One Day at a Time was a old television show, and it was filled with some serious subjects, and some silly things. What amazes me is how well television writers seem to hit on subjects that affect us alol each day of our lives.

I saw the same with All in The Family, The Jeffersons, and many other shows. When you watch these shows over the years like i did, you will find something out, quickly if you just close your eyes and listen to the dialouge in each of them. They all cover the same topics, of family and problems and situations we all face each day. There is no difference between color, race, creed at all folks. We all hurt the same, we all bleed red, we all mourn loses, we all laugh in joy. There is no difference.

People are people folks, what they are taught and raised in as they grow up stays with them, all their life. We make our own choices, and some refuse to understand that, is what I say.

Do me a favor folks, stick you predijuces, your discrimination and your hatereds away somewhere you can’t use them, and pretend for once you are blind or color blind. Then tell me, are we so different just because we are white, black, brown or asian? No, we aren’t we are all human beings with the same needs, wants and desires as one another, we all hurt the same, we all cry the same, we all laugh the same and in the end we all live in the same way.

Look I know, many believe the history books portray slavery as bad, nasty and a horriable era in the world I agree, no argument there from me. My argument is a simple one, if your black, asians, brown, and the circumstances that happened over history had been you doing it to another race or nationality, of creed, and it was so far in your past, would you want to pay retribution in money for what your predacessors had done? No you wouldn’t.

We tend to forget that the era was different, the circumsatnces were different and we the modern human beings we are today are no responisable for what those who came before us, did. You can agree or disagree of course, but in the end, I speak the truth.

Whether you watched, Good Times, All in The Family, The Jeffersons, Mayberry RFD, or anyother television show of the era they occurred in. You will notice though, families of many nationalities and creeds and colors all have the same reactions to the same situations in general. We are all human beings, don’t you think, we should all close off our color perception, our race perfection, And in the end just deal with the fact we are all human beings? I do, do you?

Let there be , what we all wish can be, A Happy Time of Year for you and for me! December brings thoughts of music and singing, choirs, and bells and then all the sweet and candy filled smells. It bring lights of all different colors, feelings and thoughts of family, sisters and brothers. It brings with it the purity of snow and men in red suits, yelling Ho Ho Ho. As the Holidays rush toward us all, we want to just let go and have a ball. So. with all sincerity and all the joy one can muster, I want to Wish all, Sisters and Busters, no matter what color, no matter what creed, no matter what you believe, Happy Holidays to all and whatever you celebrate. I hope we all find peace and joy, and no more hate!

I tire of racial divides, I tire of predijuce and discrimination, it has no place in the human celebration. We are all the same my friends no matter what you may believe in, what color your skin, or nationality either. We all live our lives the same, we all bleed when cut or hurt, we all breath and laugh and cry, we all, do all human things the same, we love, we laugh, we cry, we sigh, we all have the same reactions to the samethings folks. So, as this Holiday Season hits us all, be patient, be kind, be nice and stand tall. Be who you are and forgive those who are not right, there is no place for wars or fights. We love who we love, and we like who we like and we know not why some don’t do things right. Do, what I do folks, and let it go, if I offend anyone I say sorry and move on and then if they offend me I forgive and forget, and move on. LIfe is too short for petty squabbles and jealous fights, we don’t want to hurt one another, and we don’t always agree, but we can compromise, we can say sorry and we can walk away if necessary to make it right, without it all becoming a fight.

I Wish All Around the World, A Very Happy Holiday Season, I hope one filled with logic, common sense and reason. I wish all laughter and joy, down to each father, mother, daughter and boy! And do me a favor folks, if you see a Veteran of any type, no matter what branch they served, wish them, well and Thank them for serving and keeping us free. WIth Warm Thoughts and Well Wishes for all, from Me!

Time it seem, to pass slowly and then quickly depending on certain things. Then on top of all the emotional turmoil of this year I have been through, I gather i am having a problem controlling my tone, when I speak. I am learning some think I am angry when I speak so I will try to control my tone in such a way as to not upset people anymore. I honesty had no idea I had this problem untill it was brought to my attention recently. I am now aware it exists and will try to control it in somevway in a more positive and gentler way. Emotions build up in all of us in times of stress and tension and especially when you lose a loved one like a spouse, like i did. I am sorry if at times I offend or upset someone, when I am spoken to and respon, I will have to slow down and be more aware of how, I reply.

I grew up in a rough family with rough parents too, then spent much of my life in the military having to follow and give orders to others. Then I spent the last 28 years married to my wife who passed from cancer in August of 2021. I spent each of those years, basically isolated with her and taking care of her, in everyway I knew how. It wasn’t easy and i guess it has changed my tone in many ways , and it has affected my attitudes too in many ways. I need to go slower, and realize that in order to be acceptable to others when I speak I have to watch how I speak and what tone I am using. Be aware and counsious of it happening will be primary to me going forward, and i apologize to anyone I may have affected with my tone at times. It is not intentional.

It is more or less something I do without realizing it and then get that look and asked about my tone or a reaction from whom I spoke to in the wrong way, and of course they get upset with me. I am going to work overtime to go slower and stop before I speak so I do not do it anymore, and work on it.

Patienace is needed for me and it is needed in all I do and I must control my emotions also, to make sure. Self-control is not easy folks, when you have gone through trauma and loss in the way I have, in my life.

That said, onward and upwards I say. I have to look forward to the rest of my life and hope I can live a full, happy, content and comfortable life, till my end time comes. I am learning and each day is at times a struggle to maintain myself, I apologize to all.

Now I am waiting on many things to go through for me, to move on with my life. My Lawyer must get my wife’s estate settled in pobate court, I need the home and her car fredd by decries, from a Judge. Then, once that happens, I need to sell both and move on from there to be able to find a new place to live and a new car for myself. I can’t move forward it seems, so I am stuck in place and relying on others to get me there now. The Real Estate selling the house, The lawyer with Probate, all have me on hold, right now and it does get frustrating for me. I hope and pray it will be taken care of soon enough in all areas, I would like to find my own place and start a new life, now.

I think when one loses a spouse to a deadly disease like cancer, one tends to get emotional, angry, confused and scared, all at once. There is a major hole in one’s life, from it all. I lost my sounding board, my partner, my friend and my lover all at once, poof, just like that. The only thing that works in my favor is, I saw it coming for 16 years before it happened, but the shock in the end when it happens is still major. So slowly, since the loss I have been trying to reach an equalibrimum and a way to move forward without, committing suicide myself. There are still moments and times, when I feel like I should have went with her and that I can’t live without her, but I wake up each day, knowing I must, until the good lord calls me to his side, to join her.

As my Doctor told me and I must remind myself daily, I did all I could for her for 28 years, and I served Uncle Sam for 16 years too. So as my Doctor told me, I must start living for myself and taking care of myself from now on and i intend to, if my health holds up. I am hoping with help I will make it through it all.

STUNNING WOMAN

The room was dusky and the light not bright, 

The music was loud and not always right,

But the company was fun and to get it done,

Yes I continued, to hang on.

I stood alone on my own and watched the people go by,

So many faces, in so many places ,

Yes, you can see their feelings on their faces, in so many places.

The music came on, and the people began to sing,

In you walked and the sighs and ohs and ahs, begin,

Yes, indeed, you are  a stunning woman!

The stunning woman, who knows not what she is,

The woman who is,  au naturale.

Yes, Your a stunning woman, but do you know,

Yes stunning to me is what you be,

You take my breath away.

I know you would never see me,

I know your on a higher level than I,

Yet I know no matter where I be,

If you walk in, you are stunning to me!

A stunning woman of beauty and smiles, 

A stunning woman, who is herself,

That’s special, you stunning woman, believe me.

You’re  just stunning and special to see!

I know someday, one man will come,

He may be handsome, he may be strong,

He will scoop you up and carry you away,

I hope it makes you happy and gay,

And he makes you content each day, and night.

A woman with a smile and style and so stunning,

The men will surely come running.

Just be you and you will be fine,

Don’t pay attention to those who don’t treat you right,

Be the stunning woman you are, and you shall win the fight.

And find your happiness one night!

December 8th, 2021 has arrived folks, it seems to me the older I get the faster the calander goes by. Maybe I am not alone in this feeling for so many of us are trying to find ways to stay happy, content, and find things we enjoy and are comfortable in doing and with the people we like too.

Some lessons that need to be taught to some are very simple at times to learn, 1) Be kind to others, 2) Accept criticism Learn as you go and 4) Adapt and compromise. Now I am not perfect, no one is and many think they are when they are not. We tend to hold ourselves high and be proud and that is fine to do folks for your self-esteem all need to be proud of themselves, but when you think your always right and never wrong, your stuck and not learning anymore in life.

Life is meant to be lived and not just pushed through unhappily, or sad or in remorse, it is meant to be filled with people, laughter, love, fun, and joy. All of us have our ups and downs, our moments of despair and sadness we grieve, we get angry and then once we let it out we get back on our horse so to say and ride off into fun times. Life has to go that way folks, why, because when it doesn’t anymore, it is a pause that wastes time period.

At sixty five and headed for sixty six soon enough I have learned people are fussy, people are stubborn and set in their ways and some are bi-polar, some are mentally unstable or emotionally unstable too. It isn’t their fault in many cases, it is their past experiences they have lived through, the way they were taught and brought up. As kids we are so impressionable, we learn from our parents and anyone older than us, if we don’t have proper role models to learn from, things go sideways. I hope that makes sense to many, and some can read this and get what I am saying. I avoid confrontations, in my own way folks, once you pop off at me for being me without a good reason I can see and undertand, I will apologize for my part and move on, but don’t expect me to be the same around you. I do not take to unneccessaey attacks, nor do I care if your moody or upset, stop, think of what you are saying and doing, before you do it. For with me I may forgive once, but I will never forget. Part of living is being critsized, argued with and responding, it is really how you respond and react that counts, and what you will be remembered for.

That said as many know now, my wife died and I am now alone without female companionship and it gets hard when you are used to having it and suddenly don’t. There are times I wonder why the Good Lord took her from me, but, then I realize, she is better off without pain or suffering anymore now. Then I find myself thinking of her, and it saddens me some, but, how do I overcome it is the real question ,isn’t it?

Well, one must remember to move on, one must cry in private, and I do, I also know as i grieve there is still a world out there and i am still here, even if she is not. I didn’t lose my love for her, and I never will, I just need to live my life now to the fullest I can and carry on till my time comes.That my friends is my plan now.

Anyway the Christmas Season is upon us and the lites are lit everywhere you go. Money is tight and people try to do right, and that to me is bright. We laugh, we have fun, we cheer one another up and help one another through. I told some people once, Christmas is not about material things you recieve, although the gifts are now, material thing you don’t take to your grave with you, nor are you remembered for them once you go. You are remembered for how you treat others, how well you reacted or did not react toward others. The interactions of each day of your life is how you build your reputation and that is vital, if you care.

Some of us are givers and we tend to give until we can’t anymore and then some of us are takers, the reral question is, which are you? You don’t have to give money, or gifts, you don’t have to do a thing, for anyone in the Holiday Season, it is up to each of us. You can give help to others, talk through someone’s problems, guide them along the best way to live and love and be happy. There are so many things to do for sure, to make you life more fullfilling for you and others too.

So as this Christmas Season comes into effect and we head through to the next year, be positive, be true, help others through and that will come back to you! Happiness is not an illussion folks, it’s real, but it must come from in you, not from outside of you. Do what you love, be with people you love, avoid problem people who srruggle to be the center of attention and be yourself, you can’t be loved by all, it doesn’t work that way. What does work is, being true to thyself, being honest and polite and most of all not projecting your fears or anger, or pain on someone else. So, Merry Christmas All and I wish all A Happy and Proftiable New Year too. I am not rich, I am not poor but I can wish you all Happyiness, forever more!

Well, in life we all tend to move on, for many reasons, sometimes the reasons are not our own choice. For instance in my case, I became a widower when my wife died. So we all make decisions as to what to do next, with the life we have left. My choice has been to get out of the house and sell it and move to Massachusetts, and try to find a peaceful life for fun, for the end of my life. At 65, I don’t want to be over active, but, nor do I want to be boring and dormant, I hope that makes sense.

One thing I am learning as I am moving on, I am looking for how to meet new people in a new area at my age. I am looking for things to do out there, places to enjoy, as I sell my old home in Connecticut and look at condos here in Massachusetts. I am noticing Masachusetts has many venues and places to go to do things, but as a single widower I am at a stage of, what do I do on my own and I am hesitant to just go out alone. Yet I know, before,I would do single dances and such for fun. I was hoping to find a woman for companionship and to do things with, we both would like.

I joined Our Time and I have joined Zoosk also to look at profiles and chat online some with others .I am hoping at some stage or time I can chat with a woman who just wanted company, companionship and to enjoy life. Time shall tell I guess.

I like reading and music and puzzles. I like computers and games too. Movies, eating out and I like taverns like the Hillz in RI. I don’t have much knowledge of the area I am in currently, because i am trying to clear up all I need to move on so to say

I do like bowling, sports, the NFL, playing cards, and walking if it is not too cold. Malls are fun to walk for people watching too.

Just me being me I guess, I write too poetry and small stories at times, and of course my blogs. As humans we all need social interaction, friends and companions and we like company around us. I just hope at some point I shall find someone and see how it goes, no pressure, no demands and no rush really about anything, just having fun exploringa nd meeting people i hope. I also joined Meetup but, I havent used it as of yet, I may in the future for things to do.

OK December has become 7 days old today, and time marches on now. The Holiday Season has blossomed and lights be all around, happiness it seems is allowed. We are not all rich and the stores are having their problems, gas has fisen again and covid is running rapid. Seems to me it doesn’t matter who is President does it, we all suffer with the rest of the world now and with the economy for all. America has grown and risen and like many of the old greatest civilizations of the past, The Mayan, The Aztecs. The Romans, The INdians of the world, it looks like we have hit our peak, and are now on the decline. Great Nations last maybe 100 years or a lil better depending on how they react to time and conditions, America has reacted at time very well and at other times very poorly. These days it is in a flux of ups and down that will eventually drive the markets in the same way financially. Socially America is in a status of confrontations, bouts of anger and so many are afraid of what will come, or what will not come they stop and shake, and then restart to go on.

The only way this great nation, the greatest nation on planet earth coan continue to grow, prosper and exist, is to compromise, is to learn from others and to realize, we area nation driven by a military economy and might few on earth have ever seen. We need to use that again, for the building of military weapons and equiptment is what drives our economy. It always has and will, for that is how we really exist and sustain ourselves.

Way back, right after the Signing of The Declaration of Indepencance, the greatest leaders we had, THomas Jefferson, John Adams, Hamilton, Washington and others declared we werea new nation and we definitely survived based on their new ideas and ways. Ben Franklin, who wasa genuis in his own right, he invented so many things and ways to do things, stood up and said the following for all to hera loud and clear. We have a nation for the people, by the people and it is a republic, we shall have it only so long as we take care of it. Well, Ben was correct, we have had it now fora long time, in our history, but not as far as world history goes. We need to work at keeping our Democratic, Republic going or we shall slip down into a third worlds country in no time. We need to work at it, fight economic ruin, so it doesnt come, fight covid so we can wipe it out. Work to crerate a more perfect union and create jobs and grow our food again.

We are now too dependent on other nations for too much. OIl, Gas, prices soar, China makes all goods they can and sells them to us left and right. We need to create a economy based on manufacturing of electric vehicles, on more manufacturing of our own in all areas, The more America is self-suffincent the better we are. No Nation is an island of it’s own of course, but we need to be more logical and use common sense to stay alive, as a nation. Just like in life, when we lose a spouse or loved one in our families, we must adapt, change and downsize as necessary to keep going. All of us need to rrealize something else also. No president whether it was the First Washington, or the current Biden, can change everything and they are limited in powere to do so too, They must negoitate and work it out with Congress, both HOuse Senate and The House itself. We get into trouble, despair and problems and get landlocked and nothing moves forward, unless we the people make it so. Congress has been stuck and doing nothing for far too long now, it does not mean the Democrats are right, or the Republican either, it means they are being assine and stupid and have us in a holding pattern that is destroying the country, due to the fact neither side wanted to compromise and doesn’t understand they have to, for us to carryon as a nation.

So, let me say this to the American People, If you look north Canada, has Health Care for all, we don’t why? Why hasn’t the United States, sent a team of professionals and politicans to Conada and asked how they set up their healthcare for free for all and brought it to America? We should figure such things out and borrow what they have for their healthcare and then adapt it and adjust it for us. Why can”t Congress bring it here for all?

Look I know we pride ourselves on being the greatest nation on earth, but are we really that great when we can’t even feed our own people anynore, provide healthcare for all, or make sure all have jobs, get the homeless off our streets and in the end learn to compromise to do it? We have drug epicemics, we have homelessness, we have a faltering economy and no politician is concerend really, or else they would compromise and join forces to eliminate, eradicate and help America move on as whole.

OK, December 6th is upon us, and the Holiday Season is coming into it’s full bloom very soon now. The songs are being played since Thanksgiving, The lights have been popping upall around. The stores are being used yes, but not loike before the economic problems in the USA have started. Gas prices rose, food cost has risens, and more, Christmas this year will be tough for many families. I just hope and pray it will turn around for all involved and get better quickly.

For me there is a waiting game now, as my home is empty an don the market, so, I have to wait it out and see what I get for it. Once that is done, I will pick and choose a condo to live in, up here, in Mass. I don’t want big, but I do want a fresh new start in a new area.

I can tell all one thing, as you grow older and you live in the same place over that time like we did, 21 years, do yourself a favor, if you don’t use it toss it out, it only collects and makes it a mess to clean up when one of the couple dies. IT took me numerous runs to GoodWill, three 20 yard dumpsters, numeroud runs to the Recycling Center and a 20 foot Uhaul Truck to get it all out. Work was like cray doing so believe me. Only one thing makes it all feel better when you finish such a project, you take the memories with you but not the baggage so to say.

Ok that is done and next is the selling of the house and I will keep in touch with the realitor and push her to show it more now. At the sametime I have to do the necessary things to move on. Looking at places to live, furniture to buy and set up, and yes in the end a new vehilcle for me. I want to set it up in such a way as I have all new, when I am done and on my own. Fresh and new is always important, when you are starting over after a lifetime with the one you married and loved is over.

I am disappointed in only one way now, since my wife’s death, but I had figured it would go the way it has, before she died. My wife woul dbe upset and angry over the fact her daughter and I are now estranged and not talking and the same for her grandchildren too. I can’t change it either and won’t try. I knew the daughter neve rliked me in the first plaxe and the kids well they will follow where ever the mother leads of course. MY deceased wife woul be madder than hell over the duaghters reastions and inactions during her dying and since. But, I just will carry on and take care of myself now.

Christmas LIghts are up and bright, and through it all is a shinning light, the light of God, the Light of Jesus, and in the end that life that keeps up alive, shines through. We go to and fro whether rain, sun or snow and live each day with a purpose and more. We know not how many Christmases we get in our life, but we do all we can to go on. We tend to find new friends, new lovers and companions and we tend to try to carry on. So, as the Christmas Season rolls in and the lights, lite up to the brim, the stores get busy and online items ship, remember to stop and smell the roses, remember the ones you always loved, who are here and are gone. Remember to live a full, happy life, remember to treat all you love just right, to all out there, who have a care, I wish all, A Christmas Season of Brightness and Joy, for all Men, Women, Girl and Boys!

You begin to understand as you go thru your 60;s if you live that long that time stops for no one and for all of us humans we are alloted only so long on this planet. While time will always be infinite, we are finite and due to pass.

Now, that said we also learn as we age a few other facts, the younger generstion will never understand until they get there. 1) Our physical strength will go down. 2) Our emotional prowess will decrease also with age. 3) As our friends, famiilies or spouses pass, the burden of caring for them and trying to keep them with us, takes away from us. Basic facts right there folks, so you all can understand.

We reach points in life, all has to change for us. We have to give up things we don’t want to, we have to downsize, even when we hate to. Belongings, and more must go to live in smaller places, big houses must be sold, for a single person can’t afford them along and has no purpose for them. You begin to realize as you move on after the passing of a spouse and the kids are gone, it is time to downsize everything you have to fit it all in a smaller space to live. Inevitably life has it’s cycles, you can’t change it you see. You have the birth to teen years, learning, growing, making and choosing friends and family that takes care of you. Then you have the years when you begin to work and learn independence and steady out some as an adult. Then you enter the ok, what I call the 25 to 50 stage. Rushing to and from, raising your own children and creating your own home with the spouse you love. As your fifties hit you start to notice a few things, your less active, you want comfort and in the end peace with the spouse you married. By 60 you are dealing with your own and your spouses illnesses and maladies. Then in your sixties you begin to realize one of you can die or pass away from almost anything so it is, will time, trust times and you start your own preperation for your own passing. Life is the same cycle for all of us, the day bears on us, the cold, the heat, the rain the snow, gravity and more. We are not built to last forever folks, we are like a machine, with durabilty yes, but we tend to push ourselves beyoond our own means, and try to show our pride and strength and do it all on our own. We can’t and ultimately we learn that folks.

At 65 I am now at the what I call close to the closing stages of this process I believe. I have served my parents as a child, I have served my country for 16 years in three different branches, Army, Army Nationl Guard and Navy. I served my first wife as her spouse and father to my children the best I could. Then I served my second wife for 28 years and took care of her, provided for her and in the end buried her too. Now all the belongings are gone from my home it is empty, the last dumpster of stuff is done, and waiting for pick-up. The for sale sign is on the house. And I am now being helped by my younger sister and her man to adapt to a new life and move on alone for my final years. These are called cycles folks and we live through them, you may not realize what they are as you do, but that is what we live through. May the good lord protect all and keep all safe, and bless me with a ending time to my life, that keeps me comfortable safe and allows me to die without pain, For that is all I need now.

Unfullfilled drreams happen in everyone’s life, don’t they? When we are young we make mistakes and bad decisions, then things don’t work out and you have to move on and start over. My life has been that way, from birth till today.

When I was born till I was 9 months old I have 199 seizures. My mother would run me to the faucet in the sink and run water over my head to stop them. Then, my older brother decided he wanted to play or something one day, and took the tray off my high chair and I tumbled to the floor on my head. No more seizures for me, the fall caused a small flap in my brain to reseat itself and reconnect stopping all seizures. Funny how things happen isn’t it.

I fought my parents and my mother all my life till I turned into a teenager. But the road to that point was always rocky for me, I never fit in at home or school. In the end at 10 I was given over to the State, as a ward of the state by my mother, because she said she couldn’t handle me and needed help. Two years later, I was released and set home. IT didn’t stop the battle with my mother at all, we still fought over my wanting to know who my real father was. So a few years later on, I finally solved that one too the year I turned 18. I got on a buss and wentt o see my reral father, and that solved it for me, till, mom found out and decided to drive down and see him herself. In the end, my father finally told my mother to never return. So problem solved. See life is in stages and based on events and thoughts we do not control, but we live through because the good lord wants us to and he directs it, without us knowing why. I have always believed and I will till I die, that we do not control our fates, or destinies, the Good Lord does and in the end he put each of us here for a purpose and mission we do not know, but we do fullfill before we leave.

Life is stages folks, and purposes we do not know we have to do or fullfill. I know it sounds crazy, but stop and see it for yourself, think it over. Life is precise and it is also full of ups and downs, ins and out, pleasures and pains and we work to maintain and keep going daily. I hope that makes sense.

I write blogs about many subjects whenever the subject pops up in my mind and I feel Ineed to voice it in someway or form for all to read. Thisi such a blog.

I wonder at times, what would I be, how it would be, if I had made different choices or spoke up. How those choices would affect us all, and in the end how it would have affect me and my life.

What would have happened, like the What If, stories in Marvel Comics, lol! But, this is reral life and i have learned no matter how different or what decisions you make in life, there rerally is no way to turn back time or to change the past.

Each person we meet in life, we do so for one reason or another and that my friends is not controled by us as human beings, it is a complicated thing in life. I won’t ever deny or not believe in fates, or destinies, but Father Time and Mother Nature are beyond our control. I don’t control destinies or fates, I just accept them.