Understanding Humanity: Choices and Consequences


Good Morning World! It is May 6th, 2025 already and yes time does march on, even if we don’t forever. As we all know, humanity like all other species of life, has a life span, we know not how long it may be. Yet, some of us spend it wondering, wandering, hoping and thinking. Others of us find something we love to do, or someone we love to love and do the best we can. In each case or circumstance, we tend to use our experiences in life, to figure out what to do next. Do we take a chance, do we bodly step out and meet new people, do new things? Some do, some don’t folks, and some are like me, they hold back, stay away from others as much as possible and watch from a distance. Only venturing out now and then, to take a chance, using what we know, to protect ourselves from dangers and more.

Believe it or not, some have instincts and do better than others. some have no instincts and must learn by making mistakes. The world is complicated and so is humanity. Animals go by pure instincts and can not talk, so they communicate by their actions. Humans can communicate but some lack common sense, logic, morals and ethics. Thus we end up with corruption, crime and people being hurt or killed. Mankind is indeed the only species on the planet that destroys it’s own enviroment, it’s own world and it’s own society, over time. It seems, people for one reason os another don’t stop to go why am I doing this or that, that do so on impulse folks. Those impulses, can destroy, hurt, harm and damage others, the enviroment and the world. Stop folks, think, it’s easier to get along then to carry on and hurt all around. We all need our enviroment, we all need each other, and family and friends to survive. No man or woman is an island unto themselves, nor is any country an Island unto to itself in our big world.

As time marches on for me and I get older by the day, I tend to watch all around me. I watch the climate changes, the enviroment changes and deal with them. Societial changes come next, and as they happen, I tend to avoid mean, angry, nasty, picky people. I tend to avoid those who refuse to allow others to be themselves, or to laugh, or to talk. I have a firm belief folks, that if you can’t accept me for being me, and allow me to be me, then I don’t need to be around you. The world and society, does not bend around one person, it never has in mankinds existenance folks. We bend and fit in it, not it for us. So we deal with life each day when we open our eyes and breath each morning. when we get up and out of bed, when we eat, drink and talk and interact. We adapt to loneliness if needed, we adapt, to financial destruction or fortune. We adjust to those around us, by either interacting with them, or walking away from them. we can’t change people’s attitudes, or mental state, we know not what cause, how some are, so we do, what is best for each of us, those we love, and avoid the bad and look for the good.

We are taught as children what is right or wrong, what morals and ethics we should use, we are taught manners and curtisies, we are taught what is funny, what is sad, what is healthy or is not. We get taught in schools, basics, and more. It is how we are taught at home by our parents or in schools, that makes us who we are. Not all are treated the same, not all react the same, and in the end, not all, turn out great or brillant, or rich and talented. But, we do learn basics, and it is how we use what we are taught, that makes our lives, what they are for each of us.

If you are abused, you tend to abuse others, if you get angry, there is a reason. If you get sick, we tend to blame mother nature. In the end, outside influnences come into play and change us, each and everyday. We are a reactive species folks, humanity reacts and responds. As we do and what we do, to do so, makes the world and our society what it is now.

Dont’ scream at me, don’t shout at me, never put your hands on another person in anger. Never attack someone mentally in any way. Don’t bully, don’t peer pressure, don’t fall for any of it folks. Remember one thing, I was told as a child. You can do and be whatever you want to be, all you have to do, is find that, and stick to it, and stay with it. You will accomplish it, you will be proud, you will be noticed if it is possible and allowed. If you try, and you care, the future will be better, and from there you can share.

From Connection to Loneliness: The Shift in Dating Culture


Lets discuss, the currect state of the dating world folks. First off the younger crowd has the advantage of course, due to their youthfullness. As we age and marry and the divorce of become widows and widowers things change.

The dating world or scene as I call it is now all online apps, like Match, Our Time, Bumble bee and such. As a senior at 69, and heading todard 70, dating is non-exsistant for me. I tired dating apps and ran into the problems many do not get or understand. 1) Dating apps are not free for anyone, they cost money to join and search. 2) Half of the people on them, do not use their current picture and doll up their profile to attract others anyway. 3) Distances come into effect, and you either drive or you don’t. 4) who wants to drive for an hour or more to meet someone, and then have to do so, everytime you see them. Gas prices and time and wear and tear on your vehicle then come into the process too.4) People tend to make up profiles that are not realistic and they act when you meet them, you don’t get the real person. I have looked at all of the dating apps believe me, from Zoosk, to Match, to Our Time and Senior sites too. What I found is, simple, it’s like a game is beimg played and it is not one for really meeting someone.

When I grew up, you meet your mate or spouse at events, dances,outside playing when young or in school. Or if you went to a park or playground, also. Today these things do not exist anymore. They are no Singles Dances, there are no just talking to anyone you meet, people judge far too fast. So what does one do, when you reach my age? I am 69 going on 70 now.

As a widower, I am alone constantly. I stay alone for many reasons, which are the same reasons the dating scene sucks these days. Trust is an issue for many, money, and holding onto it counts. Honesty is hard to find. People tend to talk, but, they don’t tend to cross the line into your personal space these days. Too many fears come into play. I don’t wnat someone to take my money, or use me or abuse me. I don’t want, someone who has the attitude of me, me, me, and screw you. In orde rto even think of having a relationship, the first thing that comes to mind is honesty, then respect, and loyality. Also, are we on the same wave length on many things or not. I would never date a person who is into Trump or his MAgA World, sorry folks, but, I don’t go there.

I see anger in the world, I see fear of opening up in the world, I see people dodging relationships and hiding in all ways. The world is not an open one these days. Interaction is frowned upon as I see it, except for events like bowling or public concerts and show or ball games. Even then, people tend to avoid interacting with others, for fear of being abused, or used, or stolen from. The world is a mean place these days.

Prices are rising on all items, a simple lunch date wil cost a man a good 40 to 50 bucks at least. Everything costs folks. I own my condo, and no I don’t want anyone moving in with me either. And I don’t want to move in with any woan either, and get told I am trying to take her for money. I find that interacting in this day and age is a constant process of being exteremely careful, of what you say or do. Anger is everywhere in America these days.

Look I miss my wife who passed in 2021 and it now 2025. She was apositive person, smiling, laughing and smart asa whip and I miss that. I didn’t marry her for money or belongings, I didn’t treat her wrong, or cheat on her. What I did was stay with her till she passed. Loyality goes a lone way folks. Honesty is vital in any relationship. Being positive helps. Truth goes a long way too folks. Open communication with each othe ris vital, even if you can’t agree on everything. Compromise is a word seldom heard these days folks. But, if you don’t learn to compromise and accept the differences in the relationship your in, will die out. Compromising is vital not only in relationships, but in life in ggeneral folks, never forget that. No one is 100 percent correct all the time. Accept that for yourself and don’t set the bar too high for someone else to be in your life. If you can laugh at yourself, be yourself at all times, you stand a better chance at surving happily in the end.

I am not a relationship guru so to say, I don’t have all the answers, I don’t think anyone does. What I do is go day by day and accept what happens around me and roll with it. I don’t like people who try to change me for their own reasons, and I hate forcing myself on anyone. I also do not believe in being a burden to anyone in anyway. I don’t impose on people, I don’t need to lie to people, I only trust the ones I know. Maybe it is the wrong way of looking at life, but, it is the safe way.

So, as I go along I gave up dating apps, cost too much and they don’t work. I am now trying to just me be, more than anyother thing in life. I like to read, I like puzzles, I like pool, I like bowling. I like going out for lunch now and then and I like walking some for exercise. As I age, I have learned to just do me, do what I like, be me and have fun the best I can, I am old now an dgetting older by the second, minute, hour and days that roll by. I just want to enjoy life, have fun, and I like to help others now and then also. I have basically, become like a coach for pool, or bowling when I go. I know I am not perfect at either sport, but I have fun is all.

Life in Modern America is getting rougher and more lonely than ever. What I am doing is learning, I force nothing, I come and go, I talk to whoever talks to me. I laugh, I even cry when needed. I am human, and no one should be alone all the time. I do have memories, I do have feelings, if you cut me I do bleed folks. If you slander me, or if you attack me, I disappear totally. I don’t need to put up with taht stuff, I am too old for it. America is a divided nation now, republicans and democrats fight it out constantly. MAGA forces are everywhere, and our country is slowly dying from it all. Instea dof a we society folks, we have gone toa me society and screw you, as long as I get my fair share as they say.

America was so much better when we were a We society than we are now. We all were for good things back then, caring for our seniors, being friendly, helping one another. What happened to that folks, where did it go? I shall say this one more time, America, was and can bea better place for all. If We accept each other, help each other, interact with each other.Sadly America has gone the me. me. me society approach now. What is needed in America now, is for all to start living in a We Society once more. IT’s the biggest problem Americans may ever face, because we are stubborn, arrogent, angry, and foolish. We can’t see that the me, me, me society is not working for all of us. What I am saying folks, America is at it’s best when we are honest, opem, friendly and working together. It is time, to end this me. me.me society and go back toa we,we,we society. If we don’t America will crumble and fall. Think about it folks and i think you will agree.

America at the Crossroads: The Urgent Call for Change


America, listen please. In our countries history, we have made mistakes, and recovered from them, over time. In the past we have had Presidents we did not approve of, we didn’t like what they did, and we corrected the course in the following elections, usually. What took place in the last election was a mistake beyond measure and is turning out to get worse day by day. As we lose benefits to help the elderly and ill, the children and education, and social security and medicare and medicaid get messed with and changed. We now, need to correct this course not starting in 2028 folks, but in the 2026 mid-term elections. As Tariffs imposed by Trump hit the world economy, prices of what we wear,eat, and need, go up and up. What I hear from Trump supporters is, give Trump time, he has this and he knows what he is doing. The Truth is he doesn’t folks, he is gambling with your financial security and future here.

The Stock Markets are now like a downward ride on a roller coaster, the prices of goods needed to live rise. Car prices are about to double and health care is ridiculous in prices, as Trump cuts back on Medicare and Medicaid. Seniors who depend on these programs to survive are losing the ability to pay for what they need and to stay alive. Then Trump is cutting employees from the Federal Governement at a rate that is just outragious and silly. Where do the people he has cut go now for jobs, the job market can not handle the influx of unemployed now. The jobs are not here.

While I honestly believe in the manufacturing industry and it ability to employ people, you have to have products to build to do so. We don’t have them folks, your not going to build many items we have in the past at cheaper prices then other countries do these days. How many Americans in today’s USA, really want to work in factories and manufacturing plants? Not many my fellow Americans, not unless it is to bolster a war economy we do not have currently. This belief by many that the industrial base of manufacturing will save America if Trump gets his way with his tariffs will work, is not a good one. Americans do not have the nose grinding mentallity of the 1950’s and 60’s anymore, they don’t want to work in factories, sweating and building items. Due to the phasing out of such jobs in the 1970’s and 1980’s, we have also lost the technical know how to do so, properly. We are lucky though that the car industry is still around but barely. Look across your country Americans, and see for yourself the number of manufacturing plants is way down, why because the price of the materials to build them is far too way up. we are in a cycle of a ying and yang that is bad for all America.

I think politicians are beggining to realize now, a little over 100 days into Trump’s second term in office, that, we are in a dire straights situation here. we are bordering on a recession, about to enter one, which at the rate we are going will lead to a second major depression in American history. If it happens folks, soup and bread lines wil be next. Homelessness will rise, people will be begging to survive once more, in what was once the most prosperous nation in the world. I agree we have to have advantages in the economy for America to survive, but tariffs are not the way to go. So, where do we go folks, what do we do next? How do we turn around, the downfall of america and it’s economic, political and international status again?

Well, first we must start within our own political world and status so to say. The mid-terms are ahead, and as we stumble, fall deeper into a recession, Americans will have to get off their asses, and go to the polls in the mid-term election and take back Congress first. We can not allow, one party to run all three branches of government in America. By, doing so, you have made Trump into a King, who thinks he can get away with anything and our Judicial Branch is now all of his party mostly too. So they protect and defend him, when he breaks the laws of our land and he has done so in many ways. Never in American hiostory have so many people been grabbed off the streets of America, and suddenly deported to other countries, without due process in a court of law. It’s illegal folks, you know it is and I know it is and so does Trump. He will keep doing so unles we the American People stop him. It is like a child is running the country, unless you reigen him in, punish him, direct him and make him do right he will continue to act like a spoiled child doing what he wants. We can’t allow it folks, changes must come fast. The Mid-term elections is where it must begin. The Consitution, was written to be run by two party system, not one party folks, and the last country run by a one party system was Germany before world wars happened. We can not have that happening and erupting in today’s world. We must change it back to a two or three party system if necessary and balance our system out once more for it to properly work. Otherwise, what wil occur is disatrous for all of us and the world too. I think many Americans are wrong in what they are allowing here.

Understand one thing folks, before you attack what I am saying. I defended this country, I served this country for 16 years, I gave my time and sevice and my body and soul. I also go hurt doing so, and I am a Disabled Veteran, who will defend this country till the day I can if I must. But, I do not believe America is on the right path following Trump now. and I do not believe in a one party system to run America it is destroying us. There has to be checks and balances, there must be the ability to balance it all, or else America is done.

I will say this, to all who listen, the above is my opinion today on the subjects affecting America, it’s economy, it’ medical well-being and it’s people. It is in my opinion, time for Americans to rise up and change what is happening, before we slide into a depression and a third world status. If we do not change it now, we shall be another Germany, that arrived under Hitler or a communist country soon. When one man, is given too much power and not guided, and stopped from doing what he wants, you get just that. Let’s not let it continue America, lets stop it fast now, the mid-term elections are coming, lets give the House and The Senate back to the Democrats in a balanced way. I am not saying totally, I am saying in an equal way, so that they have a say and we have a say into how far, our President can go. Without balance folks, our country teeters on the brink of collapse. Let’s bring it back from the brink, lets reign in Trump, lets, get the Justice System to work again on equal footing as it should, Lets save Social Security for our children and grandchildren, lets save medicare and medicaid and lower drug costs. and lets protect those who protected and defended and served our country and keep their benefits alive and them too. Don’t let the vital cogs in our countries wheels of proper ways disappear. Lets defend it now, lets get ready for the mid-term elections and lets put back into place the checks and balance system, our countries fore-fathers created.

Let me close with a thought for all Americans to consider, even if you disagree with me, it must be considered folks. America’s Fore-Fathers, Washington. Adams. Jefferson,Franklin, and more, what would they say of what Trump has done so far? My belief is they sacrificed, they gave their beings and souls to create this nation, they would rally, they would protest, they would fight tooth and nail to protect what they created. They would more then likely, if here, go to Washington, DC, if it were their time, and tar and feather Trump and carry him out of office to never be seen again. Like I said, this is my opinion and I have a right to say it, under my freedom of speech rights. You may not agree with it, but, I do. I only hope enough Americans wake up in time to save this country from it’s demise soon. If not, then like all the great empires of the world, we too shall burn out and disappear into history never to return. What would the Fore-Fathers of America, do and say in todays world folks?

Reflections on Childhood vs. Today’s Digital Society


Friday April 25th, 2025 is upon us! As the year goes along the weather has been up and down folks, rainy, then clear, chilly then warm. It is typical for New England herein Massachuetts.

Anyway, let discuss electronics. As we all know and see daily, no one goes anywhere today without a cell phone, computers are practically in every home in america and as gaming consoles. They call these improvements to society. Well, I question that really and I am now 69 years old, and live alone and I have the big tv, the Xbox, Computers and yes a cell phone too. Why do I question it I am asked when I say, this? Well my answer is, the cell phones, the computers, the gaming consoles and even the tvs, isolate hmans from one another. We have begun to rely on each device in our own ways, and that, pulls us away from humanity in it’s own way, making thing more impersonal between us.

I was born in 1956 folks, which simple additionand subtraction would tell anyone. When I grew up, we had land lines for phone, no cell phones. We had tubed tvs, computers were not here, and gaming consoles were not around. We were told go outside and play, have fun, but come home for supper, and definitely get home before the street lights came on. We played games like, 1,2,3 Red Light, Tag, and sports. We roller skated, rode sleds in the winter, went to parks. Yes we found friends that way in person, we navigated through, and found people we actually liked to hang with. What happened to America, I am not sure.

When Iwa s a kid, you screwed up at home or out on the streets you paid a price. Mom would smack ya on the head or ass and ground ya. Or if the offense was bad enough, dad would step in and ya would get a beating. Today we lve in society where all of that is frowned upon and illegal. And what we get for results are ignorant, angry, nasty kids. we get more narracistic kids, too. We get more kids into drugs and alcohol also as they look for excitment, to occupy their time. Instea dof controlling their kids, parents these days let them run wild and very seldom know exactly where their children are or what they are doing. Thus, we end up witha society that lacks manners, ethics and morals, we grew up with in my generation.

What happened to, saying Thank You, Your Welcome, May I, Please? Or can I join in? what happened to trying to fit in, instead of trying to take over? Anothe rproblem I have seen as I age, is simple, folks don’t seem to undersatnd a basic fact, Ilearned in the Service, respect one another, and remember before you can be a leader folks, you have to be a good follower. By following you learn.

I noticed changes that happend in the 1980’s, when Bil Cosby had his tv show. He told everyone, you don’t hit your children, you talk to them. Well, that, doesn’t always work folks, as we all know. Then in the 1990s, I noticed more anger, more cliques and more seperations in society happening. The Republicans began their seperation from all, and things got meaner.Politically, I blame that mess, on the Democrats for not interacting and allowing it all to happen.

By the 2000’s Americans have begun lazier, more rude and antisocial. Our interactions now happen in bars/ taverns, clubs, then any where else. Dating has become online and all electronic now. Profiles are written which lie or are fake, people use fake photographs and build themselves up to be someone they arent’ to get attention. Also, there is more fear of narsacist, violence,stalking, and people out to grab your money or property. Then, we approach the biggest fear on dating sites these days, the constant questions about sexual interactions, on dates. If sex is mentioned on a first dtae, thats it for me, I am out. I was always taught, that happens as a relationship develops not instantly. So you can see the differences in society also in the stores and malls too. Parents take their kids shopping and the children get unruly, or run alone and off from their parent, or wnat everything they see. It’s sad that today’s generation doesn’t understand the word no, or you can’t. Greed comes into play, I want that, my friends have it. Peer pressure is strong in today’s society on our children, and today’s parents don’t see it. The kids do!

Then today on top of all the above changes in society, in schools and at home, even children have ahard time fitting in with one another. More fighting, arguing, happens then evever before. Anger, rules folks, and I don’t blame the children I blame the parents. Wake up folks, it’s up to the parents and adults to steer us back to calmer days once more. It will take decades, to once again, get back to an American Society that is warm, welcoming, patienent and interacting fully. There is no short term solution, to the job markets, economy, education, or lifestyle folks. We have lost so much, through the 1980s tp now, I wonder, Where did the United States I grew up in Go?

The Silent Guardians of Democracy


The Forgotten Military

April 18th, 2025

William M. McCurrach

Silently we sail the oceans and the seas,

Protecting our countries borders and it’s seas

We go world wide, on surface and below,

We fly the air, don’t you know.

Who are we, many will ask,

To that I answer with pride mighty fast,

We are the American Military forces,

We wake up each day far from home, and stay our courses,

In the middle of the oceans, feeling all alone,

We work each day and each night,

With pride, efficiency and strength,

To make it all work right.

We work each day with smarts and intelligence,

With efficiency, to protect our borders,

Our familes and our country.

We do so, each day and night,

Making our sacrifices and keeping our country safe and tight.

You know not who we be, unless you are a member of our family.

We at times regret we are not home and that our families must go on alone,

We defend their shores, we prowl their oceans,

We fly the skies and these are no lies.

We are the American Navy, The Navy you see,

We defend your borders out here at sea,

We defend the constitution, our country you see,

We defend our Republic and our Democracy.

We don’t do it for fun, we do it for all,

We do it so Americans can stand tall.

Next time you lay your head to rest,

Hold your child close to your chest,

Stop to think of those at sea,

Who swore to keep your country free.

We are the Army, Marines and Coast Guard and Air Force,Navy,

We gave our time and energy and health and peace,

So you can live, in a Republic and a Democracy,

Laugh and cry and hold your head high,

For we are the American Armed forces,

Keeping you free, never forget, never abandon, never stop fighting,

Thats what we do, to keep America’s Republic and Democracy too.

We swear an oath each and everyone of us,

We uphold that oath and we stay tough,

When we come home, when we are done,

Try to remember what we have done.

Some of us come home healthy and fine,

Some of us come home, injuried in body and mind,

All we ask for is respect, I pray for all of us,

That is what we get!

Remember as you sit and eat, even as you take a seat,

Without the American Military, The Army, Marine, National Guard and Air Force, Navy,

There would be no Republic, no Democracy,

For we give all, to keep out Nation Free.

The Economic Costs of Trump’s Policies: A Veteran’s Perspective


April 12th, 2025, Good Morning World. I awoke once more at 5 am here, and looked outside to see it has snowed some over night here, but a dusting is it, me thinks.

As America rolls toward a full out recession, which will for the first time in many decades, lead us into a depression, I wonder, did all the MAGA/ Trump Supporters ever think this would come? Probabaly, not is my thought now, but here we are. Trump’s fight with China is about to drag America dead into a depression folks. Trump’s tariff war, is a dangerous game to play. And while President Trump thinks it is the way to curtail China’s position, it is killing American’s 401ks, and much more.

Food prices rise, clothing cost more, more people are unemployed, and the rich just get richer right? Is that fair for the Lower class or middle class folks, do you like it now? How do you Trump Voters/ MAGA people feel now, as it starts to affect your income, your 401ks, and your everyday prices to feed, protect and home your families, now? I bet your all going ouch like the rest of us, aren’t you now?

Remember now, Trump has only been in Office since Janauary 2oth, 2025. If you think the markets tanking, and the economy is getting worse now, hang on. Trump doesn’t care about you folks, or your children or the elderly. He is killing The Department of Education, going after Social Security, Medicare and Medicaid too, just in a sneakier ways is all. He says one thing and does a another. He is caught on tape, talking about how much his buddies and cronies have made since he has tinkered with the markets and stocks and bonds. I remind all that, that is in and of itself criminal behavior. Sad indeed, and the world is watching and reacting also, to the failure of Trump and his so called leadership.

As a Senior Citizen myself who is 69 going on 70, I live off of my Social Security and my Veteran’s Disability check monthly. I can’t work, being disabled of course, and it is a struggle to survive these days. Trump doesn’t care folks, if he did he would leave Social Security, Medicare and Medicaid and Veteran’s Benefits alone. If he cared he would react to lower food costs, clothing costs and stop his stupid tariff war he is doing. I hope at some point, it hits his wallet and bank accounts too. I wonder how Elon Musk feels now, that he has lost a good trillion to Trumps games? Musk’s Tesla company is tanking, and more. I wonder if Elon now, realizes Trump is full of shit! I am sure he can see it now!

Russia is murdering Ukraine, laughing at Trump and Putin is winning, why, cause Trump is isolating America from the world. The more isolated we are the less fortunite we are and will be. The World Markets, are weaker now, and so are we. I hope all the Trump/ Maga backers, will get hit just as hard as the rest of us have. If so, the Mid-Term Elections, will turn around fast and Congress will go Democrat. This one sided government was a mistake Americans, never should one political party have full control like this This only proves the Founding Fathers of America were correct, when they created the Senate and House. Checks and Balances are vital to our nation, and they need to be used once more to save it.

Being 69 going on 70, I have lived through, Eisenhowser, to Trump a second time around. While I am not a big fan, of many Republican Presidents, none have been so illiterrate, so uneducated and so vain as Trump. Add in his ineptness, and foolish bravado and you have a walking disaster folks. On top of all the financial turmoil he has caused and damage to our country, and we are in serious trouble now. We teeter on the brink of depression and total isolation, as our one time constant allies turn against us. Canada did nothing to us, Mexico is not all bad. Yet Trump attacks both nations attached to us. He attacks Europe folks, Germany, France and England are mad too now. I warn all, America is not an island that can survive without no one else. While China nd Russia are the most powerful enemies we have in the world currently, to fight them with tariff’s this way, is just a mess.

I can’t change what is happening to America folks, but, I can say this, I defended America, I represented America, I believe in America and served her for 16 years, before I was injuried. I am sad now that America is failing to realize, it must step up and stop the Trump Lunacy, and assine policies to survive. If Congress does not act soon, where will America end up on the world stage? We are now laughed at, and ignored. Whats next American’s, where do we go from here and does Congress allow the country to go to finanacial ruin and to be isolated and disrespected so much? If so, how do we recover now, unless Congress grows a set of balls, stands up to Trump and stops him, we are lost!

Reflections on Life: Love, Loss, and Learning to Be Me


April 10th, 2025, time has rolled on for me it seems faster and longer than I have ever dreamed. I never thought I would live this long, I am now 69 and moving on. My life has always been pretty simple really, I have just found a way to just be me. I was never a hero, a big sports person, except for watching. I was never the world’s best romeo, or most handsome man. I was never the richest, or boldest either. What I always was is smart, logical, and in the end caring to those I cared for.

Most of those who grew up in my generation, had broken families, and had to figure how to survive and get along, or, had overbearing parents, who tried to mold them into what they wanted, them to be. Me, I bypassed most of that in my own way, why because i was always different they say. I fought the system, or molds they tried to make me be. I was Hyper-active, and never paid attention to much, I had Attention Deficiet Disorder too. No one knew what they were in the 1960’s when I was young, they figured it out years later in medicine, it seems. Yet I survived elementary school, survived being beaten on, and given away for two years to the state. I fought back and survived and in the end, ended up at home anyway.

In everyone’s life, no matter how bad we percieve ours to be, there is always it seems, in stories like mine, stabilizing factors. Factors no one understood about us, or how we survived, just that we did. For me, it was friends, over family. By my teen days I was the one forced to care for my younger siblings and I did the best I could. I also, was the one forced to help rebuild a home for us with my step-father. I learned a lot of course, but it took part of my childhood away, and the physical abuse, when he beat me formed my personality for years. Again I overcame, once away from him and our home and the family I grew up with. I had surregate families that helped raise me, guide me and watched over me. I escaped into their families, and got along better there then at home.

From my teen years on, I always had a female friend to help me through. Girlfriends not many believe me, I could count them on one hand or less. But, female friends were always around. Between 14 and 19, I had a total of two girlfriends period, sisters. Of course that didn’t work out, because, of me and my inability to pay attention to them fully. Yet, looking back, I am glad it didn’t, for they knew it, as much as I, that I didn’t fit. There was always a constant though, I always admired, and I always referred to as the one that got away. That story, is told elsewhere in my writings.

I believe in everyone’s life, whether you are male or female, we all look back over time as we age. We think about what could have been, should have been and what could have changed our course. What we don’t do, is go backwards, for we understand we are not the same as we were back then. It doesn’t change the fact, we remenice about it all, rethink it, and wonder what could have been better, if it happened.

The constant in my life has been either females entering and affecting my life at junctures, and making it better, before the next phase started. Then, there was the surragate mothers, and brothers I had overtime. They became the ones that guided me in someways, to better days. God Bless each of them, I say.

By, the time I had hit 21, I was a loner really, and lost and looking for my way once more. The Service would be my way. I would go Army first, then Army National Guard and finally Navy. Over those years I would meet my first wife and marry. We would have two of everything, including two daughters. As time went on, a sailor’s life is not very good for marriages, and when I finally, got discharged for back injuries, in 1989, it ended the first marriage. Again I found myself alone and staggering through life.

My second big relationship happened when my first one was ending and I was going through divorce. I met my second wife who was my biggest blessing in my life. We went 28 years together, no kids between us of course, but a long loving relationship, that ultimately was great. Sadly, my second wife suffered from breast cancer for 16 of those 28 years, through, Doctors, Chemo, Radiation and more, we would go though. I was always there, and she knew it. When she lost her battle finally, my world crashed. I had to find a way to go on. I am still searching for that today, it been four years come August. I stumble, I fumble over memories and tears, and try to carry on. I think I am doing ok though, for grieving takes time, and slowly,you adjust in your mind. You learn you are still here, and you have to live in the present, not the past. It’s a slow lesson that takes time and doesn’t happen fast.

Being a widower in your 60’s and heading to my 70’s is not easy. The world has changed, the dating scene is all different. Dating apps abound, it seems the rage of this age. I don’t fit it, it seems, I am not one to post fake pictures and fake profiles to attract someone. I don’t want to pay an app, to find someone to date, it cost money and half the time or better the profiles are not real. I guess, I just find it all, too impersonal and unrealistic for me.

Yet, in the end as i go forward now at 69, I have learned just to be me. Laugh, cry and talk when I can. Write, walk, and be my own man. Long ago, my friend who I won’t name, tried writting letters to women in magazines and I told him don’t bother. I told him the best thing to do is do you. Be yourself, work your job, do what you love to do, laugh and enjoy life. As you go along, someone will notice you. It worked he is married again and happy and the years have flown by for him. I only hope it stays that way. I can only be me, for who else can I be, is what, I always say. If you don’t like me fine, I don’t force myself on anyone, I am a burden to no one, don’t need to be. I am just me! In the end as time goes on, I have learned to live alone, care for myself, help who I can, when I can, and just be me. Thats the way life has to be!

Blind Loyalty: The Risks of Following Trump


I have heard all the excuses, all the blind loyalist and MAGA supporters, saying Trump is cutting deficiets and changing the economy is good. While I am not a MAGA Supporter or Trump supporter, I understand where he is coming with these cuts but, not his tariffs. Tariffs, he is throwing at the world in a haphazard way, are killing our allies and us in everyway. As our food prices rise, the cost of cars go up, your clothing goes up and the rents, people are hurting. As The cost to keep a roof over peoples heads, rise, Trump plays golf? This is not right, we all know it is not right and even some of the Republicans are startingto go WTF! Wake up folks!

When you have the type of money Elon Musk and Trump have, you get the feeling you are royality, or your inpervious to everything. Even the rich will cry soon, believe me. Homes go up by tens of thousands in prices, rents get raised again, car prices skyrocket, your toilet paper even rises in price. Food goes up, and so much more, and we get the excuse there will be a short pain we all feel. The pain will not be short folks, if these tariffs stay in affect for any period of time over 60 days, America will be falling deeper into a recession which has already started due to them and ultimately into a depression, like the great depression of yesteryear. Do we want food lines, no jobs, hungry and sick children and no way out? For that is where Trump is leading us all.

What I have found is, that no matter how you talk to MAGA People or Trump Supporters they will make an excuse for what is being done. They will never admit Trump can be wrong. It’s a basic fact folks, that is why they are Trump supporters, it is called blind loyality. In world history, people who have such blind loyalist behind them, topple, never forget that. You want proof look back in time, Look at the Romans, look at Hitler. They were both gonna make their countries richer, and expand them, then ego mania hit and suddenly the world realized, damn, they be crazy. Caesar fell, Hitler fell, and Trump shall too. The sad part to me is I thought Americans, had more common sense and more awareness of history then this. The fact that, it is still apparant and happening, that one man can create a cult so large as to control a country like this, is beyond belief to me. Yet, here we sit in 2025, with blind loyalist, backing a MAGA Cult created by Trump and his cronies and following him right down the rabbit hole to the countries destruction. It’s sad, USAID gone, Department of Education being torn asunder and taken away, Medicare, Medicaid and Social Security under attack! This is not cutting cost, it’s cutting benefits and needed items for Americans and the world in need.

Our political opponents laugh at Trump, ask Putin. Our one time allies France, Europe and others, are abandoning us. Mexico and Canada are fighting back and looking at the us like we are poison to them. And the MAGA crowd and Trump supporters smile and say see, they will cave in. It is a sad, sad world Trump is creating folks and America will regret ever electing him to a second term. It will take generations to reverse what he is doing, our children and grandchildren and future generations will suffer. It’s a sad state of affairs and Trump cares not what we say or ask him not to do, he is stubborn, foolish and he will do it anyway. All the rest of us can do, is hang on and hope we survive.

I can honestly say, I am truely, ashamed of Trump as our President. He destroys everything he touches folks. What was built to make America better, stronger and smarter is all being torn down. And because of that, we shall have less educated children and grandchildren to build it back. No guidance from the Federal Governement for Education is crazy. Those rules, regulations and guidance proceedures were put in place for reasons. Yet, the whole Department gets trashed by Trump? If it was good enough to help build our country, it should be left alone. The sad part is, no one can see the destruction because they are all crying over the loss of their 401k’s, and savings currently happening. The markets are not foolish or stupid they can see the destruction too, thus the drops that are the biggest in a long time. Sadly, folks, you won’t have a retirement pension or a 401k, to lean on when it comes time to retire now. It’s Gone folks, and it will take many more years to try to get it back, if you ever do!

The unemployment lines grow, with each layoff or firing. Where do these people go next, where are the jobs for them, to support their families? How do they eat, and find homes without jobs? What happens next folks, when your eggs cost you 8 to 10 bucks for a dozen and you can’t afford them? How many homelss people will we have on our streets? Food Pantries will have to reopen, and get really busy, as soon, soup lines will begin. This is where Trump is taking America folks, and to those who voted for him, when it hits you, do not cry, complain or beg for mercy, you brought it upon yourself.

I listen to these MAGA followers, I hear and see them everyday. And when I do I shake my head and walk away. The Blind leading the blind, the greedy leading the greedy and no one worried about those in need anymore. Used to be America was a all for one country, now it has gone from a all for one country to a country of all for me, and screw you. That is where America is heading folks, that is where it is today. It has gone from a we, we, we, society to a me, me, me society, and that my friends will not work for America.

Midterm Elections: A Solution to Trump’s Policies?


Well America, the days of spend and enjoy are over now. As prices rise left and right from cars to food and all in between. Bets advice for all Americans, save your cash, buy only what you need and hang on tight, from the Trump Tariff ride!

As Americans and the world get hit but a major tariff war, instigated and started by Trump, all of us suffer and try to hang on. People’s 401ks, go south, medicar and medicaid come under attack, Social Security ir being hit with firings and layoffs, and the Education Department is going down the tubes. What a wya to run a country, huh, MAGA Folks and Trumpers. This is the solution to saving America right? Be real, as we all suffer in pain and struggle to keep our heads above water.

The only people who can change this will be the Congress or The United States. The House and The Senate, must stand up against these tariffs, and changes Trump is instituting. If not, it will be along four years of Zrecession and in the end a Depression the world or America can not afford at this time. It’s fine for the rich who don’t care, but for middle america and below, it’sa hard road to hoe! The Average Household/ family has already been hit with increases of over 2 grand per year, nice going President Trump, you promised to lwer costs not increase them! Sad indeed America.

Enough though, one person like myself can only objection, yell, blog or post feelings, I can’t change the President, or the process or the direction alone. No one can, not in America. It has to bea United Effort folks, otherwise we flow with it all, and watch our country and economy go south and slide into third world status. We are that close already and the longer it goes on the further south go the stock market and economy and health care and so much more. Yet, the MAGA Crowd and Repulicans, all stand up and back Trump’s policies and tariffs and we all suffer for their misbeliefs and blind loyalty. It’s becoming a sad world in which to be American now. we are now, like a island by ourselves, with less allies and friends than ever before in out 250 year history.

I wish we had people like Washington, Jeffferson, Adams,Franklin and more still with us. If we did imagine where the current President would be, he would be tarred and feather and carried out of Washingtone on a pole. Our forefathers, would be ashamed, humiliated and embarrassed right now and so angry. Yet, here we are now, struggling to be heard, struggling to survive, and we are supposed to be the most powerful and rich nation in the world, but we are not anymore.

As all of the layoffs and firings keep happening in different governement jobs, I ask, where will these people go to work and support their families and to keep their homes? The Unemployment lines now grow at an increasing rate daily. People won’t be able to get social help anymore, Trump is shutting that down too. So, what doe sthe average american do now? Where do they turn to pay their bills and feed them selves and their children and to house their families? IT’s saa state of affairs for a once proud and prosperous nation to find itself in! Our Allies are abandoning us, because Trump has attacked them, Canada, Mexico, Europe all, turning away from the US now. We are alone and isolated under Trump, and will have to struggle through it all.

I pray as we look ahead, to the Mid-term elections, Americans will wake up. I pray the COngress is watching and paying attention and the American People too. The House and Senate must change in the mid-term elections, jsut to save the country in my opinion, Trump can not be allowed to run inchalleged and unchecked for a full four year term.

HIllary Rodham Clinton said it, Trump is Putin’s puppet! Take agood look folks, Russia is not on Trump’s tariff list! Why? Stop and think of that one!

Well I can rant and rave and argue and scream, but it will get me nowhere is does seem. I pray for the average american family now. I pray for the children who will not get a proper education, I pray for the sick and ill, I pray for the families whose parents have no jobs and who can’t feed, cloth and house their children and themselves. I don’t see it getting better folks and I don’t believe you do either. The only option we have, is to change the make=up of the Congress in mid=term elections. There must be a check and bakance put in place, to stop this madness of Trump’s. If not, we shall fall, right into the hands of Russia and Putin in no time. Our core values are being changed, our direction as a country is being changed, and Congress is allowing it, because Americans gave Trump carte a blance folks. You can’t elect a President and then hand him Congree fully like this! Look around and as prices rise, families face demise, our economy goes south, and over status as a leaidng nation is destroyed. I pray for the future, I pray for our children and grandchildren too. American always claimed in my lifetime we would leave a better America behind us for future generations to live in. Well that idea it seems to me is now, dead and gone. I only hope the Spirit Of America can live on!

Dating After 60: Realities and Hurdles for Widows and Widowers


March 31st, 2025 is here folks and going by quickly for me. The wetaher has not been that great as we all know who live in Westborough, Mass here. While it got warmer today, the overcast and rain mix, doesn’t disappear. I guess it iosa part of living in New England as i know from living and being raised in Connecticut.

Anyway, I have sometime before i have to go out tonight to play Billards, with my neighbors here tonight. So I wanted to discuss what I have found out about the dating world for people in my age range of 60 and up, for i am at 69 now. when I moved here in 2022, I was 65, and a sudden widower.

One problem is the age range i am in and the fact that not many my age of the opposite gender are really interested in dating anyone. The reasons are many I gather and have heard. 1) Being taken for money, 2) The sex on the first date syndrome so to say. 3) The availability of the opposite gender, period. 4) There are many more widows than widowers for sure. 5) Many fears come up for both genders, the chance of being taken for property, money or being abused and used. 6) Both genders do not want to be the pocket book for the other for sure in today’s economy it is tight and expensive and getting worse. 7) Being that I am not a drinker of partier so to say, I do not go to Bars, or Taverns, it is a waste of money and time, because that is not where one would normally meet someone in my age range. 8) There are few places for senior citizens to really go to, to meet the opposite gender, in this town I live in. 9) The Westborough Senior Center in town, is a poor place to hang out and not very enjoyable for anyone. It is a sad place, that has very little. 10) Westborough it seems is made up of banks, churches, bars and taverns and stores, resturants. 11) While there are pleanty of Bars/ Taverns in town, they are not geared to the elderly crowd or senior citizens. 12) Dating apps, I have investigated them, tried them, and they cost money, and do not work, again, many fake profiles and hucksters and people trying to take others for money. Attitudes are very guarded and protective among seniors and others these days. Trust has become an issue and no one will really takea chance these days. Security and self-protection is vital. And no I don’t blame anyone for it, it is now a part of American Society and it’s culture these days.

The dating scene is rough, it’s tough, people are choosey, and careful. Do I blame them, no I am the same. No one wants to lose what they have and have earned over time. The rich of course are better off and may take more chances in the dating world, but in the end even they know better these days. So, what does a Senior Citizen do, to survive and find comapny or companionship? Some Volunteer for organizations in town, which I get, it is being civic minded and helpful. Some go to The Senior Center here and in nearby towns. There is nothing geared to Seniors really here. Some walk the malls for exercise and to keep healthy. There is one book store in town and some will hang at the Cafe there, and talk to friends. Ever try to talk to complete strangers, to get to know them? I know for me, and I am a man, I have the same fears, most women have, rejection is the big one. We lose our confidence as we age, our looks go down, our health goes down, etc. So what do you do, if all I am saying is true? Well, I know what I do, I stay to myself, save my money, mind my own business, venture out very seldom and know, that chance of me finding someone to share life with is very slim. yet there is not much one can do is there folks? This is what happens to people who are widows or widowers in America and in Massachuetts here.

The hardest thing for anyone who was married for a long period of time to overcome, is the fact that, we are stuck in our ways, and we have no idea anymore, of how to approach someone we may be interested in. We forgot how to flirt! The dating scene is different, and we are totally out of practice. So, we stumble, we bumble and we fail. We are not sure of anything anymore for we are not young. So, if you are like me, you try things, places, apps and then finally go, ok, I did what I could. I guess, I am destined to be alone till my time comes, and surrender. Thats the current life, many of us who are senior find ourselves in, these days.