Tag: mental-health

Happy Sunday All From me to you!


I can honestly say, I am no spring chicken anymore at 69 years old. My body aches, my parts swell up and my mind is sharp, but at times it can be a little tart. Even if the mind stays sharp folks because you keep up on current events, or write like I do, the lack of interactions, with others can get to you. As, we age, as we all know our bodies, start to ache and hurt, arthritis sets in, joints swell and make life a little slower at each point. we move less, we talk less and we at times judge others fast too. It’s a part of human nature, just as mother nature takes over also, wearing us down.

Now you can exercise and walk and try to interact as much as you can, but, it won’t solve the aches and pains of aging, nor, will it solve the true loneliness we feel either. I say this because, we all find someone at some point in life we love and care for and want to be with. But, as we all know, it doesn’t always work out that way, or if it does, due to the fates and destiny, it ends because one passes away. That leaves the remaining person, floundering, floating and hoping, to connect once more. In today’s world though, the lack of societial norms, and interactions is killing the country and the world. Too many fears about, age, politics, beliefs, How we look, what color our skins, what religion we are into, all affect it. At some point in life, folks, you start to learn we are people of habits and what we were taught in our younger days, sticks with us in our older days.

Because of the human nature of all of this, people today, do not have the same interactions we did when we were younger. We lock ourselves into safe and old reliable patterns, and steer clear of things we know will disturb or upset us. We also, tend to avoid talking, as much as we can. As seniors will tell you and there are many of us today, some dislike people who talk too much, or are too cherry and bright. Why, because it disturbs their inner peace and their ability to concentrate as needed. So, you get comments like, tone it down, don’t laugh so much, calm down, or the classic one I hear a lot, behave yourself. Listen folks, not to disappoint or upset you, yet, I think you should take these little saying and innuendos and stick em where the sun doesn’t shine! People need to be themselves in the world, and they need to be able to openly communicate and interact, or you end up with one hell of a morbid, sad, depressing world, where people slowly die off, alone and in pain from it all.

Humanity is in trouble today and so is the world as a whole. The planets resources are being used up and wasted faster then they will ever replenish themselves. The atmosphere has been polluted beyond repair and the oceans are clogged with garbage and trash and animals are dying off. Yet, mankind stays it’s own course destroying and using up all we can. Animals don’t destroy anywhere as much as mankind does. we call it making advances, when we create something new, or we find new ways to do something, but, do we ever stop to look at what it means to the rest of the world, our climate or atmosphere or oceans and lands? Nope, we barrell ahead, and do so, not out of the need for such an advance, but, for the love of money. And in the end it will be the demise of humanity, for greed kills all folks. Never forget to share but always conserve too.

Every human being out there has their own personal needs, their own personal fears too. Many, also can lack manners and morals and ethics, for we are not all raised the same. Then we run dead into the race and color barriers mankind has created. Predijuce, discrimination, politics, hate and anger. Why folks, why? Ever hear of the old saying Live and Let Live? The biggest part of it, that is disturbing is the societal norms we once had in the world are now gone. People don’t interact the way they used to anymore. Like I said, manners disappear, anger comes out, people seperate and hide from one another, and divisons happens between races, colors, nationalities and more. The anger goes so deep it causes wars, and elminations of whole nations and peoples. Why? The world must learn to stop the hate, to listen more, communicate more, to understand more. If we don’t folks, we shall ultimately isolate more and end up hating each other, till we kill each other off. It must stop!

Men and women alone in America do not date anymore, or at least no where near the way they used to. We don’t have the social places to meet anymore. A Coffee Shop is not a good place to meet someone, not really. A Bar or Tavern is great for drinking, or trying to get lucky, yes, but it doesn’t build lasting relationships. So the question is what does, in today’s world?

The fears are more than anything, a seperator between the sexes. Women fear men will use them for sexual favors and dump them. They fear being taken for money or belongings. They want men to take care of them, provide for them. men, today are not the same men your parents knew ladies. The men today, don’t want to provide for you.

Just as you women don’t want to be locked into certain things either. Many women these days hate the idea of no jobs for them, or being locked into being housewifes or mothers and nothing else. They want to be known for more than their bodies, they want to be taken as a whole person and accepted for who they are. And they are right men, the women deserve that just as much as we men do too. In the end, the inability to openly communicate that, to listen is killing relationships and possibilities left and right. Fears, lack of manners, lack of ethics, lack of morals all contribute to what I am saying here. Expectations also are a problem folks. many expect certain things, and if they don’t get them from someone they will walk away. There is a very old saying, there are many fish in the sea, when it comes to dating, but, the truth is the sea is now under populated in areas and over populated in others, and fishing is rougher than ever. Why too many things in the way, too many self inflicted restrictions and requirements and needs, that are not being met. Wants, needs, cares, all come into play, and too many people rush and don’t stop to realize it. So , the world is now a much lonelier place for many of us. when a simple smile or causual conversation used to be easy to do, it is no longer true. We hesitate, we stop, we reverse or we shut up. Out of fear of what the response will be, no one likes rejection folks, believe me. But, people avoid, detract and walk away, from things they don’t like or can’t handle. Yet, to fight the current so to say, is not as easy as it was yesterday. Societial Norms are missing, interactions are missing, and fears, and dislikes and discrimination and predijuce are all rearing their ugky heads. I don’t like your religion, I don’t like your color, I don’t like your politics, and more comes into play each day. Instead of listening we shout over one another or at one another. You can’t get along that way folks, for you can shout till you die, but, unless you learn to listen to the other side, you will get no where! As one man said long ago and many forget today, communication is a two way street folks, if one talks, one listens and it must be mutual listening and talking in order for a real conversation and meeting of the minds to work. It definitely, takes listening, by both sides to work. No relationship ever works out, if it is all one-sided.

Wel thats just my thoughts for this Sunday morning folks! Please remember, opinions are things we all have and form. We may state them, we may write them, we may speak them, not everyone will accept them. As I once told someone long ago, I won’t force my opinions or beliefs on you, you don’t force yours on me and we shall be fine. The biggest objection in the world most people have, is being forced into something, so don’t do it to others, if you don’t want it done to you. Happy Sunday All From me to you!

Some Thoughts on a Sunday Morning !


In life we al have our little pleasures, our little likes and dislikes. We all have things that make us smile, or make us cry, make us laugh or make us sigh. Some of us, live on sports, some on music, some on books, or something that we find special to do. Some like to read and study history, others love to write, stories, articles, blogs or poems. Some argue politics, and some don’t, the thing with politics is simple folks, no matter which side or party you back, someone will always argue the opposite is best. When that happens is, when anger rises, and people don’t understand, most of the time, it is best to just walk away. You can’t change people’s opinions folks, or what they think, only they can themselves by researching and learning on their own. Always remember that, the next time someone gets angry or upset over a political statement or action, walk away. It’s not worth facing potential physical violence or even verbal assault. Save yourself the trouble, walk please.

With that said, I used to DJ online a lot, music was my thing in the 1990s, I would DJ. I have a colllection of music that fills an external hardrive I gathered over the years. It runs from Rock, to Country, to Jazz, to Motown and more. I found over the years even classical music has a place and time in my life. Music is like a special spice in one’s life, that lightens the spirit, makes you dance or move and lifts your spirits all in one. Music always brightens the mood and helps one through the duldrums of life. So, remember when, your down, play that special band, group or artist or song that makes you smile and carry-on like nothing is wrong. For in your heart and mind you will always have a special song.

Music is one of my loves, as is writting, Poetry I do as it hits me, so to say. A partcular topic or event may come to mind and make me go off in a poetry way. It may be love that sparks it, it may be anger, it can be an event, or one of danger. Or I may write of loneliness, or absence, or maybe depression or sadness. Each day we get up, an event or interaction may interact with us in someway, and that may become a key to a new poem or even a story or song. Inspiration comes from many sources my friends, sometimes it can be a smiling face across a bright room, or a face across a dark one and a gloom. You never know, just remember it can happen and will somehow, or so.

I labeled my Blog, for Rants, Poems, Stories and more. So when whatever mood hits me, I can express what I think. I do not force my opinions on anyone I just voice them by writting them out here. Wheither you agree or disagree, is up to you of course and I leave the commenting to each one who reads what I post. I may not reply to your comments, but I do read them, so you know.

I am at a stage of life where I realize my opinions do not match everyone else’s. But thats ok, for as we age, we do get set in our ways. It is expected at least by me, for each of us is an individual you see. We all have different levels of experience and interactions that affect us. So when we sit down and talk, if I don’t like what you say or do, and I walk away, don’t take it personal, for it just means, I don’t wish to fight or argue over any point in the discussion, so walking, is the best to do. I do not disrespect your beliefs, your opinions, or thoughts or what you say or how you say it, please don’t try to do that to me. As my mother said, Respect is not a given, it is earned, the way to get it, is by being respectful at all times in return. What you put out, you shall get back and that my friends is just a fact. So, don’t treat anyone in anyway you would not want treated yourself. If you do, your asking for the same in return and you won’t like it. Just a thought for all, that is.

Mutual respect, manners, kindness, caring and sharing is right! It should be spread and shown each day and night. I am not saying be a beacon yourself, but it doesn’t help to be kind and nice to everyone else! Happy Sunday all, I hope all have a great day!

Navigating Dating as a Senior: A Widower’s Perspective


Ok, Whats new is alwaysa question for me. Since I am a widower and single and 69, I try to find different things to do. Walking is always big for me, as is bowling at least twicea week when I can. I lik eplaying billards once a week where I live. Other than that I am usually hunting an dlooking for things to do.

Some say go to the Senior Center and hang out and you will meet people, thats true. And I don’t knock the Senior Center at all, but, I do feel like I don’t really belong when there. Maybe I am just not there yet, so I feel out of place. Nothing against the Center itself believe me.

I do like to bowl which keeps me active at least. I do read some and try to stay up to date on the news too and tv. I like movies but haven’t been to one in ages, cause it is not fun alone.

Drinking and Clubs and Taverns, are not my thing really. I will go to one, once in a while here in Westborough, just to get out, havea meal and a drink and to look around. Usuaually, most in the Bars, Tavern around wetsborough are people in their 30’s to 50’s who are dating or already have a partner they are dating. So fora single widower my age of 69, it gets to feel like I am a fifth wheel so to say.

As to the dating scene as I see it today here in Westborough, I know many have fears, especially the ladies. I respect their fears and I am never aggressive nor do I chase them. I don’t need a place tos tay, I own, I don’t need someone’s money ladies, I am fine on my own. I do not abuse women either never have and never will wasn’t raised that wya and I do not have a agressive or anger problem. I do tend to stay away from trouble and I do get the fact that not everyone is your cup of tea or mine so to speak. I try to be honest, I try to be fair, and I always try to be respectful and kind. It’s just my nature I think.

So when I do go Bowling, or to a mall or something, even a tavern or bar, I am me. I don’t like talking politics in public it causes wars and fights these days.Sports I love and it’s NFL time once more, with The NBA is coming back soon enough. I am a Celtics fan and hope their rebuild wil be great an dthey have a great season. some ask me about MLB, while I am a Red sox fan, I can’t sit through a game on tv, it puts me to sleep too long. Football I watch, Basketball I watch. But hey, I like sports.

So Anyway life goes on. As a single widower, I find it slow and hard to find someone to match with or date. Age does play a factor for sure, as well as what to do each day when retired. So, I go day to day, and hope, is all. The hardest part of being a widower my age of 69, is the fact of being alone. I have to say I had a total of 40 years of marriage in my life of 69 years. One was 12 years, the second 28 years. So I think I did fine, and I was very lucky. When I look around and see the single , divorced or widowed women, I also see fears and anger in many. Some believe a man wants them just for one thing or another. Let me say this, I don’t wnat someone’s home, or money, or just for their body. I do like companionship, I do love women for their sense of humor, intelligence and to be with. But, dating at 69, is like being interviewed for a job, or something. A million questions, a million different views, and then even if you get through them, you still have to find attraction and chemistry. It’s liek having a job just to get a date, the search, the asking, the dating, the interview and the response can be fun, and rejection can be big. so, what does one do, well, I know what I do, I just go day to day, and hope is all. being positive helps, folks.

Dating for us Seniors is like a trek down a mystery highway, for you know not what the next corner or turn will be. So, one day at a time is all one can do. I will say this, I never dod learn to flirt properly, some are good at it, me I am clumsy and don’t get it. But, I must of done something right, for two marriages totaled 40 years for me. LOL

Be Well, My Blog for today!


Good Morning September 21st, 2025, for me the day began at 5 am. It seems since my wife passed in August of 2021, I don’t sleep as much as I used to. But, I am sure I am not the only person who is a widower or widow who has this problem. we all get used to our better half being there to comfort or cuddle or just as a presense we enjoy so much we relax best around them. It’s a natural occurrance for a married couple or long time couple.

I knew when I married my wife of 28 years, one of us would go first and since she was indeed 16 years my senior, I also knew it would be her, most likely. She knew it too, and accepted it. she also told me, I would be fine once she passed, she told me I am a realist, I realize what must be done to survive and adjust. Of course she was right, she usually always was, she had more experience period.

I have learned more though since she has passed. Dating apps don’t work folks, they suck up your money and no matter what you do or say, you don’t get far in meeting anyone. You can write great profiles, you can be polite, you can be nasty, you can say almost anything to get a date, and it doesn’t work much at all. It isn’t the app itself that kills the possibilities, it’s the people who use them. I say this because I have found certain things people do. 1) They lie in their profiles, 2) They do not use their latest pictures, they use old ones to hide aging, and other problems. 3) I find many are not there just to make friends or find a partner, many want money from you, or to get into your life financially, because they want it. 4) Then, there are those who, want you to take care of them, because they are ill or injuried and need an assistant to help them through life now. All of the above is true on most dating apps these days. The fears and apprehensions that come out are crazy. Too many worries in using dating apps, they do just eat your money and they auto-renew on you, if your not careful.

If you have a bowling alley near by use it. If you have a place to dance use it, A Group to hike or walk do it. If you, can even just play a game for fun, just do it. As long as you participate and meet new people in your age bracket do it. Even if it is a book club or writting club, do it, it gets you out there among others, and we are all human and need some himan interaction in our lives, or we go stir crazy or get depressed. And believe you, me, depression is not good, and stir crazy can get ya into trouble. Some like bars or taverns, they like to drink and eat. Some don’t. Personally while I like open enviroments, and less people, in my opinion, others like large crowds. It is indeed a personal choice for us all is it not? I think it is, just like, we pick and choose our lovers and partners, we pick and choose our friends. Some you get on with easily, others you don’t get along with at all, so you avoid one another and carry-on. I was never one to force myself on anyone, in anyway. So I avoid being a bother to anyone or a burden, and I do my own thing. I write, I watch tv and movies, I read alot, I walk alot. I like to cook now and then, for fun is all. I play billards once a week and bowl when I can if healthy. It gets me out of my home, into the world and among some people. It is called seeking contact, without being too serious, lol, at least in my book. But, that is life is it not folks?

People tell me to go to the Senior Center, get involved there they say. Well, I am 69 but I feel out of place in a Senior Center still. So I try to not go, unless there is a purpose I am interested in. I guess everyone feels different about that, but, thats my feelings on it all.

Am I happy, where I live and how I live? I am happy with how I live, and do the best I can. I try to stay healthy, clean my place and keep my mind busy. I like puzzles to build when I am in that mood, I have played video games also. But, writting poetry, stories and blogs, is my thing these days. Opinions are good to have if you don’t force anything on anyone, you can voice them. Some just putter along, I walk alone when I feel the need, a little walking stretches the legs and keeps me flexiable. But as to where I live, well that my friends is a different story so to say. I think, when we reach a certain age and status in life, we tend to look for more age definded, places to live. Thus a 55 plus community, became the choice for me. I thought, it would be among those my age and easier to get along in. While the community in general is a good idea for downsizing from a large home you can’t take care of anymore, it is not necessarily the way to go. One thing about these 55 plus community is people tend to get into each others business. They talk, and it becomes much like the old TV Show Peyton Place from many years ago, I don’t go there, and it is not my thing to do so. so, I live by a Theory these days, that is out in a book called the Let Them Theory. I let them think what they want, say what they want and do what they want, as long as it doesn’t physically or socially affect me. Then I go by the other end of said Theory too, Let Me Be me. I worry less what others do or say, and more of making myself happier this way. It is something I would reccomend others should do too. Momma always told me as a child, mind your own, and take care of your own and you will be fine. It’s when you over reach or put yourself too far out there, you get in trouble. It’s true, Momma knew!

Each year, I love to watch the NFL Games and NBA games too. while I follow MLB too, I don’t watch it on tv. A Baseball game would put me to sleep, it moves too slow. Hockey no thank you I say. Olympics I love to watch when they come around. In the meantime I watch tv shows that are mysteries, crime dramas mostly. I even like just putting Utube on for music and letting it play. Yet, life moves at it’s own pace and yes I am getting older. I don’t go drinking to drink, not a party animal of any kind. I may have a beer on a social occasion to fit in only. Alcohol is not me, I dislike it, I have seen too many people get addicted to it and ruin theirs and others lives and hurt people both physically and emotionally. No thank you. I don’t do drugs either, medications are bad enough when needed. lol. so, thats me, in a nutshell so to say, I am not anything other than a normal man, who takes life one day at a time, each encounter or person one at a time too. But, thats me, not all do that, some have a set purpose or way of doing things, I believe in some flexiabily in life.

Time has shown me don’t get too involved in Politics either. It is today’s atmosphere in politics I can’t take. I am not a MAGA supporter, and I don’t like the way, our President is doing business. I won’t publically fight over it, I avoid it, too much violence and anger exists over it all. I do realize, while we must all save our money and go day by day, arguing with people you can’t sway is not the way. So, i adapt to what is there and do the best I can to survive, don’t we all?

One thing I will do, if I see someone down, or hurt or needing help, and I can help them, I will. Helping is one thing, getting too involved is another thing lol. So I try to be careful in this area too, for some take helping as an insult to them, and get made. I learned ask first before you help, don’t rush in. when you do, people tend to look at you like an invading party in war time, lol. But, life is all about being careful and not over extending yourself, so we all survive well. Thats my blog for today folks. Be Well!

Navigating Dating as a Senior: Personal Insights


I went on Silver Singles an djoined ot try to find a lady in her mid-sixties to date and get to know. While I understand it is not easy to do in today’s America I figured I would give it a try. I did meet one lady, who is a very nice person, but, there was no chemistry or attraction for me on my part toward her. So I have to politely, let her down and say goodbye the best way I could, without hurting her.

Now I am not, Mr. Handsome, or Don Juan or anything of that sort. I am an average guy in my mind, who is a bit of an introvert, and not one who flirts. I also have not been in the dating scene in many years, except for a few dips in over the last three years. When I do try, I am amazed at how hard it is to find someone and get to know them. I am honest and if I do not like the lady I am with, I will tell them up front. If after a few dates or times together I do not feel an attraction or a romantic inclination toward the lady, I will l tell her either in person or through a text. I honestly am not saying the personality was wrong, for it wasn’t, there just was no physical attraction of any nature and no romantic inclinations on my part. So, I just basically, said good-bye as, nice as I could.

I am not a big bar or tavern person either, so meeting women in them is not my thing. While I enjoy social outtings, I can not handle large crowds well. So I have a two folded problem in meeting anyone that has become now, 3 folded in a way. 1) I am a bit of an introvert when it comes to women I do not know. 2) Flirting is an art I do not know how to do properly. 3) My age being 69, puts me at a distinct disadvantage, because finding single senior women is not easy for me.

Anyway, life goes on and I will keep trying, but, is there a way to get there in Westborough, Ma.? I tried going to Taverns and bars in town, and when I do, they are loaded with people, and I get nervous and can’t handle the crowds so I leave. I usually try to sit at the bar and have a sandwhich and a drink at least, unless it is full and crowded, then I do not stay.

But, I have learned now to live alone again, and take care of myself. While I would like a female friend to hang with, laugh with and as a companion and friend and maybe a lover, I do not want to have anyone take advantage of me, or try to take what is mine. I think that is pretty clear, right?

Would I date someone who lives in my condo complex? Well, originally when I moved here, I said no. But, over time i have thought about it more than once. I think if a woman wanted to date me here, or I wanted to ask one, it would have to be done, with the idea that what happens between two people stays between the two involved. Even if it ended in a breakup that went sour it is no ones business except those involved, in my opinion. I hope that makes sense, for in my book that is being mature about it all.

Anyway, just a few thoughts on what I am thinking about in my search for someone to date. I don’t care what others think about what I do, No matter what you do, people talk, some wil say bad things, some good, and you can’t change that fact. So, Let Them is What I say. Can’t control it, so why worry about it. I can only control my own actions and what I say and do period, so Let me, be clear, I will do as I please to make myself happy, if I can. I hope that makes sense, lol.

Embrace Your True Self: The Let Them Theory Explained


September 15th, 2025, is upon us already folks. It is clear to me the year is passing quickly and time waits on no one. I have learned that each day should be treated as important to each of us, for no matter how fast it flies by, we are always a speck or vision in someone else’s eye. You may not know you are being noticed, or seen, but, you are.

I can honestyly say, I miss my younger days, when I would run like the wind. when I would be outside day after day, going to friends homes, to fishing trips, to play neighborhood football or basketball at the park. I miss the days, of having fun and not caring, just have the act of always sharing. When your younger you have the energy, the ability to dance, run, jump and be. Yes, it’s true, you are not everyone’s cup of tea!

I am reading a book called The Let Them Theory, by Mel Robbins. The point is not the theory itself, but how you use it, in so many ways, if you do it correctly. She makes a good point, of telling us, you can’t change people’s opinions or what they will do. So Let them be. Let them judge ypou, Let Them think they are better than you. Just be you and carry-on, no sense fighting you see, it isa waste of energy.

The second half of it I think is vital to your outlook on who you are and can be. because like Mel Robbins says, Letting Them is half the story, the second part is Let Me. Let Me be me, Let me be free, Let me, do what makes me happy. What that engulfs when you put them together is one major factor we all tend to ignore as we go along. Stop trying or allowing, others to change who you are. Stop, letting others telling you what to do, or how far you can go! Stop letting others opinions or words or actions, get in your way of doing what is right for you and those you love. You can’t, let someone telling you something is wrong to do, if you know it is right for you. So, remember when you do things, it is not always for someone else you are doing it, It is for yourself, so, Let Me Be Me, is what I say. I have always said it in my life, I am me, whoselse can I be! That is vital to your individuality!

While Mel Robbins’ book is a decent Theory and interesting, if you read it, you may find it a little repetitive in what it is saying. Don’t let that stop you folks, I believe sheis repeating some of it in her writing for a reason, it’s called reenforcing it in your mind. It works, if you us eit like a mantra.

We tend to forget, we can not change what people want to think or do around us. We tend to forget at times we shouldn’t bend over backwards to please someone else constantly. When we do, we are changing who we are to please someone else. Shouldn”t be folks. Yes I agree not everyone will love or like you, and I agree life isn’t easy. But, you have to remember the old saying, Ya Can’t please everyone, so you have to please yourself! You can help others, you can advise others, but you can’t make anyone do a damn thing. So, just be you and be your best self, Let Them be them and Let me Be me.

3 Poems, from me to all! September 14th, 2025


Heaven Someday

William M. McCurrach

September 13, 2025

Life goes on day, by day,

We live it all,

Is what I say!

As we age we come to realize,

There are less, and less things,

That come as a surprise!

The years fly by,

There are laughs and tears,

The surprise is the passing of the years!

How fast they fly by,

The things we haven’t done,

Without knowing why?

As my life runs down,

There are fewer people around,

The deafening roar of silence,

Engulfs me once more.

I have my memories of fun times,

I have my memories of loves,

Yet, I hope, and pray,

There is a place in heaven for me someday.

Up above!

Don’t Lose your Mind!

September 11th, 2025

William M. McCurrach

In a world of anger,

A world of doubt,

Some of need to step back,

Take our time, and figure it out!

Too much violence,

Too much fear,

Too much pain,

For all of us,

To bear!

We feel the pain,

We feel the loses,

We wonder at the politicans,

Their plans,

and The Bosses.

But, we know the world will go on,

But at no time,

Will we surrender,

For we know, we must go on!

The World will change, and we can help it,

If we just wake up,

Pay attention,

And Stop the bullshit!

We can disagree if we wish,

We can argue if we wish.

We can discuss all of it.

But in the end the violence,

Is not the Answer to it!

It only excubates it you see,

Makes it worse for you and for me!

Lets tone it down,

Let be mature and logical,

Lets be repectful and kind,

Otherwise, we all will lose our mind!

Starting Anew

September 10,2025

William M. McCurrach

The magic of the days I knew in my past,

Come back to me sometimes in a flash.

I see the warm summer nights, the fall days of color,

The cold days of snuggling and cuddling,

Holding one another.

The days in the parks, playing simple games,

Where we would scream and laugh,

And call each other’s names.

The simple things we did to find someone,

Seems those simple days,

Have come and gone.

Or the nights in my teens, when I would dream,

Of someone who I held in my heart,

But didn’t tell.

Because I felt we would not work out,

Or we would part, not well.

The look across a crowded room.

when your eyes met mine,

and the feelings did bloom.

Ah those days when I said lets dance,

Yes I asked and took that chance,

Little did I know it would lead,

To A long Time romance for you and me.

Is it possible to do twice in one lifetime,

It’s a question that lingers,

In My Mind.

Is it possible today in a world so angry and mad,

To find a simple lover or lover,

That will make me happy not sad?

Someone who can laugh at themself,

Someone who likes people and everyone else,

Someone who is looking like I am,

For that one connection, between a woman and man.

I wonder in today’s world,

For I am older now and I am not a boy and you are not a girl.

We have lived our lives, and been either divorced or a widower once, or twice.

The hardest part of growing old,

Is finding the energy and guts to be bold,

The boldness needed to make an approach,

Without, anyone being your coach.

I miss having a companion you see,

For she used to complete me.

If I was indecisive, she would push,

If i was too bold,

She would pull me back.

So many things she did, I doubt,

I can ever get back.

But one thing I can say,

The memories remain,

They stay in ones mind, and heart,

All the same.

We may not be able to find the same once again,

But we can start anew,

And we all deserve to do it, too!

Starting Over at 69: My Journey Back to Dating


September 9th, 2025 and yes I am back all. My Blog is still alive and well and in my possession once more. It was abit os a struggle with the company to get it back, but, it is worth it if you want it to be a secure one.

That said, away I go once more. Tuesdays are always slow days folks, and at my age of 69, I lose interest in things faster than before lol. I love people and i love women, I admire them from afar of course and have never approached any in many years now, since my wife passed. I grieved her fully now and i believe, I am still here, so at some point I need to find a partner once more.

I have tried different dating sites, and I have taken maybe 3 women to dinner in the four years since I moved here to Westborough, Ma. My reasoning has been ok I will try this, but then, I didn’t really give them a chance. I avoided any physical comtact and did not attempt to even kiss one. I just felt it ws nice talking with them, and they were nice ladies, but, I had to hold back. Like I said at some point, I need to start over, I am not getting any younger lol.

What do I seek I am asked. well i don’t look for a beauty queen, I don’t look for rich, I don’t care. I look for friendly, kind, considerate, intelligent, and with a sense of humor. Someone who likes to laugh some, but can also hold a decent converstaion helps.

I don’t like smokers, sorry ladies, it almost got me years ago, so no thank you. I am not a drinke ror bar or tavern person really, once in a while is all. I like movies, I like walking, I like playing pool, I like helping people. I have fun at bowling and enjoy those who do so with me, in the Senior League I am in. I am not into big crowds, and can’t handle that well, I tend to shut down and disappear really. Yet, I like’ smaller crowds, and will talk to almost anyone.

Politics wise I don’t care either wya, although I do lean democrat. I am a non-Trumper folks and non-maga person. They are destroying our country and our republic and democracy. I can’t and won’t date a MAGA Supporter in anyway.

Ok, now that said, life goes on and we are all struggling to survive in today’s world. Time is short folks, and i believe one should live it dya to the fullest, laugh as much as possible, have fun, and enjoy. Am I wrong, I don’t think so. I like movies, I like plays. I like music of all kinds, from rock, to country and blues, and even classical at times. I read a lot and I am reading The Let Them Theory these days. Mel Robbins stumbled upon a great theory and i can’t say it willwork for everyone out there, but, it helps when you use it in the right situations for your ownself.

Now for the ones who recommended I try dating sites for Seniors my age, I am at this time. I have tried Match.com, Zoosk, and I am currently trying Silver Singles. Now I hate writing profiles of myself, for any purpose folks. So I am not doing good here. But, at least I am trying and will see howit goes. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship folks, between a man and woman, but, there is such a thing as a lasting one, that works if you work at it. Just my thoughts on it all really. So time will tell if I meet someone or not.

As to dating someone in my community where I live here, well I have not done so. Why, because people speak, and even you date someone in your own community and it doesn’t work out, it gets around and itis usually us men who get the blame and bad mouthed. LOL. But, would I date anyonein the community, is there anyone interesting here for me? Of course there are ladies, but if your looking for me to approach you and ask you out, it probally will not happen, because i have no idea, how to anymore. Last time I asked someone out, to dance, I ended up married to her for 28 years. LOL, and I forget how to flirt, I just am me, for who else can I be. I hope that explains that, right1

I am glad to have my blog page back, so I can write again here. I am sure i shall produce more blogs and poems and rants. I always do it seems. It is easier to write, for me, then to try to stand up in front os someone and give speeches or presentations. Some wanted me to read my poetry at an event here, andI said no and they couldn’t understand why. In private i have been asked why, and i told the few who asked, I have PTSD from childhood and military service. So I panic and my nerves get me in large crowds. But, to each their own they say, so I leave if the crowd is too big, easier for me that way. I am not being rude or non-caring when I do it folks, I just have to.

Ok, I have ranted and written again. I have gone over some of what is on my mind for now. Until the next blog, I wish all well.

Aging Gracefully: Vital Tips for Health and Happiness


As I age, I am finding things that I didn’t know could affect me. First is how I eat and what I eat. Diet and how much is important. I find I need more fruits and veggies as I age and less junk food. I also am finding what I eat affects my energy levels and how I feel each day.

Exercise is another thing. If I walk some, I feel better. Stretching my legs and keeping moving helps. If I tend to stop and lay around I feel worse. S0, movement is vital as I age. To help on this point I took up bowling normally twice a week now one day in a Senior League and the other with some friends, I made, where I live. Yet in the end, it helps, but, still I find there are some other things, I need to do, to keep going, as I age.

Reading is vital, whether for education purposes or for entertainment and pleasure. The mind is a terrible thing to waste was an old saying I heard long ago as a child. I still believe in that one folks. The more you know, the more you can protect yourself and advance yourself and your pleasures. Seems, to me all need to remember these things as we age, for when we fall off the cliff, so to say on any of the above, we tend to slowly go downhill in the life we live so to say. Our way of life and how we live it effects us in all ways. If we slow or do not engage mind and body, we lose the functions at times, and we begin to deteriotate as we go along.

I face the above possibilities, greater than most, being a Disabled Veteran. I suffer from back injuries of 6 herniated discs in my spine, PTSD also in two forms from childhood and service. How do I overcome, well I push through pain, or mental anguish, and look for a horizon of blue skies and smiles and laughter. We can’t always find such blue skies and laughter, so we must at times create them on our own to keep going. I am now 69 years old and live in a 55 plus community and I have seen others, older than me, who are happier than I, for sure. I just want to live my senior years I have left being engaged, participating in life and laughter if I can. As I told my mother when I was a child, when I do die, I hope it will be with a smile and some laughter on my lips.

The next problem with aging is a simple one folks. It is the loneliness factor many of us feel as we get older. We tend to isolate more, engage less and find ourselves spending more time alone than ever before in our lives. We read more, we do things like walking alone, we build puzzles and try to entertain ourselves more. We also as we age, tend to avoid others, who tell us to shut up, or calm down, or stop laughing. we avoid those who don’t like us for whatever reason, or who we dislike due to their actions or words. Now I know many say, I am wrong for doing so and I should just let these comments roll off my back and just keep going instead. But, for me, like I think, many others, if I can’t be me, and laugh, talk and enjoy, I am not staying in that crowd. I don’t care about the reason someone says for me to shut up, calm down, or don’t laugh, I just know, if I can’t do these things, I feel out of sorts and like I am not wanted in said groups.

I have said this before to others and I shall say it here and now, I am me, who else can I be? We are the accumilation of our experiences in life. Each of us react the way we do, due to what we have lived through. We enter each situation with the prior experiences we have and what worked for us in each situation. we reach back mentally and emotionally, look at the present and react accordingly to the current place we find ourselves in, we protect ourselves in this way and that my friends is just a fact of human nature.

Under today’s society in America and our current culture, men and women, are very careful, parinoid and cautious. We do not want to be abused, taken avantage of as we age. Nor do we wish to be taken for the money we earned or as fools. Add in the current anger in the political climate, and in this country, that is currently festering and wham, we have a mess to live through and we do the best we can. Also as we age, if you are divorced, or widowed, you tend to compare who you meet, to whom you had prior in your life, as your partner, wife or husband. When they don’t live up to those standards, styles or ways, you tend to walk away, going not for me. So, in the end ladies and gents, we end up alone, because we are unwilling to accept people who are different. So life tends to get lonelier as you age. It’s a fact, especially if you are a widow or widower. You spent many years with the person you lost, it was comfortable, it was loving. So, you tend to seek someone that is as close to what you had before. And as I can tell you, no two people are the same, so it it like Tom Cruise’s Mission Impossible! These are just my thoughts and ideas and beliefs on May 9th, 2025. I wish all the best, i always do.

From Connection to Loneliness: The Shift in Dating Culture


Lets discuss, the currect state of the dating world folks. First off the younger crowd has the advantage of course, due to their youthfullness. As we age and marry and the divorce of become widows and widowers things change.

The dating world or scene as I call it is now all online apps, like Match, Our Time, Bumble bee and such. As a senior at 69, and heading todard 70, dating is non-exsistant for me. I tired dating apps and ran into the problems many do not get or understand. 1) Dating apps are not free for anyone, they cost money to join and search. 2) Half of the people on them, do not use their current picture and doll up their profile to attract others anyway. 3) Distances come into effect, and you either drive or you don’t. 4) who wants to drive for an hour or more to meet someone, and then have to do so, everytime you see them. Gas prices and time and wear and tear on your vehicle then come into the process too.4) People tend to make up profiles that are not realistic and they act when you meet them, you don’t get the real person. I have looked at all of the dating apps believe me, from Zoosk, to Match, to Our Time and Senior sites too. What I found is, simple, it’s like a game is beimg played and it is not one for really meeting someone.

When I grew up, you meet your mate or spouse at events, dances,outside playing when young or in school. Or if you went to a park or playground, also. Today these things do not exist anymore. They are no Singles Dances, there are no just talking to anyone you meet, people judge far too fast. So what does one do, when you reach my age? I am 69 going on 70 now.

As a widower, I am alone constantly. I stay alone for many reasons, which are the same reasons the dating scene sucks these days. Trust is an issue for many, money, and holding onto it counts. Honesty is hard to find. People tend to talk, but, they don’t tend to cross the line into your personal space these days. Too many fears come into play. I don’t wnat someone to take my money, or use me or abuse me. I don’t want, someone who has the attitude of me, me, me, and screw you. In orde rto even think of having a relationship, the first thing that comes to mind is honesty, then respect, and loyality. Also, are we on the same wave length on many things or not. I would never date a person who is into Trump or his MAgA World, sorry folks, but, I don’t go there.

I see anger in the world, I see fear of opening up in the world, I see people dodging relationships and hiding in all ways. The world is not an open one these days. Interaction is frowned upon as I see it, except for events like bowling or public concerts and show or ball games. Even then, people tend to avoid interacting with others, for fear of being abused, or used, or stolen from. The world is a mean place these days.

Prices are rising on all items, a simple lunch date wil cost a man a good 40 to 50 bucks at least. Everything costs folks. I own my condo, and no I don’t want anyone moving in with me either. And I don’t want to move in with any woan either, and get told I am trying to take her for money. I find that interacting in this day and age is a constant process of being exteremely careful, of what you say or do. Anger is everywhere in America these days.

Look I miss my wife who passed in 2021 and it now 2025. She was apositive person, smiling, laughing and smart asa whip and I miss that. I didn’t marry her for money or belongings, I didn’t treat her wrong, or cheat on her. What I did was stay with her till she passed. Loyality goes a lone way folks. Honesty is vital in any relationship. Being positive helps. Truth goes a long way too folks. Open communication with each othe ris vital, even if you can’t agree on everything. Compromise is a word seldom heard these days folks. But, if you don’t learn to compromise and accept the differences in the relationship your in, will die out. Compromising is vital not only in relationships, but in life in ggeneral folks, never forget that. No one is 100 percent correct all the time. Accept that for yourself and don’t set the bar too high for someone else to be in your life. If you can laugh at yourself, be yourself at all times, you stand a better chance at surving happily in the end.

I am not a relationship guru so to say, I don’t have all the answers, I don’t think anyone does. What I do is go day by day and accept what happens around me and roll with it. I don’t like people who try to change me for their own reasons, and I hate forcing myself on anyone. I also do not believe in being a burden to anyone in anyway. I don’t impose on people, I don’t need to lie to people, I only trust the ones I know. Maybe it is the wrong way of looking at life, but, it is the safe way.

So, as I go along I gave up dating apps, cost too much and they don’t work. I am now trying to just me be, more than anyother thing in life. I like to read, I like puzzles, I like pool, I like bowling. I like going out for lunch now and then and I like walking some for exercise. As I age, I have learned to just do me, do what I like, be me and have fun the best I can, I am old now an dgetting older by the second, minute, hour and days that roll by. I just want to enjoy life, have fun, and I like to help others now and then also. I have basically, become like a coach for pool, or bowling when I go. I know I am not perfect at either sport, but I have fun is all.

Life in Modern America is getting rougher and more lonely than ever. What I am doing is learning, I force nothing, I come and go, I talk to whoever talks to me. I laugh, I even cry when needed. I am human, and no one should be alone all the time. I do have memories, I do have feelings, if you cut me I do bleed folks. If you slander me, or if you attack me, I disappear totally. I don’t need to put up with taht stuff, I am too old for it. America is a divided nation now, republicans and democrats fight it out constantly. MAGA forces are everywhere, and our country is slowly dying from it all. Instea dof a we society folks, we have gone toa me society and screw you, as long as I get my fair share as they say.

America was so much better when we were a We society than we are now. We all were for good things back then, caring for our seniors, being friendly, helping one another. What happened to that folks, where did it go? I shall say this one more time, America, was and can bea better place for all. If We accept each other, help each other, interact with each other.Sadly America has gone the me. me. me society approach now. What is needed in America now, is for all to start living in a We Society once more. IT’s the biggest problem Americans may ever face, because we are stubborn, arrogent, angry, and foolish. We can’t see that the me, me, me society is not working for all of us. What I am saying folks, America is at it’s best when we are honest, opem, friendly and working together. It is time, to end this me. me.me society and go back toa we,we,we society. If we don’t America will crumble and fall. Think about it folks and i think you will agree.