Good Morning September 21st, 2025, for me the day began at 5 am. It seems since my wife passed in August of 2021, I don’t sleep as much as I used to. But, I am sure I am not the only person who is a widower or widow who has this problem. we all get used to our better half being there to comfort or cuddle or just as a presense we enjoy so much we relax best around them. It’s a natural occurrance for a married couple or long time couple.

I knew when I married my wife of 28 years, one of us would go first and since she was indeed 16 years my senior, I also knew it would be her, most likely. She knew it too, and accepted it. she also told me, I would be fine once she passed, she told me I am a realist, I realize what must be done to survive and adjust. Of course she was right, she usually always was, she had more experience period.

I have learned more though since she has passed. Dating apps don’t work folks, they suck up your money and no matter what you do or say, you don’t get far in meeting anyone. You can write great profiles, you can be polite, you can be nasty, you can say almost anything to get a date, and it doesn’t work much at all. It isn’t the app itself that kills the possibilities, it’s the people who use them. I say this because I have found certain things people do. 1) They lie in their profiles, 2) They do not use their latest pictures, they use old ones to hide aging, and other problems. 3) I find many are not there just to make friends or find a partner, many want money from you, or to get into your life financially, because they want it. 4) Then, there are those who, want you to take care of them, because they are ill or injuried and need an assistant to help them through life now. All of the above is true on most dating apps these days. The fears and apprehensions that come out are crazy. Too many worries in using dating apps, they do just eat your money and they auto-renew on you, if your not careful.

If you have a bowling alley near by use it. If you have a place to dance use it, A Group to hike or walk do it. If you, can even just play a game for fun, just do it. As long as you participate and meet new people in your age bracket do it. Even if it is a book club or writting club, do it, it gets you out there among others, and we are all human and need some himan interaction in our lives, or we go stir crazy or get depressed. And believe you, me, depression is not good, and stir crazy can get ya into trouble. Some like bars or taverns, they like to drink and eat. Some don’t. Personally while I like open enviroments, and less people, in my opinion, others like large crowds. It is indeed a personal choice for us all is it not? I think it is, just like, we pick and choose our lovers and partners, we pick and choose our friends. Some you get on with easily, others you don’t get along with at all, so you avoid one another and carry-on. I was never one to force myself on anyone, in anyway. So I avoid being a bother to anyone or a burden, and I do my own thing. I write, I watch tv and movies, I read alot, I walk alot. I like to cook now and then, for fun is all. I play billards once a week and bowl when I can if healthy. It gets me out of my home, into the world and among some people. It is called seeking contact, without being too serious, lol, at least in my book. But, that is life is it not folks?

People tell me to go to the Senior Center, get involved there they say. Well, I am 69 but I feel out of place in a Senior Center still. So I try to not go, unless there is a purpose I am interested in. I guess everyone feels different about that, but, thats my feelings on it all.

Am I happy, where I live and how I live? I am happy with how I live, and do the best I can. I try to stay healthy, clean my place and keep my mind busy. I like puzzles to build when I am in that mood, I have played video games also. But, writting poetry, stories and blogs, is my thing these days. Opinions are good to have if you don’t force anything on anyone, you can voice them. Some just putter along, I walk alone when I feel the need, a little walking stretches the legs and keeps me flexiable. But as to where I live, well that my friends is a different story so to say. I think, when we reach a certain age and status in life, we tend to look for more age definded, places to live. Thus a 55 plus community, became the choice for me. I thought, it would be among those my age and easier to get along in. While the community in general is a good idea for downsizing from a large home you can’t take care of anymore, it is not necessarily the way to go. One thing about these 55 plus community is people tend to get into each others business. They talk, and it becomes much like the old TV Show Peyton Place from many years ago, I don’t go there, and it is not my thing to do so. so, I live by a Theory these days, that is out in a book called the Let Them Theory. I let them think what they want, say what they want and do what they want, as long as it doesn’t physically or socially affect me. Then I go by the other end of said Theory too, Let Me Be me. I worry less what others do or say, and more of making myself happier this way. It is something I would reccomend others should do too. Momma always told me as a child, mind your own, and take care of your own and you will be fine. It’s when you over reach or put yourself too far out there, you get in trouble. It’s true, Momma knew!

Each year, I love to watch the NFL Games and NBA games too. while I follow MLB too, I don’t watch it on tv. A Baseball game would put me to sleep, it moves too slow. Hockey no thank you I say. Olympics I love to watch when they come around. In the meantime I watch tv shows that are mysteries, crime dramas mostly. I even like just putting Utube on for music and letting it play. Yet, life moves at it’s own pace and yes I am getting older. I don’t go drinking to drink, not a party animal of any kind. I may have a beer on a social occasion to fit in only. Alcohol is not me, I dislike it, I have seen too many people get addicted to it and ruin theirs and others lives and hurt people both physically and emotionally. No thank you. I don’t do drugs either, medications are bad enough when needed. lol. so, thats me, in a nutshell so to say, I am not anything other than a normal man, who takes life one day at a time, each encounter or person one at a time too. But, thats me, not all do that, some have a set purpose or way of doing things, I believe in some flexiabily in life.

Time has shown me don’t get too involved in Politics either. It is today’s atmosphere in politics I can’t take. I am not a MAGA supporter, and I don’t like the way, our President is doing business. I won’t publically fight over it, I avoid it, too much violence and anger exists over it all. I do realize, while we must all save our money and go day by day, arguing with people you can’t sway is not the way. So, i adapt to what is there and do the best I can to survive, don’t we all?

One thing I will do, if I see someone down, or hurt or needing help, and I can help them, I will. Helping is one thing, getting too involved is another thing lol. So I try to be careful in this area too, for some take helping as an insult to them, and get made. I learned ask first before you help, don’t rush in. when you do, people tend to look at you like an invading party in war time, lol. But, life is all about being careful and not over extending yourself, so we all survive well. Thats my blog for today folks. Be Well!