Why Resolutions Fail: Embrace Change Instead


Hello, January 2025, it’s already the second day of the New Year. As January begins, I am looking forward to trying to get out more, see things more and meeting new people and seeing new places. It won’t be easy to do for me, since I am going to be 69 soon, but, it is an option I am looking at. I tire of being a widower, and being alone, but, at almost 69, I am, so what to do is what i ask these days.

As 2025 starts and America rolls back to the Trump era again, I wonder, how bad it can get for all of us. How bad will the economy become under Trump, will he wage a war against his rivals and the justice system that convicted him? What will he do on the wall on the border, who will pay for it and how will it get done? How many agencies and Departments will he try to kill, or shut down and why, is education one? So many questions surround what is coming in 20 days, for America and it’s people, will anyone be able to slow Trump’s madness down and control him some? Time shall tell, I am sure.

All of the above happening in 2025, and in the end, people still make resolutions each new year! I came to the conclusion, resolutions are not worth making, why, simple, most make them, New Years Eve, and by the 15th of the month, they drop em and forget em. So, I thought about it and said why resolve to do anything, anymore, I am about to turn 69 this month? My thought was instead of a resolution, make changes to my life. For if you don’t change a thing it will all remain the same! Make an effort to meet new people, go new places, laugh more and treat people with respect and be kind. That’s a process one can do on your own, if you try, be real, be kind, be generous and laugha lot and help others. Beats making Resolutions you drop in 15 days don’t it? Try it, ya may fly it, as they say, lol!

Each day is a new beginning, each night a sleep pattern that works, at least for now. I say play nice, have fun, take care of business and your health, and in the end try to laugh and smile more. A smile a day and some laughter too, will make life better for me and for you ! When your down and worried and ya have some troubles you carry, remember to just work them through, and bring that smile back to the real you. The world does not work if your depressed, it does not work when angry. So don’t go down those roads my friends, try to smile and laugh till your end, and always know, you can make a new friend. Welcome to 2025, welcome to the present and future !

It’s a crazy world for sure, in, 2024 for me.


 January 3rd, 2024, it’s Wednesday here in Westborough, Mass. I moved here to Westborough from Connecticut in March of 2022, after losing my wife to breast cancer. The idea was to get away from where she passed and I sold the home and came here, thinking, it may bea good place to live and to find a new partner for fun times in the future here or now.

 I have tried the BookStore here, then I tried at the suggestions of others, bars/ taverns like The Red Heat Tavern, The Neighborhood Tavern in Northboro, The Central House, and JP’s also. All decent places but, none really made for senior citizens my age and up looking to meet new partners. I wish I could find such a place but, I am also not ready to hang out at the Senior Center and do nothing, so I am trying to find things to do in town.

 I know of bowling, and did that last year in two different bowling alleys, like Bowlero and at The Apex in Marlboro, both were fun of course, but, most are younger there. I do like to play pool/billards and do so here in my condo complex in Westborough., once a week.

 I don’t see a place to dance in town for seniors, nor have I found karyoke clubs either, which are fun of course. I like Westborough, but, I am not sure what to do it in for my age range, I am about to turn 68, but I am not dead ok!

 Is there any place to meet seniors 60 and up, in Westborough or the area? Or am I in a town there is no such place to find? I don’t know, so, I will say this I am not a big drinker, I will drink for social occassions only or to fit in and of course sip a drink. I do like to read, and walk, and write. I like eating out at resturants but, not alone i prefer a companion for such. It just feels strange to do so alone for me, after my 28 years with my deceased wife. My family is no where close to me, so I am alone most of the time, it can get to a person if you get my drift. Loneliness sucks folks , lol, hows that for honesty !

 I tried dating apps like Zoosk, Match, Our Time, and I found that the ladies there want money not company or companionship. The apps cost money to join and you find all are many miles away and not really available. It is a crazy thing these dating apps in my book, you can set up profile and tell the truth and still get no one to find you or reply to you. KInda crazy in my world anyway, hoping as you spend money and get no where, because of covid, or fears and anxieties if you know what I am saying. When I met my wife, years ago, it was at a Singles Dance, and I see nothing along those lines around these days, at least not near me.

 I want to have fun again, meet a woman I can get along with and share time with. Am I wrong to want that, and is there anyway of finding such here? I don’t know, I just know, Westborough, Mass. and the area doesn’t seem to be a place friendly to it. So, I shall keep trying of course but, I won’t be stupid and blow money or act foolish, it’s not something, I will do is all. I write my blogs and watch Facebook and news daily. Or at least when I can.

 I do like to walk the mall near me. As to what happens next, or where i look I know not anymore. It is one day at a time, and just an existance under the current conditions for me. I keep getting told, get out more, meet more people, but how, without being taken for money? It’s a crazy world for sure in 2024 for me.

Looking back and Happy New Year to All!


      The last day of 2013 has arrived folks, as we prepare for New Years Eve tonight and a New year tomorrow. we need to stop for a moment and look at where we are in life and in the world and all that happened before we start a new one. The world is a dangerous place for all to live and we Americans are the luckiest ones on it currently. We live in peace and we have choices and can vote for what we wish. we control our own destiny if we come together as a nation, throw aside who is what color, what race, what nationality and what party and learn that it takes all to make it work right!

       I have lived now 57 years, and seen Presidents come and go, from Eisenhower to now Obama,seen wars from Vietnam to Afghanistan, seen economic boom to economic bust and still I am here and icking and soon to turn 58. I am entering now my downside of life, an age where many retire and disappear to hotter climates and warmer places and slowly fade into the past. Yet I wonder what more I shall live to see, an America with full health care for all, an America with all colors, races and nationalities and religions getting along would be nice.  As I sit here and think back, I remember a lady in my old project neighborhood, her name I don’t remember her actions I do.  It was the 1960’s before the March on Washington by Martin Luther KIng Jr. and it seemed to me as a  little boy a simpler time than now. I was outside playing, I had a simple empty jar and I was chasing bees to catch them and look at them that day. As I went to close the cover on the jar, the bee escaped and stung me on my right hand and I cried out in shock and pain from it. Out rushed this nice, sweet lady who looked at me and helped me right away, she held my hand out and said watch this as I looked at her in amazement. She reached down and got a bit of mud out of the ground and packed it on my palm where I had been stung. One minute later, the stinger was out, my tears were dried and I was ready to play once more and I thinked her. I remember her big brown eyes, her smile at me and her friendly and kind nature. I was a white boy and she a black woman in her late forties. She didn’t have to help me back then for the division between colors and races was still in action, yet she did out of the bigness of her heart. And the warmth of her being shone through to me and we were friends from that day on till we moved. The point being this folks, it matters not what color, what nationality, whet religion if we care for one another as Americans we can do anything, together. I hope 2014 will bring that cooperation, friendliness and more back to America. Lord knows we all need it folks no matter what color we may be.

        I have lived through attacks on America by others that took down the World Trade Towers in New York and stood still frozen in time as a plane went down near Pittsburgh, Pa. where my daughters lived and prayed they would not get killed.  I have served my country as a soldier, national guardsman and in the end a sailor and seen the world. I have visited countries of wonder in Europe, The North Atlantic, South America and even the Bermudas, on active duty, and been fascinated by all the different people, the cultures and wonders of it all.  I lived through 199 seizures in the first nine months of my life and survived, beating given to me as a child by abusing parents, fought through institutions to stay free. and survived. I survived my military life, with six herniated discs in my spine, depression, PTSD and Anxiety, and much more. I have recently survived lung cancer in 2013, having a lobe and one third removed from my right lung, to remove the cancer. I am a lucky man in many aspects and I know it.  So, when I say this I mean it America, 2014 must bring peace and get us out of wars, it must bring peace between the races, and nationalities of America and we must all move forward to improve this country, it’s economy and how we care for one another. America is indeed the shinning beacon it once was before if we make it so people, we the Americans can do it!

       The one thing we all need to do, no matter what race, color or nationality may be or religion, is to stop policing other nations and fighting their wars for them. we can’t keep spreading our forces around the world policing nations that don’t want us there and spending what wed on’t have to defend others. We need that cash, our people, and our weapons and money at home and added to our economy to create new jobs for all, to pay for the unemployed and to help healthcare for all to get underway. I hope and pray 2014 will be so much better for all of America, and all Americans everywhere. May Peace reign and may mankind discover, it’s better to love than hate one another!

          Happy New Year To All! 

Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year


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        The snow has fallen this year already, the season of the Holidays is now upon us all. It is time for love, laughter, joy and giving and helping other to keep on living! Please remember what i always tell so many others, Christmas is about giving, loving and enjoying the ones you love, not about what you receive. The roads may get icey and the fields covered in white and the sun may set early all on Christmas Eve Night. But through it all comes a man in a  sleigh, he Ho Ho Hos almost all the way to bring children some delight. It’s all about the hugs and the kisses not the things one misses, it family and love you see. So as we all settle in for Christmas Holidays and soon to be the New Year, lets do it with laughter, lets do it with love, lets do it with care, for the ones of whom we share our loves.  

       From my home to yours I send these wishes, May your Holiday Season be filled with Joy, Peace and Love, and May each and everyone of you who read this remember, The Holiday Season of Christmas is about Faith, Beliefs, Caring and Sharing, and then it is followed by a New Years Beginning, 2014 is a coming fast, so Happy New Year to all and may your New Year beat the bad ones in your past!