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The Dating Dilemma: Understanding America’s Gender Divide


Society in America has changed to a point of almost no return. People get angry from discussions, they don’t interact anymore. Women are afraid of men and men of women. It’sa crazy problem few understand these days, or have a solution for.

Across the country, the dating scene or interactions between men and women, have diminished in many ways. The simple ways of meeting a person of the opposite sex for dating or a relationship of any kind has become difficult and hard to do. Dating sites have become a breeding ground for spam, phonies, pretenders and players. It seems, people wnat to tease, or post hemselves as available and then back out or run from anyone online texting or emailing or leaving them messages. men and women get ghosted, or ignored period. Thus, the lack of interaction between men and women in American Society.

There are certain issues for both sides as far as this issue goes in general. Women, believe the only rreason men want them, is for sex, or for money. They want to be independent and able to care for themselves, but, on the othe rhand they search for men, who can provide for them also, in ways such as, fixing their homes or cars, or doing work around their homes they live in. men, also do not want to be taken for money, like women, or their personal belongings also. What’s lacking is trust, honesty, caring and actually talking to one another with proper communication and listening. It’s a pretty sad state of affairs in American Society these days.

Politics divides many a sit is today also. american society has evolved into a war between the sexes, that only is escalating as it goes on and time passes. women complain when men discuss the problem and tell men it’s their own fault, while men tell the women they are not open enough, to allow approaches and availabilty for dating. It’sa serious cycle that keeps spinning and pushes both side further apart for sure.

The common ground is really, that both sides, fear approaching the other for basically many of the same reasons, unless, you include the sex issue of course. SO, what cna be done to overcome it is my question? How do people both women and men, get ove rthe doubts, the issues, the worries that are causing it, when neither will approach the other? when one goe sout even to a Coffee Shop, or a Library, or a Store or anywhereelse you can feel the tension and stress in the air. It exists and i know many wil say, ah, I am always complaining, but, it is not a complaint but the facts, in America today. Which is why our own Government has come out talking about and discussing the LOneliness Syndrome in our country. It’s like a viscious cycle that is hard to break and change.

My suggestions in the past, have been laughed at, or angerily responded to as being my own, and not right. Some say, I dod it to myself and i should complain, but, I am not really complaining, as to posing the real question, which is how do we overcome it? I don’t have the answers folks, but, I do hope and wonder, can it be overcome and things made easier for all!

Simple Survey of Massachuetts Women


Lets do a survey, of Massachuetts women who are over 60, single, divorced or Widowed I will ask some questions, I do not want your phone number or email or even your name, just simple answers if you can provide them, ladies.

First question,

  1. As a single women in today’s world, what is the first thing that draws you to a man?
  2. While all men will admit, we love a women’s curves and her pretty face, we know, that is not all women want us to notice, so what is most important to you? A) Your intelligence, B) To Be Respected, C) To Be cared for, D) To be listened to?
  3. What makes for a lasting relationship for you?
  4. Why in Massachuetts, a place where all women are well educated, and smart and make their own money, is it so hard for a man to get a date with you women?
  5. Do fears of being abused, used or taken for money come into play and if so, how?
  6. What age differences matter to you as a women, what range say like 10 years or less or can it be more?
  7. As a woman in your 60’s or up, are you seeking companionship, friendship, a relationship or what?
  8. What makes you listen to and be attracted to a man? A) His looks B) His Physical Form C) His intelligence, D) His sense of humor E) His ability to participate in events and such ? f) His Pick-up lines?
  9. In Massachuetts, where do senior women over 60 go and what are they looking to do?
  10. Last but not least, I notice Massachuetts women will look, smile, but never approach a man, in anyway, why is that?

Now I ask these questions for my own personal knowledge and to try to get some insights to the women of Massachuetts. As a Single widower age 69, living alone, I have to wonder all all of these points. So any help ladies would be nice.

If you wish to answer some of these questions or all for me; please feel free to reply in confidence and without any names, numbers or email addresses, to bmccurrach20@gmail.com. Thank You for reading this, if you did and taking the time, if you answer, ahead of time.

Understanding Senior Dating and Loneliness Syndrome


Good Morning all, it is Sunday Feb. 23rd, 2025. It’s a whole 35 degrees outside and sunny today here, in Westborough, Massachusetts. Usually most people who read my blogs, think all I do is politics in them. Well, this one is on a different subject, to consider for most.

I am doing this one on what the Government, has publicly stated, is the Loneliness Syndrome. That is real in America. My take on this subject, will be based on 55 plus, Seniors and the dating world today.

I live as many know in a 55 plus community. Now according to all people who know the population here. The women out number the men by at least 3 to 1. Which makes the men living here, basically the minority. So, that said, if like i have been told, there are 40 Single men living here. That makes, a whole lot more single women living here. 3 to 1 means at least 120 women to the 40 men, currently.

Senior dating in such a community among community members, is not well looked upon. At least that is what I was told when I moved in or shortly after. So, I made a decision not to date anyone living here. I thought well it is better that way and safer. Is it really, I don’t know.

Now in general, I hear women complain about men not approaching them on a daily basis. I know women are taught at a young age as girls, not to approach men. They are taught that men should do the approaching period. So they do not attempt, to do so. Now, this is fine, until you realize, the men are not doing it for some reason.

Ever wonder why ladies? So lets break a few myths, or ideas or thoughts here. You may, find the answers you seek in this, for I have viewed it all.

  1. Women set very high standards for the men they date. And men, get the feeling they are not wanted because of that.
  2. Men have some of the same worries that women have, in the dating world.
  3. Like women, men like to be respected, and they worry about finances too, both sexes do.
  4. Men do not like to be taken for money, any more then a woman does.
  5. Men do not like being used anymore than women do.
  6. Women expect men to be able to read signals and understand when they are interested. It not necessarily so, ladies.
  7. Men hesitate to approach a woman for many reasons. As the same applies in return.
  8. One unsure, lack of confidence.
  9. Two, scared of rejection and not sure if they can handle it.
  10. Three is simple, they aren’t sure of how to do so. Either due to lack of experience or what would work.
  11. We sometimes, know we will end up in the friendship bin, so we don’t go there.
  12. Let me say this, in todays society. Men are frowned upon if they approach too fast, too slow or in the wrong way. We know we can be ignored or worse.
  13. Senior Dating while it should be fun, can be rough. men and women both know, we are taking a chance, if we put ourselves out there.
  14. So, what do you do, if your lonely, and want a relationship? Good question right!
  15. I have looked into this and what I got back from many women is the following:
  16. Volunteer in an Organization in town.
  17. Join The Senior Center
  18. Join The library
  19. Get involved in Politics and Town business.
  20. All good ideas, but, not a good way to find someone really.
  21. Join a Gym or Health Club, at 69 not sure that would work.
  22. Dating Apps, like Zoosk, Match, and others. Cost and not always honest.

Now, I have tried some dating apps, like Zoosk, Match, Plenty of Fish, and such. Let me give you my results and see what you think.

A) The first one i met was a woman, who was very healthy and loved to walk miles a day. Took three dates to go no thank you. She didn’t match her profile, in my book, And not my type.

B) The second one I met I took to lunch in her town at a diner. What I found was, she didn’t look like her profile pic first off. Secondly, she was far too busy to be dating.

C) The third woman I met was a nice person and we went to dinner together. We enjoyed a fine meal chatted, but there was no chemistry there. Common right, happens. we even paid dutch.

D) The fourth woman I met off a dating App was kind, polite and a good person. we had a meal on me, chatted and laughed and said goodbye. I am not a religious man and she is religious. So, matching is a problem.

As you can see, the other problem with Senior Dating is matching, age, interests and more. All of us want to date or be with someone we can like, enjoy and do things with. By doing that we all, tend, to get to know each other better and go forward. if we have nothing in common, no physical chemistry or attraction, well, it doesn’t work.

I talked to one woman, I met, and she told me she is in her 60’s, never married. When I asked why, she told me she was too fussy, and wouldn’t go there. we laughed when she said it, but, I could, tell, it bothered her. Sadly, many people of both genders do this. What no one gets is even in today’s world, one answer comes to mind. Compromise! We don’t want to, so we end up alone.

Any good relationship, takes compromise folks, and that is on both sides. some of us will go to Church, even if we don’t now. Some of us will accept a smoker and some won’t. Some will take a drinker and some won’t. The problem isn’t what we won’t take or accept, it is making it clear up front and being honest. Some things many will accept, like pets, children, and more. Others will stand firm, and state they won’t. It’s rough in America, in the dating scene, but even rougher, when your a Senior. Why, because you are set in your ways, you do not wish to change. Until you do and compromise in someway, loneliness will be your companion.

For me I may, have made a mistake in saying I wouldn’t date anyone, in my condo complex. But, if I back up, and change that how will it affect me and those around me? There are many factors one has to consider. Mainly is it worth it to try, and secondly, what happens if it fails? Then, I have to face the backlash that can happen, where I live. I have always thought if a relationship breaks up, it is always blamed on the man. If that happens, then it spreads through the female population quickly, and bam, your an outcast. Maybe I am wrong, time shall tell.

The Westborough Dilemia for me!


 Hello January 4th 2023. As usual my morninga nd day started at 6 am, always up early it seems, must be aleftover from my service days. Ha dmy two coffees and took my meds, now I chat some and try to decide what to do for my day and with it.

  Each day is a new beggining and away we go 2024. Now the question is how to make it better for me, each day as i go. Finding new things to do or go or to meet people can be rough on someone my age, I am 67 soon to be 68. At some point I have to get out more and meet new people, but where and how I have yet to figure out here in Westboro, Mass.

 Westborough, Mass. is a quaint town, and a quiet one for sure. While I appreciate the fact it has so many banks and bars, and lots of money in it, it, still lacks places for people my age to have fun and meet others. The Senior Center is ok, but, slow always, many avoid it I believe unless i am stopping there on the wrong days or something, lol.

  I went to BJ’s in Northboro, to get a membership one day, and ended up flirting with two ladies there lol. Of course nothing happened except smiles and laughs but at least it was fun. I looked around a bit in there, big place lots there, so I will probally go back if for nothing else except gas or frozen food.

 I go to Solomon Mall to walk a lot, which is fun just to watch people go by and get some exercise, especially now in the winter months. I may walk it two or three times a week. I window shop and may stopandhave lunch in the food court there. Of course finding a woman to talk to or get to know there is a case that is slim to none, there days. The malls are not packed and most women stay to themselves anyway, they, are scared of talking to people they don’t know. So, I basically watch the crowds and people go by and stay by myself. I have learned, the women of Massachuestts are very careful and are scared or have anxieties and fears regarding men. Why, I do not know, but, there seems to me, that the women here, are putoffish and stuck-up, or something.

 I shall do my thing as normal of course iwalk here in my condo complex of the mall. I shop at SHop and Stop, and Walmart and Target. I used to bowl but, again that died out due to lack of interest of those in my complex. Then I play billards once a week on monday evenings, for fun and chat to people there and laugh and joke. reading I do, puzzle building I do and of course watching tv and such at home. Every now and then if I see a movie I really want to see I may go to a theather, to see it. I am not rich, so, I don’t try to spend a lot.

  So at times I feel like one of the characters in that old movie, Grumpy Old Men lol. Which one I am I don’t know for sure, there was Jack Lemon and Walter Matheu lol. Same old routine daily, putter around, say hello to folks ya know and just carry on. I can wish it was different for me, but, I can’t make it so, so far. I moved here in 2022, and I am lost and have no idea what to do or where to go for fun.

 Dating apps as I said before cost too much and again what I find is the women there don’t want a partner or boyfriend or man in their lives, except as a wallet for their wishes. Men get taken on those apps, the cost of the app, the paying of dinners for the women and it seems to me, the women have their own fears and anxieties there too, so they are always guarded and withdrawn or scared. Society it seems is now all digital , one on ones people fear and that goes for both sexes. Sadly, the loneliness syndrome is real in America, and the reasons are just what I am talking about. How to change it, is still a question that is ongoing, now-a-days.

 The News is never good from politics to crimes, very few good reports on anything anymore. Americans are growing tired of it all, and in the end, they ignore and do their own thing and wala, weend upwith the Trump fiasco, and a mess. Is there a way out of it all, we shall see as we enter the election year of 2024. I do know this, if Trump is found to be immune whilePresident and can’t be prosecuted or charged as he is now, then I pray for the fate of America, for that will mean all President’s can do what they please while in office without any consequences at all. Imagine then, what President’s could get away with while in office. I won’t take sides here, but my opinion is well known, in my blogs.

 I did the tour of the bars in the area, Neighborhood Tavern, Red Heat Tavern, JP’s and Central House. All have decent food and drink, and thats all I know of them really. Not a big drinker or a regular at any of them. They added the new Brewery Cold Harbor in town too, I hear it was great when it started but went downhill fast, due to lack of service, not enough employees I believe, only went and looked around once an dleft havent been back there yet.

 Anyway, 2024 has begun, I am gonna try to stay positive, hopefull and keep smiling as I go along and hope is all. 2024 has to be better than 2023, for all of us. Keep smiling, keep laughing and I will try to enjoy life as I do. Good Day to All!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

10 Silly Stupid Things/ Life!


      Funny little things people don’t realize or see, are what sometimes can bother you or me, or at least make us laugh or cry. They happen on television, or in real life situations, or by accident but they do happen don’t they?

       1) Ever stop at a convience store to use the rest room?  A man runs in yelling where is the men’s room and holds himself, a woman walks in where’s the ladies room and doesn’t even cross her legs, why is that?

       2) A woman can shop till they drop no matter how tired she is as long as she likes the sale items, a man wants to go get what they want and get the hell out?

   3)   Women mature at younger ages than men, period! It’s a fact of nature and humanity, that’s why they notice boys, before boys notice girls, hormones and fermones.

   4)  Men think they rule the world, when in fact women do, even in America. Ask President Obama who his boss is, his wife! Ask any married man or one in a relationship who the boss is they say themselves, put the ring on and the woman controls!

     5) Politics, ever notice during primaries, politicians will change and say whatever to get your vote, but once elected they can’t give what they promised? Happens every four years doesn’t it?

     6) Everyday I see CNN and newscasts across America, the economy is getting better, gas is coming down and houses are getting worth more! Reality nothing changes we are losing jobs, house prices are going down  and companies are going out of business. Just ask JC Penny, Macy’s Sears, and many more now! Why do they lie to us so?

      7) Video games are good for your children and great for fun! Bullshit, they get violent, teach killing and make our children fat and lazy. Notice that at all?

      8) The Catholic and other churches preach one thing and do another, they molest children, hide the ones who do it and preach not to. Why is that?

     9) How come when a woman gains weight and goes out of shape a man is not allowed to call her overweight or fat? Yet when a man gets over weight we get your too big, rfat, you got a pot belly, etc?

  10) How come women can buy thousand of dollars worth of shoes to match almost every outfit they buy, but when a husband wants a toy or a tool he has to beg for it?

     These are just ten of the silly things one can find in an American town or marriage or life. Silly they may be, we all live with them and laugh and cry over them all and carry-on. Life shall not stop for us, no matter what goes on in the world, but, neither will silly, stupid things either!