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Constructive Criticism of UMASS Memorial Hospital’s Emergency Services


Recently, I have been going through some medical stuff. One is my back, whichI know full well, is associated to my bad herniated discs in my lower spine. The Second is a bout with controlling, my sugar levels from type 2 Diabeties and my Blood Pressure also. I depend normally, on The Veterans Clinic in Worcester, Mass. Which has done a terrific job of taking care of my medical needs.

The second I usually Depend on is Convienent MD, around the corner from me when things are not going right and they normally help me fine and things straighten out. I like it, and would use it more.

Finally, lets discuss, UMASS Memorial Hospital and their Emergency Room, Trauma Center. I went in on the basis of two things, because The Veteran’s Adminstraion told me to go there, for highh BLood Pressure and high sugar readings yesterday. I arrived early at 9 am there and complaine do my BP and Sugars being high and having pressure in my chest. They signed me in and then directed me to a EKG in the back, and took one then places me in a wheelchair outside the EKG area and left me there for hours, taking blood twice. Then they told me to go out to the waiting room, which I did. The Emergency Room Waiting area was full of people, sitting around in numerous conditions waiting to see Doctors.

People had been there ob=ver 30 hourts and counting waiting. Now, I uderstand it is a Trauma Center/ Emergency and they area busy place. Yet, the longest wait times ever exist here to see a real Doctor to even explain your test results. Sadly, people sit there, wanting to know the results of their testa nd if they are ok enough to go home, No one explains that the EKG is normal when it is or the blood tests are normal to you, they just make you wait to see a Doctor period. After numerous hour from 9 am to 12 pm, I sat waiting for the results and to see if i wa sok or not. I never did recieve the official results of see a actual Doctor. When you ask when you can see a Doctor or how soon or your numbe rin line, they look at you and tell you, We area Trauma center here and we have no place tp put people or rooms. We can’t tell you how soon you will be seen. Then, one of the nurses says to me, Sir if you don’t like our hospital you can go to another ypu don’t have to stay here. Thats just set me off honestly I had invested over 7 hours trying to get my test results and see an actual Doctor.

I stayed hoping even then just tpo see a Doctor an dmake sur emy EKG and Blood work was normal, so I was sure i was fine. By, Midnight, I had , had enough and basiclaly went up and had a nurse cut the wrist bands off an dtold her i was going home, I was done waiting. she was kind enough to cut my bands off, and tell me that if my EKG had sj=hown anything they would have whisked me in the back for immediate care. Then, before she would lalow me to leave, she took a peek at my blood test results. She said, and I quote, Sir I would never bother a Doctor with these results. That told me my blood work was fine. If i had been told that earlier i would have gone home, instead of waiting all that time. Their processes are screwed up in this Emergency Room due to the fact they are also a Trauma Center. The two in one combo does not work properly folks. And this is not the first time i have been through this experience with this Hospital’s Emergency Room. I know, if i have an Emergancy again, I shall not use them, it was a rude experience and uncomfortable and crazy to be there all that time an dnever see a Doctor. Others had been sittiing there over 30 hours waiting I found and one young lady had hurt her back at a gym she and told them she couldn’t sit yet they put her in the waiting room, in a hard wheelchair and she was crying on and off from pain. They ignored her repeatedly and just let her cry. I tried tpo help the ypoung woman, by getting them to provide her a pillow to sit on and they got one finally. But her pain persisted of course. I finallt told the young woman, you want them to help you have have two choices, one stand up and fall down on the floor and scream in pain and they will pick you up, they wil have no choice. Or make enough noice, crying till they come get you. It worked, they finally paid her attion and took her in. Sadly, that is what she had to do to get seen faster. This Hospital, is one messed up, mismanaged operation in my view.

If you are going to run a Trauma Center and Emergency Room you need to make changes to survive. 1) seperate the Trauma Center from the Emergency Room. 2) Hire more Doctors to man each,a nd more Nurses. 3) Be more picky on what Nurses and doctors you hire. The bedside manner of some of them is just crazy and ridiculous. 4) Expand the rooms you have in the Hospital for Admitting and for the care of patients. 5) You can not keep telling patients we have no rooms at the inn so to say and think you are going to maintain a Hospital and make money, you lose people we leave. 6) Then when patients who have waited long hours to see a Doctor, ask when they are going to be seen, you can not, sit there and tell them to go elsewhere is they do not like it. 7) And last but not finally, if you do not have rooms for patients due to overload, you ned to inform people immediately, so they can go elsewhere, not check them in, and make them wait forever. As a Hospital and a facility, that is supposed to help the people an dprovide for them, you must be responisible enough to say, we have no room here at the Inn so to say, much like Joseph and Mary were told, before Jesus’s birth. Be honest, put upa damn sign an d let people know you are overloaded, so they don’t wiat these long periods and get angry.

If as a Hopsital you can not afford to expan and seperate these two units, you will not last much longer. people will begin to go else where. People like myself wil lbegin to write blogs and reviews of your services and lack of services and problems. It’s not to be derogortory of your Hospital or your Emergency Room or Trauma Center, it’s a constructive critizism of it all that is intended here, with suggestion to help inprove it. The Emergency Room/ trauma Center is intirely mismanaged and not being operated correctly. If you have too many people coming in do something baout it, don’t let them suffer and wait.

The President of the Board, that Operates this Hospital is a Doctor Lynda Young, who chairs the board. She need to know these problems exist and she needs to know she has staff with lack of abilities and bedside manners too. Yet, as i wa stold she or the hospital as a whole wil ignore it all. You can’t be profitable or make money getting patients angry, or sending them else where after they come and check in. It will not work Doctor Young. so in the end likeme many will come yes, but like me also, many wil lwalk out, upset, angry and wanting to be seen by Doctors. They wil go elsewhere of course, and then in the end, it won’t make your opertaion, any better, it wil only decline not onlt in the services you provide by in the patient inflow. Wake up and fix this!

November 2025: Changes, Elections, and Game Seven


Welcome to November 2025 folks. I hope all enjoyed Halloween last nigh and had fun.

As November rolls in, the weather gets chillier, the leafs are changing and time moves on. It seems like only yesterday, when I though a coming winter would be fun. Tjhe leafs are npow colorful and falling, and it is a time of changes. Yet we all still motivate and move, going here and there without much fear. it is great to be American and to be free, even if our politicians fights over what they want or don’t for you and me. As long as America remains free, with the rights we have, of Freedom of Speech, Laws and a Constitution that is intact. One party may win the hOuse and Senate and White House too, but my friends remember that is up to me and to you. We vote an dthe majority wins it seems, even if it hurts many people and their dreams. In a few days, Elections will start once more, for those of you voting, don’t vote on who is your favorite, vote on what is best for your future and families and mine. if you don’t, who knows where the current political climate will take us, it could be communist, it coul dbe authorian, it could be democratis or republican. It’s one thing to be a liberal or a conservative, in America, it’s anothe rto bring cummunism or authoritizism tpo America. I don’t think even under todays climates in the world, the American People would go for them. But, time shall tell won’t it folks.

Tomorrow the clock move once more, they fall back to an hour earlier. Time zones and these hour changes have been a thorn inmany people’s sides for years now. Some want to do away with it all and some don’t care. Personally, I think if we just left the clocks alone it wouldn’t makea damn difference. But, again, I am not a politicain or an average citizen lol, my opinions are my own. I just wish, it wans’t so, I don’t have a voice that loud, don’t you know.

I have been writing poems, short stories and blogs for many years now. I do so as a hobby, to be heard and to have fun. I am not doing it to anger people, hurt people or to change their minds, I just try to entertain a bit, inform a bit and discuss a bit. It’s just me.

last thing today, Tonight if Game Seven of the World Series of 2025. It has been interesting to watch and quite a fight between two great teams. I know for me, this seventh game this year, is gonna be a thing to watch,a nd to enjoy and it will have many watching. Seventh Games do that folks, it is amazing how a Series that has seven games can build to a ending all want to watch. The Tension, The stress, the joy an dthe pain will be shown once more and again. One team wil win and one will lose, but, it is a game they all did choose. Thats the good thing about Sports, we cheer on who we want to win and we atch in amazement and joy. Some have their highs, some get the lows, in the end it is the game to watch, that affects us so. So, to The Dodgers and The Blue Jays and Major League Baseball, thank you.

My current thoughts on certain subjects! Opinions !


I have come to certain conclusions, that in my opinion, need to be said by me. Now, I am not here to personally force anything I write or say on anyone else. For firsta nd foremost we all have our right of freedom of speech, this is America. secondly, not everyone thinks the same, or comes to the same conclusions on any subject out there. So when I say, something in a blog, I write, it is my opinion, not my demand or my order to anyone, period. I don’t want someone going, he’s tellingus what to do or not do, for that isn’t what I do. What, I do is discuss how I feel about a subject and write it out.

That said, Lets talk about some conclusions i have reached for myself in todays’ america and under our current living conditions in our country. #1) we are still the greatest country in the world period, due to democracy, our form of governement set forth by the Founding Fathers, we had. #2) We are still a country of laws, guided by our Constitution and it’s Admendments and our Bill of Rights. #3) We will continue to have elections every four years and no President can serve more then 8 total, it isa law in America folks. #4) America does not have KINGS, We never have and never will! We broke from England and foughta Revolutionary War to escape it, and we shall not go backwards.

That said, let me say this next. I swerved my Country in Three Branches of Service, I did the U.S. Army, U.S. Army National Guard and The United States Navy, totaling 16 years of service. I did so with pride, with Honor and Integerity, I did so to protect and defend our way of life, and my family. I am Proud of it, I do not run from it.

Next the societal differences currently happening in America are bad for it in so many ways. We ared ividing the nation in so many wyas now it is sad and it may rock the foundation of the country to it’s core and it must stop. we can ill afford, a battle of the sexes, or a racist war, or even a full out political war, like what is happening now in America. we can ill afford to ignore our Veterans who served, our medical care, our societal norms we have achieved an dlived on for hundreds of years. What happened to morals. ethics, manners and caring? What happened to one for all and all for one? tell me America, where did it go and when did we really lose it so bad, that we can not even agree to disagree and still make things work? What happened America, you Tell Me! Why can’t we get along, and stop the infighting and save our country together, before it explodes apart?

Many subjects are concerns now, societal infighting is just one of them, For instance, race tensions, politicla tensions, anger, all are major problems. Affording to live, lack of jobs, high prices on food, gas and homes. Education being shut down, medicare, medicaid and social security and Veterans Benefits suddenly under attac. Why folks, why? Why, do Americans now act so lackadasial, and so uncaring, that we do not stop this from happening anymore?

Why did Americans reelect a President who was Impeached Twice, convicted of 34 felonies,now being questioned about whether he is a pedophile or not, beause of his relationship with one? Why is this ok to have been done in America? While on this topic, answer me this question, If our current President is not a Pedophile and he has nothing to hide, why isn’t he releasing the Epstein Files in their entirety? I know, if i was accussed of being part of a Pedophile Ring that, abused and used children, and i was innocent, I would work overtime to prove my innocence, wouldn’t you?

Next, subject, America is suffering from infighting between the political parties, and in the end it is the American People who are suffering and it will not get better until the Government is back in full Session and working as one unit again to keep us safe, secure and economically intact. Stock Markets decline, jobs disappear, Tariffs rise and we pay for it all. Doesn’t anyone understand, every tariff being put up against another ocuntry, costs Americans and we pay for them? It’sa sad state of affairs right now in the world and our country.

The homeless population is growing, people are being taken off the streets and shipped overseas and deported without due process in a court of law! It’s wrong, it’s immoral, it’s unethical and corrupt. Look I believe like many, illegal alliens in our country is bad, but, to do it by the book is better. Safer, smarter and in the end, more complete. Every human being, deserves the right to due process, in America, let these people defend their rights to be here, in court. If they lose fine, deport them, If they win in court give them citizenship and lets get it done. we seperate familes, divide them up, but, no one did this over the generations of when America was growing by bounds from immigration did they. The Italians got to stay, the Japanesse, The Irish, the Mexicans, the Jewish and more. This country is built on generations of immigrants folks, lets not kill what we are built upon. Each flock of immigrants brought something to America, things they knew, did or comtributed, we do not need to kill that. I remind all, Trump’s family came from Germany, his Wife is an immigrant herself. yet, they are President and First Lady. Stop and think about it all.

Ok next subject, the so called dating war, or dating problem in American Society an dthe country as a whole. It is far past time, for men and women in America to wake up. Not, every man, wants a woman just for sex, not every woman wants a man just for money. Not every man wants a woman’s belongings, or money, nor is it the same in return. In Todays world the fears of interaction and dating is scary and mean. people have worries and concerns about being used, abused, or taken for money or belongings. Many times , I have heard women complain, men don’t ask us out anymore, why is that? Well, for the same reasons, you say no and reject men is why? The same concerns go both way ladies. We don’t like being used for our physical abilities, or our knowledge of how to repair your home or car. we don’t like being taken for our money we earned either. It’s a two way street ladies and gents, and neither sex, wnats to be taken, used or abused by the other gender. Both sides have our reasons, and until we stop and think it over and decrease our own fears, our own worries some and takea chance we get no where do we? men fear rejection just as much as women do in today’s world. So, in the end it is atwo way street folks, an dthe only way to overcome the loneliness syndrome in America, wil be to take a chance and ask, and just take rejection as a normal part of the process of dating and creating relationships. If you take it personal you stop approaching, you stop asking, and you isolate yourself and any chance you have of finding a relationship period. Thuis we end up bitter, angry, alone and wondering where we went wrong. Our own fears stop us, and as one Author puts us we can’t change what others think of us, so Let Them. But in the end it is the second part of the Let Them Theory that works maybe the best, for once you Let Them think what they want, do what they want, you can then apply the Let me Theory. whicj is Let me make my own choices, Let me be me, and let me decide who and what I want to be. Once your fully you and happy about who you are as a person, and able to interact with others ina friendly positive way, you won’t get anywhere at all will you. negativity kills, any chance of being around or involve dwith anyone else. It’s dpressing to be fearful, it’s depressing to be angry, sad. Positivity is the only way to go really, isn’t it. You attratc mor epeople to you if you laugh daily, if you interact kindly, if your polite, courtious, you get better reactions in return. stick to what you do best, be you. Yet, also remembe rthe old saying, not everyone is everyone’s cup of tea so to say. So that is why they make so many different flavors in the world, so you can find a cup of tea that matches your taste. Just my current thoughts on the subjects above for now!

Happy Sunday All From me to you!


I can honestly say, I am no spring chicken anymore at 69 years old. My body aches, my parts swell up and my mind is sharp, but at times it can be a little tart. Even if the mind stays sharp folks because you keep up on current events, or write like I do, the lack of interactions, with others can get to you. As, we age, as we all know our bodies, start to ache and hurt, arthritis sets in, joints swell and make life a little slower at each point. we move less, we talk less and we at times judge others fast too. It’s a part of human nature, just as mother nature takes over also, wearing us down.

Now you can exercise and walk and try to interact as much as you can, but, it won’t solve the aches and pains of aging, nor, will it solve the true loneliness we feel either. I say this because, we all find someone at some point in life we love and care for and want to be with. But, as we all know, it doesn’t always work out that way, or if it does, due to the fates and destiny, it ends because one passes away. That leaves the remaining person, floundering, floating and hoping, to connect once more. In today’s world though, the lack of societial norms, and interactions is killing the country and the world. Too many fears about, age, politics, beliefs, How we look, what color our skins, what religion we are into, all affect it. At some point in life, folks, you start to learn we are people of habits and what we were taught in our younger days, sticks with us in our older days.

Because of the human nature of all of this, people today, do not have the same interactions we did when we were younger. We lock ourselves into safe and old reliable patterns, and steer clear of things we know will disturb or upset us. We also, tend to avoid talking, as much as we can. As seniors will tell you and there are many of us today, some dislike people who talk too much, or are too cherry and bright. Why, because it disturbs their inner peace and their ability to concentrate as needed. So, you get comments like, tone it down, don’t laugh so much, calm down, or the classic one I hear a lot, behave yourself. Listen folks, not to disappoint or upset you, yet, I think you should take these little saying and innuendos and stick em where the sun doesn’t shine! People need to be themselves in the world, and they need to be able to openly communicate and interact, or you end up with one hell of a morbid, sad, depressing world, where people slowly die off, alone and in pain from it all.

Humanity is in trouble today and so is the world as a whole. The planets resources are being used up and wasted faster then they will ever replenish themselves. The atmosphere has been polluted beyond repair and the oceans are clogged with garbage and trash and animals are dying off. Yet, mankind stays it’s own course destroying and using up all we can. Animals don’t destroy anywhere as much as mankind does. we call it making advances, when we create something new, or we find new ways to do something, but, do we ever stop to look at what it means to the rest of the world, our climate or atmosphere or oceans and lands? Nope, we barrell ahead, and do so, not out of the need for such an advance, but, for the love of money. And in the end it will be the demise of humanity, for greed kills all folks. Never forget to share but always conserve too.

Every human being out there has their own personal needs, their own personal fears too. Many, also can lack manners and morals and ethics, for we are not all raised the same. Then we run dead into the race and color barriers mankind has created. Predijuce, discrimination, politics, hate and anger. Why folks, why? Ever hear of the old saying Live and Let Live? The biggest part of it, that is disturbing is the societal norms we once had in the world are now gone. People don’t interact the way they used to anymore. Like I said, manners disappear, anger comes out, people seperate and hide from one another, and divisons happens between races, colors, nationalities and more. The anger goes so deep it causes wars, and elminations of whole nations and peoples. Why? The world must learn to stop the hate, to listen more, communicate more, to understand more. If we don’t folks, we shall ultimately isolate more and end up hating each other, till we kill each other off. It must stop!

Men and women alone in America do not date anymore, or at least no where near the way they used to. We don’t have the social places to meet anymore. A Coffee Shop is not a good place to meet someone, not really. A Bar or Tavern is great for drinking, or trying to get lucky, yes, but it doesn’t build lasting relationships. So the question is what does, in today’s world?

The fears are more than anything, a seperator between the sexes. Women fear men will use them for sexual favors and dump them. They fear being taken for money or belongings. They want men to take care of them, provide for them. men, today are not the same men your parents knew ladies. The men today, don’t want to provide for you.

Just as you women don’t want to be locked into certain things either. Many women these days hate the idea of no jobs for them, or being locked into being housewifes or mothers and nothing else. They want to be known for more than their bodies, they want to be taken as a whole person and accepted for who they are. And they are right men, the women deserve that just as much as we men do too. In the end, the inability to openly communicate that, to listen is killing relationships and possibilities left and right. Fears, lack of manners, lack of ethics, lack of morals all contribute to what I am saying here. Expectations also are a problem folks. many expect certain things, and if they don’t get them from someone they will walk away. There is a very old saying, there are many fish in the sea, when it comes to dating, but, the truth is the sea is now under populated in areas and over populated in others, and fishing is rougher than ever. Why too many things in the way, too many self inflicted restrictions and requirements and needs, that are not being met. Wants, needs, cares, all come into play, and too many people rush and don’t stop to realize it. So , the world is now a much lonelier place for many of us. when a simple smile or causual conversation used to be easy to do, it is no longer true. We hesitate, we stop, we reverse or we shut up. Out of fear of what the response will be, no one likes rejection folks, believe me. But, people avoid, detract and walk away, from things they don’t like or can’t handle. Yet, to fight the current so to say, is not as easy as it was yesterday. Societial Norms are missing, interactions are missing, and fears, and dislikes and discrimination and predijuce are all rearing their ugky heads. I don’t like your religion, I don’t like your color, I don’t like your politics, and more comes into play each day. Instead of listening we shout over one another or at one another. You can’t get along that way folks, for you can shout till you die, but, unless you learn to listen to the other side, you will get no where! As one man said long ago and many forget today, communication is a two way street folks, if one talks, one listens and it must be mutual listening and talking in order for a real conversation and meeting of the minds to work. It definitely, takes listening, by both sides to work. No relationship ever works out, if it is all one-sided.

Wel thats just my thoughts for this Sunday morning folks! Please remember, opinions are things we all have and form. We may state them, we may write them, we may speak them, not everyone will accept them. As I once told someone long ago, I won’t force my opinions or beliefs on you, you don’t force yours on me and we shall be fine. The biggest objection in the world most people have, is being forced into something, so don’t do it to others, if you don’t want it done to you. Happy Sunday All From me to you!

Some Thoughts on a Sunday Morning !


In life we al have our little pleasures, our little likes and dislikes. We all have things that make us smile, or make us cry, make us laugh or make us sigh. Some of us, live on sports, some on music, some on books, or something that we find special to do. Some like to read and study history, others love to write, stories, articles, blogs or poems. Some argue politics, and some don’t, the thing with politics is simple folks, no matter which side or party you back, someone will always argue the opposite is best. When that happens is, when anger rises, and people don’t understand, most of the time, it is best to just walk away. You can’t change people’s opinions folks, or what they think, only they can themselves by researching and learning on their own. Always remember that, the next time someone gets angry or upset over a political statement or action, walk away. It’s not worth facing potential physical violence or even verbal assault. Save yourself the trouble, walk please.

With that said, I used to DJ online a lot, music was my thing in the 1990s, I would DJ. I have a colllection of music that fills an external hardrive I gathered over the years. It runs from Rock, to Country, to Jazz, to Motown and more. I found over the years even classical music has a place and time in my life. Music is like a special spice in one’s life, that lightens the spirit, makes you dance or move and lifts your spirits all in one. Music always brightens the mood and helps one through the duldrums of life. So, remember when, your down, play that special band, group or artist or song that makes you smile and carry-on like nothing is wrong. For in your heart and mind you will always have a special song.

Music is one of my loves, as is writting, Poetry I do as it hits me, so to say. A partcular topic or event may come to mind and make me go off in a poetry way. It may be love that sparks it, it may be anger, it can be an event, or one of danger. Or I may write of loneliness, or absence, or maybe depression or sadness. Each day we get up, an event or interaction may interact with us in someway, and that may become a key to a new poem or even a story or song. Inspiration comes from many sources my friends, sometimes it can be a smiling face across a bright room, or a face across a dark one and a gloom. You never know, just remember it can happen and will somehow, or so.

I labeled my Blog, for Rants, Poems, Stories and more. So when whatever mood hits me, I can express what I think. I do not force my opinions on anyone I just voice them by writting them out here. Wheither you agree or disagree, is up to you of course and I leave the commenting to each one who reads what I post. I may not reply to your comments, but I do read them, so you know.

I am at a stage of life where I realize my opinions do not match everyone else’s. But thats ok, for as we age, we do get set in our ways. It is expected at least by me, for each of us is an individual you see. We all have different levels of experience and interactions that affect us. So when we sit down and talk, if I don’t like what you say or do, and I walk away, don’t take it personal, for it just means, I don’t wish to fight or argue over any point in the discussion, so walking, is the best to do. I do not disrespect your beliefs, your opinions, or thoughts or what you say or how you say it, please don’t try to do that to me. As my mother said, Respect is not a given, it is earned, the way to get it, is by being respectful at all times in return. What you put out, you shall get back and that my friends is just a fact. So, don’t treat anyone in anyway you would not want treated yourself. If you do, your asking for the same in return and you won’t like it. Just a thought for all, that is.

Mutual respect, manners, kindness, caring and sharing is right! It should be spread and shown each day and night. I am not saying be a beacon yourself, but it doesn’t help to be kind and nice to everyone else! Happy Sunday all, I hope all have a great day!

Navigating Dating as a Senior: A Widower’s Perspective


Ok, Whats new is alwaysa question for me. Since I am a widower and single and 69, I try to find different things to do. Walking is always big for me, as is bowling at least twicea week when I can. I lik eplaying billards once a week where I live. Other than that I am usually hunting an dlooking for things to do.

Some say go to the Senior Center and hang out and you will meet people, thats true. And I don’t knock the Senior Center at all, but, I do feel like I don’t really belong when there. Maybe I am just not there yet, so I feel out of place. Nothing against the Center itself believe me.

I do like to bowl which keeps me active at least. I do read some and try to stay up to date on the news too and tv. I like movies but haven’t been to one in ages, cause it is not fun alone.

Drinking and Clubs and Taverns, are not my thing really. I will go to one, once in a while here in Westborough, just to get out, havea meal and a drink and to look around. Usuaually, most in the Bars, Tavern around wetsborough are people in their 30’s to 50’s who are dating or already have a partner they are dating. So fora single widower my age of 69, it gets to feel like I am a fifth wheel so to say.

As to the dating scene as I see it today here in Westborough, I know many have fears, especially the ladies. I respect their fears and I am never aggressive nor do I chase them. I don’t need a place tos tay, I own, I don’t need someone’s money ladies, I am fine on my own. I do not abuse women either never have and never will wasn’t raised that wya and I do not have a agressive or anger problem. I do tend to stay away from trouble and I do get the fact that not everyone is your cup of tea or mine so to speak. I try to be honest, I try to be fair, and I always try to be respectful and kind. It’s just my nature I think.

So when I do go Bowling, or to a mall or something, even a tavern or bar, I am me. I don’t like talking politics in public it causes wars and fights these days.Sports I love and it’s NFL time once more, with The NBA is coming back soon enough. I am a Celtics fan and hope their rebuild wil be great an dthey have a great season. some ask me about MLB, while I am a Red sox fan, I can’t sit through a game on tv, it puts me to sleep too long. Football I watch, Basketball I watch. But hey, I like sports.

So Anyway life goes on. As a single widower, I find it slow and hard to find someone to match with or date. Age does play a factor for sure, as well as what to do each day when retired. So, I go day to day, and hope, is all. The hardest part of being a widower my age of 69, is the fact of being alone. I have to say I had a total of 40 years of marriage in my life of 69 years. One was 12 years, the second 28 years. So I think I did fine, and I was very lucky. When I look around and see the single , divorced or widowed women, I also see fears and anger in many. Some believe a man wants them just for one thing or another. Let me say this, I don’t wnat someone’s home, or money, or just for their body. I do like companionship, I do love women for their sense of humor, intelligence and to be with. But, dating at 69, is like being interviewed for a job, or something. A million questions, a million different views, and then even if you get through them, you still have to find attraction and chemistry. It’s liek having a job just to get a date, the search, the asking, the dating, the interview and the response can be fun, and rejection can be big. so, what does one do, well, I know what I do, I just go day to day, and hope is all. being positive helps, folks.

Dating for us Seniors is like a trek down a mystery highway, for you know not what the next corner or turn will be. So, one day at a time is all one can do. I will say this, I never dod learn to flirt properly, some are good at it, me I am clumsy and don’t get it. But, I must of done something right, for two marriages totaled 40 years for me. LOL

Be Well, My Blog for today!


Good Morning September 21st, 2025, for me the day began at 5 am. It seems since my wife passed in August of 2021, I don’t sleep as much as I used to. But, I am sure I am not the only person who is a widower or widow who has this problem. we all get used to our better half being there to comfort or cuddle or just as a presense we enjoy so much we relax best around them. It’s a natural occurrance for a married couple or long time couple.

I knew when I married my wife of 28 years, one of us would go first and since she was indeed 16 years my senior, I also knew it would be her, most likely. She knew it too, and accepted it. she also told me, I would be fine once she passed, she told me I am a realist, I realize what must be done to survive and adjust. Of course she was right, she usually always was, she had more experience period.

I have learned more though since she has passed. Dating apps don’t work folks, they suck up your money and no matter what you do or say, you don’t get far in meeting anyone. You can write great profiles, you can be polite, you can be nasty, you can say almost anything to get a date, and it doesn’t work much at all. It isn’t the app itself that kills the possibilities, it’s the people who use them. I say this because I have found certain things people do. 1) They lie in their profiles, 2) They do not use their latest pictures, they use old ones to hide aging, and other problems. 3) I find many are not there just to make friends or find a partner, many want money from you, or to get into your life financially, because they want it. 4) Then, there are those who, want you to take care of them, because they are ill or injuried and need an assistant to help them through life now. All of the above is true on most dating apps these days. The fears and apprehensions that come out are crazy. Too many worries in using dating apps, they do just eat your money and they auto-renew on you, if your not careful.

If you have a bowling alley near by use it. If you have a place to dance use it, A Group to hike or walk do it. If you, can even just play a game for fun, just do it. As long as you participate and meet new people in your age bracket do it. Even if it is a book club or writting club, do it, it gets you out there among others, and we are all human and need some himan interaction in our lives, or we go stir crazy or get depressed. And believe you, me, depression is not good, and stir crazy can get ya into trouble. Some like bars or taverns, they like to drink and eat. Some don’t. Personally while I like open enviroments, and less people, in my opinion, others like large crowds. It is indeed a personal choice for us all is it not? I think it is, just like, we pick and choose our lovers and partners, we pick and choose our friends. Some you get on with easily, others you don’t get along with at all, so you avoid one another and carry-on. I was never one to force myself on anyone, in anyway. So I avoid being a bother to anyone or a burden, and I do my own thing. I write, I watch tv and movies, I read alot, I walk alot. I like to cook now and then, for fun is all. I play billards once a week and bowl when I can if healthy. It gets me out of my home, into the world and among some people. It is called seeking contact, without being too serious, lol, at least in my book. But, that is life is it not folks?

People tell me to go to the Senior Center, get involved there they say. Well, I am 69 but I feel out of place in a Senior Center still. So I try to not go, unless there is a purpose I am interested in. I guess everyone feels different about that, but, thats my feelings on it all.

Am I happy, where I live and how I live? I am happy with how I live, and do the best I can. I try to stay healthy, clean my place and keep my mind busy. I like puzzles to build when I am in that mood, I have played video games also. But, writting poetry, stories and blogs, is my thing these days. Opinions are good to have if you don’t force anything on anyone, you can voice them. Some just putter along, I walk alone when I feel the need, a little walking stretches the legs and keeps me flexiable. But as to where I live, well that my friends is a different story so to say. I think, when we reach a certain age and status in life, we tend to look for more age definded, places to live. Thus a 55 plus community, became the choice for me. I thought, it would be among those my age and easier to get along in. While the community in general is a good idea for downsizing from a large home you can’t take care of anymore, it is not necessarily the way to go. One thing about these 55 plus community is people tend to get into each others business. They talk, and it becomes much like the old TV Show Peyton Place from many years ago, I don’t go there, and it is not my thing to do so. so, I live by a Theory these days, that is out in a book called the Let Them Theory. I let them think what they want, say what they want and do what they want, as long as it doesn’t physically or socially affect me. Then I go by the other end of said Theory too, Let Me Be me. I worry less what others do or say, and more of making myself happier this way. It is something I would reccomend others should do too. Momma always told me as a child, mind your own, and take care of your own and you will be fine. It’s when you over reach or put yourself too far out there, you get in trouble. It’s true, Momma knew!

Each year, I love to watch the NFL Games and NBA games too. while I follow MLB too, I don’t watch it on tv. A Baseball game would put me to sleep, it moves too slow. Hockey no thank you I say. Olympics I love to watch when they come around. In the meantime I watch tv shows that are mysteries, crime dramas mostly. I even like just putting Utube on for music and letting it play. Yet, life moves at it’s own pace and yes I am getting older. I don’t go drinking to drink, not a party animal of any kind. I may have a beer on a social occasion to fit in only. Alcohol is not me, I dislike it, I have seen too many people get addicted to it and ruin theirs and others lives and hurt people both physically and emotionally. No thank you. I don’t do drugs either, medications are bad enough when needed. lol. so, thats me, in a nutshell so to say, I am not anything other than a normal man, who takes life one day at a time, each encounter or person one at a time too. But, thats me, not all do that, some have a set purpose or way of doing things, I believe in some flexiabily in life.

Time has shown me don’t get too involved in Politics either. It is today’s atmosphere in politics I can’t take. I am not a MAGA supporter, and I don’t like the way, our President is doing business. I won’t publically fight over it, I avoid it, too much violence and anger exists over it all. I do realize, while we must all save our money and go day by day, arguing with people you can’t sway is not the way. So, i adapt to what is there and do the best I can to survive, don’t we all?

One thing I will do, if I see someone down, or hurt or needing help, and I can help them, I will. Helping is one thing, getting too involved is another thing lol. So I try to be careful in this area too, for some take helping as an insult to them, and get made. I learned ask first before you help, don’t rush in. when you do, people tend to look at you like an invading party in war time, lol. But, life is all about being careful and not over extending yourself, so we all survive well. Thats my blog for today folks. Be Well!

Whats next America?


There comes a time. for all to realize, some things in America today. So, as a blogger, a single senior male, who is a widower, I look for ways to wake the American spirit I once knew growing up.

I was born in the 1950’s, and grew up in the 1960’s amd 1970’s. we had schools that taught, cars that worked an dprotected you, because they were made of steel. We had the best darn music too, with Aerosmith, Deep Purple, The Doobie Brothers, and all the Motown groups and artists. Movies were made to entertain, not shock, and not show how to kill. What happened to our world folks?

People had jobs and factories were everywhere. Work was plenty and prices were low, on gas, utilities and homes. We actually had the best years when I was young for sure. we found friends at parks and in schools. We kept the friends we had too. Some we have lost that is true and some moved on like me and you. Yet, some stayed and will never go away, we keep in touch is all I can say.

What happened to the peaceful streets of small towns and cities. What happened to peaceful protests, of the days of Martin Luther King, Bobby Kennedy? What happened to Presidents who had logic and common sense and morals and ethics? Where did our good Senators and Representatives go? You know the ones that would fight for our benefits, our rights, or freedoms! Where are you now, when we need you most?

Our streets and news filled with violence and shootings. Prices rising steadily, people hungry asking for food, homelessness rising, and hate mongers preaching and getting people more riled up than ever before. What happened folks, where did we go wrong? In my lifetime, I was born under Eisenhowser folks, he warned of the military, he warned of Russia. Kennedy came in and it began with his assasination, the bullets took over. But, at least it stayed stable for a while under Johnson and Nixon, of course there was Watergate too. what happened folks, where did the corruption come in, the anger and hate that now shakes America to it’s core?

Now prices are high again, jobs are disappearing and the homelessness rises again. People are hungry folks, desperate once more, begging for help. The anger between the Political Parties has now boiled over to the full public, as republicans and democrats argue and fight it out, with threats, and some die from bullets once more. Why?

Isn’t there a way to debate and discuss anymore? Isn’t there any morals and ethics and beliefs to treat one another fairly anymore? Where did it go folks? Please tell me why I can’t turn on the news and not see someone was shot today, or someone robbed or killed someone today? Why, is so much anger and misery in America, the land of the free, that we call it? Is there ever going to be peace again?

Let me state a few things here. We are still a republic and a democracy at least right now. we still have a Constitution folks and our Bills of Rights. But, for how long is my question? Can we maintain it or will we lose it all? I have said it before, and I say it again here, Empires are built and they fall, will, America fall like the rest after all? Are we too greedy, too angry, too non-caring, like the others that fell before us? Is our moral and ethical basis disappearing, is America crumbling? It sure looks like it to me.

Our children go to school, shootings, education is disappearing because it is being shut down by our President and Governement. why? Voting is being questioned left and right, mail in voting they want to kill next. One by one, piece by piece America is being dismantled, when will it stop? Social Security under attack, Medicare, Medicaid too. We paid into Social Security to have something for retirememnt, now, who knows how long it shall last? Medical costs skyrocket each day, elderly people die because their insurance isn’t paid and they can’t afford it. Burials are crazy prices and funerals too. what is America becoming is my question folks, where is it heading to?

The laws of the land we live in are constantly under attack. The Supreme Court does not act, and it protects the President, no one else it seems. Thats what happens when you let one man pick the Judges and they owe him you see. It’s as plain as it gets to see. I wish to remind everyone, no President can serve three terms in office, it’s the law of the land. It changed for a reason, and it should remain that way.

Wars rage around the world now, and slowly but surely, America is being drawn into them. Ukraine battles for it’s existence, Gaza falls to Israel, yet, we watch in horror and do nothing. Russian drones fly into Nato countries and Nato does not react, what is Nato for then, if not for protection of it’s members? Please explain that one?

Look I am a man who served my country for 16 years. I gave up my time, my energy, my body to defend and protect, what I believed in and still do to this day. I am disabled and a Veteran, I am old now, we served volunteerily back then, now we can’t find men and women to serve, not anymore in the same spirit. This is not the America, the Founding Fathers brought forth, anymore. It has turned into a quasi-autocratic nation under one man, who wants to be king, and dictator in one. Sadly, no one is stopping him! Congress grovels at his feet and kisses his ass, and he just goes on doing as he wants with illegal Executive Orders, and breaks laws left and right. Why isn’t he being stopped or impeached? So many politicans who hated Trump originally all of a sudden turned around and now kiss up to him, why? What is he holding over these people? The fear of being primaried? Look folks, you, can run again if you wish, but you will not win the votes, if you don’t grow a set of balls and stand up for what is right! Thats my opinion anyway. The way I see it, the mid-terms will come soon enough, and by November 2026, more Republican and MAGA politicans wil be headed home. America can not and I believe will not allow, this to continue for too long. It’s a check and balance thing we have going for us. It must now, snap back into place very soon. If it doesn’t folks, do yourself a favor, get a copy of Babbel language programs and learn Russian, because we are headed there. And that my fellow Americans, is not what we want for sure!

Navigating Dating as a Senior: Personal Insights


I went on Silver Singles an djoined ot try to find a lady in her mid-sixties to date and get to know. While I understand it is not easy to do in today’s America I figured I would give it a try. I did meet one lady, who is a very nice person, but, there was no chemistry or attraction for me on my part toward her. So I have to politely, let her down and say goodbye the best way I could, without hurting her.

Now I am not, Mr. Handsome, or Don Juan or anything of that sort. I am an average guy in my mind, who is a bit of an introvert, and not one who flirts. I also have not been in the dating scene in many years, except for a few dips in over the last three years. When I do try, I am amazed at how hard it is to find someone and get to know them. I am honest and if I do not like the lady I am with, I will tell them up front. If after a few dates or times together I do not feel an attraction or a romantic inclination toward the lady, I will l tell her either in person or through a text. I honestly am not saying the personality was wrong, for it wasn’t, there just was no physical attraction of any nature and no romantic inclinations on my part. So, I just basically, said good-bye as, nice as I could.

I am not a big bar or tavern person either, so meeting women in them is not my thing. While I enjoy social outtings, I can not handle large crowds well. So I have a two folded problem in meeting anyone that has become now, 3 folded in a way. 1) I am a bit of an introvert when it comes to women I do not know. 2) Flirting is an art I do not know how to do properly. 3) My age being 69, puts me at a distinct disadvantage, because finding single senior women is not easy for me.

Anyway, life goes on and I will keep trying, but, is there a way to get there in Westborough, Ma.? I tried going to Taverns and bars in town, and when I do, they are loaded with people, and I get nervous and can’t handle the crowds so I leave. I usually try to sit at the bar and have a sandwhich and a drink at least, unless it is full and crowded, then I do not stay.

But, I have learned now to live alone again, and take care of myself. While I would like a female friend to hang with, laugh with and as a companion and friend and maybe a lover, I do not want to have anyone take advantage of me, or try to take what is mine. I think that is pretty clear, right?

Would I date someone who lives in my condo complex? Well, originally when I moved here, I said no. But, over time i have thought about it more than once. I think if a woman wanted to date me here, or I wanted to ask one, it would have to be done, with the idea that what happens between two people stays between the two involved. Even if it ended in a breakup that went sour it is no ones business except those involved, in my opinion. I hope that makes sense, for in my book that is being mature about it all.

Anyway, just a few thoughts on what I am thinking about in my search for someone to date. I don’t care what others think about what I do, No matter what you do, people talk, some wil say bad things, some good, and you can’t change that fact. So, Let Them is What I say. Can’t control it, so why worry about it. I can only control my own actions and what I say and do period, so Let me, be clear, I will do as I please to make myself happy, if I can. I hope that makes sense, lol.

Embrace Your True Self: The Let Them Theory Explained


September 15th, 2025, is upon us already folks. It is clear to me the year is passing quickly and time waits on no one. I have learned that each day should be treated as important to each of us, for no matter how fast it flies by, we are always a speck or vision in someone else’s eye. You may not know you are being noticed, or seen, but, you are.

I can honestyly say, I miss my younger days, when I would run like the wind. when I would be outside day after day, going to friends homes, to fishing trips, to play neighborhood football or basketball at the park. I miss the days, of having fun and not caring, just have the act of always sharing. When your younger you have the energy, the ability to dance, run, jump and be. Yes, it’s true, you are not everyone’s cup of tea!

I am reading a book called The Let Them Theory, by Mel Robbins. The point is not the theory itself, but how you use it, in so many ways, if you do it correctly. She makes a good point, of telling us, you can’t change people’s opinions or what they will do. So Let them be. Let them judge ypou, Let Them think they are better than you. Just be you and carry-on, no sense fighting you see, it isa waste of energy.

The second half of it I think is vital to your outlook on who you are and can be. because like Mel Robbins says, Letting Them is half the story, the second part is Let Me. Let Me be me, Let me be free, Let me, do what makes me happy. What that engulfs when you put them together is one major factor we all tend to ignore as we go along. Stop trying or allowing, others to change who you are. Stop, letting others telling you what to do, or how far you can go! Stop letting others opinions or words or actions, get in your way of doing what is right for you and those you love. You can’t, let someone telling you something is wrong to do, if you know it is right for you. So, remember when you do things, it is not always for someone else you are doing it, It is for yourself, so, Let Me Be Me, is what I say. I have always said it in my life, I am me, whoselse can I be! That is vital to your individuality!

While Mel Robbins’ book is a decent Theory and interesting, if you read it, you may find it a little repetitive in what it is saying. Don’t let that stop you folks, I believe sheis repeating some of it in her writing for a reason, it’s called reenforcing it in your mind. It works, if you us eit like a mantra.

We tend to forget, we can not change what people want to think or do around us. We tend to forget at times we shouldn’t bend over backwards to please someone else constantly. When we do, we are changing who we are to please someone else. Shouldn”t be folks. Yes I agree not everyone will love or like you, and I agree life isn’t easy. But, you have to remember the old saying, Ya Can’t please everyone, so you have to please yourself! You can help others, you can advise others, but you can’t make anyone do a damn thing. So, just be you and be your best self, Let Them be them and Let me Be me.