Morning all, it is now December 19th, 2021 and I am awake at 5;30 am and now having coffee by 6 am. The weather is becoming chillier each day as the month moves alomg. That is normal for us on the east coast here at this time of year!

I am learning slowly, but surely as my life goes on and my wife is gone and has passed, that I have to learn to live on my own and find things to do and places to go and people to meet. I am very rusty in many ways as far as social actions are concerned and I watch others, to see. Elvis sang it, only fools rush in, and I agree with the verse.

Well, I have made progress in some areas since my wife passed now, I am slowly going through belongings, selling what was in our home to the best of my ability, with help from my sister and her man. I finally went out a few times to a tavern and even sang Karaoke once now, for some fun. I had to buy a vehicle and did finally, a 2021 used but clean and well maintained. Low Mileage, AWD, economical too. Those things I have been doing, as I slowly go through a search for a new home here in a new state.

I have to make choices like everyone else in life to be specific. I pay the bills and hold onto money, on a limited budget of course. I search for a new place to either buy or rent, maybe rent, but time shall tell. I want a place just big enough for me to be comfortable in. I want a big enough place for one good sized living room, one eat in kitchen and kitchen, one or one and a half bathrooms, a second bedroom for an office too. Off street parking of some kind too. I need a laundry room with washer and dryer also as i see it. Applances must be there like, stove top and oven, dishwasher, refrigerator, and I would love not to snow plow or cut any grass either.

Today I plan on meeting with a Real Estate Agent to see the possibilities I may have in what I can get. I am hoping a two bedroom condo, in a 55 plus communiy is possible for me. I would’nt even mind a mobile home/ manufactured home that is solid, well maintained and just big enough for me. I will discuss it further as I go along with the Agent and start looking now more.

I have pre-approval for a loan of course, but it doesn’t seem to cover mobile/manufactured homes right now. I will try to find out how I can do it that way too, in case I decide on a mobile home. Never know when ya live alone ,do ya?

Settling into a new state and area is going to take some time to learn and explore it all of course. I am hoping, I get a 55 plus community, it will have events and I can meet others in my age range too. Time shall tell, I have no idea what the Good Lord has in store for me next, but I want to have comfort, peace and live the end of my life fully, enjoying it all.

Well, thats it for today as far as the personal side ,goes for me. I am now in Massachuetts, and will probally be here for the rest of my life.Yes, I grew up in Connecticut and lived there many years, but with the passing of my wife, I do not wish to stay anywhere close to our old home i am selling now. It is currently on the market as Christmas approaches for us all, it is emptied. Anyone interested in buying it, I will list the Zillow page here, to see;

https://www.zillow.com/homes/279-Spindle-Hill-Rd-Wolcott,-CT-06716_rb/174444016_zpid/

My Agent is Fercondini Properties of Wolcdott, CT. PHone Number-(203) 879-4973, ask for LInda please!

Well, as 2021 comes to a close, I wonder what 2022 will bring for me. Will it bring a new life, a new residence and a peqceful, fun filled life? What adventures can I experience and enjoy and who can I meet to expend my horizons and who will accept me as a friend. Time shall tell as life goes on. I just pray it is peaceful. and fun and entertaining enough so I can carry on.

When I reached 65, I never thought I would still be here, I thought for sure I would have been gone by 40. Yet here I am now, rolling into christmas number 65, and heading to a new birthday in January. That is all positive for me so far. I am a lucky person for I still have friends I have had since my teenage years growing up, I have my sister and her man and support from them both. Soon, enough I will turn 66 years old, and that for me is hard to believe! But like I say all the time, Time marches on and there is no fighting it, the only thing that fights time is Mother Nature and they have been in an endless battle forever. We humans don’t have forever, we have no idea what our time limits are on earth, so I always say, live each day fully and have fun. 2021 has been eventfull for me, I have gone through an emotional rollercoaster and tried to stay strong and do what is right each day that comes along. I am of course struggling like any widower or widow would too, but I also know now I have no choice in how I live and go on, except to do what is right for me. God Bless All, I know and those friends and family, I Love dearly. Peace shall reign and life may change, but how long I am here shall be a mystery to me, for my time on earth is not to be known, to me.

As Seals and Crofts said in a song: Life so they say, is but a game and they let it slip away! Don’t let it slip by folks, remember your not remembered for material things, but for the interactions with others and being kind, keep that in mind!

December 18th has arrived folks, the Jolly Man in the Red Suit shall be coming for kids all around or all ages and sizes too. The Christmas/ Holiday Season bring many happiness and joy and in the end gifts for all girls and boys. Candy shall flyoff the shelves also, and lights come on or ff all day an dnight, sometimes it is so special and so full of life, you wonder how you can sleep each night.

Christmas Lights get lit up bright, and people love to see the sight. The snow is coming and we all know, when all turns white, it is such a lovely show. We laugh more, we chat more and we are kinder it seems, and many of us, like to create christmas memes.

So as the trees light up and the snow may fall, lets have fun and get it all done. Decorate your tree and your homes so right, try to have a Merry Christmas, on Christmas Day!

Icicles will be around, snow and ice shall abound, The Music will play and it will go all day, and in the end it is Merry Christmas and Happy New Year we shall all say.

The changes in America at times are not all good for all involved. The ability to raise your own children the way you want today was affected over the years by changes in laws. Back in the 1980s there wasa movie where a child filed for divorce from her parents and won. Since then we have gone through how do you discipline your child and Cosby preached no hitting you child is allowed and now you have to speak to them to control them, IT is at that point America went down a wrong track that today affects all of american society period.

I understand as do many America’s child protection laws are in place for real reasons, and in the end a child must be protected from physical, mental and emotional damage in all ways. Yet, in the end, there is a thin line involved between abuse and letting a child do as they please. Someone has to teach children right from wrong, teach them what to do, and how to act and be a role model for them. So I guess the real question for all Americans and the governements of each state is a simple one, how far can we let the children do as they want and what kind of actions are legal for a parent to do, to teach, raise and control them as they grow. Maybe the Government or the Doctors, can clear it up in someway and maybe work all together to clarrify what parents can do and how much a child can push and get away with as we go along. Life is not simple there are many complications in life and in the end we need to get them clear, in someways, so child reraring and raising and teaching works for all sides. I pray those in power can understand changes need to be made for both sides of the parental/ child problem.

December 16th is here all. We have nine more days till The Jolly Fatman, Santa comes to say hey! The kids will laugh, the kids will cry, the parents will smile and then will sigh. The snow may come or it may not, so listen closely to what you may get and what we all have got.

We have happiness to share, gifts and laughter in the air. We have family and friends and if we are lucky we are in love and happy till our life’s end. Not everyone, will have it so well, but we can share so their lives are not hell.

The sick and the ill, we can support, we can help them stand or help them walk. We can sit by their side and read to them, we can even just hold their hand.

Christmas for many is just recieving, but if you are like me, it is in giving you believe. Give to those less fortunate, give some time to the sick and dying and don’t forget. The greatest thing you can do in life, is treat every human being right and help them sleep well and happily each night.

On Christmas Morn when you awake, I wish all a happy feeling and loving time with family and friends, and I hope it stays with you, till the following year ,ends. Happy Holidays my friends and family too, and I hope for all mankind too. Happy Holidays All!

Lets discuss people and the differences in them and why they exist. For instance how healthy we can be or are, the color of peoples skins, the biology of who we are are all things, we tend to not control fully, right?

So what can we control ladies and gentlemen, simply put our own habits, own own thoughts and in the end our own actions. I have tended to over my years on this planet, to stop at times and have to reevaluate myself and adjust myself in many ways. I think we all do at times in our own lives.

Some of us must control anger, some shyness, some silliness, and some just reactionary ways we react to in ways from prior times and issues from our home lives as children, and our interactions with our own parents or family growing up.

Let me say something to all, so you do not think this is an attempt to control you, or an attempt to say your right or wrong for what you do each day your alive. That is not what this is about at all if you think that. This is about two major things we can change in our lives to make us better people.

Number one, it is important for all of us to learn we make our own decisions and choices in life. Unless your still a child the choices you make are your own and you need to think them through before choosing period. Don’t rush, slow down and think about something before you do it, It is usually why some of us make it in life and some don’t. We can only control ourselves.

Number two, after choices is simple, but complicated to learn for many, because we get spoiled by our parents some of us and think we are better than other when we are not. IT is called compromise. In order for any realtionship in your life to work for you and those you meet and know and get along with, compromise must be made, but either ourselves to remain friends or lovers, or by those in any relationship with us. If you don’t learn to compromise you lose folks, the world and human relationship are built on a give and go system.

Number three is respect folks. I know it sounds simple, bt it isn’t. We all have our own ways and lifestyles and we all make our own decisions, all of us must learn to respect one another first and formost to suvive. That means if someone makesa choice of decision you don’t agree with, it’s their choice not yours, Don’t try to change them we can onlt advise, we can not force change, or tell someone we love, what to do or how to do something. Respect their wishes, their wants, their desires, their wins and their losses, but never disrespect them or call them names. Period.

There is one area left to cover in my book with people. It is in my book called the honesty factor. If people would be honest with one another at all times, and tell the truth, in such a way as to be kind about it and repectable, guess what it would be a whole lot less violent and anger in the world. We all can handle bullshit and joking, but when it gets bad is when you lie to someone and dont respect them enough to tell the truth. Even little white lies can hurt and damage relationships. Be honest, but not cruel about anything, and life will be easier, for all involved.

I don’t really care what your politics are, nor do I care what religion you follow and believe in, just say what I have always said in life, you do your thing, I will do mine and you don’t force your ways or beliefs on me and I won’t do it to you, either. We are each individuals and no two people do things exactly the same. It’s like I told one person in the Navy one day, I don’t have to complete the job exactly the way you do, as long as I get it done and I get the same result in the end, that is what counts. We do what we must to reach the goals, beliefs and ways, we want to live with and keep comfortable with each day we live.

In the end I find, by doing what I speak about in this blog in my real life, I usually get along with everyone and can live in peace. I hope, it helps other to read it all, too. Happy December 15th, the Ten day Count Down begins today, to the Jolly Red Coated Santa to come your way. Happy Holidays all!

Good Morning America and the World as a whole. December 14th, 2021 has arrived and revelations are coming about from The January 6th, Committee Hearings, as of last night. Now I think many will say, the revelations are bullshit, Trump didn’t do it, or whatever, but facts, recordings and texts do not lie, they are now officially a part of a historic record of an American President committing tresonous crimes against his own governement, trying to stay in office after he lost the election.

Hannity, Ingrams and yes even his own son, Don Jr begged, screamed in texts for Trump to stop the Insurection he caused, yet Trump did not react or do a damn think for hours. Sadly, Donald J. Trump was very unfit to be President in the first place, secondly he was mentally unfit and a danger to all around him, yet his followers still played loyalists and stayed with him through it all. What kind of desperation and needs did they have to back him and what kind of logic and common sense existed on January 6th, 2021? None in the White House or even on Trump’s favorite News Channel Fox. Even Trump’s Chief of Staff Meadows knew and admitted in texts all that was happening was wrong and Trump should have stopped it sooner. I ask all of these two faced, political, individuals and blind followers now, what do you think would have happened to the United States, if this insurection/ coup attempt had been sucessful, where would we as a country be today?

Now lets talk political records here and facts some. Donald J. Trump failed at all he has touched. This is a man who failed at selling Trump Water, Trump Steaks, he was and is still an oil saleman selling treachery, selling lies and inciting anger and violence in America. This is the President who wanted to inject you with bleach to fight covid, he would have killed millions if they didnt stop him! Yet, he still has his supporters willing to believe in him and to try to get him reelected in 2024, why?

Americans do me a favor, before you think about re-electing Trump think of his behavior, his lack of caring, his lack of knowledge and in the end his lack of stability. This is a man who hid his condition from you when he had covid and then hid the fact he got his covid shots for his family before telling you to get yours. He lied to you about his health, mentally and physically too. This is a man, who far after losing the election now and the insurection, is still crying foul, the election was stolen and more, but the numbers show he lost big time in the popular vote and in the electorial vote, also. So what does that tell you about Trump, his stability, his mental state and his abilities to perform as President, he sucked is what it says. Do yourself a favor Americans and I say this as an Independent Voter, wakeup, ban Trump from ever running for office in America again. He’s dangerous and he will hand this country over to Russia, China or another nation if he can, as long as he can profit from it.

The future in America is getting bleaker each day, why, because we are too engrossed in the bitter wars in The Senate and House and no one will compromise, so zero is accomplished and we sit in a quadmire, drowning. You want to accomplish something in this country, then some of these Senators and Representative need to wake up and realize they are destroying what our forefathers created. Learn, grow, expand and compromise in Washington, all parties and individuals and stop worrying about your one party, start worrying about, healthcare for all, infrastructure, protecting America as a whole, education for all and yes security and strength. Economically we are failing, why, simple we are allowing other countries to get rich off of our pay checks, we go out and buy products made by others not our own. We need a manufacturing base that can build the best in the world right here at home, not import from Russia, China and other nations, we have the people and knowledge to do it, we just don’t have the guts or energy or care to make it happen do we? Wake up Americans, we are throwing away all of the leaderships positions we once held in the world and the other countries are laughing at us. I think it is time to take the woke bullshit and throw it out and we need men and women who want America strong to face facts and turn our country around once more. We have gone from a country in the 60’s and 70s of we, we, we, to a country of me, me, me and screw you now in the 2000’s, it’s sad. When I was young in the 60’s a man broke down on the side of the road and, someone would stop and help them, or at least make a call for them or help change a tire. Today breeak down or get a flat tire and look for help, and you will see, fly by without even a second thought about anything. That is the me, me, me attitude we have now, I got mine is what it is all about and screw everyone else. This country was not built on a me, me, me attitude and style, it was built on a we, we, we attitude, and functions best that way.

That all said and put out there, I just want to say to all, as you are going about the Holiday Shopping Season and Preparing for Christmas and a Happy New Year, stop and smell the roses while you can, for like all great civilizations, that have ever existed, The Mayas, The Aztecs, The Indians, The Egyptians, The Nazis and more, all rise and fall, why, because they no longer stay on the same page and keep the same beliefs that put them on top. America is on the verge of collasping as a nation and form of government on the earth, because it is not the system that is doing so, it is the people who are running it and the failure to compromise period. Wakeup!

Monday has arrived again folks, and the Holidays are indeed upon us all. A quick look as you drive in the evenings and at night too and fro, will let you know, the Jolly Fat Santa is still on the go.

Well, as life goes, I wonder how far sometimes my life has to go, and what is next for me I have lived a pretty full life in many ways, and in others I lack social skills and barely get by at times. I am no different than anyone else and i have my faults and problems and no man or woman for that matter is perfect. Having to slow down at times for fear of upsetting someone is one thing I am learning I must do. For sometimes I speak too fast and seem abrupt when it is not intentional on my part, and some get upset over what they tell me, is my tone, So, I am constantly, reminding myself not to be so abrupt, and to watch how I say things. It’s a lesson I wish I could have learned earlier in life.

I sometimes wonder, if I shall live much longer and certain things make me think not and then others say, hell I gots lots left to live. I have learned over the years laughter, love, happiness, are not just things that drop into your life. A person needs to make it happen for themselves with the ones they love, like and admire, and you need to remind yourself your not perfect and no one else is either.

Ok, enough on my personal attempts to improve my social skills, manners and communication technics so to say. When you live your life serving others all the time, you tend to forget ceratin social skills. No one is worried if you swear, fart, have gas or anything else when you live a life like I have. I served my parents until I was 16, raising my younger siblings the bes I could. Then I took two years off so to say, before I joined the service one day. The service does not care if you have human forbiles, gas, acid reflux, or talk out of tone, what they care about is did you do the job correctly and in a satisfactory way? I did my service years and in that time I included being a husband, a father and more. So, as time moved on, my first marriage fell apart, not due to me, but due to my wife wanting a divorce on her part. I did what was right for all and left when asked is all. 12 years of my life was used up in a marriage that just didnt work out.

When that fell apart I flondered some and both of my parents died within a year and one day of each other. I was lost and tired and holding on the best I could. I decided after two years of living alone and trying to find my way I had to move on. So I got up and went dancing and went to Singles Dances and found my second wife. I have said this many times I never did learn how to flirt with the opposite sex, and yet I spent 40 years of my life married so far, explain that one please. I know I am not perfect, but doesn’t it make one wonder how I did it? If I am so bad like some like to make me sound or as some say about me, then how did I get this far?

I even went back to college and got a Degree in Hotel Management and Graduated witha 3.75 average and I am a member of three Honor Societies too. Yet, I take hits from others constantly, it’s crazy this world. I remind all, I graduated College at age 40 folks, 40 years old, if I can do it and I did, anyone can, is what I say.

Now, I am 65 years old, I have seen so much, experienced so much and seen so much. I don’t judge others in what they say or do or on how they act either. I just accept people as they are and try to carry on, if we get along fine, if we don’t well I will stay away from you. Life is that simple folks, if you can’t handle it all or some relationship, then get out of it and move on to new friends, lovers and relationships that do work. Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed and I reccomend to all, to live it to the fullest, but to always remember, it has it’s dangers in many way, so be careful. Life is far too short not to enjoy yourself, if you don’t enjoy yourself your doing it wrong. Each day is an adventure, is a mystery, and we only have so long before, we shut down for good. Do yourselves a favor. live, laugh, cry, smile, and interact well with all you meet, learn to compromise and live life doing what you love best.

Happy Holidays from me to all I know or Who know me! Christmas is for all to enjoy, it isa time of giving and caring, loving and sharing, do it well all! Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

I have come to the conclusion, what happened at The Capital on January 6th, 2021, can happen again, unless, the gulliable followers of Trump are stopped. If it happens again, we shall no longer be living in a Republic with Democracy as it’s basis. We shallbe turned into a country or either communistic rule, totarilian rule, or in the end a form of goverrnent that can be referred to as a dictatorship. Let me say this before anyone goes up in a rage or crazy dialougue because of what I wrote, The American System of Governement by the peope and for the people was established by the Forefathers of America. Now George Washington stepped down as President after two terms for a reason, as he said, we are not a dictatorships and I am not a King. Ben Franklin said and I remind everyone who is an American, we have an established Republic built on democracy and we shall have it as a long as we adhere to the principles of it and make it so. Once you adhere to other types of government, you then place America on a level with dictatorships, totarilism, or anarchary and we end up just another third world country struggling to survive and warring with one another over racial issues, religion issues and in the end we destroy, what we are.

I don’t believe in Trump and his words or ways. I don’t believe Americans can not realize if Trump were to get the Presidecy once again, that he would try to sell us out to russia, china or some other country just to make money and be richer. It will happen if he gets back to the White House.

A Conservative governement in America is not bad foolks, yet one run by a linatic and demigod is. Conservativ is word witha definition folks, Conservative is defined as a person who holds to established ways to do things. Keeping to traditional values and ways. Not one who attempts to stay in power and control the governemnt beyong what the people say to do and go thier own way. I can live witha conservative President.

A Liberal, is defined differently of course folks. Relating to or denoting a political and social philosophy that promotes individual rights, civil liberties, democracy, and free enterprise. Thatsa Liberal folks and i can live with them also. What I do not understand is this, what makes anyone think Donald J. Trump is worthy of being called either of the above two things.

People elected Trump for one reason only, because they feared Hillary Clinton being in power as President. They feared she would change too many things period and ran the other way screaming she was dangerous, she wasn’t. In fact, Hillary Clinton only wanted to change what she could for the good of all Americans. Sadly, she turned out to be telling the truth when she said, Trump was a puppet of Putins and time has now proven it for all to see.

Do me a favor Americans of all colors, creeds, nationalities, don’t let Trump run again and don’t let him win. If you do, by the end of Trump’s second term you will be speaking Russian or Chineese. Don’t go there folks! The sad part is, Trump has brainwashed so many people anything can happen in this world and country.

12 December 2021, The holiday season has begun. The lights are up, the sales are on, and the music of Christmas plays on. JIm Croce, singer songwriter, who had such hits before he died, as I Got a Name, One Less Set of Footsteps and more. He had a song that reminds me of Christmas’s of my past that went as follows for an opening; Snowy Nights and Christmas Lights, Icey window panes, make me wish that we could be together again, And on the windy winter avenues, there walks a lonely man, if I told you who he was but I think you undertand. That it doen’t have to be that way, what we had should never have ended and I’ll be dropping by today and we can easily get it together tonight it’s only right. Crowded stores the corner Santa Clause, Tinseled afternoons and a sidewalk band that plays it’s songs, slightly out of tune, and on the windy winter avenue there walks a lonely man, and if I toldyou who he was, but I think you understand.

The song talks about a lonely Christmas and what could have been if things had gone differently for those involved. And it brings images of Christmas time to bear on your mind. I think it was a special song for someone he loved.

I grew up in an era of the 60’s/ 70s when it comes to music. I knew even the 50’s too asa childlistening tomom singing to Dean Martin, Big Crosby, Frank Sinatra and more. Music isa central part of most people my life’s age, I am 65. I even know country hits from the early days of Patsy Cline, Jim Reeves, Loretta Lynn, Kenny Rogers and so much more. Music if done right and to the range of your hearing and taste of course, can change your life and lift your spirits. I know Black Sabbath, AC/DC, Neil Diamond and Seals and Crofts too. So many tune sinm y heart and soul and in my head. I know and love Motown too, The Temptations. Otis Redding, The Four Tops, the Supremes, Marvin Gaye and many more. At times I find myself humming these tunes or even singing them to myself to keep my spirits high. Music is a gift from the gods to the human soul and in it’s own way it is like a medicine for all of us.

Between music and writing, I may pass some time in life. I am not an artist in anyway means or form, but I do like to express myself at times. I do poetry, short stories, I love good music, and of course my blogs. Many of my blogs have to do with loves, hares, politics, I don’t do religion though.

For Instance I wrote the following:

Stunning Woman

The room was dusky and the light was not bright,

The music was loud and not always right,

The company was fun and got it done,

Yes I continue to Hang on.

I stood alone on my own and watched the people go by,

So many faces in so many places,

Yes you can see their feelings on their face, in so many places,

The music came on and the people began to sing,

In you walked and the sighs and the oohs and ahs began

Yes indeed you are a stunning woman.

A stunning woman, who knows not what she is.

The woman who is au-naturale,

Yes, your a stunning woman, but do you know,

Yes stunning to me is what you be.

You take my breath away,

I know you will never see me,

I know your on a higher plane than I,

Yet I know no matter where I be,

When you walk in your stunning to me.

A stunning woman of beauty and smiles,

A stunning woman whi always herself,

That special stunning woman,believe me.

Your’re just stunning and special to me.

I know one day, one man will come,

He will be handsome and strong,

He will scoop you up,and carry you away.

I pray it will make you happy and gay,

And he keeps you content, each day, and night,

A woman with a smile, and style, so stunning,

The men will come running.

Just be you and you shall be fine,

Don’t pay attention to those who don’t treat you right,

In the end I can only dream of you at night.

As one can see I attempt to express myself in words sometimes never spoken, only written down and at other times, I may hold them inside. I have been noted for both in some places, and by some I consider friends and family too. Life goes on day by day and night by night, we can not always do or say something right. Communication for each of us is different for each of us have lived different lives, styles and experiences.

When I grew up years ago, in my teen years I had thought I would be gone by 40 years old, it wasa popular thought of many back then my age. Somehow, I am still here today, and i will always strive to speak my mind and to carry on the best I can. Life is too short for it to be any other way.