Tag: men

Simple Survey of Massachuetts Women


Lets do a survey, of Massachuetts women who are over 60, single, divorced or Widowed I will ask some questions, I do not want your phone number or email or even your name, just simple answers if you can provide them, ladies.

First question,

  1. As a single women in today’s world, what is the first thing that draws you to a man?
  2. While all men will admit, we love a women’s curves and her pretty face, we know, that is not all women want us to notice, so what is most important to you? A) Your intelligence, B) To Be Respected, C) To Be cared for, D) To be listened to?
  3. What makes for a lasting relationship for you?
  4. Why in Massachuetts, a place where all women are well educated, and smart and make their own money, is it so hard for a man to get a date with you women?
  5. Do fears of being abused, used or taken for money come into play and if so, how?
  6. What age differences matter to you as a women, what range say like 10 years or less or can it be more?
  7. As a woman in your 60’s or up, are you seeking companionship, friendship, a relationship or what?
  8. What makes you listen to and be attracted to a man? A) His looks B) His Physical Form C) His intelligence, D) His sense of humor E) His ability to participate in events and such ? f) His Pick-up lines?
  9. In Massachuetts, where do senior women over 60 go and what are they looking to do?
  10. Last but not least, I notice Massachuetts women will look, smile, but never approach a man, in anyway, why is that?

Now I ask these questions for my own personal knowledge and to try to get some insights to the women of Massachuetts. As a Single widower age 69, living alone, I have to wonder all all of these points. So any help ladies would be nice.

If you wish to answer some of these questions or all for me; please feel free to reply in confidence and without any names, numbers or email addresses, to bmccurrach20@gmail.com. Thank You for reading this, if you did and taking the time, if you answer, ahead of time.

Understanding Senior Dating and Loneliness Syndrome


Good Morning all, it is Sunday Feb. 23rd, 2025. It’s a whole 35 degrees outside and sunny today here, in Westborough, Massachusetts. Usually most people who read my blogs, think all I do is politics in them. Well, this one is on a different subject, to consider for most.

I am doing this one on what the Government, has publicly stated, is the Loneliness Syndrome. That is real in America. My take on this subject, will be based on 55 plus, Seniors and the dating world today.

I live as many know in a 55 plus community. Now according to all people who know the population here. The women out number the men by at least 3 to 1. Which makes the men living here, basically the minority. So, that said, if like i have been told, there are 40 Single men living here. That makes, a whole lot more single women living here. 3 to 1 means at least 120 women to the 40 men, currently.

Senior dating in such a community among community members, is not well looked upon. At least that is what I was told when I moved in or shortly after. So, I made a decision not to date anyone living here. I thought well it is better that way and safer. Is it really, I don’t know.

Now in general, I hear women complain about men not approaching them on a daily basis. I know women are taught at a young age as girls, not to approach men. They are taught that men should do the approaching period. So they do not attempt, to do so. Now, this is fine, until you realize, the men are not doing it for some reason.

Ever wonder why ladies? So lets break a few myths, or ideas or thoughts here. You may, find the answers you seek in this, for I have viewed it all.

  1. Women set very high standards for the men they date. And men, get the feeling they are not wanted because of that.
  2. Men have some of the same worries that women have, in the dating world.
  3. Like women, men like to be respected, and they worry about finances too, both sexes do.
  4. Men do not like to be taken for money, any more then a woman does.
  5. Men do not like being used anymore than women do.
  6. Women expect men to be able to read signals and understand when they are interested. It not necessarily so, ladies.
  7. Men hesitate to approach a woman for many reasons. As the same applies in return.
  8. One unsure, lack of confidence.
  9. Two, scared of rejection and not sure if they can handle it.
  10. Three is simple, they aren’t sure of how to do so. Either due to lack of experience or what would work.
  11. We sometimes, know we will end up in the friendship bin, so we don’t go there.
  12. Let me say this, in todays society. Men are frowned upon if they approach too fast, too slow or in the wrong way. We know we can be ignored or worse.
  13. Senior Dating while it should be fun, can be rough. men and women both know, we are taking a chance, if we put ourselves out there.
  14. So, what do you do, if your lonely, and want a relationship? Good question right!
  15. I have looked into this and what I got back from many women is the following:
  16. Volunteer in an Organization in town.
  17. Join The Senior Center
  18. Join The library
  19. Get involved in Politics and Town business.
  20. All good ideas, but, not a good way to find someone really.
  21. Join a Gym or Health Club, at 69 not sure that would work.
  22. Dating Apps, like Zoosk, Match, and others. Cost and not always honest.

Now, I have tried some dating apps, like Zoosk, Match, Plenty of Fish, and such. Let me give you my results and see what you think.

A) The first one i met was a woman, who was very healthy and loved to walk miles a day. Took three dates to go no thank you. She didn’t match her profile, in my book, And not my type.

B) The second one I met I took to lunch in her town at a diner. What I found was, she didn’t look like her profile pic first off. Secondly, she was far too busy to be dating.

C) The third woman I met was a nice person and we went to dinner together. We enjoyed a fine meal chatted, but there was no chemistry there. Common right, happens. we even paid dutch.

D) The fourth woman I met off a dating App was kind, polite and a good person. we had a meal on me, chatted and laughed and said goodbye. I am not a religious man and she is religious. So, matching is a problem.

As you can see, the other problem with Senior Dating is matching, age, interests and more. All of us want to date or be with someone we can like, enjoy and do things with. By doing that we all, tend, to get to know each other better and go forward. if we have nothing in common, no physical chemistry or attraction, well, it doesn’t work.

I talked to one woman, I met, and she told me she is in her 60’s, never married. When I asked why, she told me she was too fussy, and wouldn’t go there. we laughed when she said it, but, I could, tell, it bothered her. Sadly, many people of both genders do this. What no one gets is even in today’s world, one answer comes to mind. Compromise! We don’t want to, so we end up alone.

Any good relationship, takes compromise folks, and that is on both sides. some of us will go to Church, even if we don’t now. Some of us will accept a smoker and some won’t. Some will take a drinker and some won’t. The problem isn’t what we won’t take or accept, it is making it clear up front and being honest. Some things many will accept, like pets, children, and more. Others will stand firm, and state they won’t. It’s rough in America, in the dating scene, but even rougher, when your a Senior. Why, because you are set in your ways, you do not wish to change. Until you do and compromise in someway, loneliness will be your companion.

For me I may, have made a mistake in saying I wouldn’t date anyone, in my condo complex. But, if I back up, and change that how will it affect me and those around me? There are many factors one has to consider. Mainly is it worth it to try, and secondly, what happens if it fails? Then, I have to face the backlash that can happen, where I live. I have always thought if a relationship breaks up, it is always blamed on the man. If that happens, then it spreads through the female population quickly, and bam, your an outcast. Maybe I am wrong, time shall tell.