Lessons we learn in life start at a young age as we grow up. Our Parents teach us basics first, who our family members are, how love shines or dims. Tey teach us right from wrong, honesty, faith, caring and how to commit to what we want and need to survive. The lessons continue as we age as they teach us how to interact with others, how to stay safe, and most of all, how to sustain and stay alive as individuals.
As we age they watch us, guide us and help us to get along with others, teach us proper manners and communication skills too. We learn to respect one another, to make friends and avoid enemies too. Amazingly, we survive all the lessons they give us and we grow to adulthood, by passing through the teen years. You know the awkward ages of 13 to 18, when our hormones act up and we begin to notice the opposite sex, and figure out the differences. As we do, we look for others who we are attracted to, find ways to communicate with them, by flirting, smiling, laughing and enjoying their company. Most know what I meant when I said the awkward stages, for out bodies are developing at the same time, out mental abilities do too. Maturity starts to hit us, yet we are still at a point in life, where things are still an adventure and full of fun and love and caring. We are taught to avoid dangers, and learn the signs of evil or danger, as we go along being guided by those who love us. It is a process all humans do go through.
Once we reach adulthood we learn to make decisions on what we learned when younger and what we were taught. We find jobs, take on responisibilities and create families of our own. We find ourselves, raisng children of our own or running family units of our own prefeence. It is amazing that, humans adapt as well as we do. A lot depends on the base family you were born into or raised by of course. We learn of racial interactions and accepting each human being as they are. Color or Race we learn can be used for predijuce and discrimination purposes, but we also learn they are issues that are not right.
As we age, we go through many ups and downs, for not all of us are given the same circumstances in life. Some of us, get what they call the Golden Spoon, and others the trashy end of the stick. Yet, as history proves, determination, good attitudes and learning as you go, can raise anyone to higher status in the world.
What we as humans get wrong is the simple fact few forget. Money, becomes important, some get ultra rich, get up in fortunes and become the upper class, others drop in stature and status and become poor. The only real difference is the money folks, and just because you are rich, it doesn’t make you better than everyone else. It is important to remember as we age, we change, we adapt, we mature and in the end we make up our own mind as to what we can be and will be. We learn a great attitude takes us further, a education takes us further, knowing manners takes us further. Communication takes us further and how we react to others does so too. What stops many, are basic attitudes or beliefs, that do not fit in, in the society we live in. It is a matter of becoming acceptable or accepting the logic and common sense of humanity. Those who lack common sense and logic, tend to not fit in, and not be accepted by society as a whole. So, it is like being cast aside from a herd due to the fact, you don’t fit in, anymore.
As I have aged now, reaching 69, I have learned to be more independent and on my own. There comes a time in life when all of us, must live alone and on our own. We learn to be self-sufficient, we learn to be independent and we get set in our ways. We learn to stand alone, take care of ourselves at different ages in life. When we are suddenly alone again due to break-ups, lose of friends or lover or mates, depends on many things. But the first is what you were taught when young, and what you learned along the way. So, I have learne donce again, sinc emy wife passed in 2021, from cancer, one major thing. No one is going to care for me, no one is going to approach and help me, so I must do so all alone. I have also learned as we age, due to being set in our ways, we are not acceptable to all in society and society as a whole is geared to the youth, not the elderly in anyway.
I also have learned that, the comfort and love and caring of a partner or wife, is not agiven guaranteed in life. If your lucky enough to have someone, in your elederly years who is a spouse or partner, you have beend with for along time, you will feel the loss, big time. There will be a hole in your life, that you must figure out how to breech and covercome. That gap is scary, it is lonely, it is hard to do, but, like me, I am sure most reach back in time, and remember how to be alone again. we go by the history we have lived through, we make our decisions on the basis of what we have lived through, we look back and make decisions, on what we know and have experienced and lived through. Thats, the part of life, many elders or older people like myself who are widowers or widows, learn and use to survive, in the current situation we are in. we learn to save money, we earn to be kind, we learn to adapt once more,. Life is ever changing folks, so be prepared, the biggest sadness, is accepting loss, and not being able to adapt to it. If you don’t you tend to shut down and shut and hide all inside. It will get you in the end.
Find what you love to do, and do it, is my advice to all. You love to cook do so, for many, you love to do arts and crafts go for it. You like to write or read do it, you like to dance, then dance folks. Do what makes you happy, content, but find you first. Find what you love do it, and don’t worry about finding a partner or lover or friend. Why, because if your doing what you love, and enjoy most, your personally happy, and you wil lsmile, laugh and carryon just fine. Being you is vital, for the mor eyou, you show the world, the more others will notice you. As I once told a friend who had gotten divorced, don’t write letters, answer dating sites, or worry. Get up off your ass, go out, do what you love, work at what you like to do, and someone will find you. It’sa natural occurrance that wil lhappen, as long as your not phoney, dishonest, or harming anyone. Be you, as the old saying goes, Be you, be all you can be! And remember one thing, all great leaders in life, got there by first being great followers. So, join something, do something you love, follow and grow, in the end you will lead, or be noticed. Thats the best lesson, anyone can learn, be yourself!