Tick, Tock

BY: William McCurrach

March 16,2022

Tick, Tock, Tick Tock goes the clock,

Each day goes on, and does not stop,

The sun shall rise and it will set,

Life begins and ends for all,

IT is not like playing ball.

Tick, Tock, Tick Tock,

As we all head to our endings

and our own stop.

Days become nights,

Nights become days,

Just remember to treat all you know fairly and kind,

For, in the end, that is what will make you a fine memory in their mind.

Tick, Tock, Tick Tock, ALL.

An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy. Although an intimate relationship is commonly a sexual relationship, it may also be a non-sexual relationship involving family, friends, or acquaintances. 

A Relationship is based on the interaction between two people, they do things together and spend time together and they treat each other with respect. They know what one another is doing, and where they are at most times.

Now, I hate to say this, some believe, in this new world of the woke crowd, that a relationship is not what I am saying above. Some believe because they live in the same house,, and co-pay for it, that makes it a relationship. No, sorry folks, cohabitation is not a relationship. It is cohabitating, in the same residence and sharing the cost only. If you aren’t spending time together, you aren’t at home every night you can be, well, it’s not a relationship.

I understand relationships I lived them, I had two marriages, one 12 years and one 28. Now, if I had dressed up and gone out on my own without either of my wives, at any time, they would have asked what I was doing and would never have put up with it. As my wives put it, if your friends are more important than me, then be with them, don’t expect me to stay here and wait for your return. If in a relationship with someone, in my book, you come home to them, you provide for them, you spend time with them. Old Fashioned maybe, but it is what a relationship is really.

I was raised that a relationship is a one on one with another person you love and respect and pay attention to at all costs. If your, in it you provide for the female and it’s your job to do so as the male half. Now, it may sound sexist or old-fashioned, but, it is how I was raised and taught. I suppose many of today’s couples may see it differently and be a part of this so-called woke movement, and it may be their way this cohabitating, but it isn’t mine. As my dad used to say, you live in my house you live by my rules, I am sure many have heard that growing up. It is like a staple saying from a father to his kids. So, I can’t say it is wrong to cohabitate like some do these days, but I can say I disagree with it. The way I see it with relationships, you are either full in or your actually just dating and living together, period.

By the way, a financial entanglement is not a relationship either. It is co-mingling funds you make, just to pay the bills, you need to meet. That is a monetary agreement is all, unless you have either physical intimacy, or emotional intimacy, and spend time with one another, it is not really a relationship, even if you co-reside. It is just living with one another. I am not saying marriage is the way to go, I am saying that relationships are not, based on money, possessions, or living together, they are based on caring, sharing and, being with one another, They are based on time with one another, listening to one another, open communication with one another. The physical intimacy part is not always a requirement, but the emotional commitment is. Sex drives can die, feelings don’t folks unless you kill them. If that happens then the relationship is not working anymore, when both parties go their separate ways to find fun. When spending time with your friends is more important than spending time with the one you’re in a relationship with, well, let’s just say, like an old friend told me, it’s time to leave the relationship, it doesn’t come first, your friends do.

But again, as I said above, I am not a relationship expert, nor a Doctor, but I did live two long relationships in my life. The only way it works is, paying, attention to the one you are in it with. Spending time with them, being there each day and night

Stats show divorce happens just for the reason of people not spending time together. Look it up, divorce happens for many reasons of course, yet mostly because one side or the other side ultimately looks elsewhere for what they are missing at home. Of course, there are reasons like physical and mental abuse in extreme cases, many know that, but, in the end, stop spending time with the person you are in a relationship with and start spending time with your friends and see what happens. Want proof, look in divorce records. Look at The Beatles even, when John met Yoko, and she drew him away, the Beatles busted up. Lack of time with someone you are in a relationship with causes break-ups and divorce. People want, paid attention to, they want loyality caring, support, dedication. It’s is all what a relationship with a woman is about men. Remember it!

Now, friends are people who come and go, they party with you, drink with you and then go home. Friends don’t, come drink all your booze and never buy their own. Friends care about you as much as you care about them, it’s a two-way street. Everyone likes having friends, to share good times with, but in my case when my friends start interfering with my relationship the relationship wins out, my partner, lover, girlfriend, or wife, whichever it is at the time comes first always, not my friends. Friends shall come and go, and few of us have friends that last over 50 years, I do. So, when I say friends are nice to have, I mean it, but, whoever you are in a relationship with comes first, or you lose them. Call me old-fashioned, call me non-woke crowd, call me whatever, it is, what I believe.

Daylight Savings time has hit today, Spring ahead folks. Ya lose an hour today, but ya gain some sunshine. Each day is a blessing for all of us still alive, so carry-on, and enjoy is what I say.

Well, that said, spring shall come soon enough, it seems and life goes on each day. I have had no real luck since my wife died, everything I try to do is hard to finish, it is a constant waiting, that makes me worry and feel depressed.

Time is marching on and my wife’s passing is now over 7 months behind me, yet, I still think of her and grieve her daily. I know there are many out there who say, I shouldn’t be grieving still, but, unless you have lived a long marriage/ relationship of 28 years or more with someone, don’t tell me that. I know I post blogs and Facebook posts on how much I miss her, and I probably will for a while. I just wish everyone who has a relationship or marriage could have what I had with my wife. It was a partnership, a lover, a confidant, open communication, and caring very few have these days. People seem to not understand when I say I miss her big time and tell me to let her rest in peace, I let her rest, it doesn’t mean I can forget her or all we had together. I never will till I die.

I do not come from nor understand this so-called woke culture at all. What the hell is a woke culture world folks, I have no idea at all. I come from the old-fashioned culture of a man providing and taking care of those he loves. I am not of the culture where a man tells a woman she has to pay certain bills, she has to do certain things and you can go your way and, I, my way, we can party separately, that I am seeing today. I don’t understand it, nor do I believe in it either. I provided in my marriage, I paid all the bills, I provided the food and cars, and more. I never once looked at my wife and said you have to get a job and pay this or that, I made sure it got paid for her and I. Guess the new world is this woke world, but it is not my world at all.

The same is true of the Trump era and his bullshit, he pulled in office in my opinion. He broke more laws as President than any other in American History, was twice Impeached, and failed at everything he tried to do or touched. He failed at his wall, he even failed at selling water and steaks and a false damn college he produced. Sadly, he is still walking free today, when he should be in prison for all he did, inciting a riot and sedition at the capital, why because he lost an election, well the people choose, and Biden won. Period, end of it Trump, now disappear please! Anyone else not feeling that way is fine with me too, just don’t force what you want on me and I am fine.

Onward, next subject, I have been going through depression and as I do I tend to wonder why others do what they do, but, unless it affects me or those, I love I usually say nothing at all. I am 66 years old folks, an disabled, veteran, with six herniated discs, PTSD, Sleep Apeana, and more. I try just to survive each day and carry on the best I can. I can’t deal with people who act like children, hide from things, or run away when faced with things they don’t like. I can’t deal with lies either.

I gave up many years ago on bullshit from others, lies from others, or those who do as they want, no matter how they hurt anyone. I was raised differently I suppose. As I said above I come from the old school when it comes to relationships, I was taught a man provides and spends his time at home with the woman he loves and his children if they have any. SO I really do not understand the new woke culture or world at all. Never would I get up and get dressed and go out on my own without my wife. I am 66 years old so I am set in my ways, but once you are in a relationship isn’t the purpose to spend time with the one you are in it with? That’s my opinion for sure. I have a firm belief in what a woman wants doesn’t matter, your possessions, wallet size, or materials you have, it depends on the respect, you give them, the caring you show them and they want your time too, for it is not what you have that they really want, it’s your time and interaction with them that counts. Am I wrong?

As I see it, most relationships that end in divorce happen just for the reason that the quality of time and quantity of time is not good enough for the woman involved. They lose contact and end up feeling alone, ignored, or abandoned and they look elsewhere for someone to pay attention to them again. Maybe in some people’s eyes what I am saying is wrong, but it is an opinion I have every right to. Want, to prove it true, look through divorce records, that include military families, the longer one is away, the more likely a woman is going to look elsewhere for love and caring. We all have needs, each of us, and unless those needs are answered or supplied and fed, we tend to find them somewhere else.

Let’s see, I spent 12 years in one marriage and had two children, spent 28 years in a second marriage that ended when my wife passed. Now at no time, did I in my 30’s, 40’s, 50’s or, 60’s now, just go out whenever I wished, doing as I pleased, and leaving either of my wife’s home alone, ignored, and on her own. If they didn’t want to go with me, I didn’t go, simple as that. It’s called, compromising and caring in my book, caring enough to know if I did it would end what I had with them. Am I wrong in my opinion, some will say, it is fine to go out without your partner, as long as they say so, but even the women who say this, say in private they don’t like it or approve! I will never understand why any man thinks it is ok, to shower, shave and dress up and put cologne on, and head out to a bar or tavern and do so without the woman he loves if he is in a relationship. Why are you dressing up and going out, if you have what you want at home?

But I am not of the woke culture that is here today either. Generations are different and people run their relationships, their own way, and do their own things. If the woman involved says she is ok with it, do it guys, go ahead, but when she looks at you and says you should stay home more, you better listen. Last I knew, if you go over 7 years in any relationship, your partner and you separate, she gets half of everything. Laws protect the women of the world. Ask any Judge in Divorce Court or civil court, you will see. Unless the laws have changed that is. I don’t believe they have.

Now, personally, I said something about the above situation to someone who repeated it back to her man and embellished it and exaggerated it and it became an issue between us. I just want to say this on that point, others who are friends, have stated the same thing I have and asked the same question also. One is a man, one was a woman, and then me. What was the question, I asked, you may want to know? Why is a man in a relationship who is of long term, and in his 60’s, showering, shaving, putting on cologne and going out to taverns, and hanging out with people half his age and leaving his woman home alone? The answer I got was, he likes singing and he goes once a week only. No, to my knowledge, he goes 2 or three times a week I have witnessed it. Anyway, no matter what or how many times a week it is done, to me it is wrong to go without the woman you’re with. Like I said I am old school, so I don’t get it at all. It is my opinion only, do as you please I say, but when it costs you, don’t get upset. One other thing let it be known I am not the only one who has seen and said something in this case.

I have witnessed many things in my life, some disturb me and some don’t. But, this new woke culture is not right for me, I know that much. I also know, I don’t understand why everything people do is a competition. It’s sad when you can’t just play cards for fun anymore, it has to be cut-throat, lol. It’s a game, no money involved, I never worry if I win or lose, I only play for fun. If I wanted to play cards, for competition I would do so at a casino for money, not in someone’s home. Silly facts in life right. Life will go on, no matter what I do not have long to what is left of my life, I already know that much. My parents passed at 55 and 59 respectfully, and I am now 66. If I die tomorrow it would not matter to me, each day is just existence to me, so it is one day at a time now.

I also know that in order to forgive someone, you must be able to forgive yourself.

Instructions are left where to bury me, how to bury me, and what I wish in writing, God Bless All.

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The future is not something one can predict at 66 years old, or in the climate of today’s world, not anymore. We deal daily with ups, downs, wars going on, political discord, personal discords, and yes even relationship discords and problems. Sadly, none of it can be changed, once it goes by, because human beings, can be stubborn, arrogant, childish and at other times ignorant, and then when they believe they are wronged they can be idiotic also and lock themselves into positions, never considering that what they do can harm themselves in the long run. Humans are sometimes not logical, they lose common sense, decorum, and manners if they think they have been done wrong by someone. Sadly, no one can change their mind once they get stuck in this mode, in the end, they will suffer more than the person, they are intending to either get even with or ignore because they will never know what the other side will do.

History shows us that it is true, that what we give out, we get back, and in the end, people can play the same games we can too. Here is a second fact for some to consider, people embellish, people, exaggerate and people add on to things when they retell them. Hearsay is a nasty thing, that happens in life between human beings, if you don’t believe in it, or don’t acknowledge it exists, just go to court or watch a tv program about courts. It happens in world wars, it happens in conflicts and causes conflicts where none should be also. It’s historic fact for sure, ask Hitler, Stalin, Roosevelt, and other world leaders, including Churchill. Modern-day examples of this hearsay and exaggeration and embellish process can be found on American Television station news programs from CNN to FOX and others. It happens daily and unless as the newscasters will tell you, you fact-check it all and get both sides, as a third-party observer you never get it all correct or know the full truth. You just hear this report and react, and in life that is dangerous, ask Adolf Hitler folks, Saddam Hussein, and others. What I am saying is a fact. The Russian invasion of Ukraine is wrong, period, people are dying on both sides.

Nowadays, people are either on one end of the political spectrum or the other and the middle ground is not to be found. You have the extreme left with its liberal views, you have the extreme right with its conservative views. Each is an extreme view and pushes to the side they favor and very few times do the two meet in the middle and solve an issue. Look at the current American Government and how it is currently in a state of non-movement on any major issue. IT is stagnating the American economy, the American political system, and we the people suffer for it. People suffer left and right, and in the end, it happens in everyday relationships in the world, each day on an individual basis, between people. It’s sad but it’s real folks.

By getting stuck in these modes people tend to not realize some facts. One fact is this, people you may be ignoring, acting out against, or treating unfairly, have knowledge of who you are, what you do, how you do it, just like you have the same of theirs. In the end, as my step-father once said, never throw rocks if you live in a glasshouse, they will break your own windows and hurt you. For you are not the only half of a given situation and the half you do like, also has ammunition that can harm you in return. Every argument and participant to it has information on the other party or can get it and hurt you back in return making it an endless situation. Once it reaches the stage where the second party you are lying about or saying did something gets tired of what you are doing to them, you better expect and be ready for payback in a major way. Anger begets anger, silence begets silence and idiot behavior begets the same in return. Endless cycles begin this way and history has shown that.

Anyway, that is the current political climate as well as for some the personal climate too, these days. In the end, unless there is compromise and some attempt to reach a peaceful status, pain, will result for both involved. Even the Allies during the World Wars, knew this as they sent thousands to fight and die for what they believed in and so did the Axis Leaders. Why, because they got so entrenched in their own, they didn’t consider the overall cost.

Recent events in my own life have taken a turn down this road also. Sadly, myself or the person in this disagreement with me, will not change their stand and it will lead to problems I am sure for the person we are both trying to protect. To prevent that from happening and to protect the one important to me, I will not push it in any way and just accept what is happening. If there is a better solution for both sides than what is happening now, it has not been examined, implemented or, used. As my Stepfather once told me, “People who live in glass houses should not throw stones!” I agree with what he said many years ago. Yet, I also know, in the end, if the conflict or disagreement continues the innocent will be harmed or hurt. That, I can not, and will not allow and neither should the other person involved if they care for the innocent in this situation.

At 66 years old, I am not long I think for this planet, I am in my ending stage more than likely. My parents died at 55 years old and 59 years old respectfully, I have outlived both, so I am ready when my time comes. The way I look at it, any argument or disagreement is not worth the effort to fight over nowadays. Plus, what is stupid about the argument in question is, we are both trying to protect the same individual, from harm. Sadly, maybe it’s me, or maybe it’s the other party, who doesn’t see the truth, the innocent in the middle is the victim, period. That’s how it goes really, protecting the one I love is more important to me than letting that person get hurt by another. Hate me, act out, be silly and, childish whatever you wish to be, in the end, I can take it, just don’t direct it at the innocent we both love.

Seven months today, since my wife passed away from her cancer battle. Every 10th of the month, it hits me and I end up depressed and crying over her being gone. They say time will heal me, they say I should be ok, and I have to stay positive and look ahead, I am trying. I am advised by Doctors to try to look ahead and move on and take care of myself first and foremost. Yet, in the end, I get befuddled, confused, and overwhelmed by all I must go through and do since her passing.

I am very lucky to have a sister who cares and is doing all she can to help me through it all. Without her, I would be lost and scared and hospitalized or worse by now. Depression is a killer folks and it has me in its grip, many times a day, every day. I have seen Doctors, talked to Doctors, and tried to deal with the reality of it all yet, in the end, I am still overwhelmed with all of it, and what to do next in my life and how to do it. Nothing is working to overcome the depression I feel, nor is there a way to beat it, in my opinion. I try each day to stay on the positive side, and while I look fine on the outside to all who see me, inside I am crumbling and in tears. I guess it is all part of the grieving process I am going through, coupled with my PTSD of childhood and Military service time. I know I am not myself, I am trying to handle it internally and it is overwhelming me, confusing me, befuddling me and at times I just lose it. Sadly, as I age I am finding there are some things in life I can not handle the way I used to and I make mistakes. I know I have never been perfect no one is, and I know I have more faults and problems than most. In the end, I made it to 66 years old. Don’t ask me how ok, I have outlived my parents, who died both in their fifties many years ago now, both of cancer.

I survived Lung Cancer in 2013, it didn’t get me, but, depression and anxiety may, time will tell. I will struggle on and hope for the best, but, without my wife, it shall not be easy. All one can do is try, and if I make mistakes as I go along, I hope people can understand and forgive me.

Life never is easy on anyone, and I understand difficulties better than most. Yet, for me since my wife’s passing, it has been one obstacle after another to go over, or around or through. I miss my wife and she always had a way of getting things done, that was a lot smoother than I. She knew how to schmooze people and how to talk better than I do. I tend to screw up when I talk too much or get overly excited and say things, I shouldn’t say. In the end, it slows the process of what needs to be done on time it seems. I have always been and will I guess always be an impatient person on items that need to be done. I don’t know why, it is maybe because I am full of anxiety and my nerves are on edge always.

Anyway, I can’t change things alone so I try to get help where needed. It’s always one day at a time and one item at a time for me. I don’t multi-task well it seems. So, I end up getting nervous and it affects all I say or do sometimes in an inverse way and causes me problems I didn’t have in the first place. Lofe is still a mystery at this age and that for me is kinda strange and silly and at the same time dangerous for me. For if you set something in motion and it stops suddenly then you have problems.

Right now nothing I want to be done is in my hands anymore, I have to await results others are doing for me. The hardest part will always be waiting for me. Sadly, I don’t know what to do with myself as I wait, these things out, so my mind races, and I get jumpy and edgy. It only hurts the process and me, but it seems beyond my control. My mind and body do as they want in these situations so I must keep my mouth shut, and wait, it all out.

In the meantime, daily life goes on around me, and personally, I have to wait. I have no real-life right now since my wife died and I don’t want to be a burden to anyone. So I go day by day hoping and praying things to get done soon.

As to the future and what happens next, I do not know right now, I just wish to move on and be on my own once more to start anew. It is rough without my wife, for she was always a buffer for me. She was more diplomatic and a confidant and friend and my lover in all ways. I miss her dearly, and now have to find a way to struggle through all I must do. I will attempt to get through it all, but I hope I don’t fail at any of it.

I live day by day now, and I pray for just being able to do that. I hope I can get what I need on time and done, I do not want to not complete it now. I pray daily to get it all done on time as planned. Yet it is now beyond my control. So the waiting game must be done.

March is now underway and it seems no matter what time shall move on, it doesn’t care what you or I, or anyone or anything does, it just ticks away, day after day. Now it is fine when you are young trying to get old enough to do things you can’t when young, but, when you reach fifty and above, you tend to wish time would hold still some. We all have things we still want to do, even as we grow older, don’t we folks. For some, it is a special trip somewhere, some special vacation, a special car to buy, or items we want for ourselves. For others, it may be just seeking a comfortable place to live and retire to, where no one will bother you. Each of us is different and it does depend on how well you lived your life when younger, as to how well you retire, and where you can go.

I may be one of the luckiest individuals alive really, for I have been retired for a long time, due to my Naval Injuries while serving. I get medical, dental, and prescriptions free when needed. So yes I did something right in life to have those. Still, I am a firm believer in, if you have no one to share your life with, you really have no reason to be here on the planet. In my life I never did live just for me, I lived most of it for others, in one way or another. It is what people who served in the military do.

As time marches on for me, the aches and pains and discomfort from my military days come back to haunt me and so does my PTSD at times. Nightmares, flashbacks, hit now and then, and I have to halt and wait them out in peace. Yet, for some reason, I am still here on earth, 6 months after my wife passed away last August. I still miss her every day I wake up, and she is not beside me to talk to. I know it seems foolish and like I am being silly or hanging onto her too long, but grief has no bounds folks, and each day something may happen to remind me of her.

Anyway, I do not wish to cry at this time, for right now, there is too much in progress I am awaiting the results of. First, the sale of the home I shared with my wife must close, before I can buy the condo I lined up. Leaving one state, and going to another is what I did, the idea was to be near to my sister in Mass up here. It is getting closer each day to closing down there in CT, and then the buying up here in Mass will start the process. It will be a big week for me coming up and I just hope all goes as planned.

My plans include many things of course, and in the end, I treat all fairly and well for all they did or do for me. I have contractors to pay off, furniture and a car too. Bills to pay leftover will be the first to take care of. The new mortgage will need set up for auto payments each month, and in the end, I will need to ensure I have all I need to live. I need to settle in and get the timing right to do it all, I may need to adjust some in the timing yet, but I will know pretty soon for sure.

Time waits for no one and the only thing that can argue with time is mother nature. It’s fact folks, it has been that way since the beginning of the world I believe. Somethings never change that is for sure. Others change whether you like them or not, like relationships they can go sour, or be affected by what you say or do, or not say or do. They can be affected by many things relationships, for words or lack of them can destroy, relationships. Sadly, I have seen that happen more than once in my life. No two people speak the same, nor mean the same things when talking and some things can be misinterpreted, misunderstood, or taken wrong. I have been down that road many times in my life and seen it and even see it happening today. Sadly, I can’t solve a problem if it is hidden or not talked about openly, nor can I solve a problem someone has with me if they don’t or won’t talk to me about it. It’s just a fact of life I have to accept, and I can’t change it. I am not perfect I am far from it I know and even if I meant well when I said something, all can be taken out of context or meaning and misunderstood also. Sadly, that is all a part of being human and the filters we have built into us as we grow up and live our lives. Let me say one thing before I end today in this blog of mine, human beings are what we are taught as we grow up, the formative years count most, then as you age in life it is the experiences you have lived through that form who you are in the present day. We tend and I am not alone I believe all do it, to look back on prior experiences in life to draw on decisions for present-day matters. Otherwise, we make decisions not on what is in the present-day situation in fact we look back and we pull from the past experiences that are similar and go yes or no based on those, to decide for today. It is a fact, and an old saying, burned once, shame on you, burned twice shame on me. So humans try to avoid the same mistake twice and that sometimes causes a different kind of mistake also. I may have gone that way myself, it’s called over-compensating. I can’t change it, but I can just deal with the consequences of it and go on from it in the best manner possible. We all do it, and we are all human.

Well, the big week ahead is closer, and hopefully, it will be a good one for me and all involved will work out properly. In the meantime it is day by day, thinking it through and trying to get done what is needed on time. One day at a Time is all, all of us can do!

There is an old song that has a verse in it that goes: Time, Time, Time, It’s telling me a story, Peace, Peace Peace is a word that’s never heard, Truth, Truth Truth is a word that’s never heard. In today’s world, it has become a line of truth and honesty in many ways. In fact, time will continue to roll on, whether we are here or not, peace never really happens on the planet earth for we are always witnessing a war or conflict of some sort, somewhere. As to truth, it is very rare these days and people tend to hide behind lies in many ways. So as time rolls on, it seems the world runs on a lack of peace, a lack of truth and justice, and in the end, honesty is hard to find in life, countries, people, and relationships too. Politics is a scam and players’ game, governments do what they will, people make decisions based on half information or lies and the world keeps ticking along. At the end how many of us are aware enough to realize all that is happening and have the ability to filter it all out and understand the truth? You Tell me!

Some things no matter what we do in life will never change no matter how old we are, 1) the planet will still exist unless a large object takes it out. 2) Mankind will be the master creature on this planet due to its human nature to learn and adapt to its climate. 3) As time goes on we all are born and all must die, we do not control either end of that spectrum at all. 4) The sun will rise and set, and we all work on Mother Natures’ schedule. 5) Father time waits for no one and time shall tick on no matter what we do. Now taking into account all five of the above factors, of which we really have no control, what can we as human’s do?

We grow up in families that shape us for the rest of our lives. The base family you were born into, is what creates who you really are in life. We do not control certain portions of that of course, like who our parents are or were, or how they raised us, but we are the result of their handiwork so to say, and guidance. Then we reach a certain age where all decisions we make are ours on our own.

When we do we now decide where we work or what we do to make a living, what our own educational level will be, where we live, and what people we associate with. We basically form a pattern we meld into and then as we go along tend to shape it by the choices we make.

For instance do we ten to increase our education and if so how? Do we do it through just life experiences or thru furthering education once we leave high school? How about what jobs we choose, do we become factory workers, laborers, office workers, teachers, or even computer programmers or not? SO many choices right and we make those choices as influenced by parents, friends, money, and benefits. Everything we do, we try to make our life, easier, more affordable, and more comfortable for each of us as individuals. It is what we do as we go along in life and time on this planet.

When we reach a certain age, we tend to slow down, retire if possible and live life out in a peaceful way, if at all possible. We are not rich every one of us so we save and earn a retirement in some way, again if possible. In the end, we look for a place close enough to reach the ones we love, and we settle in and live till we pass from this planet. Easy pattern right and one most you will ever know shall follow I am sure. Life is basically the same, no matter your color, race, nationality, or what country you live in. We all want peace, and to live happily till we pass from the planet we live upon. Isn’t that what we are doing on this planet folks?

Aggressiveness comes into play in human beings and nations in the same way, certain factors push us that way. Greed, power plays, politics, even hate and love. All emotions can help one or kill one or kill others. We see it every day on the news and television. There are limitless television programs showing us that every day. Yet, we don’t act as individuals to stop these happenings, we stand by, witness them and we go wow, look at that. Mankind doesn’t fully understand the violence and anger in the world so we tend to walk away and not get involved. Is there anything we can do, I doubt it myself, so is it just human nature or conditions and circumstances that cause it all? I don’t know, I only know, each of us is different and we all of us, work to avoid conditions like I stated above. Not all of us are destined for peaceful endings, nor are we able to stay clear of it all, yet we persist and carry on in life because we don’t control our beginnings or our ending in life, do we?

What we do control, is only what we do each day as we go along, so do the necessities first. Then, work to improve yourself and your position in life, save money. Build a family and home and then sustain it all by working to do so. Control only what you can folks and avoid the pratt falls, or mistakes in all ways and you may reach retirement at some point. No guarantees in life though, for we all have our own fates and destinies don’t we? This is what life is about, interactions, relationships, loves, hates, greed, and caring. Stop one day and you will realize, holy shit, that’s life!

Jealousy, Greed, Hate will kill any chance for happiness you have in life. Let them take over and you are done. So live life each day, with an open mind, and wide-open eyes, steer clear of problems, and troublesome people and situations. Love, live, compromised as needed, and learn as you go, and in the end, you will be fine, hopefully, till you pass as all of us will at one time or another. Prepare the best way you can as you go, life insurance, burial insurance, and a place for you to rest are vital too. Wills, Living Trusts are made for these purposes, so be prepared. I know, I will rest in peace when I do pass, for I have made the preparations I had to, for my own demise. I only hope others do the same. So yes, Time, Time, Time is telling me a story, and I am living the story that was meant for me, no matter what I think, destiny, fate holds us all in their sway.

Debates, Arguments, and more have existed since the beginning of humankind on earth. Cavemen and women have argued and fought over food, superiority, and more from day one including territory and land, and properties. These debates, have made or broken nations, leaders, and men and women or built them up, depending on which way the results went for each of them.

Some of the recent things that have occurred in the world include things like Presidential Leaders, Elections, leaders who go after other countries for personal or political gain and so much more. The Trump Presidency is one of those because it affected the United States, the way we run our country, the way the laws will be read, and the way we interact with other nations for many decades to come. The internal repercussions are hard to take when an American President attempts to stay in office, by any means possible, even when he was land-sided and beaten fully in a fair election. I remind all, The 2020 Presidential cycle Election went against Donald J. Trump by numbers worse than he beat Hillary Clinton in 2016. The funny thing is this folks, Trump led an insurrection against his own Government, trying to stay in power as the President. He told everyone there at the capital to March on the Capitol, to be there that day, he called them in to do so. Yet he is a free man today, walking and talking like he will run for re-election for the Presidency, and collected a pension and full security, and medical and dental benefits, and having a good time doing so. I personally do not believe Donald J. Trump should have any benefits from the presidency, he should have zero security also. Donald J. Trump in my opinion did what no one has ever done and all are letting him walk away and do as he pleases. He deserves no benefits, no ability to run for public office at all. Congress should ban him from running for public office ever again in the United States and I hope it will happen soon.

Other debates come into play when we talk about mankind’s struggles to survive on this planet, People are dying in Ukraine, it is now the biggest War Zone in Europe since World War 2. Women, children all dying, from a Russian Assualt with no real reason for it happening, other than Putin’s feelings of insecurity. Even the Russian People don’t want what Putin is doing, in his aggression against Ukraine, and the world watches. Sanctions will not work, what will work is if the Russians as a people, decide Putin must go. Putin is driving this war as his own people protest against him doing so daily on his own streets. The Russian people will suffer the ruble is worthless on the open market now and hunger will happen for what reason, is what the Russians will want to know. The reasoning better be, good enough that Putin gives, or the Russians will attempt to take him out of power. I hope that happens very soon.

The world is a mean place these days folks and it is getting worse daily for many of us in America and the world in general. We all want to work to better conditions, make food plentiful and live independent lives in freedom, yet we don’t stop to think when we run to Vote or Elect officials do we? Americans have failed to stop and think before voting or casting their votes on an emotional basis instead of a logical one. Emotions seem to be overcoming common sense and logic, and that my friends, is bad for the United States and the world in general. I hope and pray as time goes forward, that Americans will wake up, see the light at the end of the tunnel so to say, and realize unless we make better decisions when we vote, we are destroying our own way of life, liberty, freedom and the republic we were given when our nation came into being.

Many will say, I am wrong and that is ok, but I still believe in liberty, justice, freedom of speech, and more for all people. I still believe Ben Franklin was correct when he said ” We have created a Republic here in America and we shall have it only as long as we protect and defend it.” We tend to forget history and many are not being taught what the Founding Fathers did or how they did it or Why.

If we forget our history and allow outside events or inside events caused by politicians and other countries to do what they want and affect us, it is our own fault. I remind all, this America, the United States, was created to form a more perfect union, for freedoms, liberty, and justice for all. If we the American People do not stop those out to destroy what we have and enjoy, then our losing it will be our own fault, no one else’s. The fault will be on all Americans, not just a few, the majority rule is in place for a good reason in America. Remember also please, We fought not only a Revolutionary War, a Civil War, two World Wars, the Korean and Vietnam Wars, trying to keep our principles of freedom and rights for all. We tend to reach out and help each nation we can along the way, yet we still have our own inner struggles in America.

Let me finish this today by saying this to all who wish to read my Blog, or who may disagree or agree with me, freedom of speech is a right all have here in America. Secondly, if you disagree with my opinions, thoughts ideas, you have the same rights as I. I would never stop anyone from speaking out, saying what they wish, as long as it is done in a non-violent and peaceful manner. I served my country to keep those I love safe, I would never take anyone’s rights away period. If you disagree with my blogs, thoughts or ideas, or opinions that is fine. If you agree that is fine also, if you wish to reply that is fine too as long as all are respectful I am fine. God Bless ALL

Good Morning to all. It’s Wednesday, March 2nd, 2022, and the world is in turmoil once more, due to the Russian attack on Ukraine. Russian forces are advancing across Ukraine and no one is doing a damn thing to stop them. What is Russia’s want with Ukraine really besides, Putin wanting it, to re-expand Russian borders to where they were before the collapse of the USSR. Or to make sure he has full access to the Black Sea? Is there something else for a reason for his aggression toward Ukraine? Do we really know why Putin and his Russian forces are doing this? Does anyone really understand Putin at all?

The Russian monetary system will now grind to a halt due to worldwide sanctions, from the United States and all Allies. The Russian ruble is now worthless on the open market, and the Russian people will suffer for Putin’s advances and his aggression as well as Ukraine’s, that he is attacking here. IT has been a long time since World War 2 folks and Europe had a hard time recovering back then and it will be that way again, I am sure this time around. World War 2 ended in 1945 folks, and it’s been 77 years since such an attack has happened. So why now is the real question is what I say, why Putin, what’s so important in Ukraine, that you need to take the whole country?

I don’t know for sure what itis Putin wants in Ukraine, but, I do know, he is targetting certain areas, one area is to topple the current government there and put in his own man, and the second seems to be the disaster area of the Chernobyl nuclear property which is contaminated, plus any entries into the Black Sea. While all of the above are the reasons for his aggression and attack on Ukraine, none of it is a reason to kill women, children, and people in general on the streets. Innocents are dying as the Russians advance across Ukraine, destroying a country and its right to freedom, Putin should be declared a War Criminal just like those before him Stalin, Hitler, and more. The world is teetering on World War 3 happening because of this situation and Putin is threatening to use nukes if anyone interferes here. As we all know if nukes are fired, the world becomes a disastrous place to live in for all of mankind. The fallout and contamination alone would isolate large areas of the world from mankind, kill off animals, plants and humans.

Every action that can be taken by allies of Ukraine, should be taken to isolate Russia, Putin, in every way possible. Can anything be done to stop his advancing into Ukraine, I don’t know the answer for sure, but, I do know he more than likely will not stop at Ukraine. At this point, many must wonder what NATO countries, NATO itself are doing now. I would hope they are preparing for war as most of the world is too. At some point, Putin must be declared a War Criminal for his attack and at some point, his aggressive thrust into Ukraine must be opposed by more. Even Putin must know, it will come at some point to a head where the free world outside of Russia will react and fight back. The only question that remains is how soon and in what way, it will do so.

I pity Ukraine at this point in time, and its people for they enjoyed freedom for too short a time. They deserve the same rights as all humanity to live in peace in their own country. If you agree with me, tell your Senators, your Representatives, and yes even the President, let’s support Ukraine in its fight against the Russian Agreesor that is Putin. At some point, the economical and financial hurt put on the Russian people by Putin will affect them and they will have to react and stop his war on Ukraine. Already cracks are showing as Russians protest his war against Ukraine and speak out and protest against him on Russian streets. Will Putin survive this or will the Russians say enough and one day he will be gone, taken out by one of his own. Time shall tell!

As time goes on, the world will have no choice but to move forward. We all know it is one day at a time for all of us no matter where we live and what country we live in or under what type of government either. There will come a time when the free world will tire of Putin and there will be no place he can hide even in Russia, just as Hitler could not hide in Germany in World War 2. I believe the Russian people want to live in peace and leave Ukraine alone, but Putin will not stop until someone stops him. Who it will be is as good a question as to who worked to stop Hitler in World War 2. It could be one assasion, it could be one country, it could be a country that rises up, or it could be a Russian with enough gall and courage who says, no more. You tell me, folks. One thing is for certain someone, some country, or some groups of countries has to stop him!