December 16th has arrived! 2022 is passing quickly and it seems to me, I am more alone than ever before in my life. With the passing of my wife over 16 months ago, I find myself wondering what to do next. Boredom can be the biggest killer for me, and I hesitate to talk to women, for I do not wnat to hurt anyone in anyway, by comparing them to my wife who died.

It is Christmas Holiday Season, and I am alone so it is depressing to me. But the Holiday is not what depresses me, it is knowing I have no one to share it with, or to be with at all. While I have lived alone before in my life, I know being alone is not good for me, my soul and who I am as a person. Yet, I fear, rejection, I fear senial, I fear not being wanted, and I know, I am not the most loveable person. So when youhave fears, and you isolate yourself you lose out and it drives you deeper into isolation and ultimately, depression can get to you. So I fight it an dtry to carry on daily, it is what I do.

Others are preparing to visit family, and friends, so they are busy all around me. They rush to shop, or to be with family, friends and i stand by and watch it all happen. My wife died, my parents are gone, the only one I have left is a sister and she has her life to live. So, whenyou have npo one like i do, you wander, you walk, and you just try to keep the mind busy and hope is all that keeps you going.

I have no decorations, I have no p;lans you see, I have only myself, to supply for and keep going. The Christmas Lites just bring back memories of past times, and they make me smile for a moment and then the smile fades, for I know at 66 years old, there will be no more smiling days. My life is and has always been a lonely one, even though I have been married twice, Don’t ask me how they happened, because to be honest I never learned to flirt, not once in my life. Other men know how to flirt and how to find someone tpo be with, I do not. Never did, I just wander and roam and carry-on all alone. What my purpose is in life i have yet to figure out, but here I am still alive, only the good Lord knows why.

I write blogs, I sometimes write stories if I have the motivation to now a days, or poems if I get inspired by a feeling or someone or something I see. MY life is cleaning my condo, doing my laundry, watchingtv, playing X-nox, reading a book,walking, and twice a week I go out. I play pool one nite and bowl another and then return to my cave, like a bear, and hide till the next time. I see my Doctors when I have appointments of course, for medically and dental wise i need help and repairs, lol,

In the meantime the world rushes by and I hold stillalone in my own place in it. Maybe it is just my fate or my destiny I do not know anymore. I know I have done all I could for my family growing up, my friends in my teen years and early 20s, I did all I could for my first wife and my two daughgters, till they turned on me for some reason. Then, they were gone too. I have no contact with my daughters, my grandchildren in anyway and they know nothing of me. So, in a way, in my first marriage I had two of everything, then it all went bye, bye, after 12 years.

My second marriage, lasted 28 years, and it ended in her passing from long cancer battle that I walked and helped her through over 16 years of our 28n together. Now that she is gone so is her family, I became a part of, and the home we shared is gone, I sold it all, because i could not live in it, after she was gone. So, I bought a condo for myself, I write blogs, I write poetry and short stories, I chat on the internet when I can, I watch tv, play x-box, read a book, build puzzles, if I can keep my attention on them and walk whenever I can. But, I am missing the connection, sommunication, companionship I had with my wife. The support, the caring, knowing there is that one person you can say anything you want to and know they will respond in a helpful way and give you advise. Certain things in relationships i miss, the trust, the honesty, the input, the togetherness, the physical closeness. I doubt there is anyone out there who will want a 66 year old man, so I stay alone. Self doubt gets me, and I hesitate and just go on alone.

I try to deal with the facts in life always and just accept life as it goes along. It is what a person does, in my mind. I accept the fact I am alone, I accept the fact I have my imperfections, and difficulties, as well as physical and mental ones, and I handle them without harming other or bothering others. I don’t drinlfolks, Idon’t smoke, or do drugs, so no, can’t blame any addictions for anything that happens to me. I blame myself for how I am, for i spent my life so far this way, I am like the lone wolf of the world who roams, and roams, and deals for himself, till at sometime i run into a pack, spend sometime with that pack and then move on alone again. Is it wrong to be that way, I know not, I just know as a jud i wa sthe same and it never left me. I run alone, and only slow down, when I know I am safe or comfortable.

Lone Wolfs do the same in the woods, the reason they do so, is they instinctly know, if they stay in a pack too long the pack turns on them. I have been told in the past, I am not competitive enough and i don’t play to win. There is a reason for that, for when I concentrate and actually compete I win, andit turns people off when all you do is win. They get upset, they get angry, so to avoid making people angry or upset I just play for fun. Lone Wolves do the same thing, in packs, I do not want to ne the leade rof the pack and compete all the time or fight always. There has to be a peaceful way to survive and rhat is all I have always seeked. To exist and survive in a world where I have no choice, but to survive, is all I want to do in peace, is it wrong, I doubt it. I am of the oldopinion, live an dlet live and mind your own, old school the way I was raised.

Hello to all, on December 13th, 2022. as the days tick toward X-mas and the New Year, I hope all becoming filled with laughter and cheer. Tis is the Season for shopping and presents, laughs and sometimes tears, but it is a time for all to be with family and friends I believe.

For me 2022, will be the first full year that has passed that I am alone again in many years. Learning to live alone again after a long relationship and marriage is not easy, but we all adapt top the circumstances we go through don’t we. Learning to pay my own bills, do my own laundry and dishes and such, hasn’t been too bad on me, for I did it while married too. The hard part of being single again, is the simplest part, the quiet, the being actually alone most of the time and trying to occupy my own mind and find things to do.

So, I do puzzles, I read books, I clean my condo, I walk the area around me and the malls. I try to chat online in chat rooms, I play X-box on and off these days too. I have looked into Dating Sites like Ok Cupid and Zoosk and such and found that most are just money grabbers, and many profiles are either old or fake in them. So, I try to just look and not react to any of the e-mails from them after i join em. Seems, there are no rral ones out there, that won’t cost a guy or girl my age a fortune to try or get into. Everyone wants your money these days and many women know what they have and how to use their bodies and looks to get it too. But that is normal here in America and in the world these days, and it is just a fact of life is it not?

As to what is next I still do not know for me. I continue to write my blogs as you can see here. I haven’t lately gone back tpo story writing, or poetry much, only when a thought hits me, doI do so these days.

Politics is maddening in America to watch and the corruption and dishonesty that is happening is gross today. I don’t care what anyone says, whether Donald J. trump was President makes no difference, the crimes that occurred on January 6th, need to be tried and convicted an dpunished or they will happen again. I remind all, Donald J. Trump was handed millions when he turned of age, then he started cheating contractors out of money by paying them cents on the dollar and workers too. Then he failed at selling water, steaks, and he duped millions out of money with his Trump University scam and got richer. Then one day he decided he is running for President and he conned America into Electing him,sadly enough.

I remind all Trump supporters, he did nothing for you or me, he put through a tax bill that saved him and his rich cronies money, he failed to build he wall on the Mexican Border. He screwed up all reactions to COvid and even suggested people drink bleach to kill the virsus. Then he got the covid virsus in the White House, and hid the fact he was treated for it and survived it.

Then he reran for President for a second term and failed, Instead of being a honorable man, and comceding to Joe BIden, he decided he was going to try to stay in The White House, by causing riots and sedition against his own governement, Sad. The Capital, our Capital came under attack because he denied he lost the election and tried to stop the certification of the votes. He almost killed Senators and Representatives by the attack on the capital, and he siced, people on his own Vice President too. Sad indeed.

Then when forced to leave Office he ran to Florida, taking with his top secret and secret documents he has no reason to have with him. Stored them on his property, hid them from the governement and got caught doing so. Some please tell me what he had those documents for, who did he show them to in Mar a Lago? Then, he is served with Search Warerents to retrive said documents,, turns some over and hides more. I remind all he had hundreds of top secret and secret documents, and hid them not once, not twice but three times, the last few werefound in a storage unit belonging to him, just lately. Now, I want to say this carefully so all understand this, if you or I, civillians who are citizens of America, did the same with these documents or any documents of the like, where we would be right now, locked up and not seeing daylight for many years. So why doesn’t The Department of Justice Arrest, charge and indict Donald J. Trump? To me he is traitor, a insurrectionist, a sedious son of a bitch. He stays in Mar a Lago and runs for reelection again, and no one is stopping him, why is that? I remind all in The Justice Department, and all American Citizens, heis now just another American Citizen with no protections from prosecution, indictments or charges and he should be arrested and put behind bar, not be running for President again!

No wherer in America’s 246 year history, has any President led an isurrection and attack on our capital before. Never has an American President asked people to hang his Vice President either unto Donald J. Trump did. Never did a President sit in the White House and watch such an event happen and do nothing about it. Donald J. Trump did! Explain to me how he is still free and able to run for President again, Congress and the Americna people!!!! Please Explain it to me and others, for I see no way it should be allowed.

2022 is rolling to an end folks, and the debacle that is Donald J. Trump and all he has caused and done should be rolling toit’s end too, if it doesn’t we shall be in trouble in America. This man had the gall to call for the end of Constitional Rule and the shunning of our Constitution here. You really think a man who doesn’t believe in our Constitution should be able to run for President? Stop him, arrest him, charge him, indict him amd end the farce that is Donald J. Trump now!!!!

If he allowed to run for the Presidency again, we shall see more violence, more damage and more anger. Stop Donald J. Trump Congress, only Congress can stop him from running again by banning him from ever holding a public office again in America! Let’s Ban DOnald J. Trump now! Call your Senators, your representatives, and lets not let him on the ballot again!

Hello December 11th, 2022, and yes I am still alive and kicking here! I know I have not been writting blogs lately, I am trying yo settle in to a new home and a new life in a bew state and town here in Mass. Westborough is a cozy little town to live in and is mostly quiet and peaceful. You may even call it boring actually, because not much really happens here. I have been here since Maech of 2022 now, living in a condo unit in a 55 plus communinty. As the community grows I am sure it will get a little more intersting for sure. Yet for me I go day by day, I walk a lot, I read some, I write and chat online,I play X-box, I read, Once a week I play pool at the clubhouse and once a week now I bowl for fun in the league here. Other wise I mind my own business basically, and hope for the best.

It’s now been 16 months since the passing of my wife, each day I think of her. Yet I have come to realize she can not come back to me, and yes I miss her still. I am trying to deal with the present now, leave the past behind, it does not mean I shall ever forget her, it just means I am alive and must carry-on in life. IT is a decision all widowers must make and learn as we go along I believe, or we do not survive on our own very long.So forward is where I am trying to go, to try to find someone to make me laugh again, someone I like sharing time with, and someone who I am compatable with near my age in my area here.

Christmas Season is now upon us once more. I am sure most have family and friends to share the time with and exchange gifts with, I do not. So, I shall more than likely be alone through the season and intoi the New Year of 2023 is I survive it all. Hopefully I shall, but like I always say no one control fate or destiny, nor does anyone control mother nature or father time. So each day I wake up I basically wonder, why am I here, what purpose is my being here for? I have not found a reason or answer as of yet. Hopefully something will happen to show me the way, as i carry on day by say, just being me.

Life is a mystery folks in many ways, for we do not know why we are here on this planet, what our purposes are for real, do we? Yet we live upon this planet, scurrying to and fro each day, interacting with one another, yet seperate from each other in our own ways. Who knows our real purpose for being here asa part of humanity? Our creator is the answer, I havea singular belief, that we are all placed here on this planet to complete missions, preprogrammed into us genetically at birth, to complete certain things in life. When we complete the missions assigned to us, we fullfill our purpose and missions and we are recalled, back to whence we have come from. That is my belief and as to what those missions or purpose may be, we are not allowed to know, just do as we go.

I have certain things I do, and so do each of you. Some of us are destined to shine brightly and bring light to those around us and others are meant to do the opposite. I think we balance each other out in the end.

I write as I say, these blogs, I have done short stories and poems too and posted them online. I don’t care if people like my work, or the stories I tell are complete or incomplete, I just do them. It’s to entertain my mind, to occupy me as a person and keep me going. Some do it to make money and are very prolific at it, I am not and never claimed to be. Yet I write.

I walk to keep my joints working each day, for at my age one must have some form of exercise to keep moving. I have been told my sense of humoris strange by some, by others I am said to be funny. I can ve sarcasic, bombastic, silly or serious. We all can I am sure.

Now for those who I have met in my area and place i reside and live in, let me say this, I find many people nic ehere, we are all in the same age range. I have been here now since March of 2022, and met many. I avoid involvements with women here for a reason, its only common sense. As my sister told me, you don’t want to shit in your own backyard, it comes back to haunt you. A condo community, talks, it will spread rumors and ideas and thoughts and people point fingers. I want no one pointing at me about any relationships I may have, so I stay alone. Secondly, I don’y know if people realize, but, I do not take to being compared to other men, in meat market comparrison very well. So, I avoid such things by minding my own.

Now, I am not saying there are not women here that would interest me, I am saying I shall not go there for fear of the meat market comparrison and the too close knit community item I have mentioned. I have looke don dating sites also, of course, any normal man would who is single in this day and age. I have not found anyone in reasonable distance from me to meet, nor do I believe the dating sites really work. It’s just a way to have fun is all now-a-days. Am I lonely, yes, do I miss female companionship yes, yet, I know better than to do so here.

As, you can see, many things go through my mind, if you have read my blogs before. I cover politics, I write books, short stories, poems and blogs. Overall I never know what I shall write next, so I just write. I hope by doing so, I voice what I feel, what I know to be ral and what I dislike too. It all helps balance me as a man.

IT is now December 11th, 2022, the Christmas Season is in it’s swing now, there wil be parties and celebrations right through the New Year. I hope and pray for all, that they are happy and fun for all involved. I wish all a Very Happy Holiday Season of course!!! May your Holiday Season be filled with smiles and cheer,! May you family and friend stay very near. May you rloved ones be healthy and you be fine, For now my friends it is Christmas Time!

November 21st, 2022 has arrived, and the Holiday Season shall be upon us all very soon, with Thanksgiving up first on Thursday. I want to wish all a plentiful Thanksgiving and fun times with their families. For many like me, it will be a slow season, quiet and filled with memories and loneliness acutually. When you start your holiday season, build the memories with your loved ones, partners and each generation, for as you grow older you will have just those memories to live on.

I know the Holiday Season for many will be filled with fun and joy, and presents and gifts and togetherness, it is the way it is meant to be. Yet, as I now know, there is a point when it won’t be so. Many like me, who have lost the partner they loved so long, are suddenly entering the Holiday Season alone, for the first or second time. As I do, I am trying hard not to get depressed or down, I am trying hard to look up and make it an adventure instead of a time to get depressed. Any Doctor will tell you, Holiday Season, can be the worse time of year for those of us who are suddenly alone. We miss the ones we loved, who have passed and we tend to shy away from involvements with others, for fear of bringing them down with us. Plus we do not want to start new relationships or commitments, so soon after our loses.

I hang onto the memories of my wife who passed due to cancer in August of 2021. Her laughter, her advise, her smile and her involvement made my life better for 28 years. I would never give up one day I had with her, I have no regrets regarding our life together, just that I could not save her in the end. we fought the fight against her cancer for 16 years, before she succumbed to it, and in the middle I overcame lung cancer too. I miss her in more ways than one, as a confident, an advisor, a communicator and much more. She was indeed my better half.

So as the Holiday Season starts this week and people rush to and fro, to get food together for the Turkey Day of 2022 and we do so in a country filled with threats and violence raised by a former President, we must forge ahead in a positive light and way. I want all on Thanksgiving to stop and step back for a second before you eat your big meal, or settle in for a football game or movie, stop and look around you, think of those who love you and you love in return, count the blessings of having them in your life and be thankful for all you have each day. Family is everything folks, it’s not, do I have a big turkey on my table or plentiy of food, it’s who you are with that counts. You will learn that as you age each year that goes by, as the numbers diminish of family around you and you begin to miss each of them and are left still.

I have come to tell myself, I have no choice in being alone, for I could not prevent the passing of my wife of 28 years. I did all I could for her and I learned I had to move on in my own way, away from the home we shared and the life we shared, otherwise the depression would have gotten me. As I sit here today, I have to steel myself for the Holiday Season coming up and keep my head up and try to keep my mind busy. I do not know why I am still here and alive without her, but I do know I am, and I must try to stay positive and as busy as possible.

Each of us deals with loneliness in different ways, some go out and search for company and enter bars and clubs and drink our way through, some of us do not drink we read, build puzzles, read books and walk alone. Some of us pick up hobbies and toys and games. For me I try to read alot, I try to buid puzzles yes, for I am that type of person. I have reached out just a bit, by playing Billards on Monday evenings and then bowling on Thursday nights. yet, as Holidays appraoch there will be periods of none of that, and it will be harder to survive and carry on with it.

I have been told to get off my ass and go out and find someone to be with. I just don’t have it in my heart to do so, nor do I wish to pull anyone else down with me in anyway. So, I don’t approach or ask anyone out, i shy away from such things, for I am not sure I can handle any emotional connection at this time. On one hand I would prefer to have a partner or friend to share life with, on the other I can’t be sure if I am strong enough to handle it again. I hope that makes sense.

Anyway, as the year rolls on as I say, it is not that time for the Holidays ahead. I do wish all a Happy Thanksgiving and a great Holiday Season as it begins. I will never and never have been one to force myself on anyone or into anyone’s life, so I shall carry on alone. I shall walk, watch tv, read books, build puzzles, play video games and carry on. Hopefully it wil be enough for me. Time shall tell is what I say. Welcome to the Holiday Season of 2022 all and I hope and pray for happiness for all!

BY: William M. McCurrach 11/17/2022

When I was young, it was fun to roam from family to family,

From home to home,

Never realizing, I was alone!

I couldn’t stay at home, where I was used, abused and ignored,

So I would roam, roam and roan, like a vagabond without a home.

As I got older, I kept running you see,

I had no choice, for I came from a violent family,

LIke a vagabond I would roam, from family to family, wishing for a decent home.

As I grew and aged I came to see, the vagabond life was not for me.

I wanted a home, a place to stay, a place that was mine,

Both nite and day.

I wanted a wife as part of my life,

and children to love and keep,

I found what I wanted once and then it escaped me,

And back to being a vagabond became a way for me.

I don’t wnat to be a vagabond, it is just not me,

A vagabond is not the life for me.

I choosea different route, I joined the military,

Life became a routine, that grew on me,

Then, I was injuried and discharged you see,

Turns, out I was back to a vagabond life for me.

It lasteda few more years, as my eyes filled with tears,

I figured it out, and did not shout, and found another you see,

Who agreed that a vagabond life was not for me.

We joined at the hip and got married, it was like a story book fairytale,

Together we had it all, a big home, and cars and two of everything we needed,

IT was then, I knew as I do now,

The vagabond life was not for me.

I don’t want to be a vagabond,

Living out of suitcases and boxes and bags,

A Vagabond life is not for me!

Because a vagabond has no home, a vagabond lives alone and a vagabond is always on their own,

with no place to live, is stuck alone,

To die alone on their own.

A vagabond is not what I want to be, So please hear me!

Last night, Former President Donald J. Trump, declared his third run for the Presidency of the United States. The fact that he is doing so, should bother not only his fellow Republicans, but all Americans. He should not be capable of doing so, nor should he be allowed on the legal front either. In American History no President has committed crimes and done so much damage to the American democracy and Republic as Donald J. Trump has accomplished. Sadly, he has followers and that shall be a problem for America. If this man, wins in 2024, America is done as a democracy and republic, and we may as well be russians. or communists, or as some have said a dictatorship. The fact that the Republicans are so scared of Trump, that they have no guts or balls to stop Trump is a sad discussion and subject as well as mark against the republican party. MItch McConnell, Kevin McCarthy and Lindsey Graham and others, kissing Trump’s ass and backing him will destroy our country. It’s damgerous folks and i don’t care what anyone says.

Trump lost in 2020, he denied he lost and refused to concede. He set up an attack and insurrection against his own country and governement and when forced to leave office, he threatened to hang his own vice president. Then he set up the riot against the capital and brought in the Proud Boys. Qanon and Oath Keepers. Yet he is still allowed to run again? Why?

Worse then the above, DOnald J. Trump left office and took hindreds of secret and top secret documents to his home in Mar A lago, for what purpose I ask you all. Why didhe have them, who did he show them to, who was he going to use them against, who is he going to blackmail with them? Did he show them to Russians, North Koreans, or anyone else.? How many Chinese, North Koreans, or Russians visited Mar A Lage and saw these documents?

I remind all now, by allowing Donald J. Trump to run for the Presidency in 2024, he was twice Impeached in one term, he stole secreta nd top secret documents and he set up attacks on our capital and against our politicians, almost killing them. We watched as his people destroyed the capital, and almost destroyed and took apart our country and now he can still run! Why?

I will say this, Donald J. Trump is not runningt to win election to the Presidency, he is runningt o stop the indictments and charges against him. The charges in New York, Georgia and bt The Federal Justice Department should be enough to stop him from running. Anyone supporting Donald J. Trump must know, his odds of winning are very low #1, number two dangerous for the violence will restart. Why are we allowing a man who is under investigations in three areas or more to run for the Presidency, please explain that?

I would love to see one reporter, for CNN or anothe rnews agency on Television, go to the prison and jail cells of the members of the OathKeepers, Qanon Members and Proud Boys Members and interview thjem and ask them how they now feel about Donald J. Trump. Now that they are convicted felons, can’t vote, and have to serve time and pay fines for doing what Trump told them to do on January 6th! Ask them how they feel about him running again, and tey being locked up as he eats steaks, drinks champange in Mar A Lago and play golf on the countries dime.

In the end do me a favor CNN, lets talk about Trump’s failures! His failures to sell steaks, water, his cheating of students with his Trump University. His cheating of contractors in New York and beyond, The Charges the Governement may bring, Georgia may bring and New York too. His Twice Imeachment, his getting the capital destroyed! Are you scared of Donald J. Tump? Seems to me, that Congress fears him or they would ban him from public office! They are cowards and they are going to sit back and let him try to do it all again.

Donald J. Trump should be banned from public office, he should be arrested for the crime he has committed. Instead The Justice System won’t charge him because he is now a candidate for the Presidency again. New York and Georgia have no such deal with Congress, they should proceed and charge him. Yet, again, cowards ruled the roast here don’t they, in the meantime, Trump will run an dbe protected by these stupid agreements. Congres is filled with cowards and enablers of Trump,that is why he can do this.

Stop Enabling Donald J. Trump. stop protecting him, start charging him an dprotecting the country we live in. Ban him now, charge him now, indict him now and lets get him a public trial for all to see on tv. I think all are scarred! It is sad as hell.

November 14th, 2022 is now here. As this day begins, I reflect some on life as I have lived it and as it has occurred for me. Each of us grows up differently, in our own families and each family raises it’s own in their own way. So yes we are going to have in grown or taught differences, it is how we integrate it all into society as we go along in life that counts. Some of us close ourselves off and judge others quicker than others, and some of us are easier going and accept things as they are and move on. How we handle the differences is what makes our world exist and go round these days.

I grew up in the projects of Waterbury, Connecticut’s North End in the 1960’s. We had it all white, black, hispanics, it didnt matter, we were all on the same level, struggling to survive in the world. We played together, we laighed together, we cried together and we fought together and against one another. We also learned to be tolerant of one another, to walk away from trouble when we could and in the end, that we could make friends of anyone no matter color, creed or nationality. I think more people need to grow up andunderstand, it doesn’t matter what color your skin is, what nationality you are, what creed you are, or where you are from, what does matter is simple, tolreance, open communication, listening and respecting one another. We have no right to make judgements on anyone, nor do we have the right to hate someone when they did nothing to uis. Those who judge too quick, lose folks.

Now, that said, I moved on in life after those projects, and grew up and then joined the military. When you do that, you no longer put yourself first in your life, you put your fellow countrymena nd womena nd families first. You serve your country and you do so with everyone. We all breath folks, we all hurt folks, we all laughed, we all cry, we all bleed, we all shit the same and we all urinate the same. We all dress the same. So, tell me why the fear if someone is a diffent color, or someone speaks differently, or acts differently? It is what we are taught by those who raise us is what it is. So, at some point in life, we grow old enough, smart enough and bold enough to make our own decisions and we must do so.

I do not approve of predijuce, discrimination, segregation, or antiseminisim. I do not believe in the MAGA bullshit either. I don’t believe in the Woke Movement either, what ever it means. What I do belive in is simple, honest and true, we all must live together, we all must get along and we all must accept our differences, and say, ok, you have your beliefs, I have mine, we don’t agree, but, we all have the right to live free and be who we are and survive. I tire of anger, I tire of verbal insults, physical fights and violence. You don’t like someone or something walk away, let it be, do your own thing and move on. Never force yourself on someone else, never force your beliefs on someone else, never force your form of sexuality on anyone else either. You do and people take these items as attacks on themselves. Don’t go there, there is no need for it.

Final word for today, before you do snap-judgements, attack others, shun others, learn who they are, and why they are who they are, what there experiences maybe or may not be. Snap Judgements lead to misunderstanding and problems, just don’t do it, is all. Politics will always be a subject I comment on. MY one comment on the political climate in America is this. The Political climate is worse, because it is being agravated by Trump’s denial of his loss of the 2020 Election annd his refusual to conceede and accept defeat. It is foolish, sad and in my opinion, sad. He lost period by the same margins in the electoral college that he beat Hillary Clinton with. It’s over, let it die. Stop destroying America, over lies, let it be. Secondly, don’t allow Trump to run again and if he is allowed to, turn the page Republicans, he is destroying your party and our country. He cost you the mid-terms, and in the end, you need to find a new leader and head for your party, period, he is dangerous and noxious to the party and country. He is dangerous to America’s security in all ways.

Hello all! It is Friday November 11th, 2022. When I stop and think of how it is to live as a single person, after a long marriage and life with a partner and lover of 28 years, I sometimes wonder, why people do not understand, in reality, what it really takes to make a relationship work that long.

I try at times to advise others, in how to have a relationship that works, and some get it and some don’t. It is important to start at the beggining when talking relationships. When I say beggining, I mean when you are still single and roaming around, hoping to find someone to be with.

I make this point for a good reason. Do yourself a favor, whether you are male, or female, understand yourself first, before venturing out to meet someone else. Find yourself, as a person, what do you like to do, what are your real likes, and dislikes. I say this because, in order to like someone else, you must first like yourself in all ways. You must be able to care for yourself, keep yourself going, laugh and have fun on your own too. So, take a good long look at yourself first, are you, an introvert or an extrovert? Do you like sports, books,writing, walking etc. I say this because as a single person, what you like and what hobbies are, drives you and can get you noticed by others. Once you know yourself, you grow to learn what it take for someoneelse to like themselves too.

Now, you are self-suffiecient, know what you like to do, and happy at doing it, that is when you can be yourself and find a partner for a relationship, but, I remind all, it is the only way it will happen for you. As i say, like yourself first and foremost. If you don’t like yourself, you will never like anyone else.

Now, let me say this, men and women do not think the same way, about finding someone for a relationship. They are not looking for the samethings. We are run on different systems as men and women, so to say. Yes, both sexes, look for certain things in common, looks, cleanliness, kindness, then not everyone is attracted to each other, otherwise it would be widely easy to find a partner, it isn’t.

Men and women both look for who they are attracted to yes. Women and men do not look at age differences the same. Age does come into play, for most, you want someone in your preferred age range I agree, for most it is 5 years younger or five years older. Then, for what reason, do you want a partner ,comes into play!.

Do you want someone to share your life? If you do, you must understand women run more on emotions and men on common sense and logic. I am not saying men can not be emotional, or women lack common sense here, I am saying, that they look at relationships differently from those points of view.

So, look for compatability after you look at who you are attracted to. Look for open communication. Look for honesty, truthfullness, and be careful of selfish people, who only want for themselves. Selfness is a killer in all ways folks. Means if your in a relationship and all the person you are with talks about is themselves, what they want, not what you both want, time to re-evaluate!

Communicate openly, honestly, people look at hygine, we do not associate with slovenly people. People do not like impolite or rude people either. Learn manners folks. If your a man learn to not only communicate well when you speak, but, learn the biggest lesson of all, listen folks. Listen to what the person you are interested in is saying, not what you want to hear, but, what they are really saying. Stop, hearing what you want to hear, and listen to what the other person really is saying, take the translators off. We are all guilty of not listening well, when I say well, I mean don’t throw your own filters on what people say, be open, listen fully.

Be open to who you are with, and women have things they expect from us men. Some want us to be in charge, some want us to be 50/50 with them and some women want to be in charge too. Which one you want, makes a large difference here. Everyone whether male or female, no matter age, race, color, or creed, knows whether they want the power to make their own choices and decsions, just keep that in mind as you go through life. Some have no ability to compromise, if someone can not compromise, run the otherway, save yourself the trouble.

So as you start searching, or reaching out and doing what you love to do and have fun doing it, people will notice you and vice versa. It is a natural occurrence in life, we smile at one another, we frown at one another, we laugh, we cry, yes, even men can be emotional too. Being yourself is vital, at all times.

Once in a dating situation we tend to start evaluating one another. Do youself a favor folks, remember all relationships build daily, this is not an instant process. It is an on going process. Do youself a favor don’t think someone owes you something, in a new relationship they don’t. Don’t start asking why are you not helping me, why aren’t you giving me this or that. accept what you get. If it is not enough, and you can’t talk it over honestly, get out, Your expectations may not be met by the person you are dating, if not, talk it out before you dump the relationship, if you don’t you may be sorry later. Women have a process they go throughg after being hurt, men don’t really. Women look for red flags, things that bother them big time, men don’t. men look for is she bossy, is she demanding, is she foolish, os too silly or not intelligent. Women look at, is he capable, is he strong, does he laugh, can he help me, wil he help me, is he polite to me and others,. Women look for manners, in men. Women want men who treat them respectful, be respectful please both sides. If you are not respectfull to one another, get away from each other it is not going to work.

So lets rehash here and maybe next time I will go deeper into relationships. But, it is time to go over important points here.

1. Be yourself and like yourself. If you don’t you can’t like anyone else.
2. Do what you love and like to do, first and foremost, your are still single.
3. As you do what you like someone will notice you sooner or later, let it happen naturally.
4. Be polite, use manners, be open to talking to others.
5. Listen, to what people say, without filters.
6. Be honesty, not rude.
7. Open communication is vital
8. Compromise must be used and learned
9. Do not think you know it all, no one does, be open to learning new things.
10. As you go forward and get older, people get set in their ways, you either accept that or don’t. if you don’t move on.
11. The biggest clue I can give on top of all of the above is this, do not force anything you do on anyone else, people reject that and will walk away.
12. Help others where you can, but remember help only with what you can, don’t overstep.

Ok, above is some advice I give on relationships, to people I like, who ask me what to do at times. Now, let me say this, I am not perfect and I speak and advise only from things I have learned in my life. I am not one hundred percent correct and it may not work for everyone out there. No man or woman is perfect folks, but we try and that is what drives life on earth. At no time, am I saying, follow what I say 100 percent, or I am correct and you are wrong, I am saying these are suggestions about building and finding relationships, I offer. Again, offer is the key here, I am not twisting arms, forcing nothing on anyone else and never would. I hope this advice helps some find good relationships in their lives and helps to make life better for all.

One last thing, I remind all, I have lived through two long relationships in my life. One was 12 years long and ended in divorce, what ended it was simple lackof communication and hiding of one’s past, not mine, The send relationship I live through lasted 28 years, and ended with the passing of my wife. Just in case someone thinks i have no idea on relationships, I wanted to mention this. You may Take the advice or you may not, Take or Leave it Folks! Be well and if you have questions or comments feel free, to leave then here on my blog page, or you may e-mail them to me, at bmccurrach20@gmail.com.

Thursday has arrived and it is now going on two days since the mid-term elections in America. November 10 th, 2022 is now, post election and the results are still be counted, for all to see and no results are final yet for the House or the Senate. It is now also, 15 months sinc ethe passing on my wife, of 28 years. Like her passing and these elections, the recovery from both shall take myself and this country, a while to accept and understand.

Politics in America these days, has many twists, turns and ups and down to it. Sadly, we still have the Trump, MAGA problems. I remind all Americans and someone must, we did not havea violent society like we do today, before Trump! We did not have the clashes we have, nor did we ever hear of The Proud Boys, Qanon, orThe Oathkeepers before Trump brought them into play by calling for them to stand by. I remeind all who sit here and want to blame Biden for the economy, he inherited this mess, he didnt create it! Trump created it, with his stupidity. Biden didnt tell Putin to attack Ukraine either folks, but, he is handling helping Ukraine survive and hanh on just fine. STop blaming Biden and wake up, no President can fix the problems caused in America by DOnald Trump and his MAGA follower sin 2 years, period it takes time.

That being said, let me go on to a very interesting converstaion I have yesterday morning and on a ride back and forth to an appointment I had at the Veteran’s Hospital. I am a disabled veteran as I am sure i mentioned in my blogs before, so, I asked for a ride to the hospital for tests I needed done, The driver assigned to me wasa black woman and very talkative and friendly. We conversed going and coming and while waiting in the hospital also. Our converstaion wasinteresting on many points. 1) We discussed politics and the races as they were happening, to be reported. 2) We discussed Trump and how we both think he belongs in a jail cell somewhere and not allowed to run for office ever again, 3) We discussed the Warnock, Walker race in Georgia and what we both saw, plainly, Walker is an idiot and fool. 4) We discussed the difference between whites, blacks, hispanics, orientals and colors in America. 5) We discussed ingnorance in peoplein general, and how there are ignorant people in all races, colors and creeds in America. It was an interesting time because, we found out as few Americans do, on a short ride under two hours each way, that color and sex do not matter. We had the same opinions and thoughts on all subjects.

Look let me say this to all Americans, all, not just the whites or the blacks, or the hispanics, or the Orientals, or Indians we have here in America, we want the same things folks. We want peace, we want prsperiety, we want justice for all, and equality. We want fair elections and to be heard and listened to. We want to be able to house our families, eductate our children and raise them properly, we want good health, and we want to live in a society the is a democracy and a republic. We must work together to rid this nation and country, America, of internal hates, predijuce and discrimination and more. But we need to eliminate this stupidity of the MAGA movement and trump first and foremost.

I want to live in a world in peace, don’t you? THis MAGA movement shit is stupid folks, Make America Great Again, who the hell thought it up and why? America has been and will be the greatest country in the world and great in it’s own right for going on 247 years now. We are still the only nation where everyone can register to vote and be heard, we still can choice our own religion and freedom of speech. We have equal opportunities to work, better than any other nation in the world. So, what do they mean Make America Great Again, it is and wil always be the greatest nation in the world, so shut the hell up.

Slogans as just that folks slogans to get your attention for elections. Period! Read em, like em, hate em matters not. In the end it is actions that count. The global econonmy is affecting America, the war in Ukraine is affecting America, and this MAGA Movement shit is too. The Woke Movement is crap also in America. Listen to me carefully America, we allo want the same things, we got divided and many got used by Trump, and in the end he led you wrong.

Trump couldn’t, sell water he failed, he couldn’t make a Trump University. He cheated contractors by paying them pennies on the dollar, and they hate him too. Trump failed at so many things it is sad to see. Then he ran for President and promised to Make America Great, remember? Then he won, became President passeda tax bill that benefitted himself and his rich cronies and left you and i and middle americans and below to pay for it. Failure and hurt us all. He failed to build his wall he so proudly espoused about too, the parts sit on our southern border never done. He almost killed Americans by suggesting Americans; drink bleach to kill covid, are you kidding me? Wake up Americans this man is not Presidential or even capable of holding the Presidency. Now this man ran for reelection, got his ass whipped by the same margins in the electoral count, as he won by. Stop and think of that exact numbers folks, yet he could not accept it, and would not concede. Then, he leaves office and takes with him secret and top secret and above documents and hides them in Mar a Lago. Then he gets caught with them and is now prolonging all the charges being brought against him, why, so he can make a run again for Preesident, and get that Executive privilage once more is all. He is looking for the legal protection the Presidency provides to keep him out of jail and not convicted.

Let me say this to all out there, if you or I were to take secret or top secret documents from Washington of any kind mind you, we would be sitting in a cell dying and be forgotten by now. So , tell me America, why is everyone so scared of Donald J. Trump at this point? Why do people fall for his slogans and bullshit acts? He is nothing more than a con man who got lucky period. His daddy gave him his millions to start him on his way. He is aphoney, narrissitic personality who is a danger to society. Wake up open you eyes stop blindly following him and supporting him, there is no reason to, he doesn’t give you anything in return, and never will. He feeds off of you blind loyality folks, and makes the world a more angry andhateful place for all. Why do we the taxpayers have to pay to repair the damages to our capital he instigated and caused by calling for the riot and insurrection he did on January 6th? Isn’t his to pay for not ours? You tell me folks!

November 8th, 2022, Election day in America.

While Americans I hope stand in lines, vote by mail, vote in person, and I pray they get heard, we will await the results. The sad part is too many Americans are upset ove rthe economy, but I remind all, the economy did not go bad in the past two years folks! The truth is, One President can not correct the prior Presidents mistakes and mess up and Trump blew up our economy, he is encouraging violence, unrest, and the Maga republicans do his bidding daily and blindly.

Sadly, Americans, need to realize, the economy wil not get corrected by the Republicans, they have no plan to do that, or any plan for the future of it. They want to kill Social Security and Medicare and Medicaid, leaving millions of Senior Citizans without health coverage or incomes to live. The Republicans are taking awya women’s rights, if your a woman you should think when you vote, what right do the republicans have to tell you what to do with your bodies and reproductive systems? They killed abortion and Roe!

America you have a choice today, that choice is go backwards, or go forward. Survive or lose out women! If the women in America have any guts and brains, they will go to the polls, they will vote heavily against Republicans, period.

The Independents should join the democrats and vote blue folks, the women should vote blue and the seniors too. If you don’t seniors, women and independents, you will lose rights and benefits of many kinds and The Republicans will raise your taxes. middle income and below. No one started the Ukraine War, but, Putin, we area democracy we support freedom.

Do me a favor ladies, seniors, and democrats of all kind, grab your independent friends and go Vote for the Democrats !