IT is now Sunday again, today is Febuary 16th, 2025. The weather has turned to snow here in Westborough, Mass, overnight, mixed with rain and ice through today it seems. As all who live here in the North East of the United states know, this is not unusual for us at all. Some of us actually survived the Blizzard of December 1978, and lived to talk about it. For me December 28th, 1978 and that blizzard was the day, I entered the United States Navy, and was sent to Great Lakes, Ill. for Boot Camp.

I actually found myself growing up in The Navy at the time because I was immature still when I entered it. Boot Camp taught me to be more responisible for my own actions. I think I did ok. I passed Boot Camp, I passed A School, went to my first sea going command back then, it was The USS Dahlgren DDG-43. I would serve on Dahlgren, then shore duty,then the USS Monoghelia AO-178, and in the end, a very short time aboard the USS Pounce LPD 15. Each ship I served on, was different because each ship takes on the personality of it’s Captain and it’s officers, not the crew so to say. We follow orders in the US Services no matter what branch we are in. As a Engineer, a Boiler Technichan in the Navy we were always the first onboard for deployments and the last to go home after them. Our duty was the engineering plants that kept the ships we served on going and ready at all cost. We did so well, on those I served on, for the times I was on them. No we weren’t perfect, yes we made mistakes all people do, but in the end, we did what Uncle Sam asked us to do, Protect and Defend the UNited States of America and our interests around the world. I am proud of it, and anyone who says they don’t think it is a great thing, can go to hell. Without those Service Members in serve in all our branches, there would be no United States today. The saddest part of today’s world is the dismantling, the rearranging, the changes in the U.S. and it’s military today. When I served there was no such thing asa Stress Card, what the hell is the shit in Boot Camp. You either make or break in Boot Camp kids, you don’t stay if you can’t make it they put you out. Why would anyone invent a Stress Card for recruits in Boot Camp is beyond me.

Anyway, as time went for me, I did leave the Navy and I accummilated 16 years of Service time in my life. I also got injuried and became a Disabled Veteran while in and on active duty, doing my job. Today, the Veteran’s Administration is my place for help as needed, and support for all I do in my life. I am very Proud and wear my Navy Hats everywhere I go. The U.S. Military is needed folks by our country and those who do serve are proud to do so, I say. Although there are like any other place in the world, bad parts and people in it. Ultimately, they get sorted out and end up discharged for one reason or another in the end. It is all a part of military service, you tow the lines laid out, or you get out. The smart ones who do not like the military and who signed up volunteerily know in the end they must complete their contract, under Honorable Circumstances ro lose all benefits they could earn or should have earned. That is life folks in the military as we say, one has to earn a Honorable Discharge period.

That said, I have mine from three Branches, US Army, US Army National Guard and the US Navy. Thats three folks, and that wans’t easy to do. The story of how that happened is one, no one will ever truly know except me. I will just say, I never surrendered, until I had no choice, I wanted to make 20 years, but came up short, due to six herniated discs in my spine, after a fall down a Navy Ship Ladder of 25 steel rungs. I live in pain daily, and sometimes can’t sleep, and sometimes can’t walk much, but I push on, I am now going on 70 in another 11 months. One thing I can say, I saw the world folks, the Navy does that for you, as well as feeds you well cares for your health, and shows it all to you.

I did Europe many times, from England to France To Spain, To Italy and more including Germany. I went to The North Atlantic and Amsterdam, I went to South America and every country around it. I spent time in The Virgin Islands too. I learned something about people in general, no matter where they come from, no matter color, race, religion, beliefs, all want respected, all want loved and all can be welcoming to Americans. At least that is my experience around the world. We laughed, we cried, we met many different cultures, nationalities and personalities too. We listened to our orders even on shore and liberty too. We represented the United States of America and did so with pride. We held out heads high, we did what Uncle Sam said and made America a nation all loved and all Americans are proud of.

We did skip the Draft, we didn’t cry over bone spurs in our feet. Today we have an American President who dodged serving his country. Who wants to tear down America, for what, his own anger over losing an election? He lost in 2020 folks, there is not doubt, he should not be able to go on a four year Presidency just to get retribution and revenge against those in The Justic and Political System of America, who found his flaws, his errors and that he attacked. He tore up Washington, DC, Because he refused to admit his defeat to Joe Biden, yet here he is back in Office, tearing up our Government now, why? The saddest day in my history is the day DOnald J. trump began his second term as President of the United States and it should be for all Americans. Yet, we have the MAGA Followers of his who managed to Vote him in and now blindly follow him in all ways. There is no more Republican Party folks, Lincoln’s Party has died. They have no self-pride, no wisdom, no steadfastness, and no honor these days. These receed and run, and give Trump and his cronies, the right to do all they wish. The Republican Party should disband actually and just raise the white flag as a band of cowards, and never return. What happened to the Conservatives who had the balls and honor to protect the United States Constitution and our Bill of Rights? Where have the real Republican Conservatives gone?

We all know The United States is in Debt to the world for many reasons, but, should we be dismantling the Education Department, Should we be allowing Elon Musk a non-elected individual, into our personal data and records? Who the hell is Elon Musk really folks, where did he come from and just because he is the richest man on the planet he knows it all? Bullshit ! And why is Elon Musk making finanacial decisions for Americans? If you ask me Elon Musk is the unofficial President of the United States and the World knows it. Donald J. Trump may wear the Presidency Title, but he sure as hell, is not making the decisions, Musk is, why is that?

Let me say this, JOe Biden may have lost it in office, buy you will lose it some too if you live to your 80’s. But then Trump is reelected, and he was 78 coming in folks this time. He mumbles, he sits by as Elon Musk tells him what to do and he does it. But, the end of his term Trump will be a blathering idiot, and controlled by Musk in all ways and the americans who voted for him will pay the price like all will. Let me ask you this folks, what would the Founding Fathers of our Country have done about and with Donald J. Trump? I know what they would have done at the minumum, Tarred and Feathers his ass and hung him on a post and ran him out of town and country. He destroyed the Capital on Jan. 6th, he sent thos epeople in and all know it. Now I ask you who paid for the repair of our Capital after that attack on January 6th, we did folks, we the taxpayers. Trump didn’t put out a penny to repair or replaced what he destroyed. He got away with it.

Trump is a bought and sold President, period, He was bought by Elon Musk and Putin! Sadly, Americans are blind to that fact or won’t admit it. Time will show what I am saying is true, as Trump sits behind the Resolute desk and looks the part and Musk pulls all the strings and sells us out to Putin and Russia. I shit you not folks, it is happening before your very eyes and if you don’t see it, well your not educated enough, or youra cultist and MAGA Follower who is brainwashed. Sadly, America is not getting stronger in the world we are heading backwards, but, many will say I am full of it. I am not, but, The MAGA Crowd has the bullhorns and the press now and they have scared the hell out of Congress and the Democrats, and are allowed to do as they want. Unless America, reacts stronger, with more force, more protests, more anger, in some way, america is done in the World folks and asa nation. We are now, following blindly, much like the germans fell for Hitler and his tactics. Will America be able to recover from Trump and his MAGA Followers, and if not, where do we end up folks, in an autocratic country, with no say, and torn asunder, and ripped off for all the financial information and money we put in to our country. we are being dismantled folks, by Trump and Musk and their followers, wake up! They are laughing all the wayto the bank, and lying out theirt asses to you the american people, do you like being shit on now? Do you like all that is being dismantled and destroyed now? If we the american People do not wake up, stand up and begin to fightback, we are done as a nation folks, the Great American Dream will die! Like all the great Empires before us, we shall disappear also. Ask the aztecs, The Peruvians, The American Indians,The Incas, and yes the Germans and even the Japanese, all fell, because they blindly followed and did not question or work hard enough to fight back. So, it seems, it will go for America, and our American Dreams.

Hello Valentines Day, I wish all who have someone to share it with a great Valentines Day and evening. May you enjoy the relationship you are in and find a greater connection to the person you are with.

That said and done, I wonder why the dating scene in America and specifically Massachuetts is in the shape it is in. I know many won’t even date, at this time and most of it is a matter of trust, being taken for money, or attitudes that come from anger against the opposite gender these days. I find a lot of anger in the people of Massachuetts, and many fears among them also. They are angry over being taken for money, or because they were cheated on, and that leads to trust issues as I see it. I have also run into people who are naricists here. Why, there are so many of them I still have no idea. Yet there they are, using others for their money, or using someone as a Trophy man or woman on their arm. Average looks get you overlooked also it seems, people want prince charming or a princess look. Sadly, folks the majority of people who are single are so, for many reasons. maybe the biggest reason is trust issues in many areas as I see it. Some believe they will get cheated on, some believe they will get taken for money, some are scared of trying anymore over both of those issues. I think if you believe your going to find perfection in someone you date, you will fail,, each and every single person has some faults for sure. Some are Divorcees, some widowers, widows, some have never been married and call themselves solos.

I have run into all the above, in Westborough here, and Massachuetts in general and I believe it is the same in all states in the country and areas too. Why is the question is it not? I mean why is it so bad a dating scene these days in America? I don’t have all the answers thats for sure, but I also have found it is in all age groups. From young adults at 21 to old people in their 70’s who are single, it seems, they are staying single and alone for all of the above reasons i mentioned. I gather that, most people understand in today’s America, the problems and they have no idea how to overcome it at all.

I believe that since Americans and the people in Massachuetts are so scared, it will not change anytime soon. You can’t change it, unless you allow yourself to takea chance out there. Men have stopped asking women out these days. The Men tend to avoid asking or approaching women, in today’s America, especially here in Massachuetts it seems. again it is a matter of fear of being taken for money or belongings, being used to make another jealous or because we can’t trust the women we meet. Approaching a woman in my area where I live is scarey to me. I have seen many nice looking women, yet I do not go, want to date or go out to them, Men also have fears of rejection, just like women do too. I think many women don’t realize that at all. I have experienced things like staring, in both directions, and no one moves. I have also even had discussions or chatted to women while shopping in malls or grocery stores. But, I do not cross the line to ask them out or even if they are single or not. In today’s America it is dangerous to do so, for you know not how they may react. I know it sounds weird to many, but the facts are the facts today. This is why men don’t approach women and women do not normally approach men, either. They shy away from doing so, just as badly as us men do. The real question is how does one overcome and approach anyone anymore? Maybe it’s me, but, I see this happening daily and I find it amusing and in the end sad.

Dating sites don’t really work either for everyone out there. Why, because both sexes like to use false pictures or photos, or make profiles that are fake also. Many do it, and is it an insecurity or a fear in all, or a way to try to overcome some fears. I don’t know i just find it amazing and crazy. Years ago, a friend of mine was desperate to get a girlfriend. I walked into his home back then, to find him writing numerous letters to numerous women out of magazines and ads he had gathered. I stared in amazement at what he was doing and of course asked him why. I told him to stop it, he was wasting money, in stamps, letters, envelopes and more. None of those women would answer him I told him.

So he asked me what he should do. I told him I think the best advice I could give him at the time. Stop writing letters, and start being you. I told him to go to work as normal. and to do what he liked to do and just be himself. Stop trying to force anything, it would never happen if he continued that way.

In the end, what happend is he listened to me. He went to work, talked to everyone he could, was himself each day and did what he liked best. One day he went to work and he had a job to do for a woman. as he did the job, the woman watched him and started talking to him as he completed the job. By the end of the job, she asked him out. Well, that led to his now being married for over 30 years, to that same woman. It worked back then, but today, it may not work. People today have too many problems, some have mental problems, some emotional problems some have fears of many things and trust issues. It is not the same world anymore. I met my wife I had for 28 years at a Singles Dance, all I did was ask her to dance with me. That led to 28 years of marriage, and happiness for us both. So, we don’t have single’s dances anymore, we don’t have roller skating rinks anymore either. So what is available to meet people you might to want to date. Some do bars/ Taverns and Clubs, thats ok if your a drinker and have the money, yet there is no guarantee is there? I am older myself, I don’t drink and think it is a way to waste money in today’s world. and the way the economy is going these days, it is foolish to waste money as we all know.

Well as you can see, what I am talking about here, is the Dating Scene in this day and age. Now you may think, I am just complaining and moaning and groaning and I am wrong. let me point out to you, I am not alone in these opinions or thoughts. It has even been put out and talked about on national tv and news stations and channels and programs. It is called the Loneliness Syndrome in America and it is real folks. The only question that remains is how do Americans overcome it, and can it be overcome?

Living in Westborough, Mass. is like living in a town I grew up in in Connecticut on many points. It is filled with banks or all kinds of course, churches are everywhere you look, and in the end so are bar/ taverns. It holds numerous retail stores and resturants too. What it is missing is places to actually do things with other people, to mingle and get to know one another. Hard to believe but this is not the first such town I have run into that is this way.

We don’t havea bar/tavern that has karyoke in it here, we don’t havea roller skating rink or even a movie theather it seems. Plenty of Parks are around if you like outdoor walking at least. So, I always wonder what do people really do in Wetsborough, beside working and shopping? I know I am not into exercise clubs or gyms, not at 69 years old, lol. I have tried Taverns and bars here, ranging from Red Heat, to Cold Harbor to Central House and JP’s. What is there really besides drinking and eating in Westborough, that you can meet someone your own age group, chat, have fun, laugh and maybe find someone to be with? Can anyone tell me?

I have heard the suggestions of volunteer work, but even that can be boring. The Senior Center here in Westborough, is slow and usually pretty empty to be honest, about it. So, I branches out to Northboro’s Senior Center which is newer and looked there too. While I can say, I do not dislike Westborough, Mass. I do wonder why it builds so many 55 plus communities and condos, but doesn’t do anything for the Seniors more than just a Senior Center? I don’t have the answer for that myself, as to what it could be. It just seems to me, that if you are going to attract seniors to live here, you should think about those of us seniors, who are single, divorced, or widowed also. Just a suggestion, Westborough is all.

I get bored easily I guess, and I am very creative these days it seems. As we age we tend to be set in our ways and we cary on like there is no other way to be. I admire other seniors who find a wya to do things and keep themselves busy, I just haven’t found a way to do that myself.

I write poetry, I write short stories and i do these blogs. I have ventured to Town Hall Meetings an dlistened to what the town is preparing as far as a new Community Center goes. While i like the idea of sucha community Center being built in town, I think a mistake was made in the buying of the building they paid for. The building should have been better inspected, and now needs additional funding for repairs. Secondly, I find it not very well thought out on the basis of the facts of trying to put Seniors, Veterans and Youth in it at one time. While the seniors would like their privacy and peace and quiet, the youth would not want that. The Veterans are another subject in and of themselves. To place youth in a building near Veterans, who may or may not be suffering from PTSD is definitely not a good idea. I remind some, a Veteran with PTSD can be set off, by a noise, a sound, a word, almost anything that triggers them. So, I do not recommend placing them in a building with youth. While a Senior Citizen may be able to avoid such a conflict, because they tend to understand it better, a youth wil not. So, if I was on one of the committees for the town involved in the Community Center Project I would rethink this, for safety of the youth, as well as to prevent confrontations and problems with the Veterans. Just a suggestion folks, you may agree or disagree, but I think it should be a consideration here.

On Route 9, going down, is a old Movie Theater Building empty now for a long time. If i were the town, I would go through the tax records and try to find who is paying the taxes on it and attempt to purchase it. If the town did that, they could turn that into a Youth Center her in westborough and be putting the youth in an eviroment of their own. I think that would be a good solution to the above problem with the new Community Center. Just an idea folks.

OK, whats the next subject for me, I do not know yet. What I have been trying to do is examine my life as it is today here in Westborough, Mass. the town, the enviroment, the atmosphere, and the people. While the People seem friendly enough and will talk to you if you ask questions, there is still a bit of an air of something about it all. People rush to and fro it seems always in a hurry to come and go. The Library in town needs work and rebuilding as we all know, and yes i have been there too. So whats, the best thing about Westborough, Mass. os my question. Is it the Churches? Is it the Bars/Taverns. The Retail stores and Resturants? Please, tell me, for i know asa senior member of the town now, I am still looking for it, and how to be better intergrated into it.

I do know that the State of Massachuetts overall, has a problem that leads people to call them Massaholes. Now some laugh when I say that and others know of it’s existence. What it really is I have yet to figure out. Yet, it seems, it is definitely a personality thing or an attitude thing here in this state. You either put up with it, or you walk away from it and ignore it, that is the two possiblilties in my mind over it. For I don’t think I shall ever understand it, thats for sure. I also have noticed there is a lot of anger in some people in Massachuetts that I have not seen in other states i have lived in. Why, I have no idea, I wish I knew so I could understand the sudden change of temperment in some people, I have run across. But, life goes on and as a Senior CItizen myself, I know better then to sit there and argue over anything with someone i just met. LOL

Anyway, I think I have asked enough questions, that I can not find answers for in this blog. If there is ever a way to answer these, I hope i can do so in a peaceful manner. Until I do, I shall keep wondering is what I say.

55 plus living communities, are great indeed for you are among people your age group, yet they also have their in and outs and problems too. What many do not get is the finances required to live in such a community, the maintenance needed to stay in one and the interactions with the other residents that can happen or not happen.

First lets discuss, the cost of living in 55 plus condos in a community. You have to pay your mortagage like owning a home, what that is, depends on what you put down and the rate of the loan you get, Second automatically you are hit with HOA fees, which will grow as the complex grows of course. Then you have your utilities and amenities of course on top. You need to track your bills and budget just like living anywhere else. It’s a matter of income vs output, really.

Then you have to be able to adjust to living close to other people, without becoming involved in their personal lives. It is fine to be polite, friendly, but be careful how far over the line you cross. We who live in such complexes are set in our ways, whether we are solos, divorcees, or widowers or widows. We do things the way we have always done, most of our lives, by force of habit. Plus you have to be able to adapt to other people, and be acceptable of the differences between you. You may not like a neighbor, but, you have to deal with them politely and without getting anyone angry at you.

I also noticed somethings in the community I am in myself here. The male to female ratio favors the female population. So, if your a single male in such a complex, you are a commodity that is hard to find within it. if your 55 plus community is like mine, the percentage of single women to single men is like 65 percent or better female. So, as a single man, one must not get involved with the single women in a romantic way, for if you do and make a mistake, well you get the idea. While I love women of all kinds, I also know, that women gossip, they talk among themselves and you make one mistake in any relationship that may start. you can end up an outcast and isolated from the community. which in the end can force you into a position of moving, unless you love isolation, and ignore all. Even if you do over time, you will feel not wanted, and probally move or sell the condo you purchased. while one as a single male must guard against this, you also come to realize it quickly, if not immedicately if you have a awareness of your surroundings. So, what does one do if you are in such a complex and situation, to survive?

Personally, I took the approach of not dating anyone in my community. I based it on the fact that, women gossip, they talk and they communicate their relationships more freely than men. They discuss their male friends, openly, among themselves, and if you as a single male say or do something wrong and it ends a relationship your in, it will spread among the community quickly. so, what does one do, if your still an eliable single male looking for companionship and a relationship? You end up doing online dating apps, or going to bars and taverns. Hoping to find one female who will fit your desires and needs and is friendly enough to get into a relationship with. I don’t drink so for me bars are out, never did believe in blowing my money in a bar or tavern and getting drunk. That leaves churches, and for me, I am non religious and not interested.

So if your like me, that leaves dating apps on the internet and better then half of the women on them use false pics, fake profiles. So to sit and pay a dating service online , can be a total waste of money and time on my part. You can’t find a match on these dating sites, because they will say anything they wish and they lie. So, in the end, your better off, staying to yopurself, protecting your heart and wallet if your a single male. Now, I know many women will say, oh I don’t know what I am talking about, or I didn’t give the apps a fair chance and not all are the same. I tried several apps, and found that the few women I dated, thru them, were not what they said they were on their profiles. I am not saying all were liars, but, each had some problems with men they were trying to overcome, trust issues, honesty issues, or they were seeking men to pay their ways in the world.

At one time in America, it was easier to find people to date on both sides of the gender gap. we used to go out, do things in public places, like bowling, roller skating, singles dances, etc. Today those have disappeared basically, and all is now online. Why, I shall never understand, what I have always believed and shall always believe if that if you are yourself, natural, have fun in life and what you do, the chance of you finding someone increases. Be you, folks, do what you love, live, laugh and enjoy each day. I always have believed, if you do that, people notice you, they talk to you, and you stand a chance of finding a relationship, a companion, a friend or a lover. If your a phoney person and fake, or a narsicist you lose out. Anyway I, divert from the 55 community factor somewhat, but the basic idea still is here. If your in the 55 plus age group and in a community like mine, you learn quickly to walk quietly, carefully and avoid the mistakes I have listed above. I have seen some cross the boundries of what I have outlined above and survive, but they are few and rare for sure. Some want to know why single men who are 55 and up do not approach women in the same age group, well here it is folks. we are just as scared of getting taken for money, or being used and abused as the women are too. In the end because of the way today’s society handles being a 55 plus person, and being single, we guard and protect ourselves in all ways too. We may be males, but we too are smart enough to say no, or to walk away, or not accept if we get abused, feel used, or taken for what we have. so, it goes both ways, doesn’t it? You Tell me!

My real question is this, what does a senior citizen whether male or female do to find a companion, or a relationship in today’s world and society? While we live longer in this day and age, we also, get divorced, or never married, or we end up widowers or widows, in the natural course of life. So, what to do, once you reach the over 55 age group or better? Or are we all destined to be alone. till we die?

Legacies, are different for many people when they pass. Some leave behind just their children and say they are their legacy. Others money and donations may be their legacy. So legacies vary for different people and what they wish to be remembered for once they pass away.

Personally, I hadn’t thought of any type of legacy, as I grew up or grew older. I kinda figured my childfen were my legacy and i had two daughter, so the grandkids would be too. But if we are normal people in anormal world our families are always a part of our legacies, but not all of it. We do other things in life we would like to be remembered for, at least I know a lot who do.

Legacies are built on different things and different reputations too. Some get remembered for the money they leave behind, some for the interaction and helping of others. Then there are the musicians, actors and entertainers. What of the average man and women, what legacies can we leave behind, beside sour offspring and family?

Some leave behind a legacy of kindness, of helping other and being there when needed. some leave behind what they did for aliving and did well, so others can learn from it. It is all a matter of what we think, is important to us, to be remembered by all, is it not?

In my case i determined when I was young I was moving too fast to think of a legacy to leave behind when I passed. Then as I aged some, I started writting, little stories and books first, doing 51 of them. Then I branched off and started doing poetry of a romantic nature and of other items, but poems. Poetry expresses many moods, attitudes, actions and more in a way, to make others understand it well. Poetry comes from within a person and expresses the things that are important to the person writing it, usually. So, when someone says to me, like I was asked I always say, my legacy is my daighters and their kids yes, but it is also, my writtings I produced. I went on to doing numerous blogs also, on life, liberty, politics and more. They shall live well beyond me I am sure.

That is my answer when people ask what I am leaving behind, it’s not money, it’s not material items, it is ideas, thoughts, stories , poems and blogs. It is my way of giving peole a feel to what is in the world and is happening, how it is happening, why it is happening and in the end the emotions of my life in my poems. I never forget that, I also would like to be remembered asa decent person, who laughed, joked, cried and gave back to those I could. If I am remembered as a pleasant person, then my legacy will be set in stone. The concrete to it is how one treats others, always remember that folks.

Legacies, we see through out history and stories we hear daily as we cross at time sto hearing and reading poetry. Blogs become a statement on the times and conditions we live in and for me, my feelings about what is happening. One day some will look back, and read what I wrote I hope and understand it was a product of the times i lived in. The wording was not always 100 percent correct or the grammer, but the thoughts are pure and true for the times I live in. Thats what a legacy really is folks, it’s what you accomplished, how you did so, and what was worth being left behind by eahc of us. We get remembered for what we produce, we get remembered for how we treat others, and as history has shown us all, we get remembered for the good or the bad we achieved in our lifetimes. As, i told someone, when you go toa Gravesite to visit someone you cared for and lost, you don’t stop to think they were bad or an asshole, you stop to think of whether they did good, treated people well, and the fond memories they set for others to see and follow. Legacies can be powerful and some can be weak, but, in the end, they are what makes you in others memories, fond. Never forget, at some point, in your life, you are aaffecting what people will say about you, once you are gone. What you want for alegacy, no matter who you be, is for you to be remembered honestly, and fondly, and i think that should be, what is important to you or to me. Leave a Legacy of hope, happiness, joy, words that you said about the world or each girl or boy. Leave a Legacy folks, that you will be remembered for, that affects others and akes then think well of you. Thats what Legacies are all about folks, and in the end long after we are gone, those memories can live on.

Feb. 10th, 2025, and cold is still here, of course in Massachuetts, and it is early am a lilttle after 6:30 am. The coldness outside, causes havick with my back, which has been injuried now since 1982. I was injuried in a fall aboard a Navy ship back then. So I have suffered and still suffer today from the discs I herniated then. I go on using muscle relaxers, traction, back braces and taking it as easy as I can daily. For no matter what I am alive and still kicking, after turning 69 in January.

I try to keep a positive outlook on life for myself and anyone around me. Going in the opposite direction does not help at all. I use my braces, hot water soaks and muscle relaxers, I lay down as needed and sit when needed. Yet, I refuse to give up, even if the pain gets me at times. I have learned, you can try to handle the pain, manage it the best you can, and keep going, or, you can surrender to it, give up and end up, shutting down for the rest of one’s life. I will handle it and manage it as I have always done since 1982, for complaining, crying and not doing what I can, does not help in any way. It only makes the matter worse. As long as I can continue to walk, and engage with people I shall. Isolation and Loneliness will only kill, it never helps folks, always remember, human beings are indeed made to be social animals.

Ok Next, The Super Bowl is done for 2025, and The Eagles have won and stopped the Cheifs in their quest for three in a row. The game was not as competitive as people thought it would be. The Eagles defense handled Mahomes and that Chief;s Offense in every way. The score may have said 40-to 22 Eagles, but, the game was no where that close even. The Eagles defense manhandled the Chiefs Offense and then the Chiefs defense had no idea how to stop Jalen Hurts, and that Eagles Offense. It was interesting, but, entertaining too. I watched it with others from the community I livein here in Westborough Mass, and as we did we laughed, we cheered the Eagles on, and some were surprised by how it turned out I wasn’t. The Eagles had scored 55 point’s in the NFC Championship Game and they were on a roll, coming into the Super Bowl. I give it to the Cheif, that they made the Super Bowl three times in a row, but, they are not the same caliber as The Patriots were in their heyday and prime.

Now, onward folks, lets see what comes next for all of us in America. As Trump and his Administration try to tear down what America is and has been, remake it in his image, what do we do next and what will he try next. The last line of defense for the American People is goingto be the Justice Department and the Judges. Sadly, they themselves only have so much power and ability to slow him and his maga crew down. The real question is how far, will Congress and the American people let Trump and his Maga cult go? Will Americans wake up in time to save our Republic and democracy, or will wil slip slowly into an anarchy and communist ways. For that is where we are headed today folks. We are being withdrawn from the world stage, not helping others anymore, our personal information is being raided by Musk and his DOGE team. On top of all of that we find Social Security, Medicare, Medicaid under attack, and The Education Department too. We have a President who wants to take over Greenland and annex Canada and tariff the world to hell. He can’t stop food and gas prices from rising and he knows it. His tariff’s will only cost americans more in taxes each year they are in effect. And America continues to tumble and fall from prominance and from world view. We are now headed toward becoming a third world nation, isilated, alone and unable to recover what we once were, before Trump. It’s a sad, sad thing to see, for thos like me, who served our country and gave our all to keep it free. What wil become of America over the next four years, how many countries will walk away from us, and how many countries will we walk away from too. All because one man didn’t like the fact he lost the 2020 election, we have a Capital that was destroyed and a path of destruction, he set upon us all, in his revenge and retribution mode. It’s a sad thing to see, that so many voted him in and now, they refuse to admit they were wrong as he dismantles all he can, and the nation slowly starts to pour down the drain, becoming a shell of what was once it’s greatness.

I love my country believe me, but, the fact that the American People voted Trump back in as President, the fact that Congress can’t stop him from all he is doing, reflects totally on the fact american are gullable, foolish and blinded by his MAGA cult movement. The real question is how far will the American People let Trump, and Musk go? No one elected Elon Musk to any office period, yet here he is, attaining and reaching for your personal information and data. Musk is not even a born American citizen, yet he has more power at this point in time, than anyone thought someone would. Musk needs to be stopped. Also the fact that between Trump and Musk are cutting Federal employees and cutting their jobs is unbelieveable. This will really help our economy right? Put thousand out of work and on the unemployment lines and make then search for jobs to survive. The eonomy will not get better worse, Trump has no idea how to slow it’s rapid growth and cost to you. He made numerous promises to the American People and people bought it and now, we shall all suffer for those who were gullable enough and foolish enough to vote him in. At some point even the MAGA followers and cult followers will wake up and figire out what they did wrong and try to correct it I am sure, but by the time they do, America, it’s Democracy and Republic, will fade slowly from the world. As we do, I pray, that at some point the Congress and we the People will wake up and fight back.

God Bless America folks, and I hope our people too, as we tumble down the ladder of societies in the world. All great empires of the past have fallen, and it is looking like America is next. Sadly, The Aztecs, Incas,American Indians, The Germans, the dynsasties and Empires like Japaneese, Italians all failed, and America will fall too. Donald J. trump cares not about you or I, he cares about his own pocket, his rich cronies. As they get richer the average citizen in America will pay more. I hope and pray at sometime, the American People iwll wake up and realize the mistake they made in Electing Trump back in office. It is not Trump running anything, or doing what he promised, it is Elon Musk controlling Trump. Musk is not a born American Citizen, he has no business controlling acess to your personal data, or information, yet there he is. Wake up America! It’s time to wake up and fight back, or go down like all the other Empires that have been lost in time.

I do my blogs when the mood hits me to write and if I think I have something that is worth the effort to say. Now not everyone will agree with all I say, my opinions and thoughts and ideas are my own of course, and we can all agree to disagree if you don’t like them. I was raised in Connecticut, and there I learned many lessons in life, I wouldn’t have otherwise. I learned that respect is given to those who give it to others, manners you are taught as a child apply still once you are an adult. relationships are not just based on meeting someone, it is how the meetings go, how you see eye to eye with someone else and how you interact with people in general. I say this because, many think, when they meet someone at first that first impressions are everything. In fact the truth is, sometimes a first impression can be misleading and you may misjudge someone and find out later, they didn’t do a damn thing wrong to you or anyone else. Impressions are first looks at humans you don’t know, normally from a distance away, and the longer you know someone, the sooner you get over the first impression and find, they are nothing like what you thought they were. In life, people, of both genders, hide emotions, they hide thoughts, ideas and reactions, why, because they feel you have no reason to know how they feel. It’s private to them, and they keep it bottled up inside. The reasoning is simple, to protect themselves and those they love. We all do it, it’s a fact of human nature is it not? I think it is.

I was talking to someone, I really didn’t think I liked one day, and found out, first they weren’t as bad as I thought they were, secondly, their sense of humor was different than I have known, and thirdly, once they were relaxed, I perceived them differently and in a different light. No it doesn’t happen with everyone you meet, but, each person is an individual with reasons of their own for how they react to others and situations, they encounter. And learning that, either at a young age for most of us and for a few others later in age stages, maybe the bets thing for all of us. The human body hides pain well, and we as humans, do not always want to let others know we are hurting in any way. we hide mental anguish, mental illness, physical illnesses and injuries too. Why, because one we consider it all personal of course. It’s just the way we do things, we do not want to impose or burden or bother anyone with our problems or conditions. Why would we, unless they are family or friends you have known for many years of your life. We reach for help when we need it of course and some of us, are alone in life, we have lost a mate, a husband or wife, or a mother or father or sibling, and we hide the pain from others. It is part of our nature as individuals in how we do so, and we do so to protect ourselves or those we love dearly.

Years ago, in my younger days, I would defend and protect many in different ways. Friends or those I considered friends, family members as needed. When I grew up, I joined the Military and when I did, I realized I did it for a few reasons. The first was to grow up and mature myself, the second was to Represent and defend my country, and the third was to protect and defend my family and friends I loved deeply. I didn’t want anyone, hurting those I cared for. Now, it worked for me, because it taught me that being selfish or foolish was not the way to go in life and that the world is bigger, than just the space around me.

I have seen adults who think that attacking other sis a way to go, or making fun of others is the thing to do. I have run into bullies and seen introverts and extroverts also. I have sat with, stood with and seen comics, and singers, songwriters and poets, I have fought side by side with all colors, race as and nationalities also. when one does you learn, that 1) All of us no matter what color, nationality, race, or creed, are the same. 2) We all laugh, we all cry, we all hope and we all sigh. 3) We have things in common that define us as human beings. 4) Never forget when we lose someone we loved or cared for, we all grieve the same. Some may be more intense in the amount or way of grieving, but, we all go through it folks. We handled it differently based on who we are as individuals, what we were taught and the emotions we let flow. Some of us let it out, some of us hold it in, but in the end we all deal with it, in our own way. And that in and of itself, should point out to all, we are not so different from one another, are we?

No man or woman is perfect, no child does something without being taught how to first. as we grow and age we learn by doing and by the guidance of the adults in our lives. If you are not taught right from wrong, you have no moral compass then, If you are selfish all the time, then you lack the abilities needed to get by in life. If no one teaches you morals and ethics or manners, than you will fail in society in general. Some need to learn to say Please, Thank You, I’m sorry, Forgive me, and express emotions better. But, you can’t force anyone, so you learn to live with what they do, and accept it as it is. We are not all at the same level, emotionally, mentally or even physically, but we do strive to fit into the society in which we live. That is how life works for most and we accept and carry on.

In the end let me say this, so all can understand it clearly. I may not always agree with you or you with me. I may have a different vision, in my mind , than you. I may have been taught differently, or learned some things the hard way. But, we all live, we all cry, we laugh, and we all die. The real question is not how, but why? And always remember, when you pass from this plane, onto the next, you will be remembered for how you interacted with those around you. Were you helpful, were you kind, were you pleasant most of the time? The legacy you leave behind if not materials, it’s spirit, it’s emotional, it’s interactions, that’s what people get remembered for. So, I always have said, God put mankind on this earth for a reason. we are each of us here on a separate mission we must complete, before we depart. We know not what that mission is, or when we actually accomplish it, but, when we do we depart. We return to from whence we came, for we have completed helping who we were supposed to. That is what life is about folks, believe it or not. If you don’t believe me, that’s fine, but, the proof is when you are standing next to a grave marker, a casket, an urn, and you listen to the words of those remembering those who have departed. For they always talk of the good deeds not the bad, don’t they, those are what we get remembered for.

Hello America, how are ya? As we struggle through each day under the current Administration of Donald J. Trump, we are beginning to see just what his backers the MAGA crowd, put back in office. He is dismantling what it has taken hundreds of years to put together in no time at all. He is breaking down our medical, educational and financial institutions and allowing a person, who is not even born America into our private data. Musk has no business in our social security, Medicaid, Medicare files, he has no business, forcing Departments and Agencies to shut down. No one voted Elon Musk President, yet here we have Trump a 78 year old President, giving free reign to a Billionaire, who paid to get him onto office. It’s amazing how money, controls everything isn’t it folks. Trump is more unfit at 78 years old them Biden was at 82. It’s a sad day in American History. Trump’s picks for the most important offices and positions in the American Government are the most unqualified people ever sworn into office. Yet here we sit, as Trump pulls us out of international organizations, and opens us up to attacks from so many angles and countries, that America will never be the same again, as a country, or on the world stage.

As Trump does as he pleases, the Congress, stands by and just gives him and his people whatever they want and is not defending us as the citizens who put them in office. They are kowtowing and bending over and taking it in everyway possible, and that is just horrible and sad. We are about to have our personal data breached, our benefits taken away and so many people put on the unemployment line by Trump and Musk, that, the unemployment rate will jump a few more percentage points. Where do these people who are losing their jobs go to get new jobs to support themselves and their families next, in an American economy that doesn’t have the new jobs for them to go to? You tell me America, please. trump has no solution at all for that, and we all know it. Americans are about to be put out of jobs they earned and worked for many years, all so Musk and Trump can play with our personal data and money, and rearrange things better for the rich. Sad, indeed.

I know, I was not elected to any office, and I am not approving of what the Trump Administration is doing in anyway. He is messing with people’s life’s their benefits they earned and not caring about where they go next, or how they survive. Never in American History has there ever been an American President who pursued revenge and retribution in the Presidency, yet here we have it for the whole world to see. Then, he wants to take over Gaza, misplace the Palestinian People, and force them out and make it a Rivera? The last person who tried to displace people from the lands they were born in and loved was Adolf Hitler, the most evil man in world history and the man who almost destroyed the world, for his thousand year Reich. And to see, the Israel Prime Minister standing next to Trump, oking, and asking for it is a sad day in American and world history too. For it was the Israel people who Hitler tried to eradicate and get rid of, now it is their Prime Minister backing a plan to do the same to the Palestinian people today! How the world Turns is not a soap bopper folks, it’s real it seems, as it comes, now instead of the Israel People being moved it will be their enemies? I know what was done to the Israel people was wrong and they have suffered and overcome so much, I agree, but they have no right anymore than Trump or America to eradicate and remove a who human population from their homes, and the place they call home.

That said, There isn’t much I can do about it, for I am not an elected official in any government. Congress here in America needs to grow a set of balls and act to stop this madness now. Stop Elon Musk who was not even born here in America and all his access to our personal data and finances. Stop Trump’s madness to kill the education Department, USAID and more. Look I know we are in a deficit in this country, yet, this is not the way to become financially solvent or to run a nation. trump’s decrees and executive orders need to be better looked at and stopped. he is dismantling what the Fore-Fathers of America, and The Constitution and Bills of Rights were made for and created for. I tell you this Americans, and I ask you now, What do you think Washington, Jefferson, Adams, Hamilton, Franklin and more, would have done with a man who ran an insurrection against his own government and people to stay in power and then lost that battle and came back again. The Fore-Fathers of America back in their days, would have snatched him up, jailed him, thrown away the keys and then tarred and feathered him and left him to die, attached to a post. I kid you not folks, Trump doesn’t belong in the Presidency he belongs in prison and he knows it. yet here he is, destroying all America has built and dismantling it and our nations reputation is gone as a great defender of Democracy and The Republic we have is now at stake.

I am a disabled veteran myself, I served my country for 16 years, in three branches. I defended this country to protect friends and family, from all foreign and domestic threats. i didn’t get drafted I volunteered and got injured doing the job I took on. Now I watch as an Unqualified Tv Host has become the Secretary of Defense, in Hegseth, and so many positions in our Government are being filled with unqualified people, who have no business being there. What is wrong with Congress, and how far are they going to allow this man to go? Congress as a citizen of America and a believer in our republic and democracy, I ask, when will you stop this madness, how much longer can you allow Trump to run rampant over everything in our country and get away with it. I know, this much if Congress does not step up soon, they will pay the price for not doing so. The next election cycle is coming fast, changes will happen once again. Enjoy your time now in Office Senators and Congress Men and women, for at the next election cycle you will be former officials in office. Americans will rise up and dump you to the streets where you belong, for you are not leaders, you are followers of a cult, MAGA is no more than a cult brought up by Trump and his people, just as the Nazi movement was by Hitler, it will destroy America from within, if you allow it to continue. End it now, get back control, stop this madness now. For the American Republic and Democracy are at stake. Stop Elon Musk, he should have no power period, he wasn’t elected to any office. Stop Trump’s insane ideas now, because if not, we shall end up another empire, like The Inca, Aztecs, American Indians, Romans, and yes, Nazi Germany, The Japanese , and Italians, destroyed from within and ended. America will end up another empire that destroyed itself from with in, because we followed another man who, started a new cult and we fell for it.

All I can say in ending this blog today is this, America is supposed to be the Land of The Free and the Home of the Brave, well, if we are then I suggest that the Free and The Brave, stand up now, stop Trump, Stop Elon Musk, and take back our country and protect our Constitution and our Bill of Rights, do it now, before we fail like all the other empires before us. For we shall end up in the ashes of history, and a poor nation of also rans soon.

Ok, Thursday Feb 6th, 2025 has begun for me at an early time, I woke at 4am. But, it is the first time in over many years my back is not killing me. I actually have less pain then I had before, the steroid shots I received and it seems the Doctor found the disc in question when he did two shots. The first he did was in the L-5 disc area and I barely felt anything except light pain and pressure for that one. The L-4 disc area was the one for sure for when he started I jumped more than on once and he had to re-numb the area with a higher dosage of pain meds, to get the steroid in. I survived the shots, and when I left, I was ok, they made sure I could walk without stumbling or falling, and because I drove myself in for the shots, I had to wait over an hour to be able to leave.

I have been living with my back pain and injury since 1982, while serving in the US Navy, after a fall aboard ship on duty. I was carted off the ship in a stretcher back then and my long journey of pain began. I fought the Navy, for seven years over the injury and pain problems and was finally Discharged in July of 1989, on a Honorable Under Medical Discharge. Ever since then, I have have gotten medical attention in all ways through the Veteran’s Administration and Disability Payments also. You can’t work if you have all I have, six herniated discs, three in my neck and three in my lower back, plus, PTSD. So, you learn to live with the pain, and keep complaining and asking for help until you get it. I know I did.

This was not the first time I received steroid injections for my disc injuries. but it is the first time since 1982, a Doctor hit the l-4 disc with steroids the way this one has. It has now only been a day, since the injections and procedure and the pain has lessened for me, and the Doctor said it would not take full effect for seven days. If that is the case I shall be much better I am sure. My next Doctor Appointment is in 5 weeks now. I am glad the Veteran’s administration authorized the procedure and I think it is going to help my condition going forward. Thanks to the Veteran’s Administration.

Next up is a slow easy relaxing time with my back and being able to do things I couldn’t do before. I am hoping I can get back to walking again in warmer weather, and doing some sports like pickleball and bowling again. One needs to keep physically and mental going at my age and the more I can go, the better off I shall be and the longer I can live hopefully. Never thought I would still be alive at 69, but here I am, I lived a life that led me to believe, I wasn’t going past 40, lol. Yet here I am, after two marriages, 16 years service, two daughters, and I survive my second wife passing from cancer as I had a lobe and a third of my right lung removed in 2013 for lung cancer myself. I am guessing that there is still a purpose for me here on this planet and the Good Lord, is waiting for me to complete what he put me here for.

As time goes on I wonder why I am here, for my belief has always been, all of us were born unto this world, for a mission, we have no idea what it is to complete. The Good Lord knows is all I can say, and any day, we can awake, open our eyes and get out of bed and move, is a good one. None of us really know what we are here for, we tend to go through the motions each day we live to our fullest, and hope to wake up the next morning after we sleep. We we are that lucky to do so, as many are, we are still in pursuit of whatever mission the Good Lord has deemed for us and we have not completed it as of yet. So forward is the only direction we can go, knowing that at some point it will all come to an end. But as long as I am here I shall help who I can, how I can, when I can, and try to live and laugh the best I can. That’s when life is the best for me.

I am not rich, I am not famous, I write, blogs like this on many subjects. I write in The Military, Politics, Health Issues, and more. I also write short stories of which I have done 51, and numerous poems also. It is now a part of me that I use to keep me going each day. I look for places to walk, to do things like playing pool, bowling if possible of course, pickleball if possible also. I read when I find a good book I may like, I build puzzles and hang on to life each day. I believe the Good Lord wants me here for a reason and I just haven’t completed that as of yet.

Life is not a game for fools folks, and as one Singer put it Only The Good Die Young, right. So, I do not ever claim to be perfect or above anyone else. I communicate well enough, I avoid anger, I avoid people who get nasty or upset, and in the end I talk to only those I like or get along with. And I believe that is what all of us should do in life, for no one will ever get along with everyone.

As we go further into 2025, I hope at some point to find female companionship again, if it is possible. I do not chase women, for I am no a predator, or stalker in anyway. Nor do i approach just any woman out there, even if I enjoy the females around me. I have set myself up as a widower, that just goes day by day, and hope is all. If I meet someone it is destiny, if I don’t I shall survive, for I have proven I can do so as a single person and a widower. I take care of myself, I pay my bills and I keep going forward the best I can. I know at 69, I am not the best man a woman is looking for, most want bigger men in physical proportions, or richer men than I. Most want better looking than I, for I am not Mr. Handsome or Mr. Personality either. I am an average man in many ways, I think. I try to treat all with respect who I meet, laugh with them, not at them and hope all the best. So, I doubt I will ever have another woman in my life again, because in today’s society in America, people don’t find companionship and romance, at my age. we get set in our ways, do what we know to survive and to avoid danger of being taken for money, and avoid emotional turmoil’s as we do. So you see, when someone reaches a certain age in life, the possibility of anyone of the opposite set even noticing you lessons. and since I have never pursued women, I don’t really know how to flirt, never learned in my lifetime, even though I was married twice, it will probably, be a slow, single life for me from now on.

Some have asked how is it possible, I was married twice, and never learned to really flirt? I don’t know what to answer that with except both of the women I married, came after me, after I met them. I didn’t pursue them they did me. In the end one divorced me, for her own reasons, and the second died from cancer leaving me behind in my 60’s here. The total time of marriages in my 69 year old life was 40 years. I had two daughters and two of everything really. I have six grandkids also out there, so I did something right, produced as a man should. When I stop to think about it, I was alone for many years in my teenage years. Then, till I married the first time at 24. Then 12 years late rit ended, it took me a good three years before I found my second wife, and we lasted 28 years together, till her passing from cancer. Now for over three years it’s just me again, lost in a world, with no one to hang with or be with. I will just go on hopefully, and see what happens next is all.

Hello America, It’s Feb. 5th, 2025, a whole 15 degrees outside this am here in Westborough, Ma. Seems, where I live here in Westborough, Ma., in a 55 plus community, there are very few men like me, I am a widower and it seems lots of single women here, but few of us single men. While that is nice at times, I am also very rare in the fact I don’t chase women. Now, don’t get me wrong folks, I love women in many ways, for many reasons, I just know better than to chase them, in such a community.

When you get older folks, like I am at 69, you know that in such a 55 plus community, if you get involved with anyone of the opposite sex or gender here, it can turn into one hell of a mess. I bought the condo I live in after my wife passed, thinking it is all I need for me, at 956 square feet, no more snow shoveling or yard work either. Then, I move din and have come to realize, while there are many and I many many widows or divorced or even solo women, living here too. They outnumber me by big numbers and I figured there has to be more single men around right? Well, we are indeed as I have been told a rare breed, here in this complex. So, what to do is the question. I told myself not to try to date any women here, on the grounds of big problems occurring if, the relationship doesn’t work out. Women talk, and as we all know in anger, women can be cruel or indifferent and they gossip and it spreads like fire in such a community. So I stay alone, I don’t approach, I don’t chase and I don’t ask out any of the ladies here. Which leads me to a lonely existence here in my community.

So, I tried online dating sites, like Match, Zoosk, Our Time and such and found that they take your money but, there is no guarantee you even get a date on them. If you do, it seems the women on them are still working trying to survive and have no real time for dating. It is hard to get a match through online dating sites, many fake profiles and fake pictures. Also, liars who, say they want one thing and do another and only want a man for his wallet. Momma didn’t raise any fool, so my wallet stays in my pocket unless I wish to use it, not to give away, what I have earned.

At 69, I am five foot 8, 190 lbs, brown eyes and short hair almost bald, with a goatee. I am not what I call a handsome man like Rock Hudson was, but I am not Mr. Ugly either. I like to laugh, I write poetry and short stories and blogs, like this one. I like to play billiards and bowl also. I like to walk when weather and temperatures allow, or I will walk the mall around the corner from me. In warmer weather, I like walking more, I like fishing, in good weather. I read a good amount of time, I like books, on History, politics, mysteries or biographies of famous people. Used to be I could find a way to spend a couple of hours in a Barnes and Noble Bookstore, these days ya can’t even find one near me. So, Every now and then I stop in the small book store in town and look around.

I am not a drinker really, I may have a beer or two for social reasons, like if I meet someone socially, or such. I never did like drinking and have a problem with those who over do at it. I don’t do drugs, unless it is for medical purposes, and yes, I can be 4/20 friendly. I do gummies only for pain in my back, and i have my Medical Cannabis card for that now. But, overall, I stay to myself, and try to just live day to day, it is in fact, a boring lifestyle for me. I get bored fast with being alone, but, I have been this way since my wife passed in 2021. I thought of looking for someone to date, but, finding someone who is compatible, fun, has a sense of adventure in them and a sense of humor is not easy in today’s world at my age of 69. Life it seems, is not so easy, retired and a widower, but I do my thing, and I get by, although, I date no woman, at this time and the few I have met, were nice enough, but, there seems to be a lack of chemistry, at least for me.

If there are any single or widowed women around who have an interest in me, I have not heard a peep out of them. Even in my own condo community here. I guess I am not there type, or not funny enough, or not good looking enough or whatever, so I wander alone. I am not big on events or going to bars, I like small groups not large. I would not last long in a bar situation, alone. I get bored and I sit alone in those situations and one would probably see me at the bar, eating a sandwich and fries and one beer, and leaving, I don’t stay long. Why, I don’t feel comfortable as a single, bouncing around a club, bar or tavern alone. Never have, and in todays world, if you say one thing wrong to anyone here in Mass. it’s fight on, and I don’t like to argue or fight, especially in public at all.

Anyway, that’s my thoughts for Feb. 5th, 2025, the Super Bowl is next come the 9th, I love the NFL and watching games, I like the NBA and Celtics too, and I am a Red Sox Fan, but not a very avid follower, because the game is too long and puts me to sleep, frankly. So, at 69, I am what is known as a wandering widower, who does so aimlessly, and without real purpose and who is basically, the same guy, I have always been, a bit of an introvert. That’s me, the guy most women overlook and the one who may spot you from across the room ladies, but, never make a move. I never did learn to flirt, my first wife, I met in The Navy when serving, my second wife I asked to dance at a Singles Dance. The first marriage lasted 12 years, the second 28. Add them together I had a total of 40 years of marriage in my 69 years, not bad ya ask me. But, as most will know in today’s world, there is a loneliness syndrome that is currently happening, plenty of people, but lots of fears out there, so alone I guess is my destiny. Ok later folks, have a good day, enjoy.