Life is not wishful thinking, it is not waiting for something to happen by itself, for nothing changes or moves unless a moveable forces moves it to start it in motion. Scientific fact proves an object will not move or change without some outside influence, and that includes people, items, materials and even chemicals will lay dormant unless an outside forces applies pressure. The only question really is what kind of pressure is needed to move things in the direction needed by the individual person or force in question. We all life is the same wherever we come from, and no matter what color, race, religion or anything else we may be. Energy is needed to move things in the right direction for reasons we needed them to.

Relationships happen for the same reason and other reasons too. What attracts two people to one another, what makes it work between them and then doesn’t between others? I will tell many what I have learned over my 62 years of life now, and see if you the people, can get the gist of what I am saying.

Lets start at a young teeenage and see for instance what I am referring to. Do you remember that first person you were attracted to and needed to be in their life, to satisfy a need in your own. It doesn’t matter if your straight, gay, male, female it all adds up the same, we grow attracted to someone at a point in our teens. It becomes not only a physical attraction but an emotional one too, doesn’t it? The two seem interlocked and you can bet it always will be, for mankind was made that way folks, it’s not our fault, but what is our fault is how we all react to the needs we face at this point.

Do you remember your first attraction to another person and why it happened? Was it physical or mental or emotional? What drew you to the person? many of us don’t remember what did it,some of will just say, it just happens, it does but for reasons we as humans do not fully understand. We have physical attractions, we have mental attractions and yes even emotional attractions and any of us are unaware of these three forces working in our minds, hearts and bodies, because we are too young in our teens to figured it all out. So we let them take over and lead us to where we think they should take us. Other get cautious and hold back, while other rush in, and it is usually the later that gets hurt. For we are young, innocent and just letting the emotions of the moment make us rush in, and we get burned by the situation because it is all new and different to us and the exploring stage. It’s natural folks, but knowing when to pursue it all and when to pull back makes us also who we are everyday, in life from that point on.

I choose to pull back from my first attraction, because I was scared of it all and had no idea why I was even looking at them, so I choose a distance. Some were kissing and groping one another at a lot younger age than I ever even thought about it. I remember seeing it happening in elementary school for many and I just watched and stayed to myself. I wandered thinking of other things kids think of none of it was attraction or sex for sure, that wouldn’t happen to me till my sophomore year in High School. I didn’t really notice it until the summer before my second year of High School and when I did notice it I still  had no idea how to handle it or what to say of do. I was lost believe me. I know it sounds silly and why am I mentioning all of this, here is the answer we all go through it, yet for each of us, no matter male or female, it is not at the same time, it’s in the same age ranges mostly but not the same exact times so it can’t be pinpointed can it.

Here’s the thing for all to understand since we all go through it, we have regrets later on, because we didn’t do a thing about that first one or one of the first ones we believe we should have. We end up holding on to the memory of the one we didn’t get involved with or pursue because we felt awkward over it. I know I went through it too, but I also know that first attraction to that first girl ever went away and it is now many decades later. It made my choices in life as to finding partners,  different then most. For in the back of my mind and heart she was the one all other shad to measure up to.

I never asked a woman out until I was 24 years old and she became my first wife that didn’t last because of unseen circumstances not controlled by me. The point being this I didn’t know how to pursue the opposite sex, because I was more scared then attracted. Does that make sense to anyone? I saw many females that were pretty, sexy and attractive to me, but, I did not chase them or approach them, why I didn’t have a father to show me how or to instruct me in anyway. I fumbled through it all for many years. Even my first wife was not my choice she was introduced to me but a woman who I found fun and attractive but couldn’t have. and I went out with her as a favor to the girl I couldn’t have.

Before I would actually ask another woman out I was 35 years old and she was 16 years my senior. And I married her after 7 years of living together. I have been with hr now 25 years and never ever thought of leaving her or giving up on what we have. At least with her I am the one who started it and asked her to dance and asked her out. So, I choose her, and for me that was big, and it made my doing so vital to me.

Ok I know what your thinking I am ugly, I am stupid or awkward right, wrong, I am cautious and intelligent have a college degree and a disabled Veteran now who served his country for 16 years. I have been married now twice, the first time lasted 12 years and produced two daughters, the second is still ongoing at the 25 year mark. I stand five feet eight, 200 lbs. brown hair and eyes and speak well and write well. I am not the best looking man in the world but I am far from ugly or homely. So why did it all take so long, well it’s easy folks, when growing up there are those kids who are accepted by everyone and happy go lucky, I was an introvert who read books and ran through the woods exploring nature. I was no sports hero, I read comic books and dreamed of being superheroes, I didn’t care what others did, I wasn’t raised the way normal kids were. I was the black sheep of my family and when I couldn’t find a way to survive in my own family I went to other families and was basically guided by other parents, it was like a surrogate situation, just they didn’t know they were doing it. So I found a way to survive through others and with their help, GOD BLESS Them for being there for me! SO when people tell me I a different from them and easy to get along with, there is a reason, for I had to find a way to survive and be me, and I did through open communication with others, if not for the open communication, I would never have made it to today.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Donald J. Trump has spent a lifetime, using excuses for things that happen on his watch, and avoiding any questions about it all and then out right lying to his suppliers for building purposes as a builder, and now as President of The United States.

Until the American Public and the media stop him he will continue to do it. The facts don’t match anything her says about the Russia Probe, the collusion, the Obstruction of Justice, or anything else, including the Nunes Memo.

Now the Markets are falling like bricks from the sky, and he is talking how great he is for the economy, where?  His tax Plan didn’t help the poor like me, it didn’t help the middle class any, but it did help his billionaire and millionaire friends and himself. He is a sad, lying con man, just like P.T. Barnum was for his circus all those years. Yet, there are Trump supporters out there who believe in this lying, excuse giving, avoider, who even beat the draft by dodging it twice with an excuse of bone spurs in his feet. What a sad individual he really is, he is screwing porn stars, while his wife works on getting him elected and then paying one off to the tune of 130,000 dollars through his lawyer. No wonder Melania wouldn’t go with him overseas, she is probably so pissed off to find out he is chasing a porn star around a room in his tidy whities as married to her. Sad excuse for a man, a sad leader who is lost and has no idea what he is doing and he is dragging America down faster than any President in History has ever thought to do.

He is an excessive liar in all areas, The FBI did it’s job and always has, he doesn’t like the truth so he changes it and points at everyone else. LIke a kid in kindergarten, blame someone else when it goes wrong not me. I am surprised he isn’t crying for mommy or daddy all the time, yet! He wants to distract and avoid the facts of his son and his campaign manager and his son in law, meeting with russians in Trump Tower. He can’t it’s a fact.

He says he didn’t Obstruct Justice at all, he fire James Comey because of the Russia Investigation and admitted it on television for all to see and told the russians in the Oval Office about it too on public TV.  He used russian money, to win the election and their help period,  how else would the Russians know to target the key states, cities and towns and districts of The Democratic Blue belt with their ads on FaceBook, Twitter, Google and more? Russia wouldn’t know where the damn blue belt was unless his people told them. It’s collusion folks, believe me.

Obstruction is proven beyond compare, even better then it was in Watergate with Nixon. Trump fired Comey, Yates,  and others to stop the damn investigation and failed to so far. Now he is targeting The FBI, headed by a man he appointed, and the Assistant Prosecutor he gave a job to the started the investigation. If he fires him and MUeller he thinks he will stop the whole Russia Investigation and make it disappear, truth is Trump it won’t. It will cause a firestorm in congress and in the public that will come get you at a faster rate. Your stupid, you run your mouth, your people run theirs and it is all coming back to bite ya in the ass soon enough.

You said you though you belonged on Mount Rushmore, you belong in a jail cell actually. You deserve what Nixon got, banishment from politics and the world and taken from office and sent home.

 

As the Eagles get ready for the biggest celebration in their hometown, a reminder for the fans, don’t destroy the freedom city and it’s valuable treasures please. We love Philadelphia and all Eagles fans have a right to celebrate their teams first SUper Bowl Victory, but the city is filled with historic items that mean a lot to America, so celebrate safely and don’t destroy history or the city so many love.

Congrats to the Eagles and their Owners and Coaches. The game was entertaining, fast moving and great to watch. The back and forth in the fourth quarter and the fact the Patriots came back to lead by one point made it  a game to watch for sure. The Eagles deserve the victory and the party they will be having for sure as they bring home the Lombardi Trophy.

I am a New Englander, and I know how hard the Patriots tried to win this game, they never gave up till the final buzzer. Tom Brady put on a performance and a half and the Patriots showed why they were last years Champions. BUt this year belongs to The Eagles and their QuarterBack Nick Foles put on a performance not expected in a big game from a backup Quarterback. The defense got to Brady when they needed to, to stop his passes from zipping down the field and taking the game.

I am actually a Vikings fan myself, my wife is the Patriots Fan in my house and I was shocked by the Vikings being beaten so well by the Eagles in the NFC Championship Game. But I accept it, and hope they will be back next year to battle for another shot at it all. Sadly, destiny was not with my Vikings, but the Eagles did prove that any team can win it all.

Not to change the subject, but the Major League Baseball Season will be next in my book. Now, on this one I have a point to make, my dad was a big Boston Red Sox  Fan all his life and never got to see them break the Ruth Curse but I did. I screamed during their first victory and World Series Title and each time after. I had never been to Fenway Park and in 2013 I got there after having a cancer scare that took a lobe and one third of my right lung, thanks to my baby sister an dher boyfriend who got us tickets. So, I know what it’s like to see a Franchise/ Team win a Championship after no Titles for a long time.

Again Congratulations , to The Philadelphia Eagles, you deserve it all, your team put on a stellar performance against the Champions of 2017 and won it all! The banners will fly in Philadelphia and the parades will be great.

 

 

Around the world, millions of people suffer from Cancers of different forms, and names but all know it can mean their death is it is not faced head on and fought with powerful methods and drugs. Each day, millions go through chemo, and radiation and take powerful experimental drugs to survive and prolong their lives, as cancer ravages them. This battle against Cancer has been active now for some much time it if generations thick and killed so many it is sad to even look at the death toll numbers. Sadly, unknown to many and not realized by many is the fact of how the fight is being done. For some many generations of humankind, mankind has been using animals to test drugs and procedures, and machines on, the point is always to preserve human life and kill cancer as a deadly disease, yet so many animals have lost their lives to the research to stop cancer and other diseases that their death toll far surpasses the human deaths from cancer.

It is a Moral and Ethical dilemma that has persisted through generation after generation of mankind.  How do you test cancer drugs and treatments if not on animals, is there a answer to this question, I wish I knew, but I don’t. I know the following from my own perspective and the life i have lived now til I am 62 and a cancer survivor myself.

My family and those I love or have loved all suffer from this deadly disease called cancer in someway. As far back as 1972, I can remember cancers attack on my family when my grandfather died of it,  prostate cancer got him. A Year or so later, I found a girlfriend I had in High School had it and it was ovarian cancer, I used to sit with her when I could in a Hospital as she awaited treatments.

Time would pass, but cancer would not from my life, it next hit my real father in 1984, lung cancer got him. I went to his wake and funeral  at the time. I didn’t know him well, because he and mom divorced when I was nine months old. Yet, they was cancer raising it’s head once again in my family, now on my father’s side, years after it had hit, my mother’s father. Little did i know what was coming soon, each step it seemed was bringing it closer to me, and it is no lie is was coming.

1990 came, and my Divorce begin as I left my wife in PA. and returned home to Connecticut to find my stepfather a cancer ridden man, slowly dying from it, at home. He would go on to die from lung cancer in October of 1990. Once we buried dad, we then had to face mom’s illness and problems. In june of 1990, while dad was dying, we the children were called to a Hospital Meeting room where a Doctor sat without mother and told us she was dying of lung cancer also. We watched her slowly wither away and die in a bedroom in my sister’s home, October 1991, one year and one day after her husband. Both parents were gone for me and a step-father at this point and cancer had taken a huge bite out of my family.

But ladies and gentlemen cancer was not done with me or my life it would strike again in 2006, striking my second wife, and unknown to me it also hit my first wife in the 1990s, both breast cancer. My first wife survived it and so did my second after chemo and radiation treatments as I sat by my second wife in a hospital in Danbury, Connecticut for each treatment. We would have a decade or so after that of relative peace except for her cancer check-ups of course.  Then cancer decided it still wasn’t done in my life.

2013, August, I walked in to see my Primary Physician at the Veteran’s Hospital in West Haven. Connecticut. She asked about any history of cancer in my family so I told her, and I was ushered into a  survey of cancer families they were doing and ran through a Pet Scan. I came home feeling fine and thinking nothing of it, until my phone rang and My Doctor told me, Sir you have lung cancer, you need to come down and see our Cancer Specialist. So I made an appointment and on September 4th, 2014, I was on a stretcher in the Operating Room, where a Doctor who is a cancer specialist, removed a lobe and one third of my right lung. I went on to recover from it, no chemo or radiation needed, and on September 16th, 2013, I wa sin Fenway Park, watching my Red Sox beat the Yankees. I had survived cancer and my baby sister an dher boyfriends took me to see the Red Sox for the first time in my life, due to my recovering and surviving as a gift.

Yet, Cancer is a stubborn son of a bitch for sure, and in 2016, January it rang the bell again, this time, it was my wife again. Her Breast cancer we had been fighting and which had gone into recession, came back, this time it was in her bones. We are still fighting now to keep her alive, and she has 75,000 dollars in grants for medicines she needs to take to hold the cancer back. Each day is an adventure just to see if she will wake up each day, second to see how well she will be when she does. I watch her constantly, since she is 16 years my senior and has been my life since 1992. Each day I pray she will wake up and be ok for another day, how long can a 77 year old woman with bone cancer survive on new cancer meds, that even her Doctor says won’t last forever. The drugs are indeed strong and knock the energy out of her each day, as she pops the pills as directed and we carry-on. How long she can keep going is sometimes a question I am afraid to face, yet she keeps going so far and it is now 2018 Feb.

As we fight the cancer that has invaded our lives, we had a discussion last night that was interesting. As we were getting ready to go to bed we had a discussion on the scientific advances in the fight against cancer. We found us agreeing on the fact advances have been made in leaps and bounds in the battle and fight, yet, we also had the animal factor in mind. As cancer survivors we appreciate the new drugs and treatments and the advances in the fight of course, but we are both disgusted but the treatment and use of innocent animals in this fight. The Moral and ethical dilemma of do we really need to kill animals to advance the fight still or not? As two Cancer survivors now ourselves, we hate to hear of the things done to poor innocent animals in the name of advancements. Yet, as we discussed the animal’s being used for testing is what got us this far in the treatments of cancer. It is like a catch 22 isn’t it folks?

Now that, they are finding new ways to advance the treatments and medications without using animals, we as a couple both believe, they should do so from now on without harming animals. So there ya have a guided tour through my family history of cancer, there may be more I do not know of, but that’s it for now!

If you can, I ask you fight Cancer with US. Give to The American Cancer Association and fight Cancer the deadliest killer on earth. Help eradicate it folks, every penny, nickle, dime, quarter, half-dollar or dollar you can spare, please, before it finds it’s way into your family chain and it’s too late!

 

 

February 2018 has arrived folks, and we have heard all the bullshit in Trump’s first State Of The Union and it has flown by with no one really listening or paying attention to much in it. That is the way speeches go, when the public your talking to knows your so full of shit you have no idea what is really happening in  the world around you. Trump is now just a figure in a silly animation living in the White House, his lips and mouth move and people listen for about the length of a cartoon speech and then we move on, for we know it is not reality coming out of him anymore.

Paul Ryan and Mitch McConnell, are doing nothing to help the American People or their own President do anything to help us. You want to do something correct for America, elect a new Congress, dump the useless Senators and Congressmen and women, who blindly follow Trump and do what he does which is accomplish nothing and make plenty of noise to get attention.  Each day they have a chance to improve America and all they do is sit and spin their wheels protecting a President who has no empathy for anyone, doesn’t care about his country, colluded with the Russians and has committed Obstruction of Justice on countless times. In American History Impeachment Procedures were brought against Presidents for far less than anything Trump has done. Yet Paul Ryan, Mitch Mcconnell, and other Republicans stand up and defend a man who is not all there running the most powerful nation on the earth. Sadly, Trump sits in the Oval Office of the White House with his fingers an inch from the Nuke Button that can destroy us all. and we are Americans not looking and all it takes is one mood change for him to push the button and wipe out half it’s population. Sad isn’t it.

The Russian Connection is strong to Trump no doubt about it, so strong in fact he refuses to hit them with greater sanctions, for their meddling in our election in 2016. Trump is bought and paid for by Putin and the Russians, they pour billions into his election and the facts are the facts. I won’t get into details, but you tell me who told the Russians to pour money into the blue belt states during the election and you have your answer as to collusion. Dig deeper into the Trump Family fortune and finances and you will find connections to Russia, through real estate, banking and loans, and hidden accounts. Sadly Congress and The Republican Party refuses to acknowledge it, so the American People will suffer for them allowing it to happen.

Trump promised jobs, well ya got jobs for a short period of time, but now they are leaving again. Layoffs will begin to some major corporations in 2018. The Black Unemployment rate will rise once more as wil unemployment in general soon enough, the Stock Market will come down soon enough also costing millions of Americans their life savings as it heads towards a new crash to rival the big one in the 1920s’ Trump will brag about creating jobs and boosting the markets, but it will fail in the end. For in truth he is not responsible for any job growth or market growth, they are indeed the results of the Obama Administration. Yet Trump will coast on his predecessors coattails as long as it keeps going along. for he is not a deal maker, he is a destroyer in fact. He should lay in bed at night, clasp his hands over his chest and thank the lord, he followed Obama as President.

No Bill or Law worth a shit has passed or been presented to Congress in the past over a year. Trump hasn’t created anything worth passing or able to make it through Congress, yet he has the balls to lie to the American People about all the great things he has accomplished since his election. Not a one adds up to anything period really and just because you appoint a Republican Justice to the Supreme Court is nothing to brag about. Any Republican President could have done the same thing, look at George W. Bush.

Trump will be Impeached, for the American System can not stand a megalomaniac personality, without empathy, and narcissist tendencies.  Sadly he brags about his high IQ, which he may have, but in the end many brilliant men and women, with higher IQs have come before him and failed also and he is failing also. Me thinks this he brags about his high IQ, and in the end never uses it for anything good except to line his own wallet. He is all about improving Trump’s wallet and his friends too, not about helping Americans who are poor or middle class. I can go through a long list of his mistakes and failures and worthless causes but why, we all already know them, and it is sad. The evidence building in the Special Prosecutors office is enough to prove Obstruction of Justice on at least three counts , plus Collusion with the Russians. The Prosecution of Manafort, Gates, Popodoupulous, and next will be Bannon and Stone I am sure. No way will Trump sit down with MUeller and answer his questions, his lawyers are not stupid and would never let him publically and underoath hang himself.

I submit the following for all Americans to consider, Benedict Arnold, Revolutionary War Traitor, he was tried and convicted and forced to live the remainder of his life in England shunned by even the english he gave the information to, till his death, a traitor to America.  I submit that DOnald J, Trump is a racist, and a prejudiced son of a bitch, and a traitor to America also. he colluded with Russia, he is bought by Putin and Russians,  he stands in the Oval Office and brags to the Russians about removing Comey to them in clear sight of the American Press and no one does a damn thing. This is a sad occasion in America and as America, starts toward it’s mid term 2018 elections I remind the American people, that Trump has indeed Obstructed Justice and is controlling  or trying to control the investigation Robert Mueller was assigned to do. He has threatened to fire Mueller, Rosentien, and manipulated the Justice Department every day with tails and threats to stop the Investigation. Trump is a traitor to America. to our Democracy and should be carried out of Washington tarred and feathered on a pole!

 

I like many Americans last night did not watch President Trump’s State of The Union Address, because to me it is not the state of the people’s union her was elected to further and protect that he was speaking about, but his own Union with his billionaire and millionaire friends out there. He has no intention of helping the middle or lower class with his tax breaks or plans for immigration, or his wanting to slash Social Security and Medicare and Medicaid thats for sure.

His way of protecting America is to build a wall on our southern border to keep out Mexicans, who we haven’t needed a wall against in over 213 years now. He Angers and attacks the North Korean President constantly, antagonizing him in any way he can, and trying to intimidate him. Then he turns around and won’t increase sanctions against Russia or putin and his People, after they messed with out democratic system and voting rights and worked overtime with money and efforts to elect his ass President. It’s a sad state of affairs that the American People have to put up with an uneducated idiot for President who is bought and paid for by Putin and Russia and refuses to admit he did any wrong. He colluded with Russia there can be no doubt folks, you want to know how to know, simple, answer the following question for me, how did Russia know where to place their ads to affect the Democratic Blue Belt in the North East? Who told them where to place the ads on the internet in Twitter, facebook and Google that they did if not The Trump People? You tell me ok?

Sadly, Americans voted for this man and he didn’t win the popular vote mind you, against a female candidate like Hillary Clinton. Mrs. Clinton would never have colluded with Russia or avoided putting sanctions on them for messing with our election. She has more intelligence in one pinky then Trump does in his whole being, and the people spoke with the popular vote on that matter. He and his Russian cohorts and money paid off member sof the Electoral College to get in office. It’s a sad time in America, when a President only has approval numbers in the high 30’s to 40 range in his first year in office.Sadly that is what we are facing Americans, a President not wanted in England or Europe by our allies. Never In my 62 years of life have I seen or heard of such a President.

BUt I digress because I thought I wouldn’t be doing a political blog again, I was gonna give them up, but Trump is such an asshole that by the end of today, a day after his so called State of The Union he will be right back on Twitter with his stupidity I am sure. It is a sad day in America when an American President has approval ratings so low and tries to always take credit for what his precessadesor has done. Trump is not creating jobs folks as he promised, jobs are dropping like flies, believe me, look them up. The African Americans are not gaining jobs folks, not really, give it another six months and I predict the following will happen, 1) The Black Unemployment rate will jump upwards, The Job market will fall and the stock market will head south. Just watch and you will see what I am talking about, he promised much but can’t produce a damn thing, he is flying by the seat of his pants right now and living off of what Obama accomplished till it runs out. Mark my Words!

 

 

 

Virtual reality systems and headgear are expensive to buy and many give people motion sickness. Then you have online Virtual World such as Second Life, where you create a profile, and then create an Avatar, and you can roam the different sims and have fun meeting others doing the same. There is Music, Concerts and stores, adventures in other countries, and so much more from the quiet places to explore to the sexual filled adventures too. Second Life has taken people to places to explore the world, yes even cooking, shopping, creating and sex. IT is really an amazing platform, put together on servers, that allows the user to build and create whatever they wish to, to attract others to play with them.

Some basic facts though are this, you need a job or  way to pay for avatar bodies and heads and clothes in Second Life, most I know do one of the following: 1) Create and sell clothes or items people want in Second Life, through the Marketplace or Stores of their own they create. 2) Dance on poles or in clubs for lindens 3) Host Games approved in Second Life, or 4) DJ Music for events held in clubs in Second Life. THis way you can gather lindens and improve your avatar and clothing and buy items made by other sin Second Life like MotorCycles, Boats, cars, homes or pay for a sim of your own you can rent or buy. Second Life allows those who are injured, handicapped or mentally unstable a place to play and feel at home also. For you don’t have to be Mr. or Mrs, or Miss Perfect in this world online, you just have to be you, no one really cares. That is the idea of Second Life, but the most important thing about Second Life to remember for all who play in it or if you want to say on it, is this, Second Life is a play world folks, please remember, never destroy your real life over a Second LIfe Adventure. Your family, your children, your marriages, and real life relationships are more important period.

Many tend to get lost in Second Life and take it too serious, because they have run into someone they find attractive or fun in an area they are looking for. Remember, it’sa game folks, a platform for fun, adventure and yes for some romance and sex too, but it’s not real. Don’t put your  real life on hold for a Second Life Adventure or Second lIfe Romance or anything in Second Life. It is just like people playing X_box, or playstation, or any other gaming platform, a game.

I have heard women crying over losing someone in Second Life, men fighting over women in Second Life, who they have no idea who they really are. Listen closely folks, the avatars you see in Second Life, are not the same as the real person behind them. Always remember when playing in Second LIfe there are real people behind the avatars, some taking it alot more serious then you might, for they have small or no real life relationships to go back to, don’t be a fool and ruin your real life for an imaginary Second Life one ok!

People build sims in Second Life for Musical Clubs, Sex Clubs, Stores, Theme Parks or virtually exploring countries. I have seen Paris, England, Spain, Barcelona and other countries rebuilt in Second life to explore. Ships, cars, motorcycles, racing tracks and so much more.The fun part is making them and showing them off if your into the programing and building tactics and styles in the program. It is all an adventure and for fun folks, please, please listen to me, as absorbing, and addictive as Second lIfe can be don’t get so caught up in it that it ruins your real life, family, marriage, relationship or it makes you ignore your spouse,boyfriend, girlfriend, children or health. I like Second Life for the music it’s clubs, and it’s adventures I openly admit that, but I also, stop immediately when real life, is needs attention, don’t stop real life and hide in Second Life folks, if you do, you are staring down a road of depressions, misery, pain, hurt and who knows where that can lead you too, some may even commit suicide over it. It’s sad to see and hear, but it does happen, whether Linden Labs know sit or cares well that is something I can not say.

Second Life is an adventure game, made for fun, please don’t take it so seriously that you forget there is a real world when you shut down your computer! Be Careful, and don’t wear your heart, and soul on your sleeve in Second Life, take care. Reality is what counts not an imaginary world where anyone can be anything or anyone they want, reality is the most important thing for all who live, remember that Please!

 

As we age we learn lessons in life, sometimes the hard way sometimes the easy way, but there are lessons to be learned for all of us. I went through my lessons as I grew in Grammar School and High School days and learned a few things few still don’t get in their older ages.

One, know when to stay out of others business, mind your own and no matter what someone else does, don’t go along with them. They can lead you astray and into trouble especially when your young so stay in the boundaries of what your parents are teaching you at home. I say this because I have seen where the basic teaching of a family were ignored or rebelled against and I have seen children end up locked away, or become drugs addicts and worse. Listen kids, I know it’s rough to be under the thumb of parents and have to live by their rules, but do yourself a favor listen to those rules, your parents taught them to you for good reason.

Teenage years, really start in the final two years of Grammar School when you hit 13 and continue until you reach 18 and hit the world as a full you. They can be the most dangerous years of your life, so many temptations are put in front of you and how you choose to try or ignore them is vital to making adulthood and living a life of normalcy in society.  Make good choices, don’t cross the legal line, don’t go to drugs, if you depressed, shunned by other kids, put down, or anything else talk to your parents seek help, don’t let bullies, determine your life for you, fight back the smart way.  Don’t fall in with the crowd that wants to be cool and try drugs or alcohol kids, because it will ruin your life fast. Please heed my warning and your parents should be telling you this too, for it is vital to making your life and you worth something in a society that is quick to judge those who make mistakes. So Please don’t go the wrong roads, stay in school, finish High School, get an education and while your at at go for College be the best you you can. Education will always be a part of your life  is you let it be.

I know these lessons and things because I lived them and overcame them, You shouldn’t do what I did so I warn you here and now don’t. I made the mistake of letting others distract me from my education and lost my way and dropped out of High School in my Junior year. I had to overcome, because jobs were not there for high school dropouts, so I did what I had to to survive, I joined the Military, after I had to go back and get GED Diploma. Wasn’t easy at all but I did it because I needed to and you will too if you drop out, so don’t!

Thanks to Military Experience and lessons I overcame and ended up back in College at 40 years old and got an Associates Degree which led me to Management Jobs and decent money. SO believe me when I say this, stay in School kids, life will kick your ass and hurt you without a degree or education, even with one it is rough. Life doesn’t care about you or me folks, it is what you work to make it, if you want a decent one, get an Education Period!

 

 

I listened to many people over the years of my life starting with my parents of course like everyone I know has theirs. yet in the end wa sittheir advice that set me on the path that made me, me? No sorry it wasn’t while they did do the primary job of raising me to a point, they failed in different areas like all parents do, so what does a kid do to get the truth and find what he or she is missing at home, they do what I did and find surrogate parents they use to help them along in life.

What are surrogate parents right is what many may ask, they are the parents of others who who kinda of adopt as a second parents to guide you along in your development. There are times when, you have to grow and learn and find what you can not get at home from your own parents from someone different, it is what made me , me really. I had many surrogate parents over my teenage years, some who were very good for me and told truth, others that bullshitted me and made me learn the hard way and still others who didn’t realize they were surrogates to me, and maybe did the best job of all.

Guidance and help comes in many forms in life as your growing up and many don’t realize they are doing so when they are. Some parents stop raising their own children and let them run and do as they please and these children become animals in a  world and hurt others, because they are ignored at home. I could have been one of those children really for I was put away by my parents for two years on the grounds I was emotionally unstable. I wonder if they realized at any point, since they were the ones responsible for raising me, they were also the ones who caused the emotional instability they put me away for. Yep, they never thought twice about it, i know because i came home in the end and learned to ignore and avoid them and go to other homes to find what I needed without being wrecked. In the end I out did both my parents, I became a man who served his country for 16 years and a disabled veteran, and I became a man with a Degree and a Manager for Hotels. I also became a writer and wrote many poems, short stories and blogs, I love music so I also became a Disc Jockey on the Internet.

I became an Uncle to kids of my friends, and have lifetime friends of over 40 years now.  I am married twice now, the first marriage did not end due to me, it was her and her father who did that one. I didn’t and couldn’t solve her problem for her, by staying so I left, making a mistake and leaving my two daughters with her. I have never said I wa sperfect, but over the years, I worked hard at getting back to my daughters to let them know e and vice versa. I also met all my grandchildren and have two extra grandchildren through my second marriage. So I think I have done ok in my life, I have outlived the time my parents spent on this planet, my real father died at 55, my mother and stepfather died at 60 and 59 respectfully all cancer victims.

My second wife is a cancer victim twice over and a survivor and so am I at 62 now. Yet in the end the experiences one lives through is what makes you who you are most of all, ever forget that folks. If you are at a crossroads or a point in life where a major decision is upon you, and you are unsure of what to do, stop, think about all you have been through and then make you decision, if your still a little ify on the matter, then return to the ones you trust most to discuss it and then decide, never rush in.

In The end remember what a wise man said once, Only Fools Rush IN, don’t!

 

 

I am now 62 years old and I think I have lived a decent life in many ways, yet I have made many mistakes and taken some wrong turns, yet ended up in a good place today. I am getting older each day and night and feeling my humanity and mortality catching up with me in many ways.

I have used this blog many times to speak out on Politics, Lifestyles, The NFL Football Games and League. I have used it to write poems, stories and more and always enjoyed what I do. I use  Second Life also and talk about it in my blogs as well as Twitter, Skype, Facebook and other Social Media Applications. Yet, I am growing older and learning as i do, that, how you use these applications and how you live your life is what many need to learn about.

I can do the old what came first speech here about the chicken or the egg, but for my purposes, I believe we need to start when a child is born and go from there. Need I remind all adults at this point, the child you are bringing into the world did not ask to be born, nor is it in control of the environment you bring it into. The environment is provided by you as the parents and the child has no choice, we are helpless at birth, and as young children and we all  depend on the parents that raise us to do it correctly so we can have a future that is worth something. Parents need to realize that the birth of a child is not only a gift, it is a major responsibility. What that helpless child learns depends on you, it depends on your actions, your reactions, your words and you treatment of it and all around it, to learn to survive in society in the world. Don’t makes mistakes with that child by screaming, fighting, arguing, or being violent around it.

Teach your children from the day they are born to accept others, be respectful of others, not to lie, cheat or steal, not to be physically or mentally abusive. Feed them properly show them how to clean themselves, how to have decent oral hygiene and take care of themselves. Then teach them communication, make sure the language you show them and teach them works to convey ideas, thoughts and  feelings they have properly. make sure they can control their own emotions and know how to react when shown emotions too. all of these things are vital to a child’s well being and their growing up to fit into society as a whole.

Advice for those parents who can not handle a child ,is here also for all to see, please listen to me. If you have a child who is handicapped, emotionally damaged, Autistic or has any disability at all, seek help, and find it for them and yourself please, for the frustrations of not being able to handle it will cause you to abuse the child, don’t do it please!

As I grow older, I would like to think, I can help others overcome problems they have in some matter, means or way, so i will be turning this Blog into an Advice Blog, from now on and taking questions if you wish to ask them. As I do so, I want to make sure anyone who may ask me a question will understand, I am not a Doctor of any kind, and I can only advise you from a personal stand point of what I have lived through ok. So if you ask me a question and ask for advise, and I don’t believe I can help you because a Doctor should be helping you, I will tell you so. I will not cross the line into medical advice, be it mental or physical. You have to see a real Medical specialist for those things just as I have to.

That said  and done and over with for now, let me say this, life has many crossroads and different avenues and ways it can go, the choices you make in it are vital for you, your children, your relationship and your overall well being and life. If you have a question for me please feel free to reply and ask it hereon the Blog site as a comment/question.

I can say this for those out there confused about who they are, I  am not a Doctor but a man who has lived a decent life and experienced many things. If I can help you I will, it’s doesn’t matter to me if you are straight, gay, bi-sexual, or anything else.  If you live in a lifestyle of BDSm, or D/s or another and need advice I may be able to help you. I will advise on the basis only of my own personal life and what I have survived and lived and overcome, to get to my 62 year old self. The best advice I have for all out there is this. be yourself, enjoy life, do what makes you happy and don’t bother chasing anyone else for anything, be yourself and someone will find you doing what you like best. Don’t change os rearrange, or try to be what you are not, be you and live well and what is fate and destiny will find you!