rooms at the inn so to say and think you are going to maintain a Hospital and make money, you lose people we leave. 6) Then when patients who have waited long hours to see a Doctor, ask when they are going to be seen, you can not, sit there and tell them to go elsewhere is they do not like it. 7) And last but not finally, if you do not have rooms for patients due to overload, you ned to inform people immediately, so they can go elsewhere, not check them in, and make them wait forever. As a Hospital and a facility, that is supposed to help the people an dprovide for them, you must be responisible enough to say, we have no room here at the Inn so to say, much like Joseph and Mary were told, before Jesus’s birth. Be honest, put upa damn sign an d let people know you are overloaded, so they don’t wiat these long periods and get angry.

If as a Hopsital you can not afford to expan and seperate these two units, you will not last much longer. people will begin to go else where. People like myself wil lbegin to write blogs and reviews of your services and lack of services and problems. It’s not to be derogortory of your Hospital or your Emergency Room or Trauma Center, it’s a constructive critizism of it all that is intended here, with suggestion to help inprove it. The Emergency Room/ trauma Center is intirely mismanaged and not being operated correctly. If you have too many people coming in do something baout it, don’t let them suffer and wait.

The President of the Board, that Operates this Hospital is a Doctor Lynda Young, who chairs the board. She need to know these problems exist and she needs to know she has staff with lack of abilities and bedside manners too. Yet, as i wa stold she or the hospital as a whole wil ignore it all. You can’t be profitable or make money getting patients angry, or sending them else where after they come and check in. It will not work Doctor Young. so in the end likeme many will come yes, but like me also, many wil lwalk out, upset, angry and wanting to be seen by Doctors. They wil go elsewhere of course, and then in the end, it won’t make your opertaion, any better, it wil only decline not onlt in the services you provide by in the patient inflow. Wake up and fix this!

Political Turmoil in America: A Call for Accountability


Morning all, November is rolling right along, and soon enough Thanksgiving will be upon us. As we approach the Thanksgiving Holiday Iw ant to wish all a Great Turkey Day, and Hope all have enough for their families. Holidays are made for families and friends and I hope all have them, to make memories and share them with. As to me, I had 28 years with my wife, who passed in 2021, and we mad ethe best of every Holiday we could. Since her passing I send eahc Holiday alone ana on my own. No one can replac eher first off, and seocndly, I will never and hsall never be a burden, a pain in the ass, a bother, or a worry for anyone else. I would rather be alone than do that to family or friends. never have, and never shall. Enjoy is what I say.

Next subject Health, My back and internals seem to be failing me at the sametime. I have back issues from my Naval Injuries which include six herniated discs in my spine, three in the neck and three in the lower back. Add in sciatica in my left hip and chronic bowel problems from it and wham I am a mess. Pain gets me each night and during the dya too now. so, I use back belts, Ben Gay and other creams and try to watch how I move. Things happen in life and I shall never regret serving my Country, but, damn the price I pay.

Lets discuss the current political problems in America. many other countries are looking at America and going why is America allowing Trump to stay in office and allowing him to destroy us. Our economy sucks, our realtionships suck with othe rnations, tariffs are killing us and the world. On top of it all, other countries are going, why are Americans allowing a pedophile to run the country? Why isn’t he removed an djailed fortouching children? Why is he being protected?

I don’t have the reasons nor do I know how it can be done, only that he should go. He should be tried and convicted for these crimes against children, period. On top of it he is already a 34 tines convicted felon, a draft dodger who never served and he is killing militray benefits for Veterans, Help for the homeless and hungry and Medicare, Medicaid and Obamacare. he dismantled our Eductaion Department for what reason, who the hell knows. The situation is not getting better, OCngress know sit, The Senate knows it and so does the people of America. My main question is why was he elected, and secondly, whu is he being so protected by The Republican Party? and how long must this Fiasco, that is MAGA and Trump continue, before it destroys America totally? Please Explain folks? For I definitely know that hatered is growing the anger is growingm, the frustrations of Americans are growing, yet no one in Congress is moving to stop it all! Why? As people become homelss, food prices rise, peopl elose food stamps, medical benefits and insurance, laws are being broken left and right and even the courts are ignored, Americans allow trump to do as he pleases. when shall it stop and how soon?

I don’t believe Americans fully realize all that has happened so far. Once they do, I would suspect a portion will rise up and try to oust this man. It must be done correctly. Either Impeach him or use the 25th Admendment but make him go! Sadly, so many suffer while he live slike a KIng in The White House spending tax payers money on bullshit and parties!

My Opinions as of Today!


Hello November 16th, 2025. Time keeps ticking bye, and a sit does, I feel a little older each day. My body aches as my old Naval Injuries come back and my back goe sout of whack. I can feel the tingling down my left leg to my foot. I wak ein pain eahc day, with my left side aching and parts or me numb. yet I get out of bed and keep going to the best os my abilities. I take pills and relaxers and Allieve and wear back belt these days. More than likely as it keeps going, I will need mor ethan steroid shots in my spine. ithin if it gets much worse i may need back surgery, but I have avoided it so far.The pressure is constrant now on my lower back side and down my ass cheek and down to my knee. As it is now walking becomes difficult and I am uneasy at times and lose my balance. It seems to be getting worse these days. I will see my Primary Doctor soon enough and hopefully she can order some scans and see what she can do for me. I willl need more Lanicainc epatches and muscle relaxers at least, and maybe more shots or surgery. Time shall tell.

I live my my injuries daily and i can honestly say I domn’y show them or act like i am injuried, so peole don’t see it. Usually I will wear aback brace for day under loose shirts. It’s all a part of growing older.

Ok, next subject please. The Political climate in America is worse than I have ever sen it in my lifetime. I was born under Eisenhowser in 1956, I have seen many Presidents come and go. I have never seen so much corruption, so much ass kissing and perversion in my lifetime, like it is today.The Rich get richer, the poor get poorer and the middle class pays out it’s ass. It’s sad! I hear about Healthcare left and right, If the damn Billionaires and Millionaires paid their fair share of taxes every year as the rest of us do, HealthCare would be free in America. Instead the greedy assholes, don’t care and the poor and middle class get killed finanacially and can barely survive.

Next, the economy sucks and i don’t care what President Trump says. the man has had tog o grocery shopping, or pay for gas or worry about any cost all his life. Its yucj as all rise and he says, oh it’s fine all the poles are lies, and the News is phoney. And he gets away with this shit. Sad.

I remind all who Voted Trump in you asked forthis. Bad Economy, High prices on food and clothing, fuel costs rising, and more. In the meatime, more and more is coming out concerning The epstein files and the child trafficing and abuses that happened. each releash gets worse for Trump he continues to deny what is so damn obvious to the reast of the world, he was deeply involved and knew what he was doing. he dnies, he dodges, he hides, he avoids and in the end he tries to kill the truth. the women who were the kids abused and used, now are beggining to speak out. A voye is coming up in Congress to release all the Epstein files and information soon. if the Information in those files match the just released Emails from Epstein’s family an dothers, than if I were Trump I would run, if true he should be removed from The Presidency, and all records removed and all his appointments too. Criminals who are convicted 35 times, should not be allowed to be President.

Now before I release this blog, I wantt o make perfectly clear, thes eare my opinions an dmy thoughts in the current American culture and time. If you don’t like it fine, just remember we all have freedom of speech and wheith it is my opinions on the current President, The Economy, The Epstein Case and File sor anyother damn thing, I havea right tos tate it. Period!!11 Don’t come back with the Trump code and MAGA shit at me either, because frankly I don’t give a damn. I believe what I wish to believe, period. MAGA shoul dbe banished and estroyed, Trump should face Justice for all crimes he has committted too. If he doesn’t and it looks like he won’t, whats it say about America and It’s Justice for all Moto?

You tell me folks, the last Question I have is this, If it is proven and, President Donald J. trump has sex with teenage girls who were children. don’t you believe he should face Jutice? I know i do!

Voices of Concern: Elections and America’s Future


Well November has arrived as we all know, The Temperatures are dropping here in Massachuetts. It is getting chilly once more. As we hea dinto the colder months I hope all, have a warm home and family.

Today is Election Day once again, and i hope all voted where they should, the choices of course are yours. Just try to remember you votes count and can change the direction of each state, and the country you are voting in. Be careful with who and what you vote for, for the effects can be long term as we are all learning today, in modern America.

That said, onward the world will go, with life and more. For the first time inm any decades Americans are struggling, looking for work, food, housing and trying to maintainand take care of their families. IT has become a time in my mind, we are bordering on economic failure and so close to a depression. People are out of work due the the loss os jobs, Federal Governement cutbacks and more. Their savings are diminishing and many are now homeless and in food lines and soup kitchens. It hasn’t been this bad, sinc ethe Great Depreesion days folks, so I think some should think about why it is so, and how it has come about. For those who voted for it and have gotten it, I think many are now sorry about it too. It is indeed a sad state of affairs, when an American President, only has a 36 percent popularity and is not even at the mid-terms yet. I see failure on the economic front, the healthcare fron’t, the social front at this point. Bad decisions left and right and the world is laughing at America for all it’s failures and disappointments, we are now suffereing. I will remind all, agree or disagree with what I am saying, as to disappointments, but in the end, you voted for it all. So, it is up to you to change it back.

I remind all, I write blogs like this as opinion pieces, and the opinions express are my own. we still have Freedom of Speech, Freedom or the Press and Freedom of Religion. I hope all who agree vote well and all who do not agree do too. But, in the end, the way this country goes will change many Americans futures folks, be carefull what it is please.

In the meantime life shall roll on for me as i age more and watch the world change. I pray and hope everyday, that we keep our COnstitution, We keep our Bill of Rights and lal the rights contained in it. I pray an dhope we stay a Republic and a democracy and we can hold our heads high, as one of the Greatest Nations ever an dmaintain our status and position in the world. God Bless America Folks, for I served her for 16 years and I am proud of it too.

One last note for today, Vice President Dick Cheney has passed today at 84 years old. No Matter what your political beliefs, or persuasion, He served us all HOnorably and with integerity an ddid the best her could. He deserved the flags at Half Mast, he deserves a Governement Funeral and burial and to be Honored as a man who did what was right. Anyone saying differently, needs to step back and remember, No one is forced to run for office and no one serves because theydon’t want to, they do it for the good of their country. Honor Vice President Cheney folks and say thank you!

November 2025: Changes, Elections, and Game Seven


Welcome to November 2025 folks. I hope all enjoyed Halloween last nigh and had fun.

As November rolls in, the weather gets chillier, the leafs are changing and time moves on. It seems like only yesterday, when I though a coming winter would be fun. Tjhe leafs are npow colorful and falling, and it is a time of changes. Yet we all still motivate and move, going here and there without much fear. it is great to be American and to be free, even if our politicians fights over what they want or don’t for you and me. As long as America remains free, with the rights we have, of Freedom of Speech, Laws and a Constitution that is intact. One party may win the hOuse and Senate and White House too, but my friends remember that is up to me and to you. We vote an dthe majority wins it seems, even if it hurts many people and their dreams. In a few days, Elections will start once more, for those of you voting, don’t vote on who is your favorite, vote on what is best for your future and families and mine. if you don’t, who knows where the current political climate will take us, it could be communist, it coul dbe authorian, it could be democratis or republican. It’s one thing to be a liberal or a conservative, in America, it’s anothe rto bring cummunism or authoritizism tpo America. I don’t think even under todays climates in the world, the American People would go for them. But, time shall tell won’t it folks.

Tomorrow the clock move once more, they fall back to an hour earlier. Time zones and these hour changes have been a thorn inmany people’s sides for years now. Some want to do away with it all and some don’t care. Personally, I think if we just left the clocks alone it wouldn’t makea damn difference. But, again, I am not a politicain or an average citizen lol, my opinions are my own. I just wish, it wans’t so, I don’t have a voice that loud, don’t you know.

I have been writing poems, short stories and blogs for many years now. I do so as a hobby, to be heard and to have fun. I am not doing it to anger people, hurt people or to change their minds, I just try to entertain a bit, inform a bit and discuss a bit. It’s just me.

last thing today, Tonight if Game Seven of the World Series of 2025. It has been interesting to watch and quite a fight between two great teams. I know for me, this seventh game this year, is gonna be a thing to watch,a nd to enjoy and it will have many watching. Seventh Games do that folks, it is amazing how a Series that has seven games can build to a ending all want to watch. The Tension, The stress, the joy an dthe pain will be shown once more and again. One team wil win and one will lose, but, it is a game they all did choose. Thats the good thing about Sports, we cheer on who we want to win and we atch in amazement and joy. Some have their highs, some get the lows, in the end it is the game to watch, that affects us so. So, to The Dodgers and The Blue Jays and Major League Baseball, thank you.

Remincing is fine!


Hello Friday, has arrived and I have no idea what the weather shall be like outside. My fridays, are slow and steady like most of my days. I may read, or write at home, and then go bowling in the Senior League I am in, When done bowling I usually return home alone and just hang out watching tv, or building a puzzle or reading. I know it is a dormant, slow world I live in. I don’t drink or really go to Taverns or Bars which seems to be the big draw for those in the town I live in. Sadly, it seems, the town I choose to live in, is a slow town with very little to really do in it.

While I have been sent pamphlets and emails on Volunteer Activities to get involved in, there really isn’t much other than the Senior Center for those my age here. we don’t have our own bowling ally, we don’t have a roller skating rink. I have my little hobbies I do alone of course, like walking when the weather is good, reading a decent book when I can, writting poetry and short stories and my blogs. As many who know me even in passing will tell you, I am not the life of a party type of man, nor, am I a ladies man, who flirts with every woman he sees. I am 69 years old and headed to 70 if i make it, next January of 2026. I am not dead, or that infirmed that I can’t get around, so I do what I beleive, I can is all.

I remember clearly when I moved here, I had told my sister and at the time i was 65, she would find me dead in this condo I bought, right here. I know that is probally the truth folks, I live day by day alone, and mind my own each day that I do. I clean my own home, I save my money for things I may need or use and I try hard not to get involved in any other person’s business. What someone else does with their life, is not my business, what is, is how I conduct myself, is all.

I have done many things in my life, as a teenager I would help friends move or fix their cars, or whatever they needed. As a Young man I was busy in the military lifestyle, I served in three branches. I started in the U.S. Army, which I hated. Who wants to be a ground pounder, who is made to retrive tanks, so I got out. I did the National Guard as a Machine Gunner Scout, and then, I went back into the military and joined the U.S. Navy next. In Total my life service to my country came out to 16 years. Most of it sepnt in The U.S. Navy as a Boiler Technichan. When, I got injured, onboard ship, and was finally forced out of service due to my injury, I had a wife and two kids. That marriage went to hell, and life went on, after a divorce.

My life has always been slightly different than most, I am not a coventional person in many ways. So, I went back home and started over. I ended up, dazed and confused and lost in a changed society in America. I struggled and turned to The Veteran’s Administration for help. I got my benefits for medical, dental and prescriptions and then still foundering, I agreed to go back to school. The Veteran’s Administration sent me to college, I was a High School Dropout at one time, one who went back and got a GED to get into the service. Amazingly, I made a decision to commit myself to college and did well. I graduated after three years of night school, with a 3.7 out of 4.0 average. I got my Associates Degree in Hosoitality Management, the Hotel side. I recieved Awards two while in college and then I was inducted into the Aplha Beta Gamma and Phi Thetta Kapps Honor Societies. I was proud and hired to run a hotel. Boredom got to me, and so did my injuries and i was unable to keep working. I retired and got 100 percent Unemployabilty from the Veteran’s Administration and my Doctors. Being disabled due to my back injuries, my PTSD and more is not fun, but, I survive on pure guts and determination is all. I was lucky to have had my second wife, who I loved dearly for 28 years. She and I created a life together and cared for one another in all ways. we helped others by providing rooms for rent in our homes for a price. we saved, we struggled and we grew to enjoy life more as we did.

28 years after I met my second wife, she passed from Breast Cancer in 2021. In the middle of her sixteen year fight with cancer I myself got cancer of the lungs. I took my wife to every appointment she had, from Doctors, to Chemo, to radiation, to Immunio Therapy in the End. I survived a 16 hour surgery to take out a lobe and a third of my right lung and no more cancer for me. But, I could not, save my second wife, like I wanted to. Losing her devasted who I was and am today. I am not the joyful, funny guy she met, who would dance away the days or nights I could with her. Nor am I, the same man who would cook all the holiday meals and for both of us each day. But, the memories of all 28 years stay in my mind always. It is the special moments that count folks, those moments when you are alone with who you love, and cuddled or hugging, or sleeping, and knowing, you have that one person you will love forever with you. when you suddenly lose them, to a desease like cancer or anyother desease you will struggle, you will miss them dearly and you will grieve in many ways. I know I did and I know also, that at some point in time whether it is one year, two or three or even four, you realize, your still here and they are not coming back. Thats when you slowly start to feel the loneliness seep in, the individualism comes back. and you finally, go at some point, I need to get involved in something else at some point, or I have to learn to live alone, period. So, you live each day, one day at a time, and carry-on the best you can. It’s slow process folks but we all, go through it, if, and when we lose the one we love. Grief isn’t easy, too many things come up that remind you of the one you lost, and you must live with it all and push through. The alternative is not a choice you will want to make.

Anyway, I reminance and I think back many times these days and for one heading to 70 years old, there is nothing wrong with doing so. The memories help us carry-on and search for more to experience and go through. For in the end we are here on this planet for a reason we do not understand. I have a belief, that each of us, were put here on earth, for a reason or mission we need to complete. when we finally complete that mission, whatever it is, we return from whence we came. Is there a Heaven or a Hell? I do not know for sure and neither do you, but, I do know that, where ever we return to, must bring peace for our hearts, and our souls. For living on this plane of existance we currently do, at times, i think it may be that in between place they call Purgatory for me and for you. Religion is not the solution although it may calm your fears. Drinking and drugs are not the solution either. Murder, Mayhem, or wars don’t help either. In the end you find yourself, left alone and making decisions on your own, and awaiting what may come. believe it or not, in the end that is how life is done. I love life, I love people, I love converstaions and laughter, I love the ability to cry too. But, most of all, when I stop to think, I love the facts of life, and the air we breathe, and feel lucky to be here.

My current thoughts on certain subjects! Opinions !


I have come to certain conclusions, that in my opinion, need to be said by me. Now, I am not here to personally force anything I write or say on anyone else. For firsta nd foremost we all have our right of freedom of speech, this is America. secondly, not everyone thinks the same, or comes to the same conclusions on any subject out there. So when I say, something in a blog, I write, it is my opinion, not my demand or my order to anyone, period. I don’t want someone going, he’s tellingus what to do or not do, for that isn’t what I do. What, I do is discuss how I feel about a subject and write it out.

That said, Lets talk about some conclusions i have reached for myself in todays’ america and under our current living conditions in our country. #1) we are still the greatest country in the world period, due to democracy, our form of governement set forth by the Founding Fathers, we had. #2) We are still a country of laws, guided by our Constitution and it’s Admendments and our Bill of Rights. #3) We will continue to have elections every four years and no President can serve more then 8 total, it isa law in America folks. #4) America does not have KINGS, We never have and never will! We broke from England and foughta Revolutionary War to escape it, and we shall not go backwards.

That said, let me say this next. I swerved my Country in Three Branches of Service, I did the U.S. Army, U.S. Army National Guard and The United States Navy, totaling 16 years of service. I did so with pride, with Honor and Integerity, I did so to protect and defend our way of life, and my family. I am Proud of it, I do not run from it.

Next the societal differences currently happening in America are bad for it in so many ways. We ared ividing the nation in so many wyas now it is sad and it may rock the foundation of the country to it’s core and it must stop. we can ill afford, a battle of the sexes, or a racist war, or even a full out political war, like what is happening now in America. we can ill afford to ignore our Veterans who served, our medical care, our societal norms we have achieved an dlived on for hundreds of years. What happened to morals. ethics, manners and caring? What happened to one for all and all for one? tell me America, where did it go and when did we really lose it so bad, that we can not even agree to disagree and still make things work? What happened America, you Tell Me! Why can’t we get along, and stop the infighting and save our country together, before it explodes apart?

Many subjects are concerns now, societal infighting is just one of them, For instance, race tensions, politicla tensions, anger, all are major problems. Affording to live, lack of jobs, high prices on food, gas and homes. Education being shut down, medicare, medicaid and social security and Veterans Benefits suddenly under attac. Why folks, why? Why, do Americans now act so lackadasial, and so uncaring, that we do not stop this from happening anymore?

Why did Americans reelect a President who was Impeached Twice, convicted of 34 felonies,now being questioned about whether he is a pedophile or not, beause of his relationship with one? Why is this ok to have been done in America? While on this topic, answer me this question, If our current President is not a Pedophile and he has nothing to hide, why isn’t he releasing the Epstein Files in their entirety? I know, if i was accussed of being part of a Pedophile Ring that, abused and used children, and i was innocent, I would work overtime to prove my innocence, wouldn’t you?

Next, subject, America is suffering from infighting between the political parties, and in the end it is the American People who are suffering and it will not get better until the Government is back in full Session and working as one unit again to keep us safe, secure and economically intact. Stock Markets decline, jobs disappear, Tariffs rise and we pay for it all. Doesn’t anyone understand, every tariff being put up against another ocuntry, costs Americans and we pay for them? It’sa sad state of affairs right now in the world and our country.

The homeless population is growing, people are being taken off the streets and shipped overseas and deported without due process in a court of law! It’s wrong, it’s immoral, it’s unethical and corrupt. Look I believe like many, illegal alliens in our country is bad, but, to do it by the book is better. Safer, smarter and in the end, more complete. Every human being, deserves the right to due process, in America, let these people defend their rights to be here, in court. If they lose fine, deport them, If they win in court give them citizenship and lets get it done. we seperate familes, divide them up, but, no one did this over the generations of when America was growing by bounds from immigration did they. The Italians got to stay, the Japanesse, The Irish, the Mexicans, the Jewish and more. This country is built on generations of immigrants folks, lets not kill what we are built upon. Each flock of immigrants brought something to America, things they knew, did or comtributed, we do not need to kill that. I remind all, Trump’s family came from Germany, his Wife is an immigrant herself. yet, they are President and First Lady. Stop and think about it all.

Ok next subject, the so called dating war, or dating problem in American Society an dthe country as a whole. It is far past time, for men and women in America to wake up. Not, every man, wants a woman just for sex, not every woman wants a man just for money. Not every man wants a woman’s belongings, or money, nor is it the same in return. In Todays world the fears of interaction and dating is scary and mean. people have worries and concerns about being used, abused, or taken for money or belongings. Many times , I have heard women complain, men don’t ask us out anymore, why is that? Well, for the same reasons, you say no and reject men is why? The same concerns go both way ladies. We don’t like being used for our physical abilities, or our knowledge of how to repair your home or car. we don’t like being taken for our money we earned either. It’s a two way street ladies and gents, and neither sex, wnats to be taken, used or abused by the other gender. Both sides have our reasons, and until we stop and think it over and decrease our own fears, our own worries some and takea chance we get no where do we? men fear rejection just as much as women do in today’s world. So, in the end it is atwo way street folks, an dthe only way to overcome the loneliness syndrome in America, wil be to take a chance and ask, and just take rejection as a normal part of the process of dating and creating relationships. If you take it personal you stop approaching, you stop asking, and you isolate yourself and any chance you have of finding a relationship period. Thuis we end up bitter, angry, alone and wondering where we went wrong. Our own fears stop us, and as one Author puts us we can’t change what others think of us, so Let Them. But in the end it is the second part of the Let Them Theory that works maybe the best, for once you Let Them think what they want, do what they want, you can then apply the Let me Theory. whicj is Let me make my own choices, Let me be me, and let me decide who and what I want to be. Once your fully you and happy about who you are as a person, and able to interact with others ina friendly positive way, you won’t get anywhere at all will you. negativity kills, any chance of being around or involve dwith anyone else. It’s dpressing to be fearful, it’s depressing to be angry, sad. Positivity is the only way to go really, isn’t it. You attratc mor epeople to you if you laugh daily, if you interact kindly, if your polite, courtious, you get better reactions in return. stick to what you do best, be you. Yet, also remembe rthe old saying, not everyone is everyone’s cup of tea so to say. So that is why they make so many different flavors in the world, so you can find a cup of tea that matches your taste. Just my current thoughts on the subjects above for now!

The Dating Dilemma: Understanding America’s Gender Divide


Society in America has changed to a point of almost no return. People get angry from discussions, they don’t interact anymore. Women are afraid of men and men of women. It’sa crazy problem few understand these days, or have a solution for.

Across the country, the dating scene or interactions between men and women, have diminished in many ways. The simple ways of meeting a person of the opposite sex for dating or a relationship of any kind has become difficult and hard to do. Dating sites have become a breeding ground for spam, phonies, pretenders and players. It seems, people wnat to tease, or post hemselves as available and then back out or run from anyone online texting or emailing or leaving them messages. men and women get ghosted, or ignored period. Thus, the lack of interaction between men and women in American Society.

There are certain issues for both sides as far as this issue goes in general. Women, believe the only rreason men want them, is for sex, or for money. They want to be independent and able to care for themselves, but, on the othe rhand they search for men, who can provide for them also, in ways such as, fixing their homes or cars, or doing work around their homes they live in. men, also do not want to be taken for money, like women, or their personal belongings also. What’s lacking is trust, honesty, caring and actually talking to one another with proper communication and listening. It’s a pretty sad state of affairs in American Society these days.

Politics divides many a sit is today also. american society has evolved into a war between the sexes, that only is escalating as it goes on and time passes. women complain when men discuss the problem and tell men it’s their own fault, while men tell the women they are not open enough, to allow approaches and availabilty for dating. It’sa serious cycle that keeps spinning and pushes both side further apart for sure.

The common ground is really, that both sides, fear approaching the other for basically many of the same reasons, unless, you include the sex issue of course. SO, what cna be done to overcome it is my question? How do people both women and men, get ove rthe doubts, the issues, the worries that are causing it, when neither will approach the other? when one goe sout even to a Coffee Shop, or a Library, or a Store or anywhereelse you can feel the tension and stress in the air. It exists and i know many wil say, ah, I am always complaining, but, it is not a complaint but the facts, in America today. Which is why our own Government has come out talking about and discussing the LOneliness Syndrome in our country. It’s like a viscious cycle that is hard to break and change.

My suggestions in the past, have been laughed at, or angerily responded to as being my own, and not right. Some say, I dod it to myself and i should complain, but, I am not really complaining, as to posing the real question, which is how do we overcome it? I don’t have the answers folks, but, I do hope and wonder, can it be overcome and things made easier for all!

Happy Sunday All From me to you!


I can honestly say, I am no spring chicken anymore at 69 years old. My body aches, my parts swell up and my mind is sharp, but at times it can be a little tart. Even if the mind stays sharp folks because you keep up on current events, or write like I do, the lack of interactions, with others can get to you. As, we age, as we all know our bodies, start to ache and hurt, arthritis sets in, joints swell and make life a little slower at each point. we move less, we talk less and we at times judge others fast too. It’s a part of human nature, just as mother nature takes over also, wearing us down.

Now you can exercise and walk and try to interact as much as you can, but, it won’t solve the aches and pains of aging, nor, will it solve the true loneliness we feel either. I say this because, we all find someone at some point in life we love and care for and want to be with. But, as we all know, it doesn’t always work out that way, or if it does, due to the fates and destiny, it ends because one passes away. That leaves the remaining person, floundering, floating and hoping, to connect once more. In today’s world though, the lack of societial norms, and interactions is killing the country and the world. Too many fears about, age, politics, beliefs, How we look, what color our skins, what religion we are into, all affect it. At some point in life, folks, you start to learn we are people of habits and what we were taught in our younger days, sticks with us in our older days.

Because of the human nature of all of this, people today, do not have the same interactions we did when we were younger. We lock ourselves into safe and old reliable patterns, and steer clear of things we know will disturb or upset us. We also, tend to avoid talking, as much as we can. As seniors will tell you and there are many of us today, some dislike people who talk too much, or are too cherry and bright. Why, because it disturbs their inner peace and their ability to concentrate as needed. So, you get comments like, tone it down, don’t laugh so much, calm down, or the classic one I hear a lot, behave yourself. Listen folks, not to disappoint or upset you, yet, I think you should take these little saying and innuendos and stick em where the sun doesn’t shine! People need to be themselves in the world, and they need to be able to openly communicate and interact, or you end up with one hell of a morbid, sad, depressing world, where people slowly die off, alone and in pain from it all.

Humanity is in trouble today and so is the world as a whole. The planets resources are being used up and wasted faster then they will ever replenish themselves. The atmosphere has been polluted beyond repair and the oceans are clogged with garbage and trash and animals are dying off. Yet, mankind stays it’s own course destroying and using up all we can. Animals don’t destroy anywhere as much as mankind does. we call it making advances, when we create something new, or we find new ways to do something, but, do we ever stop to look at what it means to the rest of the world, our climate or atmosphere or oceans and lands? Nope, we barrell ahead, and do so, not out of the need for such an advance, but, for the love of money. And in the end it will be the demise of humanity, for greed kills all folks. Never forget to share but always conserve too.

Every human being out there has their own personal needs, their own personal fears too. Many, also can lack manners and morals and ethics, for we are not all raised the same. Then we run dead into the race and color barriers mankind has created. Predijuce, discrimination, politics, hate and anger. Why folks, why? Ever hear of the old saying Live and Let Live? The biggest part of it, that is disturbing is the societal norms we once had in the world are now gone. People don’t interact the way they used to anymore. Like I said, manners disappear, anger comes out, people seperate and hide from one another, and divisons happens between races, colors, nationalities and more. The anger goes so deep it causes wars, and elminations of whole nations and peoples. Why? The world must learn to stop the hate, to listen more, communicate more, to understand more. If we don’t folks, we shall ultimately isolate more and end up hating each other, till we kill each other off. It must stop!

Men and women alone in America do not date anymore, or at least no where near the way they used to. We don’t have the social places to meet anymore. A Coffee Shop is not a good place to meet someone, not really. A Bar or Tavern is great for drinking, or trying to get lucky, yes, but it doesn’t build lasting relationships. So the question is what does, in today’s world?

The fears are more than anything, a seperator between the sexes. Women fear men will use them for sexual favors and dump them. They fear being taken for money or belongings. They want men to take care of them, provide for them. men, today are not the same men your parents knew ladies. The men today, don’t want to provide for you.

Just as you women don’t want to be locked into certain things either. Many women these days hate the idea of no jobs for them, or being locked into being housewifes or mothers and nothing else. They want to be known for more than their bodies, they want to be taken as a whole person and accepted for who they are. And they are right men, the women deserve that just as much as we men do too. In the end, the inability to openly communicate that, to listen is killing relationships and possibilities left and right. Fears, lack of manners, lack of ethics, lack of morals all contribute to what I am saying here. Expectations also are a problem folks. many expect certain things, and if they don’t get them from someone they will walk away. There is a very old saying, there are many fish in the sea, when it comes to dating, but, the truth is the sea is now under populated in areas and over populated in others, and fishing is rougher than ever. Why too many things in the way, too many self inflicted restrictions and requirements and needs, that are not being met. Wants, needs, cares, all come into play, and too many people rush and don’t stop to realize it. So , the world is now a much lonelier place for many of us. when a simple smile or causual conversation used to be easy to do, it is no longer true. We hesitate, we stop, we reverse or we shut up. Out of fear of what the response will be, no one likes rejection folks, believe me. But, people avoid, detract and walk away, from things they don’t like or can’t handle. Yet, to fight the current so to say, is not as easy as it was yesterday. Societial Norms are missing, interactions are missing, and fears, and dislikes and discrimination and predijuce are all rearing their ugky heads. I don’t like your religion, I don’t like your color, I don’t like your politics, and more comes into play each day. Instead of listening we shout over one another or at one another. You can’t get along that way folks, for you can shout till you die, but, unless you learn to listen to the other side, you will get no where! As one man said long ago and many forget today, communication is a two way street folks, if one talks, one listens and it must be mutual listening and talking in order for a real conversation and meeting of the minds to work. It definitely, takes listening, by both sides to work. No relationship ever works out, if it is all one-sided.

Wel thats just my thoughts for this Sunday morning folks! Please remember, opinions are things we all have and form. We may state them, we may write them, we may speak them, not everyone will accept them. As I once told someone long ago, I won’t force my opinions or beliefs on you, you don’t force yours on me and we shall be fine. The biggest objection in the world most people have, is being forced into something, so don’t do it to others, if you don’t want it done to you. Happy Sunday All From me to you!